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How to make your divorce as painless as possible

In a perfect world, every “I do” would be for life, and everybody would live happily ever after. However, because life, unfortunately, isn’t a fairy tale, divorces do happen, and they bring a series of question with them. What do I do now? Do I get an attorney? What happens with the house? Who gets the dog? What do I tell the children? In what is possibly the most uncertain period of your life, here are some pieces of advice to help you see it all through.

 

“I used to think that divorce meant failure, but now I see it more as a step along the path of self-realization and growth.” – Zsa Zsa Gabor

 

1. Gather your wits

Even though this is an emotionally trying stage for you, you have to be able to think clearly. There are a time and place for everything, so while it is perfectly reasonable and even beneficial to express your emotions and lament your losses, you need to make a point of not letting your feelings cloud your judgment.

Think about divorce as any other kind of business – your marriage is essentially a contract that you want to terminate. You need to be objective about it and find the best way to do it. To be able to go through the process in the easiest way possible, you need to educate yourself on the laws and regulations regarding marriage and divorce in your jurisdiction. Use all resources at your disposal to gain as much insight as you can – the internet is overflowing with useful info, and you can always ask for help in any law clinic, free of charge.

2. Plan

You can deal with the divorce itself in several ways: by settling it with your ex directly, without any lawyers involved; you can go through a mediation process, or you can go to court if all else fails. If you and your ex, are still in an amicable relationship, and you still trust them, the cheapest way is to do it yourself. However, because the law systems are never simple, you and your ex might want to get attorneys even if you’re still in a good place. For example, in Australia, you can’t get divorced unless you’ve been separated for 12 months, but there are family mediation services in Sydney that can explain your options to you if that is too much time for you to wait. Every jurisdiction has its own separate set of rules, and sometimes it can be difficult to navigate them without a professional at your side. In any case, you need to choose the preferred method for yourself, based on your own unique situation.

Of course, there is more than just that. You need to consider the ways to share your property. Start collecting financial evidence of your and your partner’s situation, in case of necessity. Talk to your ex about dividing the household items. Make a list of everything that you mean to keep, and everything that you can live without, to make the negotiation easier. In other words, prepare yourself as well as you can, because a tiring process is before you, and you’ll be thankful for any head start you can get.

 

 

“There’s nothing like a family crisis, especially a divorce, to force a person to re-evaluate his life.” – Michael Douglas 

 

3. Think of the children

If you have any children, the things are only going to be more complicated. It this case especially, it’s crucial to be level-headed and to try and be as civil as possible in all dealings with your former spouse.

The most important thing is not to let the kids be dragged into the dispute between their parents. Their parent’s divorce is already extremely traumatizing for them, so the last thing you want to do is add more stress to their lives by bad mouthing your ex or making them choose between the two of you. Regardless of your feelings, you have to make sure that the children feel as safe as they can possibly be, and you need to show them that you and your partner will love them, no matter what. Always remember, your ex is your ex, but they are a constant in your children’s lives, as much as you are.

4. Learn to rely on other people…

…That are not your ex. The bottom line is that you need to feel secure. If your friends and family are giving you that sense of security and you don’t feel a need for a therapist, that’s great! If that is not the case, however, and you feel that everything is too much for you to handle, don’t be afraid of asking a professional for help. If it’s the emotional baggage, see a therapist. If the law is too complicated, find an attorney. If your attorney is a problem, you feel that they don’t understand you, or you’re getting the feeling that they’re playing you against your ex to prolong the process, fire them immediately and look for a better professional.

5. Reclaim the control of your life

Even though it may seem that somebody has cut the ground from under your feet, try to hold on to the idea that every end marks a new beginning. You are starting the next chapter of your life, and no matter how scary it is, it can also be wonderful. In the process of divorce, try to secure a better head start for yourself and your future. Do not agree to anything that can be harmful to you in the long run.

 

Remember, the divorce only happened because the downsides of your marriage outweighed the upsides. That means that, by terminating your marriage, you’ve rid yourself of a toxic aspect of your life. However hard it might be, try to adopt a positive perspective. Try something new. Do that thing that you’ve always wanted, but never did because you didn’t want to upset your ex. Find the strength in the new beginning and don’t be afraid to change. 

Feminism and Egalitarianism – Why Do They Fail?

Looking at modern day feminism in the US, it’s clear that the movement has come a long way. However, at the same time there are plenty of feminist groups crying oppression at every corner as if it were 1919. On the one hand, they claim to be fighting for equality of the sexes, which is also made clear by the Merriam Webster Dictionary definition of the word feminism – “the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes”. But on the other hand, anyone who’s ever dug a little deeper into the feminist movement of today has seen that what they really want is special treatment. This is exactly why feminism can’t be taken seriously, and why egalitarianism requires a joint effort not just to fight discrimination against the oppressed groups, such as Native Americans, handicapped people, HIV singles, women, and anyone else who is discriminated against in daily life, but to ensure equal rights for all.

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Feminism VS. Egalitarianism

If we look at the definition of egalitarianism, we see that it is “a belief in human equality especially with respect to social, political, and economic affairs”. At a first glance, feminism and egalitarianism seem to be quite similar, if not synonymous, but in reality things are much different. If you talk to die-hard feminists about egalitarianism, they say they would support it 100%. But when you explain that egalitarianism actually means that sex and race (among other things) would play absolutely no role in how people are treated in everyday life, meaning they’d be judged purely on their abilities and accomplishments, that’s when things first hit a wall. A die-hard member of the feminist movement would say that women and visible minorities have been oppressed for so long that they would surely be discriminated against even if judged ‘solely’ based on their abilities and accomplishments. As a result, you’d learn that feminists actually believe that more women should be included in university programs, that more women should be hired by the tech companies, that more girls should be more encouraged to pursue a degree in science, and a plethora of other things that couldn’t be further from equality of the sexes, but are borderline discrimination of the sexes.

Failure to Reach Equality

Feminism preaches equality, but it’s unlikely they would ever truly start practicing what they preach, which is why in the eyes of many people they keep failing. It’s a stretch to say that equality of the sexes means just fighting for women’s rights as men’s rights aren’t without their problems either. In the world of feminists, it is only the rights of one sex that matter, and as a result they can never achieve equality. It is precisely this hypocrisy that always stands in their way. Anyone who honestly believes in equality doesn’t think that women, gay people, disabled individuals, members of the visible minorities or anyone else who faces discrimination on a regular basis should be given special treatment because of their sex, the color of their skin or political, sexual or any other kind of preference. People who truly believe in equality believe in equality for all, every man, woman and child, not those men, women and children who are for whatever reason discriminated against. To make it perfectly clear, we live in a world full of discrimination, but the only way we can achieve equality is if we all work together, united on all fronts.

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Top 5 Books to be Released in 2018

January and mid-February 2018 have already brought some pretty compelling reads, and come spring-time there won’t be anything else for us to do, but sit back and relax with a bunch of great books that are to come. Our list of the top 5 2018 releases features stories written by award-winning authors who keep raising the bar in their genres, and drawing in more readers with each subsequent release. Instead of spending what is left of this winter logged into Tinder, trying to meet people online, check out our picks for the best fiction books we look forward to reading in the following months, and see for yourself why we think these new novels about to hit the shelves are so incredible.

#1: A Long Way from Home by Peter Carey

Set in the remote country towns in Australia, A Long Way from Home is a story about a married couple, Titch and Irene Bob, who enter a 10,000-mile, 17-day car race to promote Titch’s used car business with the help of their neighbor Willie Bachhuber. Along the way, Willie faces issues related to his heritage, and the book beautifully explores the shameful treatment of the Indigenous people in Australia.

#2: An American Marriage by Tayari Jones

Celestial and Roy are a happily married couple in the New South with the anniversary of their first date as a safe word to stop rough sex or conversation aimed at painful topics, “November 17”. That night, as Roy utters these words during a fight with Celestial, he’s wrongly accused of committing a violent offence, and subsequently sentenced to 12 years in prison.

#3: The Immortalists by Chloe Benjamin

Word has spread of the arrival of a mystical psychic, who can tell everyone the date they will die, to Manhattan’s Lower East Side in 1969, and four Gold adolescents sneak out to hear their destiny. Their next five decades are mapped out, and they each go their separate ways to probe the line between fortune and choice, telling a wonderful story of the nature of belief and family bonds.

#4: The English Wife by Lauren Willig

Annabelle and Bayard Van Duyvil live in New York during the Gilded Age, have three-year-old twins they adore, and following their passionate romance in London decide to make their family home in Manhattan. When Bayard is killed on the night of their 12th Night Ball, and Annabelle goes missing, Bayard’s sister Janie forms an alliance with a reported to uncover the truth. The more she learns about her brother and his wife, the more the story unravels, revealing who Bay and Annabelle really were, and why Bay died with a name George on his lips.

#5: The Wife between Us by Greer Hendricks and Sarah Pekkanen

A story about a tangled love triangle, The Wife between Us seems to be about a jealous ex-wife, and her younger, beautiful replacement who’s about to marry the man they both love. Assume nothing as this twisted story exposes the dangerous truths we ignore in the name of love.

All about E.ON energy – Europe’s top electricity provider

E.ON energyE.ON energyE.ON Energy is an energy company and supplier based in the United Kingdom, which supplies almost all European countries. It has both household and business clients. The company offers award-winning services, always aiming to meet electricity and gas needs to the fullest possible extent.

Generally, most of E.ON’s clients are very satisfied with the company’s utility services. Their energy solutions business provides power and gas to more than 5 million households, small and medium-sized enterprises and large enterprises throughout the UK. They are able to offer tailor-made technologies and innovative energy services to meet their clients’ needs.

E.ON encourages clients to use energy in moderation, insulate their homes and do a series of other things to stay energy fit. Some of the company’s clients have even been able to generate their own power through solar panels, ground source heat pumps and other microgeneration systems for households and businesses alike.

The company is registered at Westwood Way, Westwood Business Park, Coventry, postcode CV4 8LG as E.ON Energy Solutions Limited in England and Wales. Its registered number is 3407430 and VAT number GB 559 0978 89. Click here if you need more E.ON contact info.

Wind farms

The company operates 5 offshore and 16 onshore wind farms. It focuses on wind, dedicated biomass and onshore and offshore facilities. E.ON has invested almost 2.5 billion pounds in renewables on the territory of the United Kingdom and is responsible for renewable capacity up to a whopping 1GW.

Two years ago the company completed the construction of their fifth offshore wind farm, Humber Gateway, which is situated off the coast of Yorkshire and began building a 400MW Rampion offshore wind farm, situated off the coast of Sussex.

In 2014 E.ON completed Blackburn Meadows, their second dedicated biomass power station.

At the present, the company is working on London Array, which is set to become the biggest offshore wind farm in the world.

How to contact the company

E.ON employs online assistants to ensure self-service support. This is very important and has proven to be a very sound decision because lots of times people can fix problems themselves and don’t need to call at all. Calling for minor, trivial things wastes the client’s time and aggravates the staff.

How does online assistance work? It’s very simple. A window pops up prompting you to ask your question or state your issue. Then, a search engine delivers relevant results from the company site. This helps you find the information you need fast, and the Help and Support page is just a mouse click away. The online assistant leads you to an FAQ section that deals with the most typical issues like what to do in an emergency, how to pay your bill, meter readings and how to open and manage an account online. You can find the emergency numbers in the Help and Support menu. Click on the link above for more E.ON information, the numbers and some other numbers that may also prove important.

The Perfect 7 Steps Process For Choosing the Perfect Eyeglasses

Choosing the Perfect Eyeglasses

Choosing the Perfect Eyeglasses

Many people are scared of trying on glasses for fear of embarrassing themselves especially when other people are looking at them. The last thing we want is to make ourselves look like idiots in front of strangers and then label us as weird. Without further ado, here are seven steps to get those perfect eyeglasses (while avoiding headaches and shameful situations).Continue reading

Four signs that he’s into you

Four signs that he’s into you

Four signs that he’s into you

It’s the month of love, where you see couples holding hands on their romantic walks by the dozen. You can see them on the street, on the beach, at work, in college, in your building’s lobby, at the playground and almost every other place that falls within your line of sight. Basically, it’s the worst month of the year to be single. However, if that’s the way you feel, you need to realize that there is a whole bunch of guys out there who too feel the same way. Everyone, and I mean EVERYONE, is looking for a valentine; and as much as we all love our pets, we wouldn’t want to spend the 14th of February with them.Continue reading

7 Corny & Creative Ways to Dump Someone

7 Corny and Creative Ways to Dump Someone

7 Corny and Creative Ways to Dump Someone

When it comes with dumping someone the ways are endless.  The problem comes with finding the best way.

In the dating world there are, and will always be, break-ups. Whether you are online dating, or conventionally dating, you’ll probably experience a break-up in your life. “Nearly one-third of all Americans have experienced a breakup in the past ten years” (Fetto, 2003). Most people who date experience several breakups in their life, most of which are difficult.  It doesn’t matter how many breakups someone goes through, they usually don’t get any easier, and sometimes they even get harder.Continue reading