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The possibilities of making the kinds of connections you want are very realistic, and many long lasting relationships and marriages have begun via online dating services, not to mention casual relationships as well if that is what you prefer. The possibilities are all right there and waiting for you, but there are a few key rules you need to know and follow in order to find your perfect date online. Download to learn The Golden Rules of Online Dating – 6 essential rules to finding the perfect online date!

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How to Plan the Perfect Proposal

So you’re ready to take the next step, but have no idea where to start? Proposing is a daunting task that can be very scary. What ring do I pick out? Where do I take my partner? What do I say? Those are just some of the questions that are racing through your brain now that you’ve decided to get down on one knee. Even though it seems like there is a lot to do, it will be much simpler than you think! Just let your passion and love for your special someone guide you to make the right choices.

Engagement Ring

The engagement ring is the first place to start. There are no rules for proposing. You should spend what is in your budget and whatever will make your partner happy. But what ring do you choose? The first step is metals. Take a look at the jewelry your fiance-to-be loves to wear. Is it gold or silver? This is very crucial because most people will have a preference for one or the other. They will want to wear their engagement ring every day so it’s important to pick out a metal that goes with their normal jewelry. If there is more gold tones, then get a gold band. The same thing goes for silver!

pear shaped diamond engagement ring

The stones are the next big part of an engagement ring. There are quite a variety to choose from and this really depends on your significant other’s personal style. Diamonds are the classic choice which can come in many colors and sizes. No matter the color or size, the 4 things you need to know about diamonds are cut, color, clarity, and carat. The cut  affects the sparkle of the diamond so it’s the most important! Color only refers to white diamonds because they can range from a dull yellow to a brilliant white. A diamond’s clarity refers to the amount of tiny imperfections on its surface. This is not noticeable to the naked eye. Carat is the weight of a diamond. If a smaller diamond is cut well, then the carat will not matter as much!

Another option is unique stones like sapphires or opal. If your fiance-to-be has a unique style, then this may be a great idea! To get a feel for if they would be interested in a gemstone engagement ring or not, ask their opinion on Princess Kate’s ring or a friend’s. Your partner’s reactions to those will help you decide what to get. Many jewelers, including Blue Nile, offer an assortment of engagement rings from diamonds to gemstones, allowing you to find the ring of your fiance’s dreams.

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13 Biggest Turn Offs Men Should Be Aware Of To Score A Good Relationship

When it comes to dating, you should focus only on what would turn the other person on. Rather, think about the things that would turn the person off.

Major let-downs for women can range from superficial, such as physical features and hygiene, to absolutely offensive, like beliefs and manners.

If you’re a guy and is new to dating, here are 13 of the biggest deal breakers women share.

1. You’re lying

If you’re dishonest on the very first date, then there’s no way you’ll be asked for a second date. We all deserve truth and authenticity. Any kind of dishonesty, whether it’s as trivial as your favorite hobby or as extreme as your marital status, is an immediate red flag.

Women and men alike won’t be interested in someone who feels the need to misrepresent their age, height, marital status, occupation, financial stability, possessions, and vices.

2. You’re late

If you’re always running late or can’t totally show up from time to time (even when you’re sending fresh, beautiful flowers) , your date may imply that you’re not serious, or worse, you’re self-centered. Time is precious, so wasting your date’s time repetitively is a strong signal for her to look elsewhere.

3. Your bad hygiene shows

Nothing turns off a woman faster than a man who doesn’t even make an effort to look and smell decent and presentable.

Combed hair, clean, newly-laundered clothes, fresh breath and regularly brushed teeth, tidy nails, clean ears, washed hands, and pleasant (not even scented with expensive perfume) smell all over – are these too much to ask?

It’s not just a matter of being unpleasant. When a guy doesn’t seem to be taking care of himself, that could be a sign that he’s looking for someone to take care of him – and no, that shouldn’t be the woman’s problem.

4. You don’t have an ambition

There’s a fine line between being “carefree” and “lacking the ambition.” You don’t have to have big goals for yourself and for your future partner. However, you must have some goals and work to get close to that pursuit.

5. You’re jobless

Being unemployed is a top deal breaker for women, especially if you’re still living in your mother’s nest. Not that most women can’t provide for themselves – unemployment implies you’re not where you want to be, thus are not stable both financially and emotionally.

Depending and living with your parents while in your 20s or 30s may suggest co-dependence, fear of commitment, and the lack of motivation and emotional maturity.

6. You have smoking, drinking, gambling, and drug issues

Smoking has long been considered as a major turn off, especially for non-smokers. But for some, dating a smoker is okay as long as the person is responsible enough to smoke in designated areas, control the intake, and work to curb the unpleasant effects like bad breath and smelly clothes and house.

The real problem occurs when the person has been addicted to smoking to the point it’s unbearable. Same goes with alcoholism, gambling, and drug abuse. Addiction affects not only the heart, lungs, and gut – it damages the mind, which can be a major relationship issue in the long run.

7. Your communication skills suck

There are three types of men with poor communication skill;

One, the guy who nods at everything his date talks about, and answers only when asked. Two, the guy who doesn’t appear to be listening and fails to give feedback on what has talked about. Three, the guy who wants to talk about no one but himself and his greatness, disabling the date to speak up.

8. And you can’t get rid of your phone

Isn’t it a bummer when you have spent hours to be presentable and your date has a divided attention because his phone is glued to his hand?

Smartphones kill genuine conversations – and relationships. When you’re on a date, gentlemen, it’s a no-brainer to free yourself from all your distractions. Forget checking e-mails, sports scores, or game night invites by your bros.

9. You make outdated comments about women

  • “Why do you want to be a pilot? A flight attendant is more ladylike.”
  • “Why don’t you want to have children? Having kids will make you feel whole as a woman.”
  • “And for the lady, perhaps a salad?”

Excuse me? We’re not in the 1950s. If you throw these questions on the first date, then there’s no point in continuing.

10. You’re pushy about sex

There’s a fine line between expressing attraction and being pushy about sex. It’s all about the intention. Women looking for a serious relationship immediately back off when a man can’t shut up about how much he wants to “bed” her on the first date and it’s getting uncomfortable.

11. Your online profile is shady

No woman can trust a guy whose IG feed is loaded with pictures of scantily clad party girls, vain gym mirror selfies, and photos of women he has dated in the past (or is currently dating).

12. You’re carrying an excess baggage

Several children, multiple women, and complicated relationship or unfinished business with an ex – these are some of the “excess baggage” a man may have. To make it worse, some men with an excess baggage even negatively talk about their ex or children on the first date. These are deal-breakers since no person wants to be dragged into the unnecessary mess and drama.

13. You fail the server test

A guy who is genuinely kind-hearted respects, not only his date but everyone in the room – including the servers and sanitary personnel. Experts agree: you can tell a lot about a man by how he treats those in the service jobs.

Listen up: If the man yells and badmouths the restaurant staff, and is basically rude to other people, then it’s a red flag, revealing a preview of how he might treat the lady as they go on. Other red flags include road rage, failure to compromise several times, failure to accept blame, and manipulating behavior.

The first impression lasts, they say. But chances are, if a guy shows up with one or a few of these major turnoffs, he may not score a second or third date to redeem himself and score a potential good relationship with a great woman.

Author Bio: Carmina Natividad is one of the writers for The Relationship Room, a couples psychology institution specializing in relationship counseling and therapies for couples and families.

Online Interracial Dating tips

The Basics of Virtual Dating

So, for most ‘normal’ or traditional couples, they meet, take each other out, date and get to know each other. This is how it’s been for a while. But with the Internet age, the idea of normal couples goes out the window. Traditional is thrown to the side in favour of attraction and true compatibility. New concepts like virtual dating and Online Interracial Dating are in vogue for people ready to hit on the dating scenario.

But how can you date someone who lives halfway across the world – or even just a few hundred miles away? How is it possible to actually, truly ‘date’ without ever going on a true date?

Well, the internet is an impressive thing, and it has been connecting people since its start years and years ago. Dating completely and fully virtually is easier than it ever has been, from meeting people to falling in love, conversing and expressing yourself, and much, much more.

When you’re considering online dating… where do you start?

Virtual Dating Websites

The first place to start when looking into dating virtually is the Web sites available to you – there really are countless sites on the ‘net which caters to those looking for companionship, love, and everything in between.

If you are looking into dating sites online, remember to go with a website that’s been around for at least four years – this shows they’re not a fly-by-night, take-your-money-and-run company, but a serious, real company that wants to pair you with someone special.

Never go with a website you don’t feel comfortable with, and if you’re not sure, don’t give your credit card information!

The Basics of Virtual Dating

Virtual Dating for couples

Virtual Dating a growing trend

Many people aren’t really sure where they need to start. They have a profile set up on a good site, and they’re ready to start meeting interesting people. So what do they need? What we all need – the basics.

The first thing you need to do is learn the website that you hope to find love with – understand navigation, how you can search for others profiles, and how to communicate with other members on the website.

The next step, naturally, is meeting people! Search and send messages to people and profiles that are interesting to you, join chat rooms to discuss issues and relate with others, and overall simply meet people.

How To Take a Relationship to the Next Level

Without Ever Meeting the Person

Dating virtually can have certain advantages – but there are disadvantages, too. Many times, those who have relationships online don’t know where to take their relationship, and how to commit themselves to a person they might not have seen in person, but know in their heart.

The first step to learning to really appreciate and date someone online is to commit yourself – unless either of you had talked about it, you are now really dating, just as you would date a person in real life. This means that you need to be clear about the boundaries of the relationship, and if you’re monogamous or not. These things need to be discussed – you know what they say when you assume.

Dating virtually can be done. Its fun, easy, and you can really meet someone incredible. Talking and discussing is key, because you can’t have a relationship online without it – don’t be afraid to open up, and always be honest.

Home Search and Dating

Similarities to Home Search and Dating: Do’s and Don’ts Involved

Searching for a place to live is similar to searching for a partner. It is your personal choice and you need time to figure out what suits you. You may visit a really luxurious palace with friendly roommates but you will not be interested in it for various reasons, likewise beautiful or handsome partner alone is not the end to choose them. So here are some of the rules that apply commonly to both searching your home and your partner.Continue reading

Need Something New To Do On Your Next Date Night?

Need Something New To Do On Your Next Date Night?

Need Something New To Do On Your Next Date Night?

Need Something New To Do On Your Next Date Night?

Finding hobbies you can share as a couple helps make a relationship last.  Whether you’ve just found each other or you’ve been together for years, if you’ve not gone metal detecting together yet you should!  While it might not be the first “couples activity” that comes to mind, metal detecting together has a lot of benefits for a couple and can become an activity you enjoy together throughout your relationship whether you each have your own metal detector or not.

Great for Any Age

It doesn’t matter if you’re 18 or 80 – you can enjoy metal detecting.  There are light weight machines, long handled shovels and more to help make this a pass time that’s  comfortable and fun for everyone.

Experience the Outdoors Together

Heading outside together can take the pressure off a new relationship and can bring long-term couples even closer together.  Since you can’t go metal detecting indoors, you can experience a range of outdoor settings together when you both head out to find treasure.

Metal Detecting is Safest Using the Buddy System

If you don’t go with your significant other, be sure to take a friend.  Since you’re usually out exploring new terrain metal detecting is the safest using the buddy system.

Get Some Exercise so You Can Stay Together Longer

By the nature of the way you use your metal detector you’ll definitely get some exercise.  You’ll need to walk around nearly the entire time you’re searching for treasure.  Plus you’ll use your arm muscles to swing the machine back and forth while you’re walking.  And, you’ll end up doing some squats as you dig up your treasure onyour next date.

An Affordable Date

Once you have a metal detector (you only need one, although having two can be fun as well) and your metal detecting tools, you’re all set to have an affordable (read Free!) date any day of the week.  In fact, metal detecting may even be one of the only date night activities where you could actually make some money instead of spend it.

Boost Your Treasure Hunting Effectiveness

Metal detecting with your partner can also boost your  overall effectiveness by allowing you help each other with the metal detecting.  After all, two heads are better than one!  Working together you can –

  • Help each other differentiate between treasure tones and trash tones.
  • Share the labor of unearthing your treasure and save time by having one person dig while the other uses the pinpointer.
  • And, if you both have metal detectors you can search twice the area in half the time.

Enjoying the Spoils Together is Better

The most exciting thing about metal detecting is discovering what’s underground and learning more about it’s history, and it’s worth once you’re back home.  The only thing that’s more exciting than that is to find these unique treasures with someone you love.

Find Other Shared Interests

As you’re out metal detecting together, you’ll have time to talk, discover more about each other, and find additional shared interests.  Not only that, through metal detecting you may be led to other interests that are totally new to both of you that you can now explore together such as hiking, history, antiquing, coin collecting, gold panning, geocaching, gardening, and so much more.

Finding activities you can appreciate together is the foundation of any successful relationship.  If you already have a passion for metal detecting, take your partner along with you next time.  If you’ve never been metal detecting – try it with your partner.  Whether it’s your first date or you’re just looking for something to do since the kids are gone, metal detecting is a perfect activity for any couple to enjoy together.

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About the author: Michael Bernzweig manages MetalDetector.com in Southborough, MA. He has written extensively on the subject of metal detecting since the mid 1980’s. He has traveled world-wide in his pursuit of educating, exploring and advising others in the proper use of metal detectors. Outside of the business he enjoys mentoring students, being involved in the community and spending time with his family.