The possibilities of making the kinds of connections you want are very realistic, and many long lasting relationships and marriages have begun via online dating services, not to mention casual relationships as well if that is what you prefer. The possibilities are all right there and waiting for you, but there are a few key rules you need to know and follow in order to find your perfect date online. Download to learn The Golden Rules of Online Dating – 6 essential rules to finding the perfect online date!
It’s easy to dismiss stress as simply an unavoidable part of our lives. However, if you’re under too much strain, your health and general wellbeing can suffer. You might experience sleeping problems, have difficulty concentrating, feel irritable or anxious and suffer a loss of appetite. You might also be more likely to drink excessively and to act unreasonably. Stress can even trigger headaches, muscle pain and dizziness, and it’s a risk factor for high blood pressure. So, if you’re feeling under too much pressure, now could be the time to take action. Here are three common causes of stress in men, and some simple tips to help you ease the pressure.
Let’s face it, most men don’t like to talk about problems in the bedroom. However, sexual difficulties are much more common that you might think. It’s estimated that around one in ten men has a problem related to having sex, and erectile dysfunction is the most prevalent. It affects around 7-8% of men aged between 20 and 40, 11% of those aged 40 to 50 and 40% of the over 60s. There are a range of causes that can trigger this problem, both psychological and physical. There are also a variety of useful erectile dysfunction treatment options on offer. However, because of their reluctance to talk about these difficulties, men often fail to seek help. This can lead to a vicious cycle. Stress and anxiety about sexual problems can itself reduce men’s ability to perform, and the more negative experiences people have in the bedroom, the more anxious they become.
If you’re experiencing sexual difficulties, don’t simply hope they will go away. It’s important to be proactive. Firstly, try to establish the cause of your problems as this will help you to determine the best treatment. You might benefit from taking prescription-only erectile dysfunction medicines like Viagra. If you don’t want to visit your doctor to get these, you can seek a prescription from reputable websites such as onlinedoctor.lloydspharmacy.com. By taking action like this, you stand to lower your stress levels and improve your love life.
Pressure at work is another major cause of stress among guys. Excessive workloads, a lack of support from managers and bullying are among the most common triggers. There’s no denying the fact that it’s a competitive employment market out there, and you may feel under pressure to accept all the challenges thrown at you by your boss. However, bear in mind that by taking on too much, you may end up doing nothing well. By having the confidence to say ‘no’ sometimes, you can actually make yourself a more effective worker and you can lower your stress levels too.
It’s also important to try to find ways to resolve any problems you have with your managers or colleagues. A more harmonious workplace can do wonders to reduce anxiety.
Last but by no means least, money troubles are an all too common cause of stress. Difficulty balancing the books from month to month can really pile the pressure on guys, and spiralling debt is especially worrying. The threat of redundancy can also be a major concern.
To help limit the anxiety you feel as a result of your finances, try to deal with any problems early on rather than burying your head in the sand and simply hoping they’ll go away. For example, you might benefit from seeking professional advice on how to prioritise your debts.
By following tips like these, you should find it easier to keep your stress levels in check, which is good news for both your body and mind.
…At 73, Adeboye reveals secrets of his 47-year old marriage
WAY before he became a prominent pastor, Enoch Adejare Adeboye of The Redeemed Christian Church of God, RCCG, was a Mathematics lecturer at the University of Lagos and at a point, the University of Ilorin and he reminded everyone of that on Thursday, February 19, 2015.
Daddy G.O. as he is fondly called, who has been married for 47 years shared with the audience at the first annual lecture of Pastor E.A. Adeboye Professorial Chair for mathematics, the four simultaneous linear equations for successful marital life.
Pastor Adeboye supported each equation with relevant biblical verses as he told the audience at the main auditorium of the University of Lagos, UNILAG, that his understanding of the mathematics of marriage is what has kept his marriage strong.
“I told my children that why I have remained married for 47 years is because I understand the mathematics of marriage. Mathematics is a science of living,” he said.
His equation number 1, which states that ‘Love is blind’, was supported with a biblical passage from Proverbs 10:12, which states that love covers a multitude of sins.
Then he said the explanation for Equation number 2, ‘which is that “marriage is a miracle worker with special anointing for curing blindness”’ could be found in Genesis 29:16-25 which gives the account of how Jacob was so much in love that he did not know it was Leah that was given to him in marriage instead of Rachel until the next day.
When simultaneously calculated, he said the result shows that during courtship, love does not make shortcomings obvious until after marriage, when all doubts about character are cleared.
Moving on to Equation number 3, which states that “Angels don’t eat jollof rice”, he made reference to Judges 6:11-21 where the sacrifice Gideon offered to the angel was consumed by fire, while he said Equation number 4 is that angels don’t marry Matthew 22:30.
In essence, Pastor Adeboye explained that women eat jollof rice so they are not angels and are not perfect, just like men.
He advised couples to have reasonable expectations of their spouses and not expect them to be like angels.
Pastor Adeboye was the first Master’s and Ph.D student of Mathematics produced by the University of Lagos. The Apapa Family of the RCCG endowed the professorial chair in Mathematics, valued at N50 million at the university on his behalf in 2009.
The UNILAG Vice Chancellor, Prof. Rahamon Bello, announced at the lecture that the university would confer an honorary doctoral degree of science on Pastor Adeboye for his contribution to life and the growth of his church.
“In recognition of Pastor Adeboye’s contribution to life and the growth of the Redeemed Christian Church of God, the Senate of the University of Lagos has approved the award of a Doctor of Science (D.Sc) Honoris Causa to Pastor Adeboye. We look forward to the award will be bestowed on him officially,” he said.
Responding, Adeboye said he would accept the award with joy.
“While I have humbly rejected the awards of many universities, I will gladly accept that of the University of Lagos,” said the man of God.
Finding hobbies you can share as a couple helps make a relationship last. Whether you’ve just found each other or you’ve been together for years, if you’ve not gone metal detecting together yet you should! While it might not be the first “couples activity” that comes to mind, metal detecting together has a lot of benefits for a couple and can become an activity you enjoy together throughout your relationship whether you each have your own metal detector or not.
It doesn’t matter if you’re 18 or 80 – you can enjoy metal detecting. There are light weight machines, long handled shovels and more to help make this a pass time that’s comfortable and fun for everyone.
Heading outside together can take the pressure off a new relationship and can bring long-term couples even closer together. Since you can’t go metal detecting indoors, you can experience a range of outdoor settings together when you both head out to find treasure.
If you don’t go with your significant other, be sure to take a friend. Since you’re usually out exploring new terrain metal detecting is the safest using the buddy system.
By the nature of the way you use your metal detector you’ll definitely get some exercise. You’ll need to walk around nearly the entire time you’re searching for treasure. Plus you’ll use your arm muscles to swing the machine back and forth while you’re walking. And, you’ll end up doing some squats as you dig up your treasure onyour next date.
Once you have a metal detector (you only need one, although having two can be fun as well) and your metal detecting tools, you’re all set to have an affordable (read Free!) date any day of the week. In fact, metal detecting may even be one of the only date night activities where you could actually make some money instead of spend it.
Metal detecting with your partner can also boost your overall effectiveness by allowing you help each other with the metal detecting. After all, two heads are better than one! Working together you can –
The most exciting thing about metal detecting is discovering what’s underground and learning more about it’s history, and it’s worth once you’re back home. The only thing that’s more exciting than that is to find these unique treasures with someone you love.
As you’re out metal detecting together, you’ll have time to talk, discover more about each other, and find additional shared interests. Not only that, through metal detecting you may be led to other interests that are totally new to both of you that you can now explore together such as hiking, history, antiquing, coin collecting, gold panning, geocaching, gardening, and so much more.
Finding activities you can appreciate together is the foundation of any successful relationship. If you already have a passion for metal detecting, take your partner along with you next time. If you’ve never been metal detecting – try it with your partner. Whether it’s your first date or you’re just looking for something to do since the kids are gone, metal detecting is a perfect activity for any couple to enjoy together.
About the author: Michael Bernzweig manages MetalDetector.com in Southborough, MA. He has written extensively on the subject of metal detecting since the mid 1980’s. He has traveled world-wide in his pursuit of educating, exploring and advising others in the proper use of metal detectors. Outside of the business he enjoys mentoring students, being involved in the community and spending time with his family.
Health issues can strike men at any age and stage, but as you get older, you might find that you’re beset by an increasing number of medical problems. By the time you hit midlife, you may have a range of health complications. The important thing is to remember that you’re not alone. As the male body ages, it becomes more susceptible to an array of medical issues. Here are just a few of the more common ones, and some suggestions to help you tackle them.
Sexual problems of any kind can be embarrassing to talk about, and it’s easy to feel isolated and ashamed if you develop difficulties in the bedroom. However, these issues may be much more common than you realise. For example, it’s estimated that around half of men aged between 40 and 70 have erectile dysfunction (ED). This refers to the inability to get and maintain an erection.
Physical causes of ED can include a narrowing of the blood vessels to the penis, hormonal changes, surgery or injury. Meanwhile, psychological issues such as relationship problems, anxiety and depression can also result in ED. Fortunately, help is at hand. There are now medicines available that can give firmer and longer-lasting erections. For example, you can head to trusted websites like onlinedoctor.lloydspharmacy.com to request a prescription for Levitra. This works in a similar way to Viagra and Sildenafil, and when taken 30 to 60 minutes before sex, it can remain effective for around four to six hours.
These medicines can help to boost your confidence and they can prove effective at treating anxiety-related ED. However, bear in mind that they will not address any underlying medical causes like high blood pressure or diabetes. If you think your sexual problems have a physical basis, it’s important to seek information and advice from a medical professional.
In the UK alone, around 16 million people have high blood pressure (hypertension) and once you enter middle age, you are at an increased risk of this. After all, while the cause of most cases of hypertension is unknown, there a number of risk factors – and age is one of them. Other dangers include eating too much salt, not doing enough exercise, being overweight, drinking large amounts of alcohol and smoking.
If your blood pressure readings on separate occasions consistently come out at 140/90mmHg or above, you have hypertension. This is not something to ignore. Bear in mind that, if left untreated, high blood pressure can increase your chances of suffering a heart attack or stroke. In some cases, doctors recommend medication to help bring blood pressure under control. However, lifestyle changes can also lead to an improvement. For example, your doctor may advise you to lose weight, cut back on your salt and caffeine intake, stop smoking, reduce your alcohol consumption, exercise regularly and eat a healthy diet.
If you’ve noticed that your waistline has started to expand since you entered your midlife, you can rest assured you’re not alone. Unfortunately, it’s harder to stay trim as you get older. Between the ages of 30 and 40, people tend to experience changes in their metabolisms that predispose them to putting on extra weight. Also, lots of people find they do less exercise as they get older, often because they don’t have time to hit the gym or head out for a jog.
However, it’s important to make an effort to stay in shape. Health risks associated with obesity include type 2 diabetes, stroke, coronary heart disease and certain types of cancer. To help ensure you stay slim, it’s important to eat a healthy diet and to keep active.
Hi, I bring you a true life story of a marriage that lasted for only 5days. Not only that the marriage did not last, but one killed the other. The lesson therein is that maturity in marriage helps in reducing the chances of divorce. I was thirty when I got married but some people hold the opinion that marriage of couple younger than 25 can still flourish. Dear, read the true and touching story I present to you below and leave a comment.
An 18-year-old woman has allegedly killed her husband five days in what a neighbour described as a “forced marriage”.
The suspect, Rahma Hussaini, allegedly attacked the husband, 24-year-old Tijjani Basiru with a knife on Wednesday at Darmunawa quarters of Kano city. A neighbour, Isa Alhassan, told reporters that the young couple got married last Friday. “From what we heard the union was a product of forced marriage,” he said.
He said neighbours heard a frightening scream. “The man sounded like someone subdued man in need of rescue and we rushed to discovered that the man of the house was in his pool of his blood,” he said.
Neighbours took Basiru to Aminu Kano Teaching Hospital but he was confirmed dead on arrival by doctors. Hussaini was handed over to the police after the incident, which was confirmed by Magaji Musa Majia, the Kano police command spokesman.
“At about 10:00hrs one Rahma Hussaini of Darmunawa quarters stabbed her husband, one Tijjani M Basiru, on his stomach with a knife and was rushed to AKTH,” he said. He said the criminal investigation department (CID) team had taken over the case.
Love is an incredibly powerful emotion, even scientists can agree on that. But so called boffin wisdom goes on to insist that when we fall in love our bodies are aching and racing with hormones, adrenaline and pheromones – physical reactions driven by our oh-so smitten hearts.
Now wearing glasses doesn’t make me a scientist, so I’ll take their word for it. But after 26 blissful years with my husband, I can see why it’s way too easy for some people to undermine the very foundations of their loving relationship while innocently working their hardest to make it a long, strong, robust affair. Thankfully, we’ve always taken a different approach to ensure we build a relationship our hearts love which is why I want to share our secret with you.
You see, when you topple over the parapet and fall in love, you’re completely in tune with your heart. There’s no logic, no reason, no rhyme, nothing but your molecules communicating one on one with those of your heart’s true desire –the person with whom you’ll build a relationship your heart will love.
But then, disaster strikes. As human beings, all too often we go and screw it up!
Relationship mistake 101: having found our soulmate with our heart’s blind, raw emotion, we then try and build a relationship with our head’s logic, reason and rhyme.
Our hearts are immensely powerful, life-supporting bits of kit that only have two requests:
a) “Don’t clog me up by munching on too much fried cheese” – seems fair.
b) “Shut the brain up and let me do my job of ensuring you have a loving, committed relationship that lasts as long as I do” – seems a good deal, really.
If you want to build a relationship your heart will love, give it its head! That’s the secret.
And here’s the recipe…
A strong relationship that will endure anything and everything that it collides with in life relies on both partners being completely, wholly, totally open with each other. Sometimes, with the very best of intentions to keep from hurting the other’s feelings, it seems better not to say what we really mean – a nice sentiment, potentially. Unfairly though, all too often this leads to miscommunication which can pierce the hull of even the strongest relationship. ‘Open’ is strong because it says ‘I love you’ enough to tell you. Not being truly open and genuine will fall very short in the heart’s expectations. Only the real, heartfelt ‘you’ speaking is going to satisfy the positive emotions of a forever relationship.
There is categorically no room for dishonesty in a decent, loving relationship that has a future and no, I don’t need scientific data to back that up. Suspicion and insecurity will be rife when partners are deceitful or untruthful, even if this only happens a few times. The heart demands to know where it stands and any doubt will cause it to fall out of love very quickly. However, mutual trust built from honesty on both sides engenders feelings of security and commitment which is a better buttress to every heart than anything the Great Wall of China thinks it can show us about longevity.
Love isn’t blind – that’s just cliché nonsense. Love is priceless, not blind… loyalty on the other hand, oh now that’s wears a blacker blindfold than any knife thrower ever dared put on. Partners who build a relationship that’s truly loving and enduring are loyal beyond anything social customs, peer pressure or even authority could ever challenge. The person they fell totally in love with is still the one standing in front of them, five, ten, fifty years on. Hearts are strong, super strong but even they rely on the armor of loyalty for defense.
Want to see a heart leap higher for joy than it did when it first fell in love? Easy. Tell it that your love is forever. That’s it, right there, nothing difficult, no hoops to leap through, simple. A truly committed partner understands this is the cornerstone of a lasting relationship. Eliminating doubt that your heart will be held forever is the greatest possible freedom from loneliness and feeling incomplete. That’s going to let every heart take gold medal in the high jump, every time.
Seemingly strong relationships can fail on the track of love through the fierceness of competition between partners. Vying for dominance, recognition, even greater attention all seriously over challenge the heart which is way too busy trying to keep us upright, breathing and talking to be match fit enough to constantly beat an opponent who’s supposed to be a team mate – that’s so not going to happen, think about it. Truly regarding a partner as an equal in every area of life will build a stage where you both wear the crown, your heart will see to that. It will even make sure you’re super fit in the love stakes, now that’s a good deal.
Oh, life’s too busy. Way too busy, too filled with trying to get through the days, make enough money, put a roof over our heads, keep up with technology, blah, blah blah! And even though really decent, loving couples know that making time for each other is key to a lasting relationship, they can still fall short of satisfying the heart’s need for fun – pure, carefree, genuine fun. There’s no greater relationship stress buster, argument healer, love builder or memory maker than laughing and playing together. Fun is the ultimate detox than will keep a good relationship healthy forever. Seriously, you’ve got to go from the heart on this one.
Want to build a relationship your heart will love? Give it its head. I did and it gets better every single day.
Valentine’s Day is probably the most common day to be chosen by couples to when they’ll hold their wedding ceremony. And what’s even more fun in celebrating the wedding on a valentine’s day is having the utmost privilege to create a very romantic and sweet wedding style. Specifically, here are ideas on how to embrace a Valentine’s Day wedding style.
For the invitation cards, a heart, dove, butterfly or bell shaped card may be used for creativity. Add red and pink shades as well for the design in the card and use cursive font for the text. If you’re more innovative and want a cheaper way of publishing and distributing your invitation cards, use a digital one or an e-card. This is where you may even add your pictures together or a video as a teaser and invitation for the wedding to be sent through e-mail or shared in social networking sites.
Valentine’s Day is all about pink and red so you may opt to wear the usual white wedding gown with floral designs and diamonds while holding a bouquet of red roses. You may also clip a red rose on the side of your hair bun for a more passionate and romantic feel. Then let the bridesmaids wear pink or red dresses while the groomsmen may wear red bow ties or neckties.
A Valentine wedding would be perfect to be held at a warm and calm place like a beach or a garden. This is to accentuate the atmosphere of the bride and groom’s love and warmth for each other.
Light some scented candles with red or pink roses for the centerpiece of each table. Install warm lights or pink lights for a more Valentine’s Day ambiance. Put a red carpet for the entrance and exit of entourage as well and spread petals on the floor for a sweet dinner setting. You may also place heart shaped balloons for a dreamy feel in the wedding.
If you want diversity and a cooler wedding then you may choose upbeat songs to be played during dinner. This may set a lively mood to your guests for entertainment as well. But if you want to be more traditional, you may prepare a set of romantic and light music to be played in the background. You may also hire an orchestra or a jazz band and singer for a live music.
You would never go wrong in serving a fine dining set of food to your guests. Hire a restaurant that offers catering services with a menu that the attendees might like. For the dessert, chocolates and sweets are given so you may even provide a chocolate fountain where heart shaped marshmallows may be dipped.
The cake may be designed with flowers and hearts but you may also ask a cake shop to create a cake that is shaped and designed like a heart or any other significant symbol or item that is relevant to your relationship to be more unique. Red wine and pink cocktails may then be served to toast for the great event.
It’s Valentine’s Day and this is the perfect time to exchange some cheesy lines for the wedding vow. Share some memorable stories you’ve had with your partner and confirm your love for each other to be promised forever.
What better way to entertain the guests but to also prepare games where everyone may participate. For the singles, your wedding/Valentine’s Day may become the day they meet their future partners through the games like a match-making one. The invited couples should also take part by allowing the games to give more excitement to their relationship like testing their knowledge about each other or by asking them to reaffirm their love for each other.
Figurines are already quite old-fashioned and do not bring much happiness to guests. So decide on a souvenir that would both let the guests remember your wedding day and give them something useful for them. An idea is to give an item that is meaningful to your love relationship like an umbrella if you got to know your spouse-to-be on a rainy day. Then put a tag on the item to signify that it was the souvenir for the special occasion they attended. A box of chocolates will also do for a simple yet sweet remembrance for the guests.
Having the wedding on a Valentine’s Day is truly a common setup yet still a great idea for couples. Some may think it’s corny but wait until they experience and attend a romantic and inspiring occasion you’ll hold with these tips and styles. It will not only be a special day for you but also for the guests to realize the worth of celebrating the gift of love.
Julieane Hernandez is a freelance writer and a hotel and restaurant MANAGEMENTgraduate turned designer. She’s an advanced tri-athlete during weekends. She’s been in the industry for about 6 years now and She’s learned so much from all the experiences she’s been through. Follow her on twitter and google+ .
If you’ve just moved in together and trying to balance your relationship with work and household chores, it’s easy to get overwhelmed thinking about everything that needs to get done. But when it comes to ticking off all the items on your to-do list and still having enough time to relax with your partner, organisation is key. We’ve put together some handy household tips for couples that want to get things done on time.
If it’s not just yourself anymore, it’s important to keep track of everything – important dates, shopping lists, expenses and impending household chores. Planning doesn’t sound very exciting and spontaneous, but it will make
your life together a lot easier. If you’re planning ahead what you’re going to cook each week, you can do one big food shop a week, and you won’t have to argue about who is going to run to the shop when you realise you’re missing half the ingredients. And by sharing a calendar, you will always know what’s going on in your partner’s life too, never again missing an important job interview or their parents’ anniversary. Once you get into a routine, organisation will quickly become second nature to both of you and make living together a breeze.
Rather than calling the plumber or repair service every time something is broken, it’s a good idea to finally learn how to fix things yourself. After all, it’s not only just you who can put in the work but your partner too – running a household is a joint effort. For example, if you’re facing a blocked drain and are not sure how to unblock a sink, try a mixture of baking soda and vinegar to clear the drains and save the cost for a plumber. There are do-it-yourself solutions for almost every household issue. Learn how to make your own cleaning solutions with cupboard basics, and read up on how to pre-treat stains before a wash so you don’t have to get your clothes professionally cleaned every time you spill your wine. This might not sound very romantic at first, but it’ll save you money for that special date night in the long run and is definitely worth the effort.
If you live together, it’s easy to get stuck in a routine. Even if you see each other everyday, it’s important to occasionally take some time out and go away for a weekend so the two of you have time for each other outside of everyday chores and stress. Why not look out for cheap flights for a weekend city trip getaway? If you’re short on money, consider going on a glamping holiday with your partner. More affordable than a hotel, it combines the back to nature approach of camping with the comfort of indoors accommodation, and there are a great variety of destinations to choose from.
With New Year fast approaching, chances are life has gotten a little messy of late, what with all the excitement and seasonal get-togethers. It is also a time for fresh starts – including your love life. Whether it’s finding a new partner or reinvigorating your long-term relationship, change begins with tidying up your living space and scrubbing up your appearance. After all, a long year takes its toll on all of us, and facing the New Year is easier when you look and feel refreshed. This is the beginning of making an active change.
In general, actively seeking to look tidy and clean can affect your entire outlook and give you a positivity to carry you through the New Year. The Christmas break gives us all a little breathing space to make the changes we’d been planning to make all year but never got around to, like booking in a haircut or sprucing up our wardrobes. While none of things will actively make or break a relationship (that’s on you, we’re afraid) it can give you that boost of confidence you’ll need to approach a new interest or take the next step with your current partner.
You might also take some time to rethink your current look and make some changes. For example, 2014 was the year we reached ‘peak beard’ – and 2015 looks to be the year we’ll once again embrace the shaven visage. No one wants to be dismissed for a dodgy beard or told to remove it by a partner, so start the year by getting prepared. A good start for men would be to trim that beard into shape and face the upcoming year with neatened face fuzz, rather than a Mr Twit extravagance – after all you can always download a replacement beard from the Roald Dahl site if you really miss it.
Your surroundings will also play an important part on your outlook. A tidy living environment helps you keep a tidy and focused mind – and makes an immense difference to how your partner (or prospective partner) feels about spending time there. Plus, if you’re co-habiting, you probably already know how easy it is to bicker about even little household tasks, so a comprehensive tidying up session can actually do wonders for your relationship. Here are a few tips:
No relationship is based entirely on the state of your home or wardrobe, but by building up an all round strategy for self-improvement, you could start up or continue a relationships with renewed vigour – and face the new year with a lasting positive mind set.