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Iconic Couple’s Halloween Costumes to Wear Together

Halloween is a fun time of year when you and your partner can put your creative minds together and rock a couple’s costume. The trick is to think outside the box and create something memorable.

There are plenty of go-to Halloween costumes for you and your partner to invoke feelings of nostalgia, humor, and amazement. Here are some iconic couple’s Halloween costumes for you to wear (and scare) together.

1. Creepy Couples

There are so many iconic, classic creepy couples for you and your other half to be for Halloween. Take a page from Tim Burton’s creations and go as Jack and Sally from the Nightmare Before Christmas, Kim and Edward from Edward Scissorhands, Beetlejuice and Lydia from Beetlejuice or Victor and Emily from The Corpse Bride.

If Burton’s characters don’t have the emotional response you need, take another direction and channel your inner Gomez and Morticia Addams. Alternatively, take it even further back and create a new age spin on a classic movie monster couple, Frankenstein’s monster and his bride.

2. Disney Duos

While one could argue that many of Tim Burton’s characters fall under the Disney umbrella, some look for a more lighthearted approach to their couple’s costume. Choose your favorite Disney couple to dress up as, either from the classic Disney Renaissance period or one of the more modern movies. Beauty and the Beast and Aladdin are Disney cartoon classics that are at the forefront of movie-goer’s minds right now due to the focus on their remakes.

It’s worth noting, that technically Princess Leia and Han Solo are now Disney characters, as are the Avengers. Now is a fun time to create cross-over costumes between new Disney and old or create a few scandals by mixing and matching your Disney couple.

3. Get Some Laughs

For the humorous couple, aim to get some laughs from your friends with a funny Halloween costume. Stick with something classic and cute such as Pacman and a ghost or be the two sides of a peanut butter and jelly sandwich. Play up the opportunity for puns by having one person dressed as Belle from Beauty and the Beast, and the other dressed as a taco. Alternatively, play it a little edgier and dress up as a plug and socket.

When aiming for some laughs, think of commercials, pop culture references, puns, and jokes that get you chuckling every time. A fan-favorite this year is Jake from State Farm and the angry wife on the phone.

4. Last Minute

If you’re one of those couples who has big ideas, then leaves everything to the last minute, this one is for you. The trick to a successful last-minute Halloween costume is being able to repurpose things you have at home, with a few things you can pick up at the local dollar store for a minimal investment.

Some common ideas are a fisherman and mermaid or hunter and deer or rabbit. Alternatively, go as social media with a cardboard cut out of an Instagram post or as Facebook in the style of Jim Halpert and a “like.” Whether you go for something pre-planned and elaborate, purchased from an online store or thrown together last-minute, remember to stick together and have fun.

 

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The Rise of the Blended Family in the UK

In the UK as is many other countries, divorce, separation, and repartnering are the norm, with many welcoming children from their partner’s former relationship into their home to live together as a family. The latest report from the Office for National Statistics recorded over half a million blended families with dependent children in England and Wales, with 28% of these families having three or more children. Without a doubt, walking the fine line between parent and friend can be challenging for parents of new blended families, and it is vital for spouses or partners to manage their situation with a sound and united strategy, working as a team to ensure the health and happiness of every person living in their home.

What are Some Problems that Blended Families can Encounter?

Parentline Plus, a hotline for parents with family issues, reported receiving over 14,000 calls in a single year from step parents with stepfamily issues. Research by psychologist, Lisa Doodson of Regent’s University London found that stepmothers had significantly higher levels of anxiety and depression than biological mothers, as well as a weaker support structure. Common problems can include a lack of time (parents find that they now have to spread the little time they may have between more children); sibling rivalry (children may find it hard to get along with their step siblings or compete for their parents’ attention, fearful that they will be loved less now that they are not living with both biological parents); and territorial issues (children can find it hard to have to share bedrooms, bathrooms, toys, etc. There can be initial difficulties establishing territory and limits). Parents can also struggle to get twice as many kids to get to after-school activities and lessons, while work and other personal and social demands.

Adaptation Takes Time

Research shows that it can take blended families at least four years to adjust to their new arrangement. Therefore, if you feel frustrated or powerless when it comes to managing so much change, know that it takes time to get to know your stepchildren and to negotiate the many rules and routines that may differ considerably from your own. Be patient and use humour to diffuse tense situations, and use tried-and-tested conflict resolution skills to reduce tension and focus on issues that arise, looking to solve these issues one by one. As time passes, you will start to appreciate the benefits that being part of a blended family can bring to your life. Things may be a bit more chaotic than they used to be, but they can also be more entertaining and the presence of more rather than less people in a household can actually be a source of support in terms of time, chores, company, and other essential life factors.

Building a Strategy

Before you begin to live as a blended family, it is important to time to discuss routines and rules with your new spouse or partner. Uniformity must prevail in a home if there is to be peace in a blended family. Therefore, some feel it is logical to ask new children arriving into the home to adapt to established routines, bedtimes, etc. This isn’t to say that your spouse’s considerations don’t matter. During your discussion, you might decide that some changes will be profitable for everyone in the family. Equality should prevail, but you should not feel like you don’t have the right to establish norms in your home.

 

Deciding on Conflict Resolution Norms

When norms for conflict aren’t established, arguments can quickly escalate. It is important that once children are mature enough to understand and learn conflict resolution skills, that conflict resolution skills be learned, to make for  peaceful, purposeful communication within your blended family. At a family meeting, you can explain to kids why using the right language is important. For instance, language such as “You always” or “You never” should be avoided, because they put the listener on the defensive and veer the discussion away from the actual problem you are trying to fix. The ultimate aim is for step siblings to see the family unit as a team. This way, conflicts can be seen as an opportunity to achieve outcomes rather than to ‘beat the opponent’.

Adding a Dash of Understanding

Be prepared for your stepchildren to utter, at some point during your life together, “You can’t tell me what to do, you’re not my mom/dad.” Understand that when they say this, they are essentially telling you they are hurting, they are finding it hard to adapt, and they may miss their old home structure with their biological parents. For some kids, discussing conflicts should be left for when the situation is calmer. Take the time you need to clear your mind when you feel like you are frustrated. Go for a walk, do some deep breathing, or meditate for a few moments, coming back to your stepchild when the tension has diffused a little. Explain that you are not trying to replace their parent, but that as an adult in the home, you need to establish ground rules across the board, for all kids living with you. When you speak to them, use humour and warmth to help them feel loved rather than chastised. A warm embrace and a smile can go a long way towards helping children understand that there is nothing personal about rules; they simply need to be set for the household to run as smoothly as possible.

If you are about to start a blended family living arrangement, it is important to be realistic and expect a few teething problems, both on your part and those of your existing and new kids. You and your partner can reduce the likelihood of conflict by agreeing on ground rules and explaining them together to your children in a family meeting. Be prepared for a few territorial fights and tears at first, but be resistant, don’t give in, and always stress the importance of approaching problems as a family. Take complaints as a sign your new kids may need a little reassurance and extra time and attention and do your best to give them as much support as they need. Once rules, schedules, and bedroom arrangements are set, you can start enjoying the diversity and fun involved in living together, seeing conflict as an opportunity to learn more about your biological and step children, but also about yourself.

Decorating Design Ideas for Your Bedroom

After a horribly long day, the idea of snuggling in a warm bed is often the only thing that keeps us standing. Bedrooms are our retreat at the end of the day. They provide a sort of sanctuary, a safe place for when we’re tired and lifeless. It’s really important to have a place to relax, and because of that, we should make our bedrooms as comfy as possible. Of course, that means that we should also decorate them according to our personal style and preferences. A room that is decorated to your taste can do wonders in helping you to relax and unwind. Furthermore, if you are able to fully let go of your worries and everyday problems, you’ll find it much easier to fall asleep, and the quality of your sleep will improve significantly. For all of these reasons, you should approach bedroom decorating with a serious mind. Here are some decorating ideas to help you in your efforts to make your bedroom even more comfortable.

1. Surround yourself with the things that matter

One of the perks of decorating not only your bedroom but your entire house is that you can incorporate many of the personal items you hold dear into the design. Photographs can be even more beautiful if you put them into frames that match the rest of your room. Jewelry boxes can be an art form in themselves, and they look marvelous if made well. Works of art with a soothing aura are great for bedrooms and can really enhance the atmosphere of tranquility you want to create. However, never put things you don’t really like into your bedroom. If your friend gave you a really expensive vase that you’re not really fond of, put it into the living room instead.

2. Try out new colors

Repainting your bedroom is one of the best ways to freshen it up. Choose a new color for your walls, and make sure to only choose the colors you’ll love. Even if you’re aware that the paint won’t match your furniture, but you simply love that dysfunctional combination, go for it. It’s your bedroom, and you need to like it, not make a picture-perfect magazine image of a room. If you’ve found particularly nice wallpapers you don’t think you’ll be able to peacefully live without, don’t be afraid to incorporate it into your design. Of course, the wallpapers will take a bit of extra work compared to simple painting, so don’t hesitate to call for professional aid. Find a reliable company, such as Well Hung Wallpaper, which specializes in wallpaper, and enjoy the makeover your room is about to go through!

3. Upgrade your bed sheets

Bed sheets are not just the things you put on your bed. They are also an important part of the appearance of the room, so choose wisely. Find some nice bed sheets in the colors or prints that you like and that work well with the rest of the room. For the sake of comfort, treat yourself to some fancy fabrics. Sure, silk costs a pretty penny, but the feel of it is positively fabulous, and it’ll make you look forward to bedtime each night.

4. Stock up on pillows

You can never have too many pillows. A bed with a neatly arranged bunch of pillows looks way more inviting than a bare one, wouldn’t you agree? Multiple pillows provide multiple opportunities for decoration. They look great, and just the thought of a big bed with plenty of pillows is nearly irresistible. There is also the advantage of always being able to accommodate your needs – you have pillows of different sizes, which provide a better chance of being comfortable every single night. Therefore, stock up on pillows and create your dream ambient.

A comfortable bedroom is one of the most basic needs for a working person. Every one of us needs a place in which we feel safe and in which we can forget about everyday stress and troubles. Therefore, treat yourself to a wonderful bedroom makeover, and enjoy the work!

5 Challenges of Intercultural Marriage

Even though we live in a world which sends robots to Mars, sometimes technological advancement is all there is from humankind. While we aim for the stars to give us a better future, we forget that there are still certain issues that should be addressed here on Earth. Intercultural marriage is one of the numerous things we should discuss and resolve, as a testament to positive human evolution for our posterity.

Marriage is a challenge. It requires work and compromise between partners, no matter how much they love each other. However, marriage also requires strength to overcome the stressors surrounding the relationship. And that is what challenges of intercultural marriage mean for the partners – endurance of bigotry, racism, class differences and all the things that come out of petty minds.

In a way, these couples have to work on their marriage at the same time they’re working on showing the world that love is the most valuable feeling in the world. Unfortunately, sometimes that is simply not enough and these couples face a lifelong battle with issues that don’t belong in the civilized, modern society that wants to spread across the universe.

  1. Interracial marriages

Racism is, sadly, still a serious issue that exists in even the most modern countries in the world like the USA. Judging people by their skin color shouldn’t be discussed any more at all since it shouldn’t exist in the first place. But we all know that the world is more complicated and challenging than that.

But people are not judged for their interracial marriages only by strangers. The worst impact on their relationship is made by their peers, family, and friends. This is something that has been present in society for centuries, and will undoubtedly be here in the future.

Thus, the pressure on the interracial marriage is like carrying a heavy load which just got heavier because someone set on it instead of helping you carry it. Racism won’t go away if we turn our heads the other way, but only if we join the ranks of brave men and women who fight it all their lives. This is a complex problem that needs to be addressed from all the social, political and cultural points in order to eradicate it.

  1. Class differences and challenges

You’ve probably read Jane Austen or at least seen some of the movie adaptations to know how class difference works. Even The Great Gatsby deals with this issue from a different, but equally important point of view. Marriage between rich and poor has so much scrutiny surrounding it that Pandora had a pretty big box where all those evils came from.

Sometimes, the couple or one of the partners, usually the less economically situated one, are forced to sign a prenuptial agreement. This can be the initiator of marital problems and even cause the cancelation of marriage altogether. Here lie many challenges and prejudice that a couple must face in order to have a healthy marriage and keep the family safe.

Popular culture often depicts these relationships either as cautionary tales or true love stories. In reality, the matter is not so easy to fight off and the reputation follows some couples throughout their marriage. This issue is, thus, resolved, with firm attitude rather than constant justifying oneself to everyone, and as an underlying stressor, it’s an ever-present challenge for the couple.

  1. Educational backgrounds and careers

Love is blind, they say, but for how long? This is a fitting question that perfectly fits the challenges of a marriage between two people with different educational backgrounds. Some even didn’t see this as a challenge until women were given the same opportunity at education as men.

Just remember Mad Men TV show for the easiest reference and women there being perfect housewives, while men did all the important work. Nowadays, the society may have allowed women to have the education they rightfully deserve, but not that Mad Men ideal of perfect marriage is hard to destroy. But the things swing the other way as well, so this educational gap is not only the gender issue anymore.

The lack of communication in marriage and understanding from a partner are often the causes of discord. While some tend to put in the effort to understand each other completely, others forget about it and it turns into an issue fast. However, the true way of dealing with this is for partners to include one another in each other’s lives, and not feed the monster.

  1. Overcoming legal issues

The main legal issue when it comes to intercultural marriage is visa and citizenship for one of the partners. Every country has its own set of laws and regulations governing this field and some are really complex to handle by yourself, like the UK’s or Australia’s. Therefore, hiring immigration solicitors is necessary to complete the paperwork and avoid serious repercussions such as deportation.

Of course, every couple entering into an intercultural marriage is aware of this issue when one is not the citizen of the other’s country. If prepared for this bureaucratic entanglement in time, couples won’t even feel this period in their lives. Otherwise, the problems arising from untimely tackling of this issue can lead to serious legal consequences and divorce.

  1. Statistics show a high divorce rate

Couples today face the fact that the divorce rate is high. In a way, if a marriage doesn’t work than it’s right to get the divorce. However, doing your best to overcome the problems should be the first course of action and not calling it quits. Intercultural marriages have a high divorce rate and that is why they need more work and attention.

Different religious backgrounds can be overcome with one partner accepting the religion of the other. Certain customs can undergo small changes to fit both partners, while different cultural backgrounds carry diverse behaviors and perspectives. So, while high divorce rate of these marriages may speak against them, couples shouldn’t focus on that but on methods to overcome these problems and love each other.

In the end

Every relationship is a challenge and needs work to succeed. Intercultural marriage is a perfect example of what a relationship between two people needs to endure and how much we have to further evolve to be worthy of the stars.

7 Valid Reasons To Walk Away From A Long-Term Relationship

Breaking up with the person you love hurts like hell, especially if you’ve been together for a couple of years.

You’ve built your world around each other. You’ve made a lot of good and memories over the years and shared unforgettable experiences. You’ve faced many trials together and surpassed them out of love. It’s such a waste to end such a long and meaningful relationship and start over again.

But there are battles you cannot win over no matter how much you love the person. It’s when the relationship becomes toxic and draining to the point it’s not worth fighting for anymore.

Let’s not talk about the petty arguments about laziness, or small incompatibilities like introverted and extroverted personalities – you can work them out. But there are some circumstances which are extremely difficult or even impossible to resolve. These events tell you that it’s the end of the road. You have no choice but to give it up because you’ll destroy each other eventually if you choose to stay.

You may assume your long-time partner is the one. But if you’re still unmarried and you spot these red flags, it would be better rethink your relationship before the problem becomes unbearably damaging during your marriage.

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9 Fun and Unique Bucks Party Ideas in Sydney

As the best man of an upcoming wedding, you know how important it is for the groom to have a good send-off with a traditional buck’s party. When you often think of a buck’s party, you might think about pubs and drinking, but there are actually a lot of other things that you might want to do in order to have tons of fun and enjoyable memories that you can cherish for years to come. Planning out a buck’s party may seem difficult, but these top five ideas can help you to create a party that the groom-to-be is truly going to enjoy for themselves.

 

Having the best buck’s party ideas for Sydney is as simple as planning out the right event. For many, the right buck’s party ideas for Sydney just requires a little planning ahead and a bit of knowledge about the groom to know what they might enjoy themselves. It is important to give yourself a decent amount of time to plan out the entire party to ensure that everything will be booked or set before the time for the party comes.

1. Plan a Night at the Pubs

The first and most common buck’s party idea would be spending a night at the pub. The pub is a great place for you all to gather and have some great times in. The best thing for you to do is to make sure that you’ll be able to get a seat when going to a specific pub. If you have to call and make reservations for yourself, this is something that you may want to consider doing just to save yourself some time and headache in case the pub is overly crowded on the night that you want to go.

 

Nearly every man loves a good beer, so taking a tour through some of Sydney’s oldest pubs and bars might just be the perfect option. All that’s needed is a scheduled tour guide and the rest is simple and carefree. Schedule a ride early, because these pubs and bars are so charismatic and fun, there are sure to be quite a few drinks consumed.

 

2. Consider Paintballing

Going to paintball is a good way to mingle with all the guys for the buck’s party and do something that everyone is sure to enjoy. The great thing is that there are many paintball arenas that you can book and go to for the actual buck’s party. Just make sure to make arrangements well in advance to ensure that you will have the ability to go there when the buck’s party is actually going to be taking place for the groom-to-be.

 

3. Go for a Weekend Getaway

Renting a small flat or house by the beach is a wonderful opportunity to give that groom a great send-off. While this might be one of the more expensive buck’s party ideas, it is definitely going to be something that they cherish for many years to come. It also gives them the chance to enjoy a full weekend with the guys before they get married, which is a lot different from the traditional buck’s party that might last just one night or one full day in itself. You can even choose to do a buck’s night cruise in Sydney to enjoy time away from the norm.

 

4. Get a Party Package

If you cannot think of any ideas that the groom might like, you could always go with a buck’s party package. The buck’s party package basically has anything and everything that you might need to create a memorable and incredibly fun night. These packages are great for those who might need a little help with the overall planning, from helping with party venue, games, entertainers to arranging lovely strippers to spice up your party in Sydney, so make sure to consider a buck’s party package before you drive yourself crazy trying to plan out the very best party. The buck’s night packages can take a lot of guesswork out of the whole thing for you when you’re the one who is in charge of doing all of the planning.

 

5. Adventure Trip

If the groom-to-be is a thrill seeker, another wonderful option would be an adventure trip. This might include a full day of rock climbing, water rafting or even just doing some extreme sports that the whole group can enjoy together. This is definitely a step ahead of the traditional buck’s party, so it might be something to think about if you would like to plan out a party that is unlike anything you’ve ever heard before. You will be sure to have something that the groom-to-be is going to love and have tons of fun doing themselves.

 

6. Sharks

Did that throw you off a bit? Why not try an outing where your mate has to face his fears (other than getting hitched, of course)?! Take him Shark Diving! A quick trip to Sea World and you’ll have a look of fear on his face that you can joke about forever. If this is too expensive for everyone to take part in, depending on how large the bucks party is, it will still be enjoyable for everyone to watch the guest of honour get a little bit nervous being so close to a shark.

 

7. Cigar Night

Many men love cigars. It adds a certain air of sophistication so why not organize a classy send-off in a cigar bar? Here, your entire party can sip on their favourite spirits and smoke cigars all night while receiving the absolute best VIP treatment possible. Hors d’oeuvre’s are expertly prepared and never in short supply, along with no cover charges or queues, so it all ends up a perfect evening.

 

8. Golfing

Even the bachelor party can be green with a day full of golf. Golftec in Sydney can organise an entire day of golf, additional poker rounds, and even some adult entertainment (if you wish). What better bucks party then spending with all your mates playing a game you all enjoy?

 

9. Simple Relaxation

This is another option for the no-fuss buck who wants to also keep things green. Before you say goodbye to the simple life, consider renting a little house on the beach through Air BnB and spend the day there doing whatever your heart’s desire. No worries about waking up early and it’s a perfect chance to see the beautiful beaches of Australia that so many people travel the world to gaze at.

 

The right Sydney style buck’s party ideas can create a highly memorable night that you are sure to enjoy with your buddies. It’s why a lot of people are choosing to go with non-traditional Sydney buck’s night party ideas for their own friends. There is no reason for you to go with the traditional party when there are so many other ideas available.

What to Do after Marriage to Keep the Relation Intact

You may have heard or even experienced that the long-term relations eventually go flat and become boring. Even though you believe it as a myth during the early years of married life, anyone can expect this to happen to you too. The experience of feeling attraction, desire, and sexual excitement may not be powerfully stimulating for long, and the couple starts assuming that the flame has gone off and the future may be uninspiring. Possessed with this assumption, many couple’s life seemed to face a downward trajectory over time and often ends in despair or separation.

Even though it is impossible to prevent such stale moments from occurring in our married life, it is always possible to keep the fire alive in relationships. There are many possible activities to keep the bond rolling and minimize the impact of staleness. Many couples succeed in keeping their relationship fresh, exciting, and passionate through a wide range of activities done together. Whether you are in your 20s or 60s, it just requires supplementing it with some pleasure and fun to keep it fresh.

Most of the times, people tend to say, “I would love to be so, but there is little time.” But the fact is that there is always enough time if you wish to. Many among us tend to assign high priorities to our responsibilities and commitments than relationships; however, it is not necessarily due to the negligence of relationships, but as we take it for granted that the significant others can understand it.

Many among us take it for granted that as we are fully committed, our relationships will also stay solid, which doesn’t require further attention, time, and energy. However, it is proven that it is a huge mistake to take relationships for granted and assume that it will stay solid forever without care. If you neglect it for too long, then there is every chance to end up in a disaster.

If you are taking an initiative to reassure the intimacy component in the relationship, it can become habit forming and will pave basement for relational success. In this article, we will further discuss some activities which can be considered ideal to be tried by couples to keep the relationship intact.

#1 Keep dating

Don’t think that dates are only for young lovers; it can be magical for an even elderly couple who already lived together for long. Leaving home and getting out give a chance to explore the outside world by forgetting about the daily setting which may make thing livelier for the partners. In fact, if you find it too tight to schedule an outside dating, even staying home on a date may also be fun, for example, a candlelight dinner. Plan for dates as a regular weekend habit or so to strengthen the relationship.

#2 Plan a night out together

Everyone will be excited about a spontaneous date night. In the downtime between spontaneous breaks out of your routine, the couple can plan for a full date night too. It need not have to be so expensive or filled with fun. There are many options to explore in cheap date nights, which will primarily get you both out of the home without the need to analyze the family budget.

#3 Go for a wildlife safari

A wildlife safari is a family entertainment option, which can be effectively planned by the couple as a honeymoon activity or at any time you wish. At olden times, wildlife safari was meant for big game hunts. However, nowadays people don’t “hunt,” but it is mostly about observing animals at their natural habitat and also to enjoy the excitement of capturing them on camera. You can find various options for wildlife safari like guided safaris, jeep safaris, walking safaris, horse safaris, camel safaris, elephant safaris, river safaris, photographic safaris, balloon safaris to name a few. Horse racing is a very good option as well. You can watch it on TVG.com.

#4 Cook together

There is an old saying which goes like “the couple who cooks together also stays together.” You can also try to break out cookbooks and measuring cups at the kitchen. Once a week or at least once a year, you may plan and wait for the spouse to have dinner by cooking together. Wait till the kids get to sleep and then have a quality time cooking your meal together to enjoy a late-night candle dinner. Going a step ahead, it is also welcoming to take a cooking class together to learn some exciting new recipes and techniques.

#5 Do social networking together

One of the major reasons heard nowadays in case of separations is that the spouse is busy in the virtual world of the internet than spending time together with the other. So, it is a good idea to plan a great time together to do social networking or blogging together. This also will bring in more transparency in relations and makes it stronger. If both are interested in blogging, then brainstorm for topics which both would enjoy and do some co-blogging.

#6 Take up new hobbies to be together

As we discussed in case of co-blogging, find other common grounds also that both the couple enjoy together. There can be many simple connections between the hobbies if you haven’t explored it every. Say, for example, nature walk, cycling, or bird watching may be liked by both and can be done together. For some others, it may be kind of adventures like snorkeling or surfing to spend quality time together.

#7 Relax together

Many among us won’t jump a cozy chance to be at the spa during free time. Sometimes, you can convince them to visit for an at-home spa service with which you both can enjoy a relaxing together experience. Try to make some setting also by working together at home for the spam day as by playing some relaxing music, setting dim lights, and arranging a cozy couch for each other to relax and unwind.

With all these being practiced, try to make every day a celebration of your togetherness. Mark all possible days to celebrate including that when you first met, got engaged, wedding, birthdays and whatever possible. Live with flying colors, and you will never find it boring.

Happy & Healthy Marriage Advice Every Couple Should Use

Tying the knot is easy, it’s staying married that is the tricky part.

In order to be successful, you and your spouse must learn to compromise, respect each other, and communicate. Don’t let yourself forget how important your partner is to you.

If you want to have a happy, successful married life, then read on and learn the 10 best tips for a healthy marriage that every couple should be following.

  1. Always Put in the Effort

Getting married shouldn’t mean that end of dating – each other, obviously!

Putting in the effort to schedule a fun, sexy, or romantic date night is all about making your partner feeling loved, adored, and desired. These are important aspects of any healthy marriage.

Studies reveal other benefits of date night as well, such as heightened sexual and emotional intimacy, boredom prevention, and deeper communication.

  1. Build Lasting Trust

Trust is one of the most important parts of any healthy marriage.

Your partner should be the person you can tell your deepest secrets to without every worrying that they will judge you or share your stories with anyone else. Trust also means living with confidence that your spouse would never do anything to betray you nor you them.

  1. Play Like Friends

In a study about what makes a marriage last, treating a spouse like a best friend rated as one of the biggest indicators of success. Research also indicates that couples who laugh together regularly are more likely to stay together than those who do not.

Your best friend is the first person you think to call when something exciting happens. They are the person you want to go to concerts with, the person you trust, and the person who can always make you laugh. So, why shouldn’t this person be your spouse?

  1. Don’t Expect Perfection

Part of having a healthy married life is about having realistic expectations about your partner and loving them for who they are, not who you wish they would become.

People naturally mature as they grow older. They grow and change in various ways. Perhaps they even quit bad habits such as smoking or staying up all hours of the night. Your spouse may change their opinion about getting a pet, decide they actually do want kids, or may even change careers after marriage.

But, those are their own decisions. While you have every right to weigh in, offer you opinion, and give support as a spouse – thinking that you can be the cause of change in your partner is a fruitless challenge that will only leave you shaking your head.

  1. Maintain Your Sex Life

Sex is arguably the biggest way in which couples bond both emotionally and physically. The oxytocin released during intercourse is largely responsible for stress-reduction, mood elevation, and is the biggest predictor in heightened emotional intimacy in married couples.

An active sex life also promotes bonding, and is scientifically shown to deepen trust.

Plus, it’s fun.

  1. Pursue Separate Interests

Just because you’re married doesn’t mean you always have the same interests. It is just as important to pursue separate interests as is it to share hobbies and goals.

Maintaining solo hobbies and social lives will help each spouse hang onto their sense of self outside the relationship. In turn, this confidence will strengthen the marriage bond.

  1. Do New Things Together

According to twentieth century philosopher Rudolf Steiner, people change their opinions and interests every seven years. So, if the changing of body and mind is inevitable, do your utmost to ensure you and your spouse are changing and growing in the same direction.

One way you can do this is by sharing new things together. Take up a class, instrument, language, or start a new hobby like exercising or photography. By taking up these challenges together, you’ll be able to deepen the connection in your married life.

  1. Be Partners

Your spouse is not simply the person you married, they are your partner. By marrying them it means that you have entered into a partnership, so always treat it like one. Decisions are made together, issues are talked about respectfully, and each spouse’s feelings, thoughts, and opinions are to be treated with care.

Just like in a business, you and your spouse are working toward the same goal together in order to profit your relationship.

  1. Learn to Compromise

This step may be difficult for those who are used to getting what they want. But, being in a marriage means melding two different lives together. As with any couple, this is bound to cause you two to butt heads every once in a while. This is where the art of compromise comes in.

Marrying the love of your life means everything isn’t always about you anymore. You are building a family together as partners, not enemies. Learn to pick your battles. Decide what is important to you and what isn’t worth your instance.

  1. Don’t Go to Bed Angry

This age-old advice had been around for decades for a reason. Going to bed angry is a hurtful thing to do to both partners. You’ll end up losing sleep, hurting your spouse for your lack of communication and understanding, and be hurting your brain in the process. Literally.

Studies prove that by going to bed angry, you are actually encouraging your brain to hold onto negative emotions that will be harder to get rid of then if you had simply called a truce before bed.

Sure, there are some issues that could be put on hold until morning, but you should always strive to kiss and make up before bedtime.

Being married is a rewarding adventure, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t bumps along the way. By following these 10 tips, you’ll be setting yourself up for a healthy marriage for years to come.

Prepping Your Winter Fashion List? Essentials You’ll Need In Your Closet

Cold nights, a hot cup of coffee, soft socks, a good book, and a large sweater; that is what winters are all about. As the warmer months draw to a close, it is time to embrace the chilly months with open arms. While lounging by the fire snuggled under a blanket sounds like the perfect plan, there is so much more to the winter months than just the unbridled indulgence. Winter time is the most exciting time especially when it comes to revamping our wardrobes. The dresses and bikinis have had their moment to shine, but it is time to finally bring out all the coats, hats and jackets. When it comes to styling for the colder months, there are so many more options to play with because you get the opportunity to layer and really curate outfits; much like a customized look. Stock up on your list of essential items for this winter season by taking a look at some of our top picks.

  • Skinny Jeans

Skinny jeans are a staple in everyone’s wardrobe all year round, but they are especially great during the chillier months. Their simple silhouette makes them ideal for layering while ensuring you stay warm. Their versatility knows no bounds for you can pair skinny jeans with just about anything. For a casual day about town, pair them with a jacket or sweater and ballet flats. For a night out, switch things up and try them with some strappy heels and a draped blouse. One can never go wrong with skinny jeans.

  • Cashmere Sweater

A cozy cashmere sweater is the one thing no one can ignore; a perfect hybrid of chic sophistication and effortless comfort. A truly versatile item, a cashmere sweater can be worn with anything and everything. For the ultimate casual winter look, pair your sweater with a pair of skinny jeans and sneakers or don it over a simple button-down shirt and trousers. For a feminine and flirty look, wear your sweater over a midi dress or a skirt paired with pointed toe sandals.

  • Leather Jacket

Everyone needs a leather jacket in their arsenal. A statement leather jacket makes all the difference in the world because it can transform a basic outfit and take it from zero to hundred in a matter of seconds. Genuine leather jackets are an investment because they never go out of style. For the ultimate edgy and cool look, pair your leather jacket with jeans, a t-shirt, and a pair of ankle boots. For a feminine touch, drape your jacket over a mid-length body-hugging dress and ankle boots for a bold yet chic style statement.

  • Fedoras

What better time to wear hats than in the winter season. Beanies make a cute and comfortable style statement, but if you are really looking to up your fashion game, you should try your luck with wide-brimmed hats like fedoras. They are edgy, they are sophisticated, and they will keep you warm; what more could one ask for?

Statement Coat

For an added layer of warmth and fashion, one should always be on the lookout for a statement coat. Midi length coats are ideal for the fall time because they drape over anything you wear underneath in the most effortless fashion creating an overall cohesive outlook. Make a statement by opting for something in print or with a pop of color to spice up a rather basic outfit.

  • Knitted Dress

On days when layering feels like a task, opt for something simpler like a knitted dress as it is the best way to stay warm, comfortable, yet fashionable. You can opt for ones that are relaxed and loose-fitting or something more form-fitting and pair them with other pieces accordingly such as leggings, tights, wraps, etc. The best part about a knitted dress is how it works well with almost any kind of shoe.

  • Boot Central

Be it ankle length, mid-length, or knee-high, winters are the time to wear all the boots. Knee-length boots are the ultimate style statement when paired with a skirt or mini dress or even a pair of jeans. As for ankle boots, they look effortlessly amazing with everything from a dress to a skirt to a pair of trousers; they are timeless classics.

  • Scarves

A chic accessory to your winter ensemble, a scarf adds a hint of sophistication to any dress while giving you additional protection from the cold. Be it a blanket scarf, a flirty printed number or something more somber, drape it around your neck or throw it over your shoulders for a relaxed look; either way, a scarf can make any outfit stand out.

  • Turtleneck Tops

Another timeless classic essential item that looks fantastic on its own but also happens to work just as well with other items, turtleneck tops do more than just keeping you warm. They work wonderfully paired with jeans on their own but look even better with a jacket or coat draped over it over even worn underneath a sleeveless dress. Turtlenecks are basically t-shirts except better; everyone needs one in their closet.

  • Top Handle Bag

When it comes to bags, taste varies from person to person. A standard style that almost everyone, however, can appreciate is a top handle bag. It’s a classic, it’s practical, and it’s fashionable; we have all the bases covered. Neutral tones such as black, wine, and brown are your safest bet because they work with just about every colored outfit. There is no room for mistakes.

There is no need to max out your credit card and buy everything on the market. Instead, invest in pieces that will work with a range of outfits. All you need is a little bit of creativity to mix and match pieces. Seek inspiration from our top seasonal picks and create a unique style statement this winter.

The Study On Relationship Between Single Mothers And Debt Is A Complex Issue

The financial status of single mothers is often related to poverty but it is not as simple as it seems. There is no reason to believe that single mothers will always have debt and have to suffer in silence having no one to support or ask for help. The rising trend and number of single mothers have raised concerns of government of different countries to announce debt relief programs and different others that will provide financial assistance to them in running their household and raise their children.

However, in almost all countries all over the world, family structure and poverty are often intertwined and is believed that nearly a third of all households headed by a single mom live in or below the poverty line. On the other hand, study reveals that it is only about six percent of families headed by married couples are officially ranked as poor. Most amazingly it is found that an about 45 percent of children are leading life in poverty who are without a father.

According to recent research, it is also found that intergenerational income mobility in the metropolitan areas is very low where there are a large number of single mothers. This finding has resulted in a fierce public debate over the meaning of the relationship of single mothers with poverty and debt.

The survey reports also say that cities that have a large number of single mother households tend to have a very slow and low upward mobility. In some areas it even has a clear declining trend as the number of single mothers rises. The statistical power and link of this variable between family structure and income inequality or mobility is stunning and even alarming at times.

The controversy in the issue

However, researchers have proceeded with extreme caution to establish this link and has emphasized on all possible factors to arrive at such a bold-faced finding. Still this happens to be the most controversial issues across the globe. The reasons are:

  • It is crucial to find a scientific explanation about this figure, the reasons for it and what it means for the future.
  • This is also a factor that is correlated and the entire factors and elements considered are hard to define.
  • It is also not necessarily an evidence of causation as it does not mean that if and when a single mother is paired with a partner somehow, the inequality will go down all of a sudden.
  • Furthermore, the complexity of the channel through which such inequality of standard of living and family structure are related makes it all the more debatable.

These issues are substantiated by several theoretical as well as practical examples by the critics. They argue that cities that usually have a large number of mothers who are alone and single have a less upward mobility. It is even seen for those families where both the parents are in the home. That means the channel is unlikely to have a direct effect or link due to the single mothers on inequality. It also nullifies the common misconception that single mothers always incur multiple debts and need to go through different debt settlement reviews and consult credit counselors to come out of debt but all in vain.

Difficult to make conclusion

No matter how tempting it may look to deduce from the tidy pattern of inequality so depicted by the researchers, it does not scientifically explain the relation. It does not even explain the fact that breakdown of marriages will always cause poverty eventually. Therefore, it is very difficult to perpetuate inequality with single mothers.

  • Science and scientific explanation will not take the causal direction here or will depend entirely on ideologies. Conservatives have however used this data to prepare an argument regarding the importance of marriage in lifting children and women out of poverty. This is once again highly debatable as it indirectly implies that there is a shortage of stable husbands and that is the primary source of the issue rather than considering it as one of the side effects.
  • On the other hand, liberals and sociologists argue that it is primarily the economic forces that are much larger than families that have decimated the urban communities. It has ideally robbed many males of one of their most significant prerequisites to any stable marriage which is a stable job. This type of approach and thinking fortifies the fact that it is the circumstances that leads to poverty which by itself strain families in turn.

Therefore, the belief that frayed social values results in poverty suggests just the opposite. It typically argues against all of the wrong policy prescriptions. According to this argument, more emphasis is given on incentivizing marriage, teaching family values and convincing the poor people to get married to come out of poverty.

Argument for more economic analysis

Conservatives say that there is an immediate requirement of more economic analysis of the ‘causal chain’ regarding inequality in income and status of single mothers. In the meantime, they look for better explanation considering the explanations that are already available. At the very least, such efforts results in further scrutiny of the underlying conditions that may create a low social mobility for the single mothers.

They also argue that such findings when taken at face value will make people believe easily that the culture of a specific community is the primary issue and causation of such inequality. This inevitably results in blaming the single mothers due to their prevalence in that community. People will even cite that the absence of fathers is the primary cause for children being poor and are deprived of the opportunities to move up in their career in future within the specific community.

Therefore, it is high time to come out of the common misbeliefs and blaming single mothers in the neighborhood for high rates of unemployment, poverty, and incarceration having a huge impact in the economy and debt accumulation. It is unwise and even derogatory to think that a woman will get married only for economic security and have any values for the institution.