Keeping your sex life private around your kids is hard enough when you’re married and the fact that you even have one is implicit, albeit unimaginable to most children. For single parents who are dating that topic becomes even trickier. How much, if anything, should your kids know about the people you date? When is the appropriate time to introduce a new partner to your children? Should you even admit to your children that you’re dating or wait until it gets serious with someone? We do not want to give too much information to our children but do not want to appear that we are hiding something from them either. Finding the balance between giving children enough information to feel empowered without overwhelming them is tough and there are no easy answers, but here are some guidelines:
Going slowly and easing your children into the idea of you being in a new relationship are the keys to a smoother transition. When the decision is made that you are ready to introduce a new mate, choose events that are fun and comfortable for your child. Sporting events, movies, playing in the park, or any situation where conversation is not forced and somewhat optional are best. In time the setting can grow more intimate, such as dinner at home, and they can get to know one another better and allow the relationship time to develop. Delaying your own gratification for the sake of the mental health and well-being of your children needs to be your priority and will help them adjust more easily to your new relationship.