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The possibilities of making the kinds of connections you want are very realistic, and many long lasting relationships and marriages have begun via online dating services, not to mention casual relationships as well if that is what you prefer. The possibilities are all right there and waiting for you, but there are a few key rules you need to know and follow in order to find your perfect date online. Download to learn The Golden Rules of Online Dating – 6 essential rules to finding the perfect online date!

Never Tie A Knot Without Answering These 10 Questions

So you’re madly in love and you want to take your long-term relationship to the next level – marriage. The fact that you get along for almost a decade and sparks just light up whenever you look at each other’s eyes just validate that your partner is “the one.” It’s just like the movies, and you can’t wait for a sequel. But taking all the chick flick moments aside, what would remain? Are you best friends? Or merely cold strangers?

Older folks used to say that marriage is not like a hot spoonful of rice that you can spit out once you get burned. Unlike in young, shallow love, there’s no such thing as a “break-up” when you get married. It’s a lifetime commitment. Yes, divorce and annulment exist but nobody wanted to even go there. Upon wearing those rings, two persons vow to spend the rest of their lives with each other, for happiness and sorrow, and for better or for worse.

Before you say “I do,” here are 10 brutally honest questions you and your spouse should answer.

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My Best And Worst Date

I’m going to share my story of both my best and worst date which both took place in the last few years during my ongoing search for love…again. I’m still a single widow today but am convinced I will find another man to make me happy again, especially now that I’m back on the dating scene and have experienced all kinds of strange and wonderful moments in that time.

My Best Date

This time last year I had the most incredible date with a hugely interesting man who I met online. What made it so unique and memorable was that I had no idea what the plan was so the spontaneity of it was something I instantly loved. He picked me up from my house on a Friday evening after work (I trusted him enough to give him my home address through conversations online and the phone, he seemed very genuine). He knocked on my front door stood there with a bunch of flowers. What a start I thought, his romantic side evident from first sight.

Us women pick up on every detail when it comes to dating. From his well polished shoes to his nicely groomed facial hair I was definitely impressed within the first 5 seconds. And at the end of the drive way was a beautiful sparkling silver Porsche. Lovely!

As we sped off in his fancy car I had mixed emotions; nervous, excited and intrigued. As much as I asked throughout the journey, he gave me no insight in to where we were heading. I went along with it willingly as I trusted him. Strange for someone I had just met but he gave off that sort of vibe.

We arrived at a beautifully looking Indian restaurant which was next to the river and he actually reserved a table overlooking the tremendous views. It was a warm, wonderful evening too which made it even better. Looking back now it was quite a gamble for him to choose an Indian restaurant as it’s a cuisine which isn’t for everyone. Thankfully for him I wasn’t in that minority. The food was delicious and so too was the bottle of red wine that we shared.

The conversation flowed throughout the entire meal which isn’t always easy but we seemed to have so much in common from enjoying golf to having the same opinions on general affairs. It was all going so smoothly it felt so natural as if we had known each other for years. Perhaps this is to be expected from a true gentlemen but he also paid the entire bill which is a big tick in the dating department for me, not because I’m materialistic or expect a man to pay for everything, but because it’s just “the thing that’s done” by a man on a first date in my eyes.

If the date had ended there I would have been more than satisfied and content but to my surprise, again, we went to a bar just around the corner which played live music. My kind of scene! They played a mixture of songs, from cheesy classics to rock and roll greats. We continued to indulge in deep conversation and drinks which made the time pass by so quickly. Too quickly for my liking in truth. I wish the night hadn’t ended.

Sometimes less is more and as basic as this date may sound it had everything a first date needed; A gentlemen, surprises, food, drinks, music and even a first kiss. Little did I know that it would also be the last kiss with this particular person. To my devastation, he decided he didn’t want to meet up again. I guess it was too good to be true.

My Worst Date

I’ve had several bad dates in my time from back when I was a teenager all the way up to now. But there was one stand out winner of the worst date which was just a few months ago. Dating is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you’re going to get. It’s very much a case of trial and error unless you’re lucky enough to strike gold first time.

This particular date that I went on was a complete and utter shambles. This time we planned to meet for lunch on a Saturday afternoon in a country pub, midway between our two houses. We said we would meet at 1pm and being the punctual woman I stuck to my word. He, however, certainly did not. He kept me waiting there for about 45 minutes with no communication during that time. The only reason I was still there was because I thought I’d make the most of it and stick around for a drink on my own having made the effort to drive there Nevertheless, being the forgiving woman I am I decided to give him the benefit of the doubt and move on with the date.

With his apology accepted we got talking briefly but he seemed more interested in the food menu since he had his head buried in it. Now I’m a huge fan of food but I’m also a fan of manners and completely ignoring someone while they’re speaking to you is as rude as it gets in my opinion. Even more so if it’s the first 5 minutes of a first date!

It turned out that he was just generally a rude person. He was rude to the waiter on several occasions, demanding cutlery and then moaning about the food which was completely out of the waiters hands. Complaining to the waiter that there was too much fat on his gammon seemed pointless and ridiculous to me.

When we finally got talking it was all about him. I hardly managed to get a word in. It got to the point where I genuinely had no interest in being there and all I could think about was how much I wanted to get up and leave. To this day all I think to myself is “does this man really think I’m enjoying this date?” No one wants to be talked at for a whole hour, especially not on a first date. Don’t get me wrong, I certainly wanted to find out about him but he didn’t do it in the right way.

The icing on the cake though was when the bill came. He had zero intention of paying anything more than what he ordered. To my disbelief, he actually studied the receipt to make sure he wasn’t paying for anything I had ordered. To say I’m glad to see the back of him is an understatement. That was the end of that!

 

 

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Maintaining A Healthy Heart And Mind

Healthy Diet

The most important part of maintaining a healthy lifestyle is unquestionably what you eat. You can’t out train a bad diet, or in other words, you can go for a run, swim or cycle for as long as you want but if you don’t eat the right foods it’ll all be a waste of time.

Eating well not only keeps you physically healthy in terms of your weight and vital organs functioning but it also keeps your mind healthy and clear.

So what sort of things should you eat and drink?

Firstly, drinking plenty of water is crucial and it has plenty of benefits such as; increasing energy and relieving fatigue, it promotes weight loss, flushes out toxins, boosts the immune system and more. Water is no doubt the best drink to stay healthy but other options are fresh juice, green tea or even milk. You want to avoid drinks which contain a lot of added sugar. Some may not realise but liquid sugar can be even more fattening that sugars in food.

Having a balanced food diet is very worthwhile too. Ensuring you eat a mixture of foods gives you all the different nutrients required to sustain good health. But of course you need to be eating the right sorts of food and not just any junk that may be cheap and easy to get your hands on.

Fruit and vegetables are key ingredients and a great starting point. If you aim to eat 5-6 pieces of different fruit and vegetables each day you’ll be boosting your immune system significantly and in turn reducing the chance of disease and illness.

Eat wholegrain instead of refined grains. For example, look out for wholegrain barley, rice, bread, etc. They contain lots of fiber, help digestion, lower cholesterol, lower blood pressure as well as many other health benefits. Refined grains are modified from their natural composition, taking away the components bran and germ which are better for us. So try and limit those refined grains as well as anything containing added sugar. Most foods contain sugar in their natural ingredients, so added sugar is simply unnecessary.

Avoiding bad fats is something that you should try and cement in to your lifestyle because these are the fats that can damage your heart. But what are bad fats and is there such things as good fats? The simple answer to that is yes. Oily fish, nuts, avocados, vegetable oils are all examples of unsaturated good fats and are great but these should be eaten in place of other high calorie foods. But of course there are bad fats too. These are foods like red meat such as beef and lamb. Dairy products such as whole milk, cheese, butter, sour cream and others. Additionally, cutting out or at least reducing the intake of snack foods such as crisps, chocolate, cake, etc. will go a long way to help weight loss.

It’s important to remember that everything in moderation is okay. You still need to enjoy the food you eat.

Exercise

Exercise also goes a long way to maintaining a healthy lifestyle. Age shouldn’t be an excuse to give up on exercise and any sort of active lifestyle no matter how strenuous or not is better than nothing.

Endurance/Aerobic – These types of exercises are designed to increase your heart rate and breathing. These activities will help keep you healthy, improve your fitness, and help you carry out your everyday tasks. Endurance training will improve the health of your heart, lungs, and circulatory system. Jogging, Cycling, Swimming or even dancing are all good examples of endurance exercises which will raise your heart rate. Don’t forget to warm up first though to prevent any injury!

 

Strength – Strength exercises make your muscles stronger. Even small increases in strength can make a big difference in your ability to stay independent and carry out everyday activities, such as climbing stairs and carrying groceries. These exercises also are called “strength training” or “resistance training.” Lifting weights, own body weight exercises and resistance band training are all ways of improving general strength.

Balance – Having good balance is key, especially for older adults as it helps prevent falls and accidents. It will also help with other general exercises such as lifting weights, running on a treadmill and even stretching. Increasing the amount of lower body strength exercises you do will also improve your balance.

Flexibility – Stretching is incredibly important to reduce the risk of injury. Being flexible gives you more freedom of movement for other exercises as well as for your everyday activities. It’s well worth fitting in stretching in to your workout routine for at least 15 minutes. Yoga is a good activity which helps flexibility and balance for that matter.

Summary

Both healthy eating/drinking and exercise significantly improve our physical and mental well-being. You will notice a huge change in the way you feel by eating better and exercising at least a few times a week. But the key is consistency. If you can constantly eat well and exercise for the majority of the week, every week, you’re guaranteed to feel sharper, happier, stronger and just generally better all round.

 

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Dating Is A Patience Game

Have a little patience

Finding “the one” is rarely easy and to be honest it shouldn’t be either. What’s the point in settling for a mediocre partner in terms of your similarities and compatibility when there are thousands of single people out there. There’s no doubt in my mind that there is a person suited for everyone in this world but it’s just taking the time to find them. Dating is a game of patience.

Understandably, we become desperate sometimes to find a partner we can share our laughs, tears and experiences with but it’s important that we share those moments with the right person. After all, if you truly want to spend the rest of your life with this person then you can forever have these moments to reminisce on.

Never too old

There seems to be a misinterpretation that once you hit a certain age that it is then too late to start dating or find the perfect match. Well that isn’t true at all. There are millions of people around the world that are single aged 40 and above who are still being hit by Cupid’s arrow and finding their true love. The majority of the time it’s over online dating websites because that’s the easiest way for them and there’s nothing wrong with that at all. There are hundreds of senior dating websites online that you can use to slowly search for your ideal partner with patience. There’s no rush when you’re sitting behind a computer.

Taking your time to find the right person might seem like a chore but in the long term it will be much more worth it. The question you have to ask is would you rather settle for an average person that you find “OK” or take your time, have a bit of patience and find that partner that you love sharing your life with where your heart skips a beat every time you hear from them.

5 Nerve-Racking Wedding Emergencies And How To Handle Them

Who wouldn’t want to have a perfect wedding day? Soon-to-be married couples pour the best of their time, abilities, and cash into the success of their once in a lifetime celebration of love. They choose the best officiant and hire experienced organizers, caterers, florists, dressmakers, and photographers to ensure everything turns out the way they envisioned smoothly and flawlessly.

But let’s be honest, is there really a “perfect” wedding? Do couples, who spend the most of their time and resources, really achieve their ideal wedding celebration without running into bumps and hurdles in the process? I don’t think so.

Life is full of surprises, isn’t it? However, nobody likes it when not-so-pleasant surprises show up in the course of wedding planning, or worse, on your big day. A simple yet unresolved mistake can sabotage everything at the drop of the hat. Fortunately, most common wedding blunders can be remedied. You just have to think fast and handle them with grace and poise (even if they’re driving you nuts IRL).

Before you go into panic mode, stop, take a deep breath, and check out the following solutions for the most common wedding planning emergencies.

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DIY receptions: How to make your wedding a more personal experience

Unless you are an event planner, your wedding may be the most complex project, and the biggest party you will ever plan. Your wedding, if prepared correctly will be the best party of your life. It will also be the most memorable day for you and your significant other. Your guests, however, will have attended and will continue to participate in weddings throughout the year. You want your wedding to be the one they remember even when they are old. An excellent way to make that day memorable is to create a personalized experience for each guest. They may not feel the joy you will be feeling because you are marrying the love of your life, but they may share the excitement and be happy for you because they felt great attending the wedding. You may be freaking out right now, but no, it will not cost you excessively to plan that wedding. There are simple ways to make your wedding memorable.

Keep your guests informed

One of the easiest way to ensure that your guests are entertained is by sharing your program with them. While they may love you to bits, they will be bored if they feel like they are just following the crowd with no knowledge of what is happening. This is the digital era, take advantage of it. Share your program with your guests on social media and have a printed copy of the program at the gate for anyone who did not see it on their social media pages. Include logistical information. No one likes being lost. Ensure that you have also included a dress code if any. The last thing you want is to make one of your guests feel out of place. You may also want to create a website dedicated to the day. This site may contain information about what will happen at what time and where. You may also want to include directions, shuttle bus services, parking restrictions and accurate information about the property the party will be hosted at such as rocky terrain.

Make your guests feel welcome

If you want to guests to feel that your party is the best they have ever attended, it is great to ensure that they feel welcome. Nothing says “welcome and thanks for coming” like welcome bags. Sure, it may be a lot of work assembling them, but they are worth it. If you will be doing some of these things yourself, a welcome bag includes a bottle of water, snacks and local specialties like wine or chocolate. You may also want to include a map or brochures for great places to visit in the locality. You should also include a personal letter from the couple expressing just how happy they are that the guests have left their busy schedules to attend the wedding. If your guests are few, then you might know what they like and don’t like so you may make their welcome bags more personal for them.

Make them comfortable

Everyone is usually very tense when they are visiting new locations. You want your guests to feel as comfortable as possible. Depending on where you are hosting the wedding, you may choose to have a welcome bar with non-alcoholic beverages. If you are hosting your wedding outside, you may want to have a bug repellant station. Bugs can be an issue that will keep your guests from enjoying the day. If you are hosting a beach wedding, have flip flops for your guests in case they did not carry their own.

Wedding reception

Wedding reception venues are not usually kids-friendly. However, you want the parents to have just as much fun as the singles in the wedding. An excellent way to help parents is by making sure their children are having a good time too. Kids love to explore and have fun. They may not have a concentration span as long as that of adults. So make sure there are fun things for children to do throughout your wedding and fun places for them to hang out and have fun during the reception party. You may employ people who will act as baby sitters for that day. You may even make it a sleepover party with cartoon and pizza!

How to plan a luxury honeymoon you’ll never forget by private jet

You had the perfect wedding. If everything did not go as it should have then most of the things went as planned. Now you want to relax. It has been months of pressure and trying to get every detail right. You deserve a break. If you are planning your wedding as a couple or you want to surprise your lover with a great destination, why not spoil them with a luxurious honeymoon destination that will forever be imprinted in their mind. You do not want to plan your honeymoon just anywhere. The place you choose should be meaningful to you. After all, this will be the beginning of a great love story. Perhaps the first on many easy trips you will embark on together. As they say, first impressions are critical. If the first vacation you have together after marriage is not impressive, there are chances that your wife will never let you forget the terrible experiences she had. There are great places to go to especially for newlyweds. Places you will get to love and know each other. The beginning of your life together will be perfect, and the memories you make together not even death can take away.

Little Palm Island

The Florida Keys may not be your first choice, but it should be. It may seem like the world away, but it will be worth it. A quickly from Canada and you re there in a couple of hours. You will have private white sandy beaches and turquoise waters to enjoy. This is one of the most common vacation areas for some of the rich and famous people. If you feel like giving yourself the celebrity treatment, this sunny and romantic island is a place you should consider. There are tons of water sports and boats to enjoy. You can also enjoy the world class cuisines that are just unique to this island. The little palm island resort takes advantage of the beautiful setting and the incredible views from the villas to create a soothing and relaxing experience for their customers. The resort has 30 villas and looks like something from a movie.

San Diego

Here you get 70miles of postcard- perfect beaches. There are dreamy sandy areas where you get exciting activities for newlyweds. There are spas you cannot get enough of and water activities such as kayaking that are interesting and fun for couples. If you are looking for a place that will allow you to enjoy yourself and bond with your spouse, head to San Diego. You also get to visit the historic US Grant so that you can catch a glimpse of the history of San Diego. The best part is after taking in all that history. You get to visit some of the most luxurious beaches, dining areas, and entertainment spots because they are right next to the US Grant.

San Pedro, Belize

Facing the Caribbean Sea, San Pedro is an irresistible piece of paradise. It is home to the second largest reef in the world. The reef is known as the Belize Barrier Reef. You will love every day you wake up in San Pedro because there are endless activities. When you just want to relax, you can rest under the palm trees and watch how an ancient fishing village has been turned into a small town and how tradition merges with technology. You may also visit the Mayan ruins which are an incredible sight to behold. There is an amazing marine life to experience especially during the summer when you can scuba dive and enjoy the water and sea creatures.

Montenegro bay

Booking a private jet charter can be fun and amazing especially if you know where you want to go and how you want to get there. The Montenegro bay should be one of the destinations you choose for your honey moon especially if you do not want to stay in one place for too long. You can still enjoy all these places and have a fantastic time without being bored. Montenegro offers incredible diversity from cultural experiences to water adventures. You will certainly not be disappointed by the calm sandy beaches that always have a new experience to share.

 

Is Your Relationship Healthy?

Balance

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It’s incredibly important to have the right balance in your relationship. By this I mean balancing the time you spend with your partner, your family and other friends. Spending all your time with your partner can be unhealthy. You’ll become in danger of potentially getting bored of them and you might start noticing the little things that bother you.

Don’t get me wrong, it’s great to spend time with the person you love but you’ll learn to appreciate them even more when you’re away from them from time to time.

Arguments

Some people think that if you have an argument with your partner then it isn’t a healthy and solid relationship. Let’s be realistic though, it’s probably the opposite. Unless you happen to

be very fortunate and never have misunderstandings or falling outs then it’s only natural to have arguments now and then. It’s certainly a better idea than bottling up all of your thoughts and not sharing your concerns with your partner.

Speaking from personal experience it’s far more beneficial to be honest with your partner, even if it’s over the smallest things. You’ll then learn for future situations what buttons are the wrong ones to press!

Love

This might sound daft but it’s an incredibly common occurrence in this day and age. The question is are you still in love with your partner? A lot of relationships are built on a solid foundation over time. However, some couples think they have to remain together purely on the basis that they have shared a lot of time together. But if the spark has gone, no one is benefiting from staying with each other for the sake of it. I’m certainly not insinuating you should get up and go when times get hard but it’s something worth contemplating if you’re not happy the majority of the time you spend together.

4 Tips for Making Your Best Impression on a First Date

Whether you met someone online or in-person, the first date can seem intimidating. It’s all about making a good first impression, and many people fear leaving the wrong impression. These tips can ensure that you leave a great first impression on your date. And if all goes well, you may be looking at a second date.

 

  1. Wear something you love

Whether you’re a man or a woman, wearing clothes that you love can make a great impression. Pair them with highly recommended beauty products, like the ones sold on b3products.com, and you have a winning combination. Doing so lets your date know that you cared enough to put some effort into your wardrobe. And your appearance is one of the first thing your date will notice. What you wear can impact their impression of you.

But it’s more than just how you look. Wearing clothes that you feel good in gives you confidence. That confidence goes a long way. It can affect the way your date perceives you and make you seem more appealing.

 

  1. Keep the conversation going

You might have a million questions for your date. Instead of asking them all at once, save them. Focus on keeping the conversation moving and don’t focus on checking off your list of questions. Don’t be afraid to make observations or share a few personal stories. While you might not want to get too in-depth, it’s good to get a little personal.

If there are any awkward pauses in the conversation, don’t get nervous. Ask one of the questions you have. Or, use the opportunity to talk about your surroundings. It’s easier than you think to keep a conversation moving. Don’t let the fear of the awkward silence stop you from going on your date.

 

  1. Keep the affection to a minimum

While you might be into PDAs, the first date is not a good time for you to show your affection. Touching should be very natural and friendly in nature. It shouldn’t be sexual or forced. During the beginning of the date, you want to keep your hands to yourself. And if the date takes a turn for the better, then the affection will come naturally.

 

  1. Get creative with the venue

Your first date doesn’t have to be dinner or coffee. Some people have a hard time opening up in those types of venues. If you’re nervous about having dinner with your date, consider a different type of venue. Invite your date to something that you enjoy. If you’re an artist, take a wine and painting class together. Or if you love baseball, attend a local game. Your date can always decline the invitation if they’re not interested. But if they accept, it can be a good opportunity to bond over something you enjoy.

 

The world of dating can be scary. But it doesn’t have to be scary. You need to remember that there is someone out there for you. And remember that once you can get the first date out of the way, you might start to enjoy dating.

Online Dating Changed My Life

Around this time last year I decided to finally give online dating a chance after days, months and even years of deliberation. At the tender age of 43 I thought I was destined to be single forever, with a barely existent social life as well. I’m now over the moon that I stumbled across the world of online dating and specifically a mature dating website for singles which was perfect for my situation.

Early Life

From a young age I had always been driven by money and focused purely on my job week after week until before I knew it half my life seemed to pass by in a flash. Suddenly I took a step back for a minute to evaluate what I was doing with my life and what sort of future I would have if I carried on down this same path. I certainly wouldn’t say I had a midlife crisis but I quickly realised that there were other priorities ahead of work and money that life has to offer which I still hadn’t witnessed yet.

I began to panic thinking that it was too late but I had plenty of reassurance from my family, work colleagues and seeing it for myself on TV that age is just a number. There’s nothing stopping a 43 year old man like me doing the same as a 25 year old man (to a degree at least).

Change

In the blink of an eye I began to change my ways, starting with a healthier lifestyle by eating cleaner and joining a gym.  I have quite an obsessive personality so once I have my mind set on something I pretty much go all out with it. So thankfully, the gym and eating well soon became a routine which wasn’t too hard to maintain. But I also needed to start meeting and socialising with people too. I was so caught up and involved with my job that I missed out on making friends outside of work. The only people I spoke to looking back now were colleagues where almost all the conversation was work related.

I still struggled to find the time to meet new people even with my change in lifestyle. Even though I now set aside time for the gym I still didn’t really communicate with many people there. Most people in the gym have headphones in and are there purely for the health benefits, which to be fair is the main reason for their existence. It was difficult even finding a place where I would have a chance of finding a friend or partner, never mind then talking to them and getting to know them. I don’t really have any hobbies other than football but again that isn’t the ideal hobby to find a girlfriend in most cases.

Online Dating

At my age it isn’t easy to just go out and meet a woman in a bar or club. In all honestly, I feel like I would have been judged by younger people if I was out in the same places as them. That’s why I eventually gave in and tried the online dating scene. For some reason I had always been against online dating but I didn’t really have a valid reason as to why. I think it was a pride thing. I thought I was above it. Let me tell you now that online dating is not something to be ashamed about at all now that I have witnessed the immense benefits it brings. I wish I had done it earlier!

One night after yet another routine day at work, I decided to log back on to my laptop and started searching for dating websites. For the older generation more specifically since I didn’t want to attract people much younger than me and looking for much different things. I was looking to settle down, perhaps start a family, although the thought of actually admitting that was a little scary for me to comprehend. But that’s when I came across a website called YourMatureDating.com.

I decided to sign up that night since I thought there was nothing to lose and it was free to sign up. I browsed some of the profiles on the site and I have to be honest that I did see some very nice women that caught my eye immediately. But at this point I was still a bit skeptical about what I was doing. I logged off soon after that but I had got the ball rolling at least and had the right intentions to find a partner.

A few nights later I went back on and this time I messaged one of the women that I liked the look and sound of by her profile. She had amazing eyes that caught my attention because of the slight sparkle they had. Her interests too excited me. She pretty much seemed to have the exact same past I had, in that her work dictated her life.

Today

Two years on from that initial message and I am now engaged to her. I decided to propose recently and thankfully for me she said yes! Never in a million years did I expect to fall in love so quickly and find someone so amazing and so similar to me. I wanted to share my story so others in my position weren’t afraid to do the same as me. I am so thankful for online dating and I truly believe there are thousands of other stories just like mine out there too.

Today I am ecstatic with the way my life has panned out. From experiencing the ways of business and working hard for money to now looking to start a family I feel like I have been incredibly fortunate.