How To Balance Work And Pleasure

Balancing work and pleasure can be a tricky task. Most of us are guilty of falling in to a set routine every single week. Before we know it a week turns in to a month and eventually a year passes by in the blink of an eye without having set aside time to enjoy our own life.
So how do we change that and find a balance between working and enjoying ourselves?

The older we get the quicker time seems to fly by. This is because we end up cruising in auto-pilot every day. We become so fixed in to a daily routine that we forget to pay ourselves back with time for ourselves.

Working 9 to 5, going to the gym, having dinner and going to bed is a very common example of a Monday to Friday lifestyle of plenty of seniors in this day and age or even for the younger generation for that matter. Snapping out of that routine can actually be very easy. It is just a case of making the effort to make new plans in the week and arranging to do something different. For example, going out for a midweek meal, going to the cinema or even meeting up with a friend for a catch up rather than going home after work and having the same dinner at home is a simple place to start.

Understandably, for some it’s a case of expense in that they don’t wish to spend unnecessary money during the week. But there’s no reason a midweek meal can’t be cheap and cheerful. For the sake of twenty pounds, it’s actually quite healthy to keep the mind active by going out for a meal and socializing. But what about those of us who are single and are looking for a partner to spend that time with?

When it comes to senior singles and relationships, many turn to online dating because it’s the only way for them to find other mature singles to spend their time with. But once they do arrange a date this is the start of a change in lifestyle. Pleasure begins to take a forward step and life can suddenly become a lot more exciting. Work no longer dictates the individual and Wednesday can become the new Friday. It’s hugely important for people of all ages, especially seniors to maintain this lifestyle when possible to remain mentally active and happy.

Don’t let work take over your life, experience some fun, meet new people and start smiling again. Visit www.seniordatingblog.com for more advice and tips on all things senior and dating.

 

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Dating Is A Patience Game

Have a little patience

Finding “the one” is rarely easy and to be honest it shouldn’t be either. What’s the point in settling for a mediocre partner in terms of your similarities and compatibility when there are thousands of single people out there. There’s no doubt in my mind that there is a person suited for everyone in this world but it’s just taking the time to find them. Dating is a game of patience.

Understandably, we become desperate sometimes to find a partner we can share our laughs, tears and experiences with but it’s important that we share those moments with the right person. After all, if you truly want to spend the rest of your life with this person then you can forever have these moments to reminisce on.

Never too old

There seems to be a misinterpretation that once you hit a certain age that it is then too late to start dating or find the perfect match. Well that isn’t true at all. There are millions of people around the world that are single aged 40 and above who are still being hit by Cupid’s arrow and finding their true love. The majority of the time it’s over online dating websites because that’s the easiest way for them and there’s nothing wrong with that at all. There are hundreds of senior dating websites online that you can use to slowly search for your ideal partner with patience. There’s no rush when you’re sitting behind a computer.

Taking your time to find the right person might seem like a chore but in the long term it will be much more worth it. The question you have to ask is would you rather settle for an average person that you find “OK” or take your time, have a bit of patience and find that partner that you love sharing your life with where your heart skips a beat every time you hear from them.

Online Dating Changed My Life

Around this time last year I decided to finally give online dating a chance after days, months and even years of deliberation. At the tender age of 43 I thought I was destined to be single forever, with a barely existent social life as well. I’m now over the moon that I stumbled across the world of online dating and specifically a mature dating website for singles which was perfect for my situation.

Early Life

From a young age I had always been driven by money and focused purely on my job week after week until before I knew it half my life seemed to pass by in a flash. Suddenly I took a step back for a minute to evaluate what I was doing with my life and what sort of future I would have if I carried on down this same path. I certainly wouldn’t say I had a midlife crisis but I quickly realised that there were other priorities ahead of work and money that life has to offer which I still hadn’t witnessed yet.

I began to panic thinking that it was too late but I had plenty of reassurance from my family, work colleagues and seeing it for myself on TV that age is just a number. There’s nothing stopping a 43 year old man like me doing the same as a 25 year old man (to a degree at least).

Change

In the blink of an eye I began to change my ways, starting with a healthier lifestyle by eating cleaner and joining a gym.  I have quite an obsessive personality so once I have my mind set on something I pretty much go all out with it. So thankfully, the gym and eating well soon became a routine which wasn’t too hard to maintain. But I also needed to start meeting and socialising with people too. I was so caught up and involved with my job that I missed out on making friends outside of work. The only people I spoke to looking back now were colleagues where almost all the conversation was work related.

I still struggled to find the time to meet new people even with my change in lifestyle. Even though I now set aside time for the gym I still didn’t really communicate with many people there. Most people in the gym have headphones in and are there purely for the health benefits, which to be fair is the main reason for their existence. It was difficult even finding a place where I would have a chance of finding a friend or partner, never mind then talking to them and getting to know them. I don’t really have any hobbies other than football but again that isn’t the ideal hobby to find a girlfriend in most cases.

Online Dating

At my age it isn’t easy to just go out and meet a woman in a bar or club. In all honestly, I feel like I would have been judged by younger people if I was out in the same places as them. That’s why I eventually gave in and tried the online dating scene. For some reason I had always been against online dating but I didn’t really have a valid reason as to why. I think it was a pride thing. I thought I was above it. Let me tell you now that online dating is not something to be ashamed about at all now that I have witnessed the immense benefits it brings. I wish I had done it earlier!

One night after yet another routine day at work, I decided to log back on to my laptop and started searching for dating websites. For the older generation more specifically since I didn’t want to attract people much younger than me and looking for much different things. I was looking to settle down, perhaps start a family, although the thought of actually admitting that was a little scary for me to comprehend. But that’s when I came across a website called YourMatureDating.com.

I decided to sign up that night since I thought there was nothing to lose and it was free to sign up. I browsed some of the profiles on the site and I have to be honest that I did see some very nice women that caught my eye immediately. But at this point I was still a bit skeptical about what I was doing. I logged off soon after that but I had got the ball rolling at least and had the right intentions to find a partner.

A few nights later I went back on and this time I messaged one of the women that I liked the look and sound of by her profile. She had amazing eyes that caught my attention because of the slight sparkle they had. Her interests too excited me. She pretty much seemed to have the exact same past I had, in that her work dictated her life.

Today

Two years on from that initial message and I am now engaged to her. I decided to propose recently and thankfully for me she said yes! Never in a million years did I expect to fall in love so quickly and find someone so amazing and so similar to me. I wanted to share my story so others in my position weren’t afraid to do the same as me. I am so thankful for online dating and I truly believe there are thousands of other stories just like mine out there too.

Today I am ecstatic with the way my life has panned out. From experiencing the ways of business and working hard for money to now looking to start a family I feel like I have been incredibly fortunate.

How Technology Transforms the Dating Area

Casual, Simple and Harmless Flirtation

If potential wooers were to ponder some of the greatest, technological developments that have revolutionized the dating world over the past few centuries, they would primarily mention the genius invention of the automobile. This marvelous progression was first forged in 1886 and obviously replaced animal-drafted carriages for a more pleasant and efficient dating experience. Not too soon after followed the first black and white film in 1888 and obviously the actual movie theater to view these motion pictures in 1895, which created the ideal atmosphere to enjoy a passionate evening with a possible suitor, hand in hand.

Nonetheless, upon the dawn of “Generation Z” in 2001, mobile and wireless technology suffered a massive “boom,” completely altering the fashion in which people converse, get to know each other and meet up without the necessity of face-to-face courtship at first hand. Text messages, free messenger systems like WhatsApp and other online social networks like Facebook have stolen and flooded the limelight of our dating world (from America to Europe). Interestingly enough, now potential suitors have the ability to transmit “smooth talk” immediately without the nerve wrecking delay of a hand-written response via snail mail. Additionally, with the overall casualness of a text message, possible admirers could conquer their “prey” with a higher level of confidence and less initial pressure.

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Prenup Goals: How to Plan a Perfect Prenup Photoshoot

Weddings are always faced with joyous hearts and positive attitude. It’s a celebration of love and togetherness between two people and their families. It’s so monumental that every step of it—from the preparations up to the wedding day itself are documented in various forms.

A part of it that’s gaining a lot of attraction and trending now is the prenup photoshoot. It allows the couple to document their memories and feelings when their wedding day is just around the corner.

The nervousness and the excitement can all be seen in these wedding and prenup photos, making it a great piece of memory to look back to. You can tell your backstory to your family and future children with matching photos to have the full experience of this once in a lifetime moment.

So, what are the specific things you can do to make sure you have a perfect prenup photoshoot? Here are some tips you should keep in mind before you and your loved one pose for the camera:

 

1. Sit down with your partner and talk about your history

One way to help you decide on the theme and everything is to look back at how your love for each other started. The day when you first met, the location, and even some quirky things like the food on your first date or the day he or she finally met your family—these are all things which can help you intensify the emotion and decide on a theme you both surely want.

 

2. Identify each other’s common interests

Through the time that you are together, you have definitely talked to each other about your common interests. These are the things that strengthened your relationship and could be a helpful element in having a perfect prenup photoshoot. You can start with the activities you both enjoy doing or some favorite hobbies like watching movies, eating out, or binge watching a TV series.

By sourcing your pegs from these, you can make sure that both of you are comfortable in front of the camera because these activities and hobbies are familiar as the back of your hands. You’ll also make sure that the prenup photoshoot concept already has a meaning for the both of you.

 

3. Find pegs for inspiration

After deciding on a theme, you can already build a mood board for all your inspirations. From color palette, hair, makeup, outfit, and even the location, you can find pegs for inspiration for each aspect.

This is to ensure that all your decisions and purchases are in line with the theme you’ve chosen. Surely, you want everything to look cohesive. However, don’t be eaten up by the theme alone. Keep in mind that this is about the both of you, so make sure both of your personalities are evident in person and in photos.

 

4. Look for your happy place

Finding the perfect location can be a tricky one. The travel time, the weather, and the capacity of the location to actually hold a photo shoot (permits and fees) should all be considered by the couple.

Whatever romance and love mean to the both of you, choose that location. You don’t have to be in line with the standards or where most of the couples are taking theirs. Just be in the location you both want to be because when you look back, you’ll find it meaningful and extra special.

 

5. Know your photographer

The next step is to relay these ideas to your photographer. It is important that the ideas in your mood board and the vibe of the location should translate to the photos that the photographer is going to take.

Even if your photographer is as great as Ralph Wunsch, he won’t be able to execute without a proper brief. Be comfortable with the photographer to not look tense and anxious in the photos.

By getting to know the man behind the lens, both of you will be comfortable with each other and shoot wonderful photos.

 

6. Schedule everything

Create a timeline for everything to prepare all the things you need. By setting a schedule, not only do you respect the time of all the people involved, but also you and your partner’s peace of mind. The last thing you want in prenup photoshoot is an incomplete set and a hurried schedule.

 

7. Live in the moment

And lastly, after everything is all set, enjoy and live in the moment. This is a special moment for the both of you. You’ve waited for this moment for such a long time, and it’s now finally coming true.

Don’t be too pressured to strike a perfect pose or have an emotion. All of these should come naturally. Focus on you and your partner and let the photographer do his wonders. Breathe in and breathe out. All will turn out as you expected them to be.
With these tips in mind, you’ll surely have a prenup photoshoot both you and your partner will never forget.

 

Must Read Engagement Ring Facts

Are you about to pop the question? Here’s what you need to know about engagement rings.

The engagement ring is an ever-present reminder of the time you got engaged to the love of your life. It is a symbol of love and represents the bond you share with your partner.

Now, the average cost of an engagement ranges anywhere from $1000 to $6000. So picking up the right engagement ring requires some taught and research.  If your future wife is choosing it herself, half the job is done. But if you are going to surprise your special one with a sparkling engagement ring and go down on your keen to pop the question, finding the best possible ring should be your top priority.

Every year big, reputable jewelry brands design stunning rings. Luckily for you, there are thousands to choose from. Make sure that you question her friends before purchasing the ring, they might know her style better than you do! Here, we have collected 20 facts about engagement rings to help you with your buying decision. A big decision to make because this is going to be the purchase that lasts for a lifetime. A purchase that’s going to cost you a large sum of money!

 

This infographic was researched and designed by Elena from www.americantungsten.com – rings for him

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6 “Normal” Habits That Can Turn A Relationship Toxic

No relationship is perfect. No matter how healthy and happy a couple’s relationship is, fighting is still inevitable. However, disagreements in healthy relationships are way different from the ones in toxic relationships.

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11 Romantic Habits Couples In Happiest Marriages Have

I do not believe in forever but I do believe in love and the possibility of keeping a marriage happy for a lifetime.

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5 style mistakes to avoid on a first date

Ahhhh, the agony and the ecstasy of the first date! While we all hope we’ll have a safe turn to Loverville straight after the first kiss, things may go unpredicted with even the slightest mistake.

One of the things we always obsess over is the outfit we’ll wear, right? That one outfit that will knock him dead, make him go weak in the knees. Continue reading