Whether you have a love marriage or an arranged marriage, with the passage of time you are bound to face difficulties in your relationship no matter how much you love your partner. And that’s the case with all most all the couples in this universe or most of the marriages.
In the beginning, when you fall in love with your partner, you start believing that you will never face issues in your marriage, but slowly and gradually the world around you (including the social, political and economic factors) somewhere start contributing in destroying your relationship with your partner. No happily married couples would ever like the idea of falling out of love, however, a large number of them face this situation at least once in their life. Hence, every couple must realize that difficulties are always going to be a part of their married life, and they should take necessary steps to deal with them in a healthy manner if they want to preserve their relationship.
If you are experiencing a really bad time in your married life then you must take professional support to deal with the problem, wherein you can either go for marriage counseling or couples therapy.
Marriage counseling is a highly important part of relationship counseling, and it aims at resolving the problems between married couples. However, if couples facing tremendous problems in their relationship do not opt for marriage counseling, chances of their marriage ending up soon become too high. Marriage counseling is a systematic process of counseling married couples, wherein an experienced therapist or a marriage counselor effectively listens to the problems confronted by them in their relationship.
The therapist asks a range of questions related to the personal life of the couples in order to understand or identify the core issues so that he/she can offer the right type of advice or guidance to them. Depending upon the condition of your relationship, a therapist may either ask you to go for short-term counseling or long-term counseling, wherein the former can be completed with just a few sessions, but the later one can run for several years.
If you want to get the best advice from your counselor, it is better to explain everything clearly to him/her, because his/her advice is always based on your experiences. On top of that, you should also describe whether your relationship is getting better after you met your counselor or not. In that way, your counselor or therapist will get to know whether the advice or suggestions given by him/her are working properly or not, and if in case that’s not leading to any sort of positive development as far as your relationship with your spouse is concerned, then he/she should try out something else. Generally, the couples who go for marriage counseling get tremendous positive outcomes, when it comes to preserving their marriage.
Couples therapy is also an indispensable part of relationship therapy, wherein the therapist tries to explore the thoughts and behavior of the couples by asking them important questions regarding their relationship with their partner. The major difference between couples therapy and marriage counseling is that the former can be carried out both for unmarried and married couples, but the later one strictly deals with the problems faced by married couples.
During couples therapy, a therapist offers the solutions for issues associated with communication, intimacy, and family problems etc. And in order to offer correct advice, the therapist try to understand the relationship history and the way couples behave with each other. Same like marriage counseling, here also couples need to be extremely honest when it comes to explaining the issues faced by them in the relationship with the therapist so that they can get valuable advice.
During the therapeutic process, the entire aim of the therapist remains to provide positive advice to couples so that they can understand the importance of their relationship and can work together in sorting out the difficulties. Mostly after a few sessions couples start taking their relationship more seriously, which eventually helps them in maintaining it properly.
The therapist whom you approach for couples therapy or marriage counseling is generally a person with strong knowledge of Psychology, who can judge the condition of your relationship through your behavior with your partner and by exploring your feelings and thoughts for him/her. Before offering any sort of guidance to couples, the therapist first observes their behavior against each other in order to understand the exact problem and its cause. For example, if the couples are facing disturbance in their relationship because of their family members, then the therapist will guide them accordingly so that the problem can be resolved completely.
However, if financial problem is creating trouble in their life, then the therapist would give necessary guidance on how to keep such issues out of personal life or he/she may also advice them on how to become a little more responsible when it comes to tackling the money, so that the entire problem can be kept at the bay.
On the other hand, if the couples are losing interest in each other, then the therapist may ask them to spend more of their time together so that they can fill the gap that was created between them over a period of time due to various reasons. The therapist will definitely try to understand the reason behind couples losing interest in each other, which could even be anything such as an extra-marital affair or their busy work schedules etc.
For example, if one of the partners is having an extra-marital affair, then the therapist will definitely like to know if the couple wants to continue with their marriage or not, and if at all they are willing to work on it, he/she will offer the advice accordingly.
In most of the cases, the counseling and therapy provided by the therapist work in favor of the couples.