The possibilities of making the kinds of connections you want are very realistic, and many long lasting relationships and marriages have begun via online dating services, not to mention casual relationships as well if that is what you prefer. The possibilities are all right there and waiting for you, but there are a few key rules you need to know and follow in order to find your perfect date online. Download to learn The Golden Rules of Online Dating – 6 essential rules to finding the perfect online date!
When it comes to dating, you should focus only on what would turn the other person on. Rather, think about the things that would turn the person off.
Major let-downs for women can range from superficial, such as physical features and hygiene, to absolutely offensive, like beliefs and manners.
If you’re a guy and is new to dating, here are 13 of the biggest deal breakers women share.
If you’re dishonest on the very first date, then there’s no way you’ll be asked for a second date. We all deserve truth and authenticity. Any kind of dishonesty, whether it’s as trivial as your favorite hobby or as extreme as your marital status, is an immediate red flag.
Women and men alike won’t be interested in someone who feels the need to misrepresent their age, height, marital status, occupation, financial stability, possessions, and vices.
If you’re always running late or can’t totally show up from time to time (even when you’re sending fresh, beautiful flowers) , your date may imply that you’re not serious, or worse, you’re self-centered. Time is precious, so wasting your date’s time repetitively is a strong signal for her to look elsewhere.
Nothing turns off a woman faster than a man who doesn’t even make an effort to look and smell decent and presentable.
Combed hair, clean, newly-laundered clothes, fresh breath and regularly brushed teeth, tidy nails, clean ears, washed hands, and pleasant (not even scented with expensive perfume) smell all over – are these too much to ask?
It’s not just a matter of being unpleasant. When a guy doesn’t seem to be taking care of himself, that could be a sign that he’s looking for someone to take care of him – and no, that shouldn’t be the woman’s problem.
There’s a fine line between being “carefree” and “lacking the ambition.” You don’t have to have big goals for yourself and for your future partner. However, you must have some goals and work to get close to that pursuit.
Being unemployed is a top deal breaker for women, especially if you’re still living in your mother’s nest. Not that most women can’t provide for themselves – unemployment implies you’re not where you want to be, thus are not stable both financially and emotionally.
Depending and living with your parents while in your 20s or 30s may suggest co-dependence, fear of commitment, and the lack of motivation and emotional maturity.
Smoking has long been considered as a major turn off, especially for non-smokers. But for some, dating a smoker is okay as long as the person is responsible enough to smoke in designated areas, control the intake, and work to curb the unpleasant effects like bad breath and smelly clothes and house.
The real problem occurs when the person has been addicted to smoking to the point it’s unbearable. Same goes with alcoholism, gambling, and drug abuse. Addiction affects not only the heart, lungs, and gut – it damages the mind, which can be a major relationship issue in the long run.
There are three types of men with poor communication skill;
One, the guy who nods at everything his date talks about, and answers only when asked. Two, the guy who doesn’t appear to be listening and fails to give feedback on what has talked about. Three, the guy who wants to talk about no one but himself and his greatness, disabling the date to speak up.
Isn’t it a bummer when you have spent hours to be presentable and your date has a divided attention because his phone is glued to his hand?
Smartphones kill genuine conversations – and relationships. When you’re on a date, gentlemen, it’s a no-brainer to free yourself from all your distractions. Forget checking e-mails, sports scores, or game night invites by your bros.
Excuse me? We’re not in the 1950s. If you throw these questions on the first date, then there’s no point in continuing.
There’s a fine line between expressing attraction and being pushy about sex. It’s all about the intention. Women looking for a serious relationship immediately back off when a man can’t shut up about how much he wants to “bed” her on the first date and it’s getting uncomfortable.
No woman can trust a guy whose IG feed is loaded with pictures of scantily clad party girls, vain gym mirror selfies, and photos of women he has dated in the past (or is currently dating).
Several children, multiple women, and complicated relationship or unfinished business with an ex – these are some of the “excess baggage” a man may have. To make it worse, some men with an excess baggage even negatively talk about their ex or children on the first date. These are deal-breakers since no person wants to be dragged into the unnecessary mess and drama.
A guy who is genuinely kind-hearted respects, not only his date but everyone in the room – including the servers and sanitary personnel. Experts agree: you can tell a lot about a man by how he treats those in the service jobs.
Listen up: If the man yells and badmouths the restaurant staff, and is basically rude to other people, then it’s a red flag, revealing a preview of how he might treat the lady as they go on. Other red flags include road rage, failure to compromise several times, failure to accept blame, and manipulating behavior.
The first impression lasts, they say. But chances are, if a guy shows up with one or a few of these major turnoffs, he may not score a second or third date to redeem himself and score a potential good relationship with a great woman.
Author Bio: Carmina Natividad is one of the writers for The Relationship Room, a couples psychology institution specializing in relationship counseling and therapies for couples and families.
First date…there are probably no other two words in the entire English language that stir up as wide of a range of emotions as these two. For some people, the words get them excited and get butterflies flapping around their stomach as they imagine the possibilities of finding love. For others, they incite cringing and uneasy thoughts of having to meet someone new for the first time.
Regardless of where you fall on that spectrum, everyone has one thing in common. We all want our first dates to go better and be less, well, cringe-worthy. In this article, I’m going to cover some of the biggest mistakes people make on first dates. Ideally, if we can correct some of these big blunders, your first date experiences are going to be much more enjoyable.
Before I even get to talking about what to do on your first date, I need to cover something much more important. You need to make sure that you are not setting yourself up for failure by going on bad first dates. What is a bad first date? A bad first date is one where you know it’s a bad idea before you even take the first step out of the house. Now, I’m not referring to those of you that think every date is a bad idea and plan on being cat-ladies or cat-men for the rest of your life. I’m referring to those of you that know in the back of your mind that this particular date is a bad idea.
How do you make sure you aren’t going on bad first dates? Well, it all starts with meeting quality people. If you’re struggling to find quality people, I highly recommend this How to Meet Quality Singles guide which will walk you through the steps you need to stop dating the duds.
Secondly, you need to give each date an unbiased look before agreeing to go on it. You do not have to say yes to everyone you ask out. You also don’t have to ask out every single person you talk to. I repeat, you are under no obligation to go on any date ever no matter what anyone tries to tell you. Start looking for quality, and you’ll already be way ahead of the ball before you even step foot out the door on your first date.
First dates would be lightyears easier if we were forced to go on them immediately after they were scheduled. The problem with the time between scheduling and going is that our minds are able to run rampant. We start to imagine every bad scenario that could happen and convince ourselves that is what it is going to be like. We start analyzing every little thing about the date until we are blue in the face.
What am I going to wear? Where should we eat? Is that place too loud? Is my outfit too confident? Do these shoes work? What happens if they don’t like me? Should I talk about my work? I could really go on forever. While some of these questions are important (it’s hard to go on a date if you don’t know where you’re going or what you’re wearing), most of them are just going to send you down an overthinking spiral.
Focus on the things that are important and allow the rest to happen. You do not need to plan out every single detail. In fact, doing so is probably going to doom the date from the start.
You’re a more positive person? Don’t have a problem with overthinking all the negative things that could happen? You’re still on the hook here too. A lot of people spend that time before a first date imagining the person they are going out with as the perfect Romeo or Juliet. You find yourself asking and answering questions about the person in a way that fits your perfect narrative. Do they like the same music as me? Of course, they do. Are they extremely compassionate? They must be!
While we hope that everything is true, it paints an unrealistic picture of the person we are going to meet. It puts them at a severe disadvantage because they now have insane standards to try to live up to that they aren’t even aware of. I can assure you that Mr. or Ms. Right is going to be similar to what you imagine in your mind, but they are not going to be exactly what you think you want them to be.
Don’t let someone awesome slip through your fingers because you have unrealistic and unfair expectations.
When we get nervous most of us like to talk. The silence is awkward to us, and we figure if we keep talking we know what is going to be said and nothing can catch us off guard. Some of us also show up with pre-planned questions and things to talk about.
Here’s the problem. This is a lot of talking and not a lot of listening. You’re creating a one-sided conversation that will turn off your fellow dater, and it also inhibits you from getting to know them at all. How can you find out if you like someone if they never get the chance to get a word in? How can you see if there is any chemistry if you aren’t allowing them to interact with you?
The solution here is one word. Listen. You have to actually hear what the other person is saying and respond to that. Don’t respond to what you imagined them saying. Actually respond to what they are saying. You’ll be able to figure out quickly whether or not you mesh well together and if there is any sort of a future.
Remember, the purpose of a first date is not for it to go amazingly. The purpose of a first date is to see if you and the other person are compatible. It is completely okay to go out with someone and figure out that you are not right for each other. One less fish in the sea to consider!
Seriously, this is probably the most important tip on the entire sheet, and that’s the reason I chose to close with it. You have to remember that the entire point of dating is to find someone that you enjoy spending time with. Yes, it can be a little awkward at times, but that’s okay. You have to endure a little bit of awkwardness if you are going to find that special someone.
Embrace the awkward and have fun with it. You can go out with someone you are never going to go out with again and still have a good time. I have fun with complete strangers all the time just because I approach all of life with the right mindset.
I am challenging you to do the same. Regardless of how the date is going, have fun. Enjoy your time even if it is awkward and then worry about everything else later. Van Wilder said it best, “Don’t take life too seriously. You’ll never get out alive.”
Relationship Advice Guru
If you discover that your partner is facing addiction the first thing you need to do is realize it is not your fault. There are things that you can do to help support your partner even if you do not agree with their addiction. It just takes patience, time, and a willingness to work together. Here are some suggestions on how to help them.
There are many places that you can seek help for you and your partner.
If possible, your partner should go to rehab, but pressuring them might be counterproductive. Your partner has to want to change as well. You and your partner can work together to find the best treatment center, such as a Fort Lauderdale rehab.
Another good place to seek help is with couples therapy. Couples therapy is where a psychiatrist tries to explore the thoughts and behavior of a couple. The therapist helps to solve communication, intimacy and family problems. It is important to be fully honest with the therapist and tell them about the addiction problem up front. This way the therapist has a picture of the whole problem and can help solve any feelings of blame or anger associated with the addiction.
It is important that you take time to communicate with your partner. Pick a time when they are not distracted or busy. It might be good to go out to dinner or go out to walk the dog together. Be empathetic, and avoided judgment as you talk with your partner. Do not interrupt your partner while he is talking except to add positive statements, or ask questions. Do not try to start a fight. Tell your partner your hopes and expectations for your relationship. Do not forget your own needs and emotions when you’re discussing their problems.
Even if your partner conquers their addiction, they may not be the person you always dreamed your partner would be. It may take time for them to find their role in the relationship. It may also take time for you to trust them. It will also take time for your partner to conquer addiction. During this time there will be struggles. Your partner may relapse, but do not take it personally. Just continue to be patient, and guide them back to rehab.
During their path to recovery, they might change. It might seem like you and your partner no longer have anything in common. It is very important for you and your partner to spend time together as often as you can. In spending time together, you can find new things in common, and remember why you feel in love.
If you feel like staying in you could always fix a special meal and chat over candlelight. You can rent a movie to watch together in the comfort of your own bed. You can also re-watch an old movie that both of you loved. Another fun indoor activity is to play board games. You can pull the old classic out of the closet, or pick a new game together. The excitement of trying out the new game will have you eagerly awaiting game night.
If you would like to get out of the house, then you and your partner can go out on a hike. You could also go out on a bike ride. It might be fun to go on an evening picnic. After you finish your meal, you can lay on the blanket and look at the stars. You could also spend the evening looking at a local museum. It could also be fun to take a class together. Some popular couples’ classes include cooking, photography, and dance.
It is important to educate yourself about the substance that your partner is addicted to and the steps toward recovery. In this way, you will have some idea what your partner is going through. You can work on what their recovery program should include together.
Read about the substance that your partner is taking. Make sure that the places that you search are reputable sources. While It is important to do research, limit the amount of research that you do. The side effects of a substance will be the same no matter how many reputable sources that you read through.
Take care when talking to family and friends about your partner’s issue. Your partner might not want everyone to know. If rumors start spreading about your partner, it could affect their social and professional life. It might just make things worse for them.
Just because your loved one is suffering from addiction, doesn’t mean that you have to break it off. With good communication, patience, and understanding you can help your loved one through this time.
Because Bouquets Are So Passé.
If you’re surprising your lover with flowers, chances are you’re going to grab a presentation-style bouquet, which is pre-selected in a flower shop or local supermarket. Presentation bouquets generally look like this: a bunch of flowers tied together and typically adorned with dry waxed paper or floral tissue, jutte fabrics, and mesh ribbons.
They are nice and convenient, but they can be, well, clichéd and predictable – especially if you’re giving it to a long-term spouse whom you’ve been giving bouquets for years.
Don’t get me wrong – there’s nothing sweeter than receiving a handheld bouquet filled with vibrant and freshly-picked flowers of your taste. But wouldn’t it be nicer to receive flowers that have a dash of creativity and personality into it?
If you’re sending flowers for your wife, girlfriend, or special someone but you want to elevate your usual handheld bouquet and give something unexpected, here are 10 wonderful ideas to keep in mind.
If your wife loves both tea and flowers, then an English country garden-inspired teapot full of blooms is the best way to go. A lovely arangement of roses, daisy, and poms in feminine pastel-hued pots would definitely brighten up their day.
For a rustic, “fresh from the garden” look, use rustic watering cans. The pale, timeworn look of watering cans add charm to the arrangement of vibrant blooms. You may also loop wire around the handle so it can be hung on the door for a beautiful display.
You may use the same approach for ceramic mugs, painted bottles, and vividly-colored jars.
Love metals and vintage prints? Your recipient would definitely love blooms in old, vintage canisters. They come in different designs, from old-fashioned floral patterns to 50s-inspired typography and poster signages. Even vintage soup and coffee tin canisters elevate your floral arrangement.
Forget conventional vases and put old lanterns to use. Antique lanterns make romantic flowers arrangements, like roses, baby breath, and foliage, even dreamier. They also make a nice centerpiece for one’s home.
If your recipient loves a wild arrangement of pretty pastel flowers, then wooden containers, like crates, would make perfect vessels. Aside from roses, flowers like hydrangeas, lisianthus, and snapdragons look stunning on crates.
Bouquets usually come with a box of chocolates and other confectioneries , but wouldn’t it be nice if you give something sweet but healthier? Pair your fresh blooms with sweet edibles, that are also freshly picked – fruits. Flowers and fruits go well with each other since they’re both vibrant plants. They also make great “get well soon” gifts for a lover or friend who needs healthy munchies to recover.
Who doesn’t love mini versions of anything? Be creative enough to turn smaller floral varieties into cute mini bouquets. You may scrimp on size but never on beauty, since they look lovely when attached to greeting cards and love letters for your special someone.
If you’re overly cheesy and romantic, you can never go wrong with the classic heart-shaped floral arrangement. A heart-shaped arrangement of roses, which may come in one solid color or multi-color, make a perfect gift for Valentine’s day, wedding anniversary, and your loved one’s birthday.
Giving a floral wreath is one splendid way to opt out of handheld bouquet without losing the sweet gesture of “giving flowers for your love.” Floral wreaths look amazing, whether they are in bold and vibrant hues or pretty pastel hues. For a more earthy appeal, use a grapevine wreath and adorn with your recipient’s favorite flowers. They make a lovely door and wall decoration.
Don’t throw your broken umbrella yet! You can fill it with your love’s favorite blooms, tie it with some pretty ribbons, and tada – you have a beautiful bouquet that looks quirky and out of the box! It’s multi-purpose too – you can use the handle for hanging the blooms and using it as a wall or door décor.
Author Bio: Carmina Natividad is one of the writers for The Relationship Room, a couples psychology institution specializing in relationship counseling and therapies for couples and families.
One of the most intimate places in your home is definitely your bedroom, and in order to transform it into a truly cozy, yet elegant sanctuary you just need a little bit of imagination and creativity. Your bedroom can be much more if only you take some time to change things a bit. You can easily create a luxurious retreat in your bedroom which will make you feel like you’re visiting a spa centre in the comfort of your home.
Your bedroom needs plenty of natural light, but it also needs some light fixtures too. A simple ceiling-mounted one will do, but it’s not exactly elegant or luxurious. Basic lighting sure gets the job done, but if you’re looking for something with a bit more class, you could install a small chandelier instead. Not only does it give off softer light, but it also looks sophisticated. Dimmers are also a good idea because they will allow you to set the mood and enjoy softer light before bed. A couple of bedside lamps are also a nice touch since they are convenient, and you can add a nice hanging pendant light too. Recessed lighting will not cast that sterile glow which fluorescent light fixtures do, but rather a soft, even glow which will turn the room into a soothing sanctuary.
The bed should be a focal point in your room and you should pay attention to the details, for example, which direction you like sleeping in and waking up to, and turn your bed that way. Feeling well-rested on an uncomfortable bed is virtually impossible, and you could try investing a bit more money into it. A good ensemble bed with a quality supportive mattress will allow your body to fully relax and recover during the night. If you want a bit more pampering, why not try adding a mattress topper? You can choose memory foam toppers for that extra cushioning feeling or a feather one for additional softness. Add good-quality sheets made of soft sateen or real Egyptian cotton for additional luxury and there will be no difference between your bedroom and a luxury hotel room.
Another great way to relax is to surround yourself with soothing colors like moss green or freshwater blue, as it will make you feel like you are closer to nature. The easiest way to redecorate a room is to paint the walls – it will make the space look fresh and it won’t cost you a fortune, and if you pick a soothing color palette you will get great results. Pale blue and soft yellow pair well with warm gray, but if you don’t want to spend a lot of time painting, you can try wallpapers instead. You can pick the ones with an interesting print of leaves or flowers so you can feel like you’ve stepped into a garden and not a bedroom.
Another great way to add warmth and beauty to a room is to carefully choose accessories. This doesn’t mean that you have to cover every available space with candles, doilies, and cushions. Still, several well-selected and carefully placed accessories will make the room more inviting and elegant. Throw pillows are always a good idea, and you can even try finding richly embroidered pillowcases too. In addition, you can also try bringing in a nice vase with some fresh flowers as well a soft rug which you can place beside your bed so you can sink your feet into it first thing in the morning.
When you visit a spa you can’t help but notice there’s a pleasant fragrance in the air. A simple clean herbal, mild floral, or fresh citrus scent makes the space more welcoming and helps a person relax. You can recreate this feeling in your bedroom by bringing air fresheners or scented candles in and keeping them on your bedside table. You could also try filling a small pouch with dried lavender and placing it under your pillow – the scent will help you relax and fall asleep more easily. Reed oil diffusers, potpourri, linen sprays, as well as essential oil vaporizers are all alternative ways to make the air in your bedroom smell great, but try not to pick the scent that’s too strong or you’ll get a headache.
Your bedroom is like a sanctuary, a place where you should feel at ease, safe, and completely comfortable in order to relax enough to get a good night’s sleep. It only takes a bit more work on your part to feel pampered too, and you won’t need to visit a spa or a five-star hotel either. Don’t be afraid to change things up and pamper yourself with a touch of luxury in your bedroom.
Regardless of the season, a rustic outdoor wedding is always dreamy and memorable. What makes rustic style so popular among newlyweds is its charmingly romantic appeal. What’s even better is the fact that this type of wedding allows you to express your own creativity through numerous DIY opportunities. Whether you opt for a lush summer bash or a celebration with a touch of winter magic, a rustic wedding will be the one you’ve always dreamt of.
The very idea of a country backyard wedding narrows down your choices when it comes to your venue. If you have a family house in the country, you won’t have to look for a different location. However, if you still need to choose a venue, you can opt for a place by a charming lake or a magical forest for a truly authentic, nature-inspired atmosphere. Barns are also a popular choice for rustic weddings due to their enticing appeal. You can even go with your own lush garden if it meets your needs.
Nonetheless, the venue should be big enough for your entire wedding party, seating arrangements and the ceremony spot. When choosing a venue, you should also consider its surroundings and see how the environment may affect your photographic opportunities. Finally, make sure that the venue you choose has enough restroom facilities, electrical plug points, etc.
The colour scheme for your rustic backyard wedding should be in tune with your venue and the season. A summer wedding can be embellished with lively hues while an autumn one can feature a more understated palette of earthy tones. You shouldn’t go with more than three hues – you can choose a dominant colour and one or two accent shades. Since you want a rustic wedding, wood will be the most dominant material, bringing its warm tones. Beige and white are a subtle combination for a rustic outdoor wedding, along with soft, muted tones. Pastel champagne hues, wheat-inspired yellows and minty greens are also beautiful choices that can accentuate nature’s palette.
Backyard weddings are quite relaxed and easy-going, exuding peacefulness and tranquillity. However, you need to provide your guests with maximum comfort, so that both you and they can truly enjoy yourselves. And since you’re hosting your wedding ceremony and reception outside, you should make sure that your venue is appropriately equipped for different weather conditions. Thus, you need to provide enough shade against the sun or possibly rain. You can go with a large tent, but if you want to try something more authentic, you can install modern and functional rotating cantilever umbrella for a cosier vibe. This will enable you to arrange tables and chairs in circles, which will create a more intimate atmosphere at your wedding. Each table can have its own umbrella that can be easily adjusted and re-positioned depending on the sun.
When it comes to the table and seating design, there are plenty of inspiring ideas that will help you capture the rustic spirit. Wooden tables and chairs are the most appropriate option while hay bales can be used to create cosy lounge areas for relaxation. You can go with a vintage design that will truly bring authenticity to your wedding. Antique wooden chairs can be paired with a simple, yet elegant white tablecloth embellished with rustic details. You can introduce centrepieces and decorations appropriate for the specific season and theme. From lush, soft flowers and flickering candles to wheat-inspired decorations, branches and garlands, you can truly bring life to your tables. Leaving your tables bare without any cloth will allow their rustic wood finish to come into focus. Embroidered napkins, wheat-inspired table numbers, antique details and dinnerware with vintage motifs will be in tune with your rustic backyard wedding.
After the fiery colours of sunset have passed, you’ll need to turn the lights on. With appropriate lighting, you’ll be able to create a cosy, romantic atmosphere. However, lighting will also provide you with an opportunity to be creative and authentic. You can place candles in mason jars on the tables, use magical string lights in trees or even create chandeliers using wheat or mason jars. Another great idea that will create a whimsical effect is placing fairy lights under a table dressed in a lacy cloth. This is a stunning idea for the bride’s and groom’s table that will stand out as a focal point. Paper lanterns featuring your chosen colours can also illuminate your wedding magically while elegantly floating in the air.
Your wedding ceremony will be the highlight of your wedding and the beginning of your new life. Therefore, it should definitely be magical, memorable and inspiring. You should make sure to design the perfect spot where you and your loved one will say your vows. You can design a rustic ceremony arch using wooden arbour. Embellishing it with simple, yet charming linen, string lights and flowers can give it a rustic vibe. You can also create your own wedding backdrop using a flower-adorned piece of linen. You can simply attach lovely flowers using T-pins or embellish it with other inspiring decorations. Garlands of wheat can also be used to create an ethereal effect while old wooden doors can be used as a backdrop for your ceremony.
Bringing the rustic theme to your wedding treats, cake and drinks is surprisingly easy. You should keep in mind that you’ll be spending the entire day outside, so you should opt for alfresco-friendly food and a seasonal menu. If you’re having a summer wedding, you should serve refreshments regularly – cold juice, champagne and iced cocktails are a perfect choice. Winter, on the other hand, requires you to keep your guests warm and cosy using hot chocolate, cocoa, coffee, warm apple cider, etc. As for your wedding cake, you can place it on a piece of wood, use simple glazing and surround it with natural accessories. Cupcakes, finger foods with tasty dips and other treats can be displayed and served on wooden cut-outs and shelving.
Designing a rustic outdoor wedding in a magical country backyard will provide you and your guests with a truly memorable experience. Most importantly, this style will enable you to express your own creativity and taste through amazing DIY projects.
Just because you’re not gifted with Hollywood-worthy facial features and strong and lean physique doesn’t mean you can’t be attractive.
In contrary to stereotypes, women are pretty much easy to please. There are certain masculine features that make us swoon, and chances are that most guys are unaware of them.
Men and women are starkly different, yet these two sexes are created to fall in love and even spend their lives together. The topic of understanding one’s partner have been debated for ages; yet, few couples are able to comprehend how men and women are unique in terms of their expectations from a relationship.
Women often blame men for desiring only sex and emphasizing less on love. Conversely, most men feel frustrated as their ladies merely talk about love, but hesitate to show it. These and several other gender differences can make room for frustration and the lack of trust between the couple, thereby ruining their relationship.
Whether you are a man or a woman, this article will help you understand the opposite gender and offer effective tips to promote a long-term bond with your significant other.
Men and Women Focus on Different Aspects of a Relationship
As stereotypical and generalized as it may sound, men have issues identifying emotions, whereas women are comfortable with talking them. Since childhood, boys are taught to control their emotions and keep them buried inside. Also, young men tend to ‘act like a man’ when faced with problems and try to solve them by themselves.
Girls, on the other hand, are accustomed to sharing their feelings with others, making them more vocal about their problems compared to boys.
Likewise, when it comes to relationships, a man chooses his lady based on the prospects of lovemaking, and most probably ends up falling in love with her; whereas a woman generally chooses her man based on emotions (love) and ends up enjoying intimate moments with him.
More often than not, men seem to be afraid of committing to a relationship and giving up their single life. In contrast, women generally tend to look forward to tie the knot. These differences often cause stress, proving to be disadvantageous when couples navigate their intimate relationships and married lives.
What Happens When Men Prioritize Sex & Women Focus on Love?
The debate over what men and women expect from a relationship is getting increasingly complex with time. Their differences in expectations may lead to the below-mentioned relationship problems, thereby complicating and weakening their bond.
1. Sexual Frustration
The importance of sex in a relationship cannot be understated, yet it can never become the foundation of a relationship. The difference in the sexual desire levels among the couple usually leads to frustration, disconnect, mistrust, infidelity, and finally separation or divorce. This is especially true when lovemaking is more of an emotional experience for a woman and merely a physical experience for a man.
2. Lack of Commitment and Trust
Early on in a relationship, couples tend to care for each other, make allowances for differences, and push away nascent desires in the hope of strengthening the bond. However, over a period of time, couples with varied sexual appetites and mutually exclusive interests tend to move away from each other. This leads to the lack of commitment and trust between couples.
3. Increased Risk of an Emotionally Abusive Relationship
When one partner only wants to get intimate and the other emotional, the fear of abandonment may lead either of them to control the relationship by being abusive or making irrational demands, thereby causing stress between them.
Effective Tips for Developing a Healthy Long-Term Relationship
Both the partners have an equal role to play in strengthening their bond. The key is to focus on making the relationship romantic, relaxing, and happy.
A love relationship blossoms when the couple understands and accepts each other’s strengths and shortcomings. Men and women in a serious relationship should learn to accept their differences without judgment and resentment to enjoy their differences and strengthen their bond.
Even as a man inherently tends to focus on sex and a woman on love, the tips shared below will help each gender to build a strong intimate relationship that can last him/her a lifetime.
Gentlemen, Show Some Love!
1. Make Her Feel Secure
Since childhood, girls are often trained to be wary of anyone who poses a threat to their self-esteem, sexuality, and safety. Consequently, women inherently feel the need for security and trust in a relationship.
Make your woman feel loved and safe by showing that you are always there to care for her. When she learns to trust your strength, she will open up to you emotionally and sexually, allowing your relationship to grow stronger each day.
2. Do Little Things with Great Love
You do not need to invest in expensive gifts or arrange a lavish candlelit dinner to express your feelings for your lady. Do simple things to express your affection. Clear the dinner table, wash dishes together, walk her to the bus stop, or watch a romantic movie together to make her feel loved.
3. Lend Her a Caring Ear
A woman often wants her man to be aware of her emotional state. She doesn’t necessarily need a solution to her problems, just an empathetic listener will suffice most of the time. Instead of cutting her conversation short and offering a solution to her problems, listen to all she has to say. She will appreciate that you are investing time in the relationship and actually care about her life.
4. Make Her Feel Sexy
Though she looks for love in a relationship, a woman needs to feel sexually desirable. She wants to make sure that you are physically and emotionally attracted to her.
Remember to compliment your partner for her looks. Indulge in some public display of affection (PDA) once in a while to tell her how attractive she is. Most women do not prefer a full-blown PDA; yet, they love it when their partner holds hands, hugs her, whispers romantic nothings, and/or plants a goodbye kiss on her forehead. Depending on her comfort level, stick to these acceptable public displays of affection to convey your feelings for her.
Ladies, Control Your Emotions!
1. Understand That Sex and Intimacy in a Loving Relationship Are Indescribably Wonderful
It’s true, sex is the most primal and important thing for a man in a relationship as it is the manner in which he expresses himself emotionally. Emotional intimacy and a satisfying sex life are critical aspects of a relationship that help in cementing the bond you share with your partner.
Furthermore, research reveals that lovemaking contributes uniquely to relationship satisfaction and overall wellbeing.
If your man loves, cares for, and respects you, sex will only help you feel closer to him, building a solid foundation for your relationship.
2. Give Him the Space He Deserves
Guys are happy when the relationship is doing well. They love their personal space and expect their partner to treat them with love and respect.
Interfering too much in your man’s life can drive him crazy, making him feel edgy about spending his life with you. Believe it or not, he abhors walking on eggshells to avoid emotional drama.
If you want to strengthen your love bond, give your man some space, enabling him to get rid of the ‘mask’ he has to wear to meet societal expectations. Once he realizes that he can let his guard down and be himself in your company, he will go to the end of the earth to be with you.
3. Remember: You Cannot Force Him to Commit
Even though your relationship is going well, it can be tough for your man to fully commit to you. That doesn’t mean he loves you any less, will never commit, or wants to break up with you.
It is normal for men to postpone or avoid discussions about getting engaged or married. Give your partner some time off and hang out with your girl gang or engage yourself in a hobby for a change. If he truly loves you, this lone time will help him appreciate your presence in his life.
However, if you find yourself stuck in a noncommittal relationship, you mustn’t commit to it! Your partner must realize that if he doesn’t step up and make up his mind, he will lose you.
For a love relationship to be truly satisfying, couples should have a deep understanding of the general differences between men and women, and how they view lovemaking and the emotions associated with it. Failure to appreciate these differences can lead to misunderstandings and frustration, thereby ruining the beautiful bond they share.
The information shared in this article will serve as an effective guide for couples wanting to understand the opposite sex and strengthen their love.
A woman’s level of attractiveness goes beyond mere stunning looks.
Telling someone you love them is a truly incredible gift, but, in the end, words are not nearly everything. True love and affection can be shown much more through little gestures than words. That said, there are plenty of ways you can tell your partner you love them without actually saying these words, but they will recognize your feelings and appreciate them for sure. If you’re looking for ideas that can help you brighten up your partner’s day and make their heart leap for joy, keep on reading.Continue reading