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A Guide to Planning a Backyard Wedding at Home

A Guide to Planning a Backyard Wedding at Home

“A copy is worse than nothing,” Frank Herbert wrote, and his words have never rung more true. Today, being original has become the ultimate challenge. While it’s definitely easier to go with, than against the stream, there is also the fact that we are immersed in trends to the point of sensory overload.

It is no wonder then that most couples decide to go for the obvious – a generic wedding: renting a venue, deciding on a menu and sending invitations sounds like a no-brainer. But if you’re one of those lucky people with a nice garden or a backyard and would prefer your wedding to have a more intimate, more romantic feel, organising a backyard wedding might be a great idea.

Think of the possibilities

Having a wedding at home has many advantages, but most importantly, it will give you the freedom of being in control of every single detail, from picking the date and creating a fully customised menu to decorating and using the space to its full potential.

Since it offers a lot of convenience and flexibility, this could be a perfect solution for couples on a budget who are feeling creative and like to be in control of things.

Plan well beforehand

You will need to start planning at least six months in advance, the most obvious reason being thorough preparation of your backyard. If your backyard is already in great shape, all the better, but if not, you will want to consider preparing the lawn: sowing grass and planting takes time. Flooring one part of your backyard might also be a good idea – it will even the terrain and prevent sticky situations in case of rain.

Also, you will need to check your insurance coverage, obtain a party permit if necessary, consider parking capacities for your guests, and, of course, check with the neighbours to see if they’d object to the noise.

Be prepared for anything

Once you’ve made sure your backyard will be able to accommodate your guests, carefully consider the furniture and the amenities that you plan to use and make an outline of where to place them. You will have to provide an adequate number of tables, chairs, benches, lounges and other seating to make everyone comfortable.

Portable bathrooms or toilets and washing stations are a must. Since at least one toilet for every thirty or so guests will be necessary, you might want to check the plumbing beforehand so as to avoid unpleasant accidents. Provide generators for powering the lights, the music, outdoor refrigerators, and other electricity-dependant equipment.

The weather is also an important factor in planning, as no matter the forecast, surprises are always possible. To protect your guests from both the sun and the rain, think about renting a quick-assembly tent or canopies, umbrellas, and parasols. Depending on the time of the year, try and include fans or outdoor heaters and blankets, especially if you’re planning to party far into the night.

Get personal

Probably one of the biggest advantages of having a wedding at home is the ability to decide on the decorations in detail. Once you’ve picked a theme, you can start your search for decorations and other objects to give a personal touch to the setting.

For example, trees can be used to hang banners, string lights, lanterns or glass jars with candles. Walls can be painted or, even better, covered with amazing outdoor wall art which is more durable, more weather-resistant, and easier to apply. The best thing is, it can grace your walls for many years to come.

Rustic-style wooden tables are a great choice if you don’t want to worry about dirtying the linens. Use tree stumps to place all the extra lightning, food or tableware that otherwise wouldn’t fit on the tables. And, to make it easier for your guests, you can put up signposts to point them in the direction of the amenities.

Reconsider your options

Making full use of the setting will require some well-thought-out planning. On one hand, you will want to include all that is necessary to accommodate your guests, store the food and drinks and provide maximum comfort. On the other hand, you will also want to avoid the space getting overcrowded and people being unable to move freely.

If your space allows it, having a bar would be a great idea, and if you’re keen on preparing the food by yourself, you can also include grills and roasters, or even a small outdoor kitchen. Otherwise, you will have to rely on caterers, in which case you’ll need to carefully plan the timing – you don’t want your wedding cake and other desserts to melt into a puddle of goo in the heat.

Enjoy the benefits

Organising a backyard wedding can be demanding, but it’s also very rewarding. In addition to the intimate, relaxed feel, it will also give you the opportunity to get exactly what you want at a relatively small expense. From chairs and tables to grills, tableware and decorations, you can use what you have, and what you don’t, you can always borrow or rent. Food can be prepared at home or catered, and if you don’t want to hire staff, you can ask your family and friends for help.

Finally, and I’m sure you’ll agree, there’s no better way to start a life together than bonding over organising your own wedding with a joint effort.

10 Telltale Signs Your Man Is Cheating On You

Cheating is a choice, not a mistake.

In one of my previous articles here in Singles and Married, I talked about infidelity myths and mentioned some underlying issues which can be motives for cheating. I also elaborated on how disloyal partners a.k.a cheaters aren’t all the same. Some cheat physically, others cheat emotionally; some folks don’t know what they’re doing, others are just plain egocentric jerks.

Let me share you a true story: a month ago, I just discovered that my boyfriend of four and a half years cheated on me with a co-worker he has known for nine months. Based on the pictures I saw and the drastic decline of affection I felt, I assume they’ve been dating for five months while we’re still in a relationship. He did apologize but he never asked for another shot, so I guess I know what he chose, or rather, WHO he chose.

Now that I have experienced an infidelity story first-hand, I can say that the article I wrote last January has more depth and meaning than ever. I couldn’t sleep for a couple of days, questioning myself what went wrong and what was wrong with me. Am I not enough? Am I unattractive? Then why did he do it? Then I recalled that even seemingly perfect relationships are susceptible to infidelity.

This time, I’ll share 10 common signs your partner might be cheating, based not only on my personal experience for the past months but also on the experiences of women who had fallen for the wrong guys in the past.

1. He suddenly becomes concerned with his appearance

You tell him countless times to eat his veggies and head to the gym but did he ever listen? No. However, these past few weeks or months, you notice that he transformed into a fitness-conscious person, not in a “do it for your health” way but in a “do it for your 6-pack abs” way.

Another sign is when he’s getting a little extra with his clothing. He never dresses up his fancy attire when you go out on dates to impress you. Well, he used to when your love was new. But lately, you see him looking his best when he goes out with “the boys” or leaves for work. He changes his perfume. He shaves and cuts his hair too, which are unusual.

2. He spends a lot of time at work

It’s unusual because you’ve known him as the person heads home the second the clock strikes 5. He’s been extra busy lately and is working overtime – even strange hours. He spends extra hours with co-workers and volunteers to travel out of town on assignments.

3. He always talks about this new “friend”

And he seems very enthusiastic when he does.

Work affairs are very common, considering how much time we spend working together in one room or building. He might mention a “friend” to dispel any suspicions. He might even ask you to meet her in person because they “talk about you a lot.” He assures you that this “coworker” is just a friend and he’s just helping her to get over her past relationship or to improve at work.

4. He’s on his phone all the time

And he quickly turns it off when you enter the room.

We know privacy is important, but the way he hides his phone from you seems suspicious. He often sets it to airplane mode. He never even shows you pictures or videos on his own phone. Suddenly, there’s a password.

If you have to use it for whatever reason like if you have to call someone, it hard for him to lend it. He says he’s finishing a game but the truth is he’s talking to someone.  He glances at his phone first before giving it to you.

5. You keep finding weird things

You find a lipstick he claims that belongs to her sister, a lady’s undergarment which, he claims, got mixed in from his mom’s laundry, and hickeys on his neck he claims are insect bites.

6. His sex drive is totally different

There are two sides of the story. Firstly, perhaps he’s getting attention from another woman that he’s no longer interested in sleeping with you. Secondly, maybe he wants to have sex with you more since his “other woman” is giving him sex drive boost.

7. He gets mad whenever you question him

Simple questions like “where are you going tonight” or “what did you eat for dinner” feel more like a series of interrogations for him. He gets really mad and defensive and even accuses you of being distrustful (when in reality, you have the reason to be).

8. He even accuses you of cheating

He accuses you of seeing other men when you’re at work, or of texting your ex even if you’re not doing anything. He prohibits you from partying or going home late because you might see other men. He’s projecting his own guilt onto you, and he’s assuming you’re being as disloyal as he is.

9. He shows no sign of interest in you

Remember when he used to say how amazing you look in your black dress? How your red lipstick suited you? Or even how pretty you are even when you’re not wearing any makeup?

Well, that was yesterday. Today’s a different story.

Even if you exerted some efforts to look your best, he shows no interest in you. He never even notices you changed your hairstyle.

10. He indirectly pushes you away

Whenever you’re nice to him, he says he’s not good enough, and that you deserve someone better. He even asks you, “are you still happy with me?” These are some of the signs he’s slowly letting you go. He doesn’t even have the guts to tell straight to your face that he wants to break up with you.

Author Bio: Carmina Natividad is one of the writers for The Relationship Room, a couples psychology institution specializing in relationship counseling and therapies for couples and families. When she’s not using her pen in writing self-help articles focused on love, dating, and relationships, she spends her time creating poems and screenplays, painting,

first date at the beach

How to Dress for Your First Date at the Beach

There is something inherently romantic about beach dates. You can feel the sand between your toes, almost taste the salt in your mouth, and the gentle breeze is definitely doing your hair a favour by making it seem like you’re on a movie set. However, picking out the perfect outfit for a beach date makes this experience less pleasant. You can’t go with the usual classics such as the little black dress or spice up a casual jeans combination with your favourite stilettos. Don’t ruin your beauty sleep over this; here are a few tips that will make your style just as beautiful as your hair fluttering in the wind.

Is it sun-and-fun or sunset and romance?

First of all, you need to separate these two very different beach dates. If you are going to the beach in the middle of the day, when everyone, including you, will swim, sunbathe or play sand volleyball, you can get by in your usual swimsuit and some accessories. However, if we are talking about a romantic evening at the beach, and perhaps even a picnic with wine (you’re so lucky), you should up the game a little bit. And the following few tips are all about upping the game.

Jeans and all that goes with them

Take out your favourite pair of jeans shorts from your closet, and rock it with your bikini top. This is an especially great choice for an active day on the beach. If you are planning on wearing shorts in the evening, spice up the combination with a cover-up top (think something light and dreamy like a crochet piece), multiple bracelets, a floppy sun hat and a casual tote bag.

When you think about it, it’s all about a stylish cover-up

Although they’re mentioned earlier, they didn’t get the attention they deserve. Cover-ups are the 101 of beach dates, because they can make the transition from an ordinary day on the beach to a hot date seamless. The same goes for the transition between a romantic walk and a “let’s go night swimming” decision. Plus, they can make you look different on the beach each day, even if you are wearing the same swimsuit. The most stylish among cover-ups are, of course, kaftans. As the summer is approaching, kaftans in the UK are making a huge comeback, so it is time to equip yourself with a few.

Maximize your style

You know what we are talking about? There is nothing more whimsical than a lady walking along the white stretches of sand in a light maxi dress. This outfit is made for you particularly if you are a fan of the bohemian style. Even though it doesn’t require any further styling efforts, you can finish up your look with various details, such as bracelets, necklaces, rings, hats, hair jewelry (why not, even a flower band), bags, etc.

Beach elegance

Maybe your beach date is unlike any situation mentioned above. Maybe you will have a real deal romantic dinner with wine, music and flowers. In that case, it is only natural to dress up more than in the previous cases. You need to find the balance between dressy and comfortable, though. High heels and cocktail dresses are out of the question, of course. There are several combinations you can choose from according to your sensibility. You can wear non-jeans shorts and a transparent blouse (which can have laced sleeves for the extra ‘wow’ effect). Another option is a mini or midi dress made of lightweight material. Consider breathable fabrics like linen, lace, rayon and silk.

Finally, your outfit is not the only thing you should think about. When it comes to makeup, you should go with a natural look, without aggressive details like eyeliner and lipstick. Now go have fun on your date!

The Art of Manliness: Tips for Single Guys Planning a Living Room

The Art of Manliness: Tips for Single Guys Planning a Living Room

Being a single guy in the 21st century can mean lots of things – you’re free to explore your sexuality, do whatever you wish with your free time and basically act any way you want, as long as it’s socially accepted – but there’s one more thing most guys usually don’t think about. Being single also means you’re responsible for your own living space and the way it’s organized, and if you’re a young fella ready to impress lots of potential partners, you have to put your mind to it – after all, you can’t just bring back your date to a filthy and unorganized apartment, can you? Therefore, your living space needs to be as perfect as possible, so here’s a quick guide to decorating your living room all single guys are going to appreciate.

Create a focal point

Let’s get one thing straight first – if you’re a young single guy, the chances are you’re sexually active and always interested in impressing new potential partners. That’s why your living room needs to have an amazing focal point that will get their attention and serve as an effective conversation starter. While this can be basically anything – a fireplace, an unusual artistic artifact, a giant flat-screen TV or anything in between – you need to give it proper attention and make it stand out. Creating a great focal point might take some time and you should think about it first, yet it’s eventually going to be worth the trouble: not only will all your visitors be impressed with your living space, but you’ll feel better on a daily basis there as well.

Arrange your furniture

People generally don’t expect single guys to know anything about interior decorating and arranging their furniture in a proper manner, so why don’t you try to change this paradigm and actually do something impressive? This is a two-step process that will ultimately turn your living room into a much cozier, nicer and more welcoming space: first, you need to declutter it and throw away everything you don’t absolutely need, and then rearrange the furniture to fill out all that free space you’ve created.Luckily, you don’t have to be an interior decorator or spend a fortune hiring one to do the work for you, but just go online, find a couple of layouts you like and try to replicate them in your living room. Whatever you do will be all right as long as it’s classy and tasteful, so start decluttering and arranging your furniture as soon as possible!

One perfect piece

Once you’ve arranged your focal point and decided how to organize your furniture, it’s time to go a step further and take things to a whole new level of simplicity and comfort. Namely, most guys forget that they don’t need a ton of unnecessary chairs and coffee tables scattered all over their living room. It’s perfectly enough to have just one piece of furniture they can always turn to for a relaxing session.

This might be their favorite armchair, a beanbag or even a chaise longue, but what the majority of people prefer are comfy and luxurious couches that provide back support and look astonishing. Besides, they save you a ton of space, which is particularly important for people with small living rooms. After all, you should get a piece that’s multifunctional, comfortable and practical, so you can use it all day every day.

Unusual décor

Again, single guys usually aren’t the biggest experts on décor and their living rooms have a tendency to include a ton of stuff that should have never been created in the first place –colorful paintings, uncomfortable chairs, impractical coffee tables and a TV that’s just too big for a particular living room. Instead of making these types of mistakes, you should go the other way and try something else instead: pick just two or three unusual decorations and base your entire living room layout around them.

These can be anything you like, even some of the most classical and boring guy stuff like movie posters or sports memorabilia, but, if you treat these objects with care and turn them into something rather unusual, you’ll create a miraculous vibe around them and take your living room décor to a new place. In the end, you’ll surely feel better looking at your favorite football jersey in a classy display case than at an abstract piece of art you know nothing about!

Bring out your inner manliness

In the end, there’s another thing you mustn’t forget when decorating a living room if you’re a single guy – the fact that you’re a single guy! This means your living space has to showcase your inner manliness and show the world you’re a real guy’s guy with a sense of style. Of course, this doesn’t mean your living room should be full of tacky and ridiculous items, but just those that reflect who you really are.

For instance, if you’re a comic book fan, you shouldn’t hide your passion – on the contrary, embrace the entire MCU and DCEU craze that’s quite popular at the moment and create an Avengers-themed bachelor’s pad that will make you feel like a superhero from the moment you wake up till you return from your night out. Alternatively, if you’re into sports, don’t stop at the aforementioned framed football jersey, but take things even further: turn your living room into a man cave and start watching your favorite sports on a huge TV while sitting in your comfortable leather armchair. In short, whatever you’re interested in can be incorporated into your living room décor and this will not only make you love your personal space even more, but also show all your guests that you know who you are and aren’t afraid to share it with the world.

When it comes to materials for a single guy’s living room, try to stick to wood, marble, stone and metal as these materials are both sturdy and manly at the same time, so they’ll help you bring out your inner manliness and truly represent your decorating style.

5 Reasons Why Premarital Counseling Is A Must Before Saying “I Do”

It’s natural for anyone who’s getting married to be optimistic – to be confident that nothing can break them apart and nothing can go wrong. The truth is, a lot of things will change after marriage, and even the happiest of all relationships can fall apart without proper preparation, attention, and investment.

This is where premarital counseling comes in. As its name suggests, it is the type of couples therapy in preparation for marriage aiming to help your relationship grow stronger. However, this couples therapy is far from the sweet, romantic talk you might think of. You seek counselors not only to talk about the things you love about each other but the unattractive things you just prefer to keep under the rug.

Ahead are five major reasons why premarital counseling is crucial before tying a knot.

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7 Attractive Ways To Impress Her On The First Date

First dates are quite scary.

But do they really have to be?

The answer is NO.

Now I know that you only get one chance to make a good first impression. And if you are meeting the person for the first time, the first impression will be really important.

You need to make her time worth it because in this busy world nobody has time. You are lucky that she took a time out of her busy schedule to meet you.

Feeling pressured?

Don’t worry as these 7 simple and attractive ways will not only help you impress her but will open the gates for a second date too.

1. Ask Her Questions

Here I don’t mean start shooting one question after another.

Ask her genuine question and give her time to answer. Show interest in her answers. The more interest you show the more she will want to talk. And if she doesn’t feel like answering a particular question don’t push. Give her space.

A Pro Tip:

Keep question prepared before the date. So you can avoid the awkward silence. Here are some questions that you can ask.

  • Where are you originally from?
  • What’s your major?
  • What type of music are you into?
  • Do you have any sibling?
  • Where did you attend School?
  • Do you like your job? What do you want to do next?

Here you can know about her interests and you both can find a common ground. Just don’t make her feel like she is giving an interview. Which brings us to the next point

2. Keep The Conversation Interesting

Here again, you are not taking an interview. So, you don’t want her to feel that this is a job interview. Instead, keep the conversation interesting. You can do this by asking questions that are engaging like

  • Are you a cat person or dog person?
  • What’s your way of having fun?
  • How do you like to spend your Saturday night?
  • What kind of movies do you like?
  • Most embarrassing story that comes to your mind
  • What’s your favorite cuisine?

This way you’ll not only know more about your date but also begin to like each other’s company. As she starts to have fun she will be more at ease with you. By noticing her body language you can tell if she’s interested or not.

3. Tell Her About Yourself

Now obviously she isn’t here only to talk about herself.

She wants to know about you too. Talk a little about yourself.

Tell her about your likes and interests. Answer her questions. Don’t give a straight “No” to any question as it may make her feel that you are not interested.

Instead, give a more detailed answer to why you dislike or like something. But don’t go into too much detail.

If you want to make it more interesting you can tell her tales of your past. Like how you went camping with your friends or anything funny like how you messed up your friend’s birthday party. By making her laugh you can break the tension.

But here’s the deal:

try avoiding things that are immature and sad. Like telling her how you pranked someone or making someone cry may not be a good conversation during a date.

And remember – whatever you do, don’t start talking about your ex how you miss her this will only kill her mood and make her wanna leave.

For more read the article “15 ways to bring your first date to ruin“.

4. Put Your Phone On Silent

There are many mistakes to avoid on a first date. But this may be the one you should give priority.

Think about it.

how rude it would be if you’re talking and your date is using the phone or interrupts you to take a call.

It’s the same for them when you interrupt them to take a call. It kills the mood and the flow of the conversation.

So the next time you are out on a date, keep your phone on silent and if the call is not very important it can wait until the date ends.

5. Keep Your Alcohol Intake In Touch

Drinks may be a great way to loosen up but moderation is the key.

A drink or two may be enough you don’t need to take a shot each time you get a little nervous.

Why?

Because you don’t want to be your drunk self and believe me he is not as fun as you think he is.

Also, there may be a chance that you are a loose tongue when you get drunk. And if you are, the only thing you will do is embarrass yourself and her.

6. Choose a Good Spot

Now the place you choose for the date may be one of the first things that she will notice.

You have a lot of options but you don’t know which to select. In my opinion, going to cinema may not be the best choice. Because you won’t get a chance to talk and know each other.

Instead, choose an activity that both of you will enjoy and get a chance to talk too.

Here are some activities that you can choose from.

  • Going to a karaoke
  • Attending a local festival, convention or fair
  • If she likes games Arcade may be a good choice
  • Going to the zoo
  • Cook something together
  • Minigolf
  • Going to a park
  • Skating
  • Picnic
  • Even going to a pool may be fun

These are only the tip of the iceberg. There are many other choices you can choose for. Just come up with something where you can have both fun and have a nice conversation.

7. Be Yourself

I can’t emphasize enough on this.

You don’t need to fake an accent or you don’t need to act cool. There is a reason she went out with you. So, just be yourself. She liked something about you or else she wouldn’t have shown up.

Now you may be thinking what if she liked your fake self that’s why she went out with you. How long do you think before she notices and what then? Wouldn’t you love if she likes you for who and what you are? So be who you are.

Just by keeping these 7 things in mind you can avoid making mistakes that you will regret later on. So, just be yourself good luck. 

Author Bio:

Muaz is a lifestyle writer, music-lover, and an avid reader. He enjoys writing about dating hacks, relationship tips and whatever he finds interesting. When not working, he can likely be found playing video games. You can follow more of his work at http://loveysigns.com, Twitter, and Facebook

Wedding Accessories – what are the latest trends?

The big news is that colour is in!

The traditional pure white wedding dress is being replaced with contemporary colours especially beige & antique rose & deep red.

Simplicity is the name of the game with the latest hot designs looking great from all angles with as much attention to detail focused on the back of the dress as at the front. For those with the figure & tan to match bare back dresses.

Lace & Tulle are the materials of choice for next year too, with ruffles making a big return predominantly on the dress from the waist down accentuating the modern sophisticated look.

The wedding dress & wedding accessory designers are focusing on romance & femininity the end result we will see the fairytale look mixed with Hollywood glamour coming through loud & clear.

Wedding Hair Accessories

We have hunted down some wonderful wedding tiaras & bridal headbands, the perfect wedding accessories to match the Fairytale / Hollywood wedding theme. Think regal wedding accessories, tiaras with style & timeless elegance whether pearl or diamante crystals are your bead of choice we are confident that we can find the perfect hair accessory for you. So to tempt you how about these gorgeous designs.

large diamante wedding headband with veil

And if you are looking for a gold tiara to match your wedding dress & accessories you are sure to love these stunning designs.

gold wedding tiaras

These wedding tiara headbands simply ooze sophistication & femininity.  We think they are absolute winners & hope you agree!

Wedding Veils can add a touch of class & mystique to your look – available in a range of lengths & modern designs they are a real must for the bride who is wishing to create a contemporary Fairytale or Hollywood Glamour look & feel for her wedding.

We have chosen these two designs from our extensive range to showcase

long length wedding veil

Jewellery Wedding Accessories

If colour is in for your wedding dress then so it should be for your wedding jewellery too! Whether you are looking for a wedding necklace, bridal bracelet or bridesmaids earrings these hot wedding accessories in pale blue, navy blue & red are wedding fashion leaders for 2013 – but don’t just take our word for it go & have a look for yourself!

Those Finishing Touches Wedding Accessories

And for the final splash of colour these fabulous wedding handbags are lovingly handmade in the UK just for you. Each one is beautifully finished to the highest quality & will last a lifetime.

We have a collection to suit every bride, bridesmaid, Mother or Mother-in-Law of the Bride, too many to include in this blog post hopefully these delicious bridal bags will inspire you

coloured wedding handbags

 

We are going to be naughty here & tease you with words as opposed to pictures!

Wedding Garters, Bridal Ring Cushions, Grooms Cufflinks & Wedding Umbrellas ………. yes you have guessed it they all come in a variety of colours & we can match the 2013 hot trends with bashful blue & racy red.

Fashion will change, trends will come & go but whether you are going with the modern coloured wedding dress or sticking with the traditional white then no Bride wants to be without her ‘something blue’ on her special day. So to bring this blog post to a fitting end we thought that we should honour wedding custom & practice by adding in these lovely little wedding good luck charms.

lucky sixpence for a wedding gift

That’s all from us, we hope our blog will have inspired you with ideas for your perfect wedding accessories.

 

9 Differences between Being Single And Married

When people are single, they tend to go out every night in search of a hot one night stand or a crazy adventure. However, once they get married, they simply have to settle down and spend their nights browsing through celebrity Snapchats or watching movies with their better half. Besides nightlife, there are many other big differences between being single and being married. Check out the 9 most significant ones.

  1. Clothing And Style

Single: When people are single, they’re constantly trying to impress everyone around them in order to attract a mate. Clothing and overall style are two very important factors when it comes to this particular mission. Both men and women are almost always well-dressed. Some singles even exaggerate with this and can develop sort of an outfit obsession, so to say, because they believe they have to look their best all the time, especially if they’re actively seeking a relationship.

Married: On the other hand, when they finally get married, men and women are not that obsessed with fashion trends anymore. Most ladies get rid of those high heels in exchange for comfy and warm footwear. The case is no different for guys either. They swap those tight jeans for baggy and comfortable sweatpants. Still, it’s not okay to get overly comfortable as well, as it’s proved that dressing up and looking sexy here and there can reignite the flame and keep your sex life in check.

  1. Parties

Single: Let’s be real, most single people are constantly trying to crash some party in order to score a hot date or a one night stand. They are full of energy and enthusiasm. Moreover, they are often the initiators of such events and are more likely to host them so it’s safe to say that going to parties is their favorite activity.

Married: However, married couples are avoiding parties as much as possible. They will go to certain events simply out of the respect for the hosts, but they will always look for the opportunity to leave the party early and have a nice quiet evening at home.

  1. Exercising

Single: Bachelors and bachelorettes are constantly trying to stay in shape. And while it certainly can be explained by their need to improve health and increase the overall energy levels, it also has a hidden, biological background that is closely related to their sexual self-esteem – They need to look good in order to impress other singles and this is something that a regular exercising can provide.

Married: Gals and lads who are taken don’t even think about physical activity. They simply don’t have enough time and motivation to hit the gym on a regular basis. They have found their soul-mates, so their job is done. And while this is natural to some extent and can be tolerated for certain time, married people have to be aware that it can also be potentially harmful to a relationship itself, as spouses can develop anxiety or can experience decreased energy levels. This can have a direct impact on their mood, which will become gloomy more often that it should be, so engaging in any physical activity that suits one’s personal preferences is always welcome.

  1. Spending Money

Single: When you’re a loner, you can spend your money recklessly. You can treat yourself on a daily basis and buy yourself some rather unnecessary things such as the 26th nuance of a lipstick (because you’ve missed that one in your collection) or a fancy new video game that will probably be on sale in a month or so but hey, you need it now!

Married: Reckless spending is absolutely impossible when you’re in a committed relationship or marriage. Moreover, everything is far more complicated when you have to plan for two, from monthly utilities and cell phone bills to food, clothing, and travels. There is also a possibility for something unexpected to happen around the house at some point so you have to save some extra money in case you need to call a plumber or an electrician, for instance.

  1. Hanging Out With Friends

Single: When you’re not involved with anyone, hanging out with friends is your number one activity. Most single people are ready to get up in the middle of the night and go out for a drink because they have all the time in the world.

Married: Wedded individuals are not that flexible. The majority of them don’t have time and energy for socializing due to hectic lifestyles, while others will make excuses not to go out. This isn’t good either, as occasional dates with friends can bring us a necessary dose of freshness and break the established routines.

  1. Eating

Single: Solo men and women don’t have established eating schedules and diets. They eat whatever, whenever, and wherever they want, including 1 AM meals in front of the TV while binge watching Game of Thrones, for instance.

Married: The case is completely different when it comes to couples. These people share everything and they plan their meals. They usually eat together and at the same time because it can help them save money and because it’s a kind of ritual.

  1. Date Nights:

Single: Bachelors and single ladies are always planning their date nights to the smallest detail. A romantic dinner, movies, and a long walk are implied. This has a lot to do with a fact they don’t know what their dates so well and thus want everything to be as perfect as possible.

Married: Couples are more relaxed. Most of the time they get out without a plan and see where the road takes them. They usually end up back in front of their TV where they can enjoy their favorite show while eating a delicious meal.

  1. Traveling

Single: When it comes to traveling, single individuals are rather spontaneous. These fellas and gals are able to pack a small suitcase or a backpack and simply hit the road without a plan.

Married: People who are married, on the other hand, can’t afford that type of unpreparedness. Couples need to organize a trip for two or more (in case they have kids), and that’s not always a simple task.

  1. Sex

Single: Sexual encounter is the most exciting, exhilarating, and a rather spontaneous experience when you don’t have a permanent partner. It can happen anywhere and anytime and it’s often filled with thrill of the unknown.

Married: This doesn’t apply to married people. They’re usually too busy to be spontaneous, so they need to plan ahead. Once you get married, you’ll know the exact time and place of your next “lovemaking session”.

Relationship Tips For Women In The 21st Century

Modern relationships are hard, no doubt about that! It doesn’t matter if you’re dating a widower, a young man, or a mature gentleman, being a successful woman and maintaining a fulfilling love life is anything but easy. We live in a rather fast-paced modern society where there’s no time to stop and rethink your motives, ambitions, and actions. This lack of time is exactly what makes dating extremely hard for women. If by any chance you have the same problem, make sure to stick around and read these crucial tips that will help you sustain a successful relationship in this chaotic 21st Century.

Don’t Choose Your Career Over Love

Nowadays, a lot of young women are sacrificing their love life in order to pursue illustrious and lucrative careers. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a successful business career, but completely neglecting your love life can cause serious problems in the future. If you focus solely on your job, you will lose that all-important touch you need to have in order to be good at dating. Therefore, you need to find a perfect balance between your job and romance. Don’t neglect your partner, include him in your everyday activities and allow him to share the load with you. This way, you’ll be able to improve your position at work and maintain a functional relationship.

As we’ve already said, it’s perfectly normal to want a good job and a successful career, regardless of whether you’re a man or a woman. However, what most people fail to realize is that jobs come and go, but true love is once in a lifetime. Sure, everyone needs money in order to survive in the modern world and the only (legal) way to obtain it is by working, but what is life if you have no love in it? Think about it.

Be Honest, Be True, Be Yourself

We live in a cruel world where people love to judge other people based on their looks, clothing style, and music taste. It’s almost impossible to be yourself and be accepted at the same time. This is exactly why you must not care about other people’s opinions. You need to be brave, honest, and true! If you manage to do that, men will be all over you! A confident woman is an extremely sexy woman!

Here are two possible scenarios of what may happen if you’re being dishonest about yourself while dating someone. In the first one, your date eventually finds out that you have been pretending to be someone you’re not the entire time, gets utterly disappointed and shocked with you and most likely leaves immediately. In the second, the lies you tell about yourself stick from the beginning, not allowing you to completely relax while you’re with your partner, making your whole relationship with him a lie. Either way, it’s not good.

Don’t Be Afraid To Express Your Sexuality

Anyone can be sexy! However, not every woman has the courage to express her sexuality! If you want to have a successful love life and find/keep your man, you need learn how to access your sexiness. Don’t be afraid to show off your physical attributes in a classy and sophisticated way. Feel free to tickle their imagination with sassy and provocative remarks. Don’t hide your wild sexual drive, use it to attract potential partners or keep your current one.

Also, note that there is a fine line between “knowing how to carry what you were given” and overdoing it. Instead of hiding your sexuality, like we have mentioned above, make sure that everyone (not just your potential/current partner) realizes just how hot you can be. However, don’t exaggerate and overexpress your attributes, as it may make you come off as “trying too hard” or even as slutty. Don’t close up but also don’t let everything run wild – stay in balance, just like with everything else in life.

Learn How To Listen

This is one of the most important relationship tips for a modern woman. Most ladies today are not able to have an open conversation with a man. They’re trying so hard to keep up with this chaotic world of ours, that they forgot how to communicate with the opposite sex. Listening to your partner is the crucial aspect of every relationship. If you don’t listen to what he has to say, how do you expect him to listen to you? Slow down and truly listen to your man. You’ll see that being in a relationship is not that hard at all.

If we’re being completely honest here, men really do have a one-track mind. When he’s watching the game, that’s all he’s doing. When he’s listening to you, once again, that’s all he’s doing. This also means that when he’s talking to you and letting you know how he feels and what’s going through his head, you should probably listen carefully because you don’t know when it’s going to happen again and it can be hard to make him talk about that stuff if he doesn’t feel like it.

Think About the Future

Dating is mostly about what you do and say right now, however, the end results can vary quite a lot depending on what you’re looking for. That’s why it’s important that you keep your goals in mind, no matter how serious they might be. Some people want to hook up, others are looking for serious relationships – regardless of what your target is, always keep it in your sights.

This mostly refers to marriage and kids. If you don’t want to get married in the near future and you haven’t even thought about having kids, your potential partner should know that. Furthermore, you should not be forced into changing your mind or your priorities, no matter how much you may like the person you’re dating. Love should be unconditional, which means no conditions should apply neither to you nor your partner once your relationship begins.

Hooking Up From Message No.1 – How to Talk to Women on Tinder

Although Tinder is a fast-working app and lets you meet people online for various purposes, it’s not like you can just ask for a blowjob right off the bat and expect a girl to accept your offer. Hooking up with chicks via this app isn’t as complicated as trying to use it for dating, but you’ll still need a certain dose of know-how if you want to persuade any woman to hook up with you simply based on your chat with her.

1. Patience, Patience, Patience…

You know how they say that patience is a virtue? While it’s most certainly not a flaw, it will be very useful in case you’re talking up a girl on Tinder.

Most failures in these scenarios come from male impatience. Sure, you aren’t supposed to waste your time on a chick who obviously isn’t DTF (down to f***), but you shouldn’t rush ahead and give up or try to force a hookup if there’s real potential in a girl who really is DTF but is playing hard to get.

2. Talking is Key

If a girl you’re chatting with doesn’t agree to have a one night stand with you right away, it means not only that she isn’t an easy chick, but also that she wants to make sure that she can be safe around you and have a great time if she hooks up with you.

This is why it’s important that you talk to a girl about things which aren’t related to sex. We know it sounds like a waste of time because you aren’t trying to marry this woman, but it can be really productive if you manage to assure her that you’re a really fun guy who only wants to have casual sex with her – nothing more, nothing less.

3. Wait for the Green Light

Once you’ve approached a girl on Tinder tactically and while still giving off a gentleman vibe and you’ve managed to get her to accept your hookup invite, you should get a clear sign from her that “all systems are go.”

It’s not going to happen every time, even if you’re the most persuasive man on the planet. When it does happen, however, don’t jump the gun – wait to get a green light for her, which will be obvious and without any doubt if she’s really down for it. Otherwise, you’ve got nothing to look for there, so move on to the next chick.

4. Keep Your Cool

So, you’ve got the thumbs-up from her and you’re taking things off Tinder and into real life. This doesn’t mean that you should immediately suggest bumping uglies with her as soon as possible – instead, keep your cool and be a man about it.

If she wants to skip all pleasantries and move straight to the main course, you shouldn’t have any problems with that. But if she doesn’t says it herself, suggest that you meet for a drink first, because the most important thing is implied anyway. Why not be a gentleman while at it?

5. Honesty Above All

Let’s face it – hooking up is a pretty standard activity nowadays. Not only is it completely fine if you do it, but in some cases, it’s actually preferable if you just hook up with someone instead of entering a relationship with them. This is why it’s of critical importance that you’re always honest about your intentions and wishes.

Pretending like you’re looking for romance while your only goal is to have casual sex never leads to anything good. Sure, it might work as far as getting a person to sleep with you, but you can rest assured that your true goals will come to surface sooner or later – and when they do, all hell will brake loose.

Instead of that, why not just be straight up about what you want and why you’re even communicating with someone in the first place. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a hookup, so try to be honest about it when someone asks you “Why do you want to be with me?”

6. Don’t Give Up

Like we’ve mentioned before, patience is a virtue when it comes to hookups (or anything else in life, really). This doesn’t only apply to actual communication with someone you want to hook up with, but also to looking for those who would interested in such an activity.

Thanks to the advances of modern technology, there is more than one way to find a hookup in the XXI century. Instead of just going to a popular club or bar, you can now sit down in front of your computer and type in a bunch of things in order to find the perfect person for a hookup.

Nevertheless, rejection still exists, even on the internet. You might get shut down a dozen times or more before you come across a person who’s even remotely interested in hooking up with you. This is actually pretty normal, because with online dating came a much larger pool of potential relationship and hookup partners, which is why most people won’t stop until they find exactly what they’re looking for.

It’s really important to always remember that you shouldn’t give up. Even if you get rejected 20 times, you should still keep on looking because your perfect hookup might be just around the corner.

7. Manners Maketh Man… and Woman

Although a hookup isn’t exactly a real romantic relationship, that doesn’t mean you can do whatever you want and get away with it. Be polite and show that you care, because it might pay off in the future.

Instead of never calling or seeing a person you’ve just hooked up with after the fact, try and send them a message a few days later to check on how they’re doing and if they want to grab some coffee with you. This will help maintain that friendliness that all hookups imply and it might just turn casual sex into real romance – you never know.