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Relationship Tips For Women In The 21st Century

Modern relationships are hard, no doubt about that! It doesn’t matter if you’re dating a widower, a young man, or a mature gentleman, being a successful woman and maintaining a fulfilling love life is anything but easy. We live in a rather fast-paced modern society where there’s no time to stop and rethink your motives, ambitions, and actions. This lack of time is exactly what makes dating extremely hard for women. If by any chance you have the same problem, make sure to stick around and read these crucial tips that will help you sustain a successful relationship in this chaotic 21st Century.

Don’t Choose Your Career Over Love

Nowadays, a lot of young women are sacrificing their love life in order to pursue illustrious and lucrative careers. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a successful business career, but completely neglecting your love life can cause serious problems in the future. If you focus solely on your job, you will lose that all-important touch you need to have in order to be good at dating. Therefore, you need to find a perfect balance between your job and romance. Don’t neglect your partner, include him in your everyday activities and allow him to share the load with you. This way, you’ll be able to improve your position at work and maintain a functional relationship.

As we’ve already said, it’s perfectly normal to want a good job and a successful career, regardless of whether you’re a man or a woman. However, what most people fail to realize is that jobs come and go, but true love is once in a lifetime. Sure, everyone needs money in order to survive in the modern world and the only (legal) way to obtain it is by working, but what is life if you have no love in it? Think about it.

Be Honest, Be True, Be Yourself

We live in a cruel world where people love to judge other people based on their looks, clothing style, and music taste. It’s almost impossible to be yourself and be accepted at the same time. This is exactly why you must not care about other people’s opinions. You need to be brave, honest, and true! If you manage to do that, men will be all over you! A confident woman is an extremely sexy woman!

Here are two possible scenarios of what may happen if you’re being dishonest about yourself while dating someone. In the first one, your date eventually finds out that you have been pretending to be someone you’re not the entire time, gets utterly disappointed and shocked with you and most likely leaves immediately. In the second, the lies you tell about yourself stick from the beginning, not allowing you to completely relax while you’re with your partner, making your whole relationship with him a lie. Either way, it’s not good.

Don’t Be Afraid To Express Your Sexuality

Anyone can be sexy! However, not every woman has the courage to express her sexuality! If you want to have a successful love life and find/keep your man, you need learn how to access your sexiness. Don’t be afraid to show off your physical attributes in a classy and sophisticated way. Feel free to tickle their imagination with sassy and provocative remarks. Don’t hide your wild sexual drive, use it to attract potential partners or keep your current one.

Also, note that there is a fine line between “knowing how to carry what you were given” and overdoing it. Instead of hiding your sexuality, like we have mentioned above, make sure that everyone (not just your potential/current partner) realizes just how hot you can be. However, don’t exaggerate and overexpress your attributes, as it may make you come off as “trying too hard” or even as slutty. Don’t close up but also don’t let everything run wild – stay in balance, just like with everything else in life.

Learn How To Listen

This is one of the most important relationship tips for a modern woman. Most ladies today are not able to have an open conversation with a man. They’re trying so hard to keep up with this chaotic world of ours, that they forgot how to communicate with the opposite sex. Listening to your partner is the crucial aspect of every relationship. If you don’t listen to what he has to say, how do you expect him to listen to you? Slow down and truly listen to your man. You’ll see that being in a relationship is not that hard at all.

If we’re being completely honest here, men really do have a one-track mind. When he’s watching the game, that’s all he’s doing. When he’s listening to you, once again, that’s all he’s doing. This also means that when he’s talking to you and letting you know how he feels and what’s going through his head, you should probably listen carefully because you don’t know when it’s going to happen again and it can be hard to make him talk about that stuff if he doesn’t feel like it.

Think About the Future

Dating is mostly about what you do and say right now, however, the end results can vary quite a lot depending on what you’re looking for. That’s why it’s important that you keep your goals in mind, no matter how serious they might be. Some people want to hook up, others are looking for serious relationships – regardless of what your target is, always keep it in your sights.

This mostly refers to marriage and kids. If you don’t want to get married in the near future and you haven’t even thought about having kids, your potential partner should know that. Furthermore, you should not be forced into changing your mind or your priorities, no matter how much you may like the person you’re dating. Love should be unconditional, which means no conditions should apply neither to you nor your partner once your relationship begins.

Hooking Up From Message No.1 – How to Talk to Women on Tinder

Although Tinder is a fast-working app and lets you meet people online for various purposes, it’s not like you can just ask for a blowjob right off the bat and expect a girl to accept your offer. Hooking up with chicks via this app isn’t as complicated as trying to use it for dating, but you’ll still need a certain dose of know-how if you want to persuade any woman to hook up with you simply based on your chat with her.

1. Patience, Patience, Patience…

You know how they say that patience is a virtue? While it’s most certainly not a flaw, it will be very useful in case you’re talking up a girl on Tinder.

Most failures in these scenarios come from male impatience. Sure, you aren’t supposed to waste your time on a chick who obviously isn’t DTF (down to f***), but you shouldn’t rush ahead and give up or try to force a hookup if there’s real potential in a girl who really is DTF but is playing hard to get.

2. Talking is Key

If a girl you’re chatting with doesn’t agree to have a one night stand with you right away, it means not only that she isn’t an easy chick, but also that she wants to make sure that she can be safe around you and have a great time if she hooks up with you.

This is why it’s important that you talk to a girl about things which aren’t related to sex. We know it sounds like a waste of time because you aren’t trying to marry this woman, but it can be really productive if you manage to assure her that you’re a really fun guy who only wants to have casual sex with her – nothing more, nothing less.

3. Wait for the Green Light

Once you’ve approached a girl on Tinder tactically and while still giving off a gentleman vibe and you’ve managed to get her to accept your hookup invite, you should get a clear sign from her that “all systems are go.”

It’s not going to happen every time, even if you’re the most persuasive man on the planet. When it does happen, however, don’t jump the gun – wait to get a green light for her, which will be obvious and without any doubt if she’s really down for it. Otherwise, you’ve got nothing to look for there, so move on to the next chick.

4. Keep Your Cool

So, you’ve got the thumbs-up from her and you’re taking things off Tinder and into real life. This doesn’t mean that you should immediately suggest bumping uglies with her as soon as possible – instead, keep your cool and be a man about it.

If she wants to skip all pleasantries and move straight to the main course, you shouldn’t have any problems with that. But if she doesn’t says it herself, suggest that you meet for a drink first, because the most important thing is implied anyway. Why not be a gentleman while at it?

5. Honesty Above All

Let’s face it – hooking up is a pretty standard activity nowadays. Not only is it completely fine if you do it, but in some cases, it’s actually preferable if you just hook up with someone instead of entering a relationship with them. This is why it’s of critical importance that you’re always honest about your intentions and wishes.

Pretending like you’re looking for romance while your only goal is to have casual sex never leads to anything good. Sure, it might work as far as getting a person to sleep with you, but you can rest assured that your true goals will come to surface sooner or later – and when they do, all hell will brake loose.

Instead of that, why not just be straight up about what you want and why you’re even communicating with someone in the first place. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a hookup, so try to be honest about it when someone asks you “Why do you want to be with me?”

6. Don’t Give Up

Like we’ve mentioned before, patience is a virtue when it comes to hookups (or anything else in life, really). This doesn’t only apply to actual communication with someone you want to hook up with, but also to looking for those who would interested in such an activity.

Thanks to the advances of modern technology, there is more than one way to find a hookup in the XXI century. Instead of just going to a popular club or bar, you can now sit down in front of your computer and type in a bunch of things in order to find the perfect person for a hookup.

Nevertheless, rejection still exists, even on the internet. You might get shut down a dozen times or more before you come across a person who’s even remotely interested in hooking up with you. This is actually pretty normal, because with online dating came a much larger pool of potential relationship and hookup partners, which is why most people won’t stop until they find exactly what they’re looking for.

It’s really important to always remember that you shouldn’t give up. Even if you get rejected 20 times, you should still keep on looking because your perfect hookup might be just around the corner.

7. Manners Maketh Man… and Woman

Although a hookup isn’t exactly a real romantic relationship, that doesn’t mean you can do whatever you want and get away with it. Be polite and show that you care, because it might pay off in the future.

Instead of never calling or seeing a person you’ve just hooked up with after the fact, try and send them a message a few days later to check on how they’re doing and if they want to grab some coffee with you. This will help maintain that friendliness that all hookups imply and it might just turn casual sex into real romance – you never know.

 

9 Infidelity Myths Everyone Should Stop Believing In

When people find out about one person’s infidelity, they usually jump to conclusions and make all kinds of assumptions as to why people are having affairs. Infidelity has also been dramatized in different forms of media like films, demonizing and name-calling the adulterer. But have you ever thought about the underlying issues that made the cheater cheat in the first place? Will a cheater forever be a cheater? And who the heck cheats more often; the men or the women?

Though infidelity in relationships is something we shouldn’t condone, there are many common yet wrong beliefs about infidelity we should also stop believing in.

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6 Things To Do When You’re Madly In Love But Feel Incompatible

You like your coffee black, strong, and sugarfree. He doesn’t like coffee at all.

You’re an articulate writer. He’s a tech-savvy introvert who’s not good with words but with codes.

You speak your mind. He’s passive-aggressive.

Opposites attract and likes repel. But does this natural principle hold true when it comes to the matters of the heart? Clinical psychologist and journalist Vinita Mehta says, “It’s complicated.”

Every couple has incompatibilities. Every couple argues about the same things, like money, sex, kids, and the lack of time. We are all wired differently. It’s about how you manage those differences. It’s about not making your incompatibilities deal breakers.

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12 New Year’s Resolutions You and Your Partner Should Make This 2018

Can you believe it? In a span of a week, we’ll say adieu to 2017 and welcome 2018 with open arms. Have you prepared your annual “New Year’s Resolution” list yet?

Resolutions often get a bad rap but they work for you if you give your 100% in taking a leap and making significant changes in your life. And they say that two is better than one, so fulfilling these promises with your significant other can help you stick to your words, and hopefully strengthen your bond. Instead of “New Year, New Me,” how about “New Year, New Us”?

Have you thought about the changes you’d like to see? What are the positive differences you want to achieve as an individual and as a couple? What are the issues you have to talk about? And what are the ones you have to let go?

If you’re looking forward to another blissful year with your partner and you want to improve not just your bond but your individuality as well, here are some resolutions to list down and achieve.

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How to Improve Your Love Life in 5 Effective Steps

They say that when you’re single, the world is your oyster, and in many ways that’s true. There are plenty of advantages to being single, but at the end of the day, we’re all longing for that one person who will be everything. We want a friend, a confidant, a lover and someone around whom we can be our most authentic self. In today’s strange dating world you could be taking all the steps that seem right to you, but still fall short. Times have definitely changed, and in order to get to ‘the one’ there seem to be a lot more obstacles than before. Still, that’s not a reason to give up.

No, this is the time when you pick yourself up, even after the worst of experiences and try something new. You know the saying – you can’t do the same thing and expect different results. These five steps are probably something you haven’t tried before, and they are bound to get your love mojo back, whether you’re single and looking for love or already dating and searching for ways to improve a relationship.

Compromise with a twist

The general rule of thumb is that relationships are about compromise, and there is great truth to that. One of the biggest mistakes people make comes as a result of misinterpretation of the concept. While you should do things for the other person that aren’t exactly your cup of tea, such as for instance going hiking even though you’re not exactly outdoorsy, there is a fine line between compromise and accepting things that truly bother you. Certain types of behavior are unacceptable, they’re what we call deal-breakers, and when these arise, you need to have an open conversation with the person you’re dating and express your feelings.

If they are worthy and willing to make an effort for the sake of the relationship, they will change these habits. If not, your frustration will continue to increase. Sometimes being smart is knowing when to call it quits. For those who are single – try to see the potential in someone, and don’t discard a possible relationship as soon as you notice one flaw.

Know your worth

When you look back at your dating record, do you sometimes get the feeling that you’ve been dating the same guy over and over again? We all have a pattern, and when picking a certain type of person is one of yours, you need to put an end to it. This is where doing the same thing and expecting the same results resonates most true. If things aren’t working out and you keep dating, it’s because you’re constantly choosing virtually the same guy, and that guy is not the one for you. Step out of your comfort zone and realize that you deserve better.

As an experiment, just once go out with someone completely different from your usual type, and you’ll be pleasantly surprised at how refreshing this change could be. This next person might not be the one, even though you might be insanely attracted to them. Always be aware of that there is a battle of lust vs. love going on, and try to keep your head above the clouds and not get swept up by the first. Dip your feet in the water, date several different types, and ultimately you’ll find the one that truly fits. There are many things one should compromise on, but the choice of partner is not one of them. Always know your worth  and never settle for a treatment that leaves plenty to be desired.

No such thing as perfect

People are quick to notice the shortcomings of others, but quite reluctant to accept and acknowledge their own. If you’re the kind of person who always claims to be right, and whatever goes sour is someone else’s fault, you need to take a long hard look in the mirror and reexamine your own actions. Taking your share of the blame, whether for a bad date or a small fight that escalated, there are always two sides of the story. When in a fight, instead of instinctively placing the blame on the other person, step out of your body and listen to the words coming out of your own mouth and pay attention to your body language. Believe us, it takes two to tango.

In coupling and in singleness

You should never, ever stop improving yourself and lose sight of who you are. This isn’t only relevant for your love life, although it can be a great bonus. Never stop doing the things you love, chasing your passions, taking up hobbies – in short, never stop elevating yourself, culturally, spiritually, intellectually. Being the best possible version of yourself inevitably increases your sense of self-worth, and your positive and confident attitude as well as all the wonderful quirks and interests make you incredibly attractive. People pick up on that – the right people that is, so the more complete you are as a person, the more high-quality people you will attract. It applies to co-workers, friends and potential partners.

Out of want, not out of need

Never enter a relationship when you’re at your loneliest. That is when we are prone to accepting whatever little attention is given to us. Loneliness often leads to desperation, and that in turn can make you fall in the arms of a completely wrong person, simply because you needed a pair of hands to hold you. These kinds of relationships inevitably make you feel stuck and you end up resenting the person, thinking they’ve tricked you into being with them. Accept the loneliness, work on yourself, and when you realize that you want someone instead of desperately needing someone, you will be able to make much better choices.

Smartphones Don’t Ruin Relationships – Sick Phone Habits Do

A smartphone is a powerful invention designed to keep us connected, and it’s ironic how it also becomes the culprit for keeping most people apart. But the question is, should smartphones take all the blame?

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Three Steps To Resolving Conflicts Without Starting A Fight

Why do most relationship issues go unresolved? Because you hesitate to talk about them.
Why do you hesitate to talk about them? Because you don’t want to start a fight.
Why don’t you want to start a fight? Because you’re so worried that expressing anger will damage your relationship.
Why are you so worried that expressing anger will damage your relationship? Because the foundation you built was thin.
Why was the foundation thin? Because you leave most relationship issues unresolved.

It’s a cycle, a tiresome cycle many relationships fall into. It goes on and on, leaving two strangers walking on eggshells, constantly trying to avoid sparking negative emotions. We consider relationships where two people regularly swear at yell at each other unhealthy, but relationships, where two people are keeping issues under the rug to refrain from heated arguments, are just as terrible.

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Before The Wedding – 4 Ways to Make Your Long Distance Relationship Work for You

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It can be difficult for a relationship to work ordinarily, but it’s even tougher to make a long
distance relationship work sometimes. If you have a real connection though, there’s no need
to give up! I’ve got some great ways to make your long distance relationship work for you
even if you live far away from your significant other.

How to do Long Distance?

I’ll tell you right away that long distance doesn’t work for everyone, and these tips won’t
necessarily help every relationship. Long distance is difficult, but these tips can certainly give
you a fighting chance!

Make Commitments

It’s difficult to really commit yourself to a person who’s so far away, but in order to give your
relationship a chance, you’ve got to really go for it. First, you’ve got to accept that the
situation will be tough, and from there, you’ll be better able to really mentally prepare
yourself and work on how you respond to one another. As soon as you know that both of you
are really committed, you’ll be able to take it more seriously.
Once you make commitments, be sure to communicate to reaffirm them! You can make a
plan to talk or just go randomly using skype, chats, or texts. Just be sure to stay in contact.

Understanding

Make sure you understand each other. Agree to what you’re both getting into and the
situation in general, says wedding planner Martina from factory51.com.au. She’s met with
couples that have come from long distance relationships, and knows that the best way to
avoid jealousy, concern, and frustration is to understand one another.
That means that you’ve got to ask even those awkward questions, like if the relationship is
open, are you both dating, are you trying to make this work, or if you’re just testing the
waters. No matter what, be sure to stay on the same page.

Save Your Money

This might seem a little odd, but yes, you should save your money. A lot goes into long
distance, including gas charges, phone bills, bus tickets, rental cars, or even plane tickets,
so you’ve got to make sure you have some money to spend! Don’t let money prevent you
from this wonderful connection when you want to meet up and have some fun.

Keep the Fire Going

Long distance relationships, like any other relationships, need love and attraction. If you
want this to go anywhere, you have to keep things spicy! Keep your partner in your mind,
tell them what you love about them, have a little fun talking or showing some skin over
skype, and do whatever you can to stay familiar with one another.

It does sound like a lot of work, but it actually isn’t! People do this stuff normally in
relationships anyway, and if you want this relationship to work, you’ve got to put some effort
in it. With a little effort, you can definitely make your relationship last.

Conclusion

I know how difficult it can be to make a relationship work, especially a long distance one, but
it’s possible if you take a deep breath and follow some of these tips. Once you talk with one
another and reaffirm your commitments, you can find ways to move forward with trips, chats,
and new experiences. Don’t give up that connection if you’ve found it!

And before you start panning your wedding, and booking wedding venues etc etc, make sure you are in a healthy relationship.

Listen and understand your partner

The art of listening

More often than not, couples face the perils of communication blunders these days. Surrounded by devices, we rely too much on connectivity to get through and keep in touch with our beloved ones. The truth is that, however useful, digital communication can inevitably lead to detachment and despair: flat batteries, signal flaws, miscarried messages, mobile phones left behind, etc. These examples are as frequent as irritating and may put the stability of your relationship at risk. That’s why, you must always remain personal and encourage opportunities for face-to-face conversation so that the one you love feels understood and cared for.

Seizing all chances

It is essential to establish positive bonds with the people we love through different means. Some may prefer to hold hands and simply wander round a park, while others could choose eating out and having endless conversations over dinner.

Either on the phone, sitting side by side while driving, peacefully strolling on the beach or even walking your dog, simple occasions may open up a whole realm of communication lapses from which you and your partner will easily profit. Mutual understanding will pave the way for the pursuit of projects. Goals will be set in a state of common grounds that will entice how each person feels and increase his / her motivation.

Understanding yourself

We must give it more important to seek to understand ourselves, rather than to do it with our respective partners. In a relationship that we have with our partner it is better that we slow down for a while, and spend some time reflecting on our own needs and feelings

For you, in a way, to properly attune yourself to your needs and feelings, you should give more due attention to your bodily sensations. This allows you to identically identify what is happening to you internally so that you can express it openly to your partner. Anything however trivial or disturbing it may be worth mentioning, both you and your partner will benefit from it, and your partner will certainly thank you.

Understanding our partners requires a lot of patience on our part, requires that you do not express your opinion for an approximate range of time, without interrupting our partner, you have to be as if you are entirely in paused. You should give your partner all the attention that she or he deserves, do not interrupt him every moment to ask him or her some question that has begun to be formulated deep inside your mind while your partner has told you everything it needs to be told. It really costs a lot to dedicate to our significant other excessive attention, it requires a certain practice, yet it is extremely valuable, and you could consider it a kind of gift, a beautiful gift that you make to your partner: a gift that allows you to your partner be seen as they really are and for what they truly need.

Tackling criticism

It is never too late to start listening. Throughout long-term relationships, some people are constantly whining and will complain about everything related to their partner. This might shed light onto dissatisfaction or uneasiness for not being heard. When criticism sets its roots within two lovers, it is often hard to get over crisis and recover the fresher and simpler sensations of the old days. Needless to say, both the complained-about and the complainer suffer as the conflict becomes stronger.

We should be alert and keep in mind we must give a hearing to our partner showing that we respect his / her opinion and will endeavor to please them as much as we can. The exchange of personal points of view is nothing to fear, it can be nourished as a healthy habit so as to mutually collaborate and improve the quality of the relationship.

 

You have to pick the right time to talk to your partner

Sometimes you need to be listened to when you want to express something that troubles you. But maybe your partner can be busy with something else at the moment, such as: Watching the game, cooking dinner, trying to sleep, any work that you brought to your home, or simply not in the right frame of mind at that time. If you realize this, just be patient and shut up to tell your partner what you are worried about or at a later time. If it is something extremely important and you want to communicate it to your partner, you can ask: “Is there time available to be able to talk?” And depending on the response of your partner you can settle for the following two options. Talk about what is troubling you, or wait a reasonable time to do so. If you are the listener, no doubt your partner would appreciate the same.

 

The need to know your partner well

You must be observant and learn to know your partner in order to understand what you are trying to communicate. For this you need not only partially hear what your partner tells you, but develop a great listening ability for your partner. If what you do is usually just to hear, in reality what you are doing is worrying more about what happens inside you during the conversation, and what you are going to respond to. Instead, listening means caring about the person in front of you and trying to understand the situation that is happening. I assure you that developing the ability to listen is one of the best gifts you can give your partner.

The importance of showing empathy

It is important to give a sample of understanding to our partner, one has to get “deep inside the skin of the other” as it is said, doing this will be able to better understand the reasons behind our partner need to worry, what can really feel your partner, and the need to make your partner feel that we can take care of them and ourselves for that matter. It is not a question of wanting to take advantage of the weakness that our partner may feel, but to convey the message that one is able to put oneself in its place. So we will be generating in our partner empathy.

Avoid prejudging the message your partner is telling you

You should listen to what your partner wants to convey to you, without any interruption except for an important question or additional comment that has to do with the message you are letting him know. You should never interpret the message from “your” point of view, instead of the point of view that matters is that of your partner to let it know to you the message and therefore their point of view.

Don’t get carried away and don’t overreact

Either that which your partner is communicating is serious or you do not have to take into account how difficult it will doubtless have taken you to have gathered the courage to tell the message. You should be very clear about the perspective, that of your partner and yours; do not alter, you must be calm, you must let reason prevail over a fit of fury. You must speak in a softer tone, in a given case even loving and tender.

 

 

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Author byline: Article written by Martin, who is owner and writer of his Dating Website (www.russia-girls.net). He believes that online dating is great for connecting people from the whole world using new technologies. He enjoys learning about human relationship to improve and share his knowledge about online relationships.