Once upon a time, I met a beautiful lady named Tracy. She’s a pretty damsel, I must confess. Her company is such that every man would desire. It was during my undergraduate days at the university. This lady had all I wanted in a lady, as much as I was concerned.
Tracy represented what I had prayed for to have as a lady. I was not willing to search anymore because I had found in Tracy the one I was looking for. Although I was attracted by her beauty at first, as time went by, her character endeared her to my heart such that I gave her a special name with which I saved her number on my phone.
No matter how beautiful a lady is, once she lacks character, she lacks it all. Character is the main thing. And like we say it here, the “koko” is character. At first, I was a “hi hi” friend and had no intension to take it further, but you can never say never when it comes to such issues, especially when the lady’s got the qualities you are looking for.
As nature would have its way, I started developing interest in this lady. Suddenly I wanted more than just friendship – I wanted something more intimate. So I made my interest known to her. Unfortunately, she gave no definite response, but I persisted. Like they say, nothing good comes easy. I wouldn’t let her be until she gave me the reply I wanted – a positive one of course.
All I wanted was an end to a long term search, to keep my gaze on just this damsel and no one else. I pulled different stunts, tasking and exploring my creativity to win the heart of this lady that my heart was determined to go after; I wrote poems, gave gifts, not to mention the calls and text messages. I even went further to “expose” her to my family members just to show her the genuineness of my intensions.
Exposing this babe to my family members, I thought, was a wise decision, especially considering the kind of relationship that exits between I and my family members. Also, introducing her to my loved ones wasn’t a bad decision because I wanted to use the opportunity to assure and convince about my genuineness and sincerity. And my people were more than willing to welcome her and make her feel at home. The day she came visiting, all eyes were sent on errands – a beauty to behold for all white-dotted balls.
As much as possible, openness and sincerity are very essential ingredients that should not be neglected in a relationship. They help build trust and in the long run, make any relationship more solid. Also, these two should not be taken for granted in other words, don’t see a person that is being open and sincere as a fool. The truth is, the person who exhibits these qualities is often the one in charge.
Though it takes two people to be in a relationship, it must be noted that it takes more than two to keep and sustain any relationship. This is because there would be trying times and you’d need the advice and counsel of people who have faced and overcame similar challenges. These people may be your pastor, mentor or a marriage counselor; you would need such people around you to help you successfully navigate through such moment.
Like one of my teachers, back in secondary school said to us, “may your way be rough”, regardless of how rough the road is, I want you to know that you’ve got what it takes to make it to your marital heaven – all you need to do is to make up your mind and seek for God’s help. The place of God in a relationship, especially between spouses can never be over emphasized. God would often time position certain people around to help you in your marital journey, it takes WISDOM to identify such people.
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