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8 Dating Hacks from Single Women

Skeptics will tell you there is no way you can have dating hacks, but we’re here to prove them wrong. Listed below are the top 8 hacks from single women of all ages and backgrounds that can help you find love online, and keep you sane in the process.

#1: Choose the Lowest Possible Distance

Using the distance filter at home or when traveling proves to be very useful on so many levels. There is no time wasted on someone who just lives too far away when you’re not at all interested in a long-distance relationship, plus planning a first date is far easier with someone who lives nearby. If there are no good prospects in the area, you can always increase the range little by little.

#2: Check them out on Social Media

One of the easiest ways to weed out the guys who don’t seem like a good match is to check them out on social media. Find them on Instagram or Twitter, and send them a friend request on Facebook. If they don’t reply to the request, they’ve probably got something to hide. Keeping in mind that most people put the best possible photos of themselves on display online, take the time to try and dig out something that may attest to the fact that person might not be such a good match.

#3: Only Use Apps in the Morning

If you only swipe in the morning, you’ll save yourself plenty of time at midday, plus you’ll see which users are up at a decent hour. If you swipe him right, and he doesn’t reply until 3 pm, what could that tell you? Among other things, that he works nights, which could involve dangerous situations or drugs and alcohol, just to name a few.

#4: Standards Can Be Flexible

Not everyone you meet will be marriage material, but that doesn’t mean they wouldn’t be awesome for a (few) one-night stands. Maybe you don’t like what they do, the way they dress or they just seem they could be trouble down the road, but that doesn’t mean you have to be in a relationship with them. Maybe their smile is irresistible, and they’re a really good kisser. That’s a great candidate to have some fun with despite your high standards!

#5: Engage Your Dog to Help

Who says that a date has to take place on a Saturday night? How about a Sunday morning at your local off-leash dog park? You can get a better idea of what someone is like when you see them during the day than when they posh up for evening, plus it’s harder to put the moves on someone at 10am than at 10pm, which will give you a better picture of the kind of person you’re dealing with. Also, you can tell a lot about a person based on how they interact with animals!

#6: Dance

It’s true that not all guys out there would be thrilled to be seen on the dance floor, but if a cutie you’re chatting up on Tinder plans to seducing you right, he better start on the dance floor! Dancing can be extremely sensual, which isn’t necessarily what you have to go for, but it can tell you a lot about a person’s level of self-confidence.

#7: Let Him Woo You

It’s nice to be in control on your dates, and in many cases it’s also a turn on, but sometimes you just need to let go, and let your date court you old-school style. Allowing yourself to be wooed doesn’t make you any less of a feminist, and doesn’t mean you’re giving up the right to vote! Finally, if the guy is willing to invest his time and energy into the courtship process, that sets the stage for a fulfilling relationship down the road.

#8: Don’t Forget to be Yourself

There are plenty of people out there searching for the exact same things that you have to offer. Hate Sci-Fi? Love sports? Don’t be afraid to say that! We all like to travel and think we’re not difficult, but that’s not what makes you unique. Fly your flag openly and catch the right kind of fish, instead of the slippery one!

No Use in Fighting it or What I’ve Learned by Giving Someone a Chance

Down with insistence on how one can easily find love online. As hard as dating can be sometimes, many of us have good stories to tell thanks to the matchmaking abilities of our friends. Needless to say, kissing a few (or lots of) frogs in the process is pretty much a given, but at least it is all worth it in the end. This blind date story has a happy ending thanks to my friend D who set me up A out of the blue one early spring Saturday.

Blind dates are possibly even worse than job interviews because there are lots of interviews out there where you walk in knowing the interviewer or at least being acquainted with them. On a blind date, you don’t have the slightest idea who the person sitting across the table from you is. Sure, you’ve seen their photo and heard a short bio, but still.

In any case, I decided to give it a shot not really believing anything would come of it. I agreed to meet up with A one Thursday afternoon and go for a joint dog walk through the park, my Labradoodle Ben and his Weimaraner Romeo in tow. Side note: for a blind date pick, as neutral a ‘venue’ as possible, and if dinner seems too formal as it does to me, go ahead and take it down a notch. Since a dog walk can take anywhere from 30 minutes to two hours depending on how much fun you’re having, you’re going in with a bullet-proof exit strategy in case things turn out badly. And if they go well, you can tell all your friends (kids and grandkids included) that you’ve met by chance at a park walking your pooches!

I wasn’t taken aback by A immediately. It took me some time to really get his vibe so it’s not like this was love at first sight. He wasn’t really my type either. He had dark hair and dark eyes, and I’m a sucker for baby blue eyes, you know, like Cillian Murphy’s. Anyway, I was surprised how much we had in common and the more he talked the more I realized I really liked what he had to say. I was becoming more interested because I didn’t feel like he was trying to play me at all. He was just being himself, and pretty much everything he said was spot on. He took initiative, was smooth, and seemed to care just a touch about impressing me, which I found cute.

Then I realized he was cute! He had full lips and a beautiful set of pearly white teeth, something I never really pay attention to because I always look at the eyes. And his weren’t blue but they were just as deep. It usually takes a pair of pale blue eyes looking deep into mine for the butterflies in my stomach to start having a party, but this time it took a smile. Or several smiles, that is, one for every time I said something he was impressed with, like what my job was or which countries I’ve lived in.

We didn’t stay too long. After about an hour and a half, we said good-bye and went our separate ways. The next morning, he gave D, my matchmaking friend, a ride to my place because she needed to pick something up from me. Did I think this was just a ploy to see me again? Sure. Did I think it was lame? Not a chance because for a full 24 hours after our ‘date’ I was still drunk on the whole thing without having a drop of alcohol.

A few days later, he sent me his first text, and that was more than a year ago. He still makes me weak in the knees despite the fact we moved in together a few months back. I don’t know where D kept him all this time, but I know our encounter was definitely not by chance. I was meant to meet him and realize that you absolutely never know where or who is going to sweep you off your feet.

5 Reasons Summer Love Feels so Different

In the summer, when everyone is outside with far less on their plates than during the rest of the year, you don’t even need to find love online! Love is literally everywhere you look, and you can just let things take their course without worrying whether a hot summer romance is in the cards for you. Below are the top 5 reasons why romance feels so different in the summer, why the anticipation of the first kiss is so strong, and why it will happen to you!

#1: More Opportunity to Meet New People

Days are longer during the summer, and we’re all spending more time outside giving us more opportunity to meet new people. Also, sunshine generally puts people in a good and festive mood, and most of us get invited to parties, barbecues and the like during the summer much more frequently than in February, for instance. Sparks fly when you’re meeting new and intriguing people week after week, you start to feel more confident when you social calendar gets fuller, and you notice the confidence in others making them more attractive in your eyes, too.

#2: Warm Weather Means Better Mood

When you’re in a better mood, and an overall sunny and positive person, you’re more attractive in the eyes of the people around you. Plus, sunshine puts everyone in a better mood than usual, meaning a new person that enters your life is more likely to catch your eye as well.  Just 30 minutes spent outside in warm weather make people more open to new experiences, in this case new encounters than can lead to romance or sexual attraction.

#3: Fewer Responsibilities Allow you to be Spontaneous

We all remember how excited we were for every summer break while we were in school, and ever since then we’ve tried to make every summer feel more or less like a holiday. Nobody is swamped with work, chasing their end-of-the-year bonus and the workload is usually lighter when those high July and August temperatures hit. As a result we feel less under pressure to perform, impress our bosses or work our behinds off to meet goals. When the summer mindset sets in, most people feel much more laid back than during the other seasons, and spontaneity leads to more exciting decisions that can result in being hit by Cupid’s arrow straight through the heart.

#4: Summer Makes You Feel Sexy

Lighter clothes, warm nights, fewer commitments, and good sangrias make you feel sexier in your own skin. Also, most people ditch heavy meals drenched in fat and opt for salads, soups, and other dishes that will keep them hydrated when it’s really hot in the summer. These healthy foods coupled with being more physically active from all the time spent outside results in flatter bellies, slimmer figures and more flaunting of your skin.

#5: Summer Equals Freedom

Everyone feels far less pressure to commit and a stronger urge to find a passionate romance during the summer. No-one talks about the future, and very few people even have any plans past Labor Day. People live in the moment, which is why those hot summer relationships feel so much more exciting and erotically charged. They may not last a lifetime, but are certainly unforgettable.

5 Cliché First Date Ideas that are Overrated

Regardless of whether you’ve met a girl or a guy at a bar or you’re trying to find love online, there’s about 100% chance that you’ll have to go on that first date sooner or later. And seeing as most people dread that first date in terms of what to do and where to go, we’ve decided to look into it with detail.

Namely, we wanted to discuss first date ideas that are so cliché and so “already seen” that most of us can only bear seeing something like that in rom-com movies. In that name, here are the top 5 cliché first date ideas that are completely and absolutely overrated.

Picnic

Remember those old films where the handsome guy would take his high school sweetheart on a picnic date and they would have such a wonderful time? Well, that kind of date probably isn’t something you want to find yourself on.

A picnic can easily go from lovely and romantic to uncomfortable and insect-infested. A lot of things ride on weather conditions and your surroundings, so try avoiding picnics as a first date idea.

Movies

First dates are supposed to be the perfect opportunity to learn something about one another, so why would you take your date to the cinema where you can’t even talk or communicate with each other in any way?

It just doesn’t make any sense. However, if you’re already dating this person for some time, the movies can be a good call if you just want to spend some quality time with each other and watch an entertaining flick together.

Long Walks

Even though taking a long, relaxing walk is a good way to allow yourself to talk and actually get to know the person you’re dating, it’s not exactly recommended as a first date idea since it becomes very boring very quickly.

Once again, you’re letting a lot of things rely on temperature and general weather conditions, which isn’t something you want happening on the first date when you’re trying to somehow impress the other person.

Wine and Dine

Seriously? Take him or her to dinner and have a glass of wine – sounds like the most boring date in the world, and here’s why.

First of all, you don’t know what the other person likes eating or what kind of restaurants are they into. Secondly, you’ll be forced to interact so much that you’ll be running the risk of running out of the things to talk about, since it is your first date with each other and neither of you want to share exactly everything about themselves.

Group Activities

Remember when we mentioned that you want to impress the other person on the first date? Well, if you opt out for a group activity date, you’ll have impress that same person with the addition of his or her friends.

Dating isn’t supposed to be a circus and you shouldn’t force yourself into situations that require you to have 100% concentration and that demand immense effort so that everyone included will like you.