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How to Handle Husband: 10 Easiest Ways to Handle

After the initial bliss of the wedding goes off, everything is set to get to the normal soon, and things started to get pretty tough. Dealing with an unhappy and difficult personality husband can be wretched. 70% of wives complain that their husbands are never satisfied with whatever they do, which lead 90% of these women towards some sort of mental issues. Hence, it is critical to know how to handle your husband for the sake of your own happiness.

There is a number of ways by which you can handle your husband and make him happy as well. However, it’s essential to understand that you need to do things in a way to let him notice and appreciate you. Make sure he knows that you are making an effort to make him happy so that he may reciprocate the hard work. This will also prevent him to lose interest in you.

Below are the ten easiest ways to handle him well.

1.    Show Him Respect

Always be respectful to him even if he is not respectful to you and make sure to show him that he is your first priority. Don’t ever degrade him in front of others. Take into consideration his views and feelings even if he may not agree with them, just give respect to his opinions. You surely respect him but don’t always say to his face, show it in meaningful ways.
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Michelle Jones, Creative Head at Academist Help believes that; Men just want to know that their better half respects him and their unhappiness often converted into anger when they feel like being disrespected by people around them.

2.    Show Interest in His Hobbies

Showing interest in his hobbies doesn’t mean you have to play basketball with his friends or to watch baseball with him all the time. You don’t have to take up his hobbies as yours; you just have to be aware of the things he likes. Suggest a camping magazine if he likes to camp or buys him a new badminton kit if you know he is going to love it. You can be interested without being involved.
2. Show Interest in His Hobbies

Respect his hobbies and interests and give him space to enjoy his hobbies and interests. If he wants to hit the racing track or rock out on guitar, go ahead and let him do it.

3.    Do Something Unexpected for Him

Pick his favorite bakery item or stop by a restaurant to pick up his favorite burger on the way to home. Give him a relaxing massage or even book a weekend together. You can also write small letters for him with the help of Australian Masters occasionally. It is not necessary that only a man should give surprises; you can also show small gestures of love and care to him.
Do Something Unexpected for Him

Be a dedicated wife and remind him of all the fun and live that made you both fall in love with each other by giving meaningful surprises. He will surely appreciate your gestures, so thrill him with something thoughtful and romantic.

4.    Be the Best Version of Yourself

Remember the time when you both were madly in love with each other. You both like the other one the way you were because you were the best version of yourself when with each other. Being at your best doesn’t mean you have to put up a front for your neighbors or act nasty.
Be the Best Version of Yourself

You don’t have to be someone else to impress him, Rome around the house in sweatpants or watch TV sitting on the couch; just be cheerful and courteous. Don’t hide your true self, have a strong sense of self-confidence to make him attracted to you.

 

5.    Let Things Go

If your husband has done something that hurt you and you have said that you have forgiven him, then just let it go and stop bringing it up. Don’t push buttons that lead both of you in irrelevant arguments.

Let Things Go

Also, don’t hang up about those things that may bother you and has done in the past. If you don’t like anything done by him, just say it instead of keeping grudges. Little things upset most and keep adding to your pile of annoyances. So don’t give them worth to get upset over them.

6.    Stop Trying to Change Him

You can groom him to be a better version of his self. However, that doesn’t mean you have to change him into a person he is not. Do look for things that are harmful such as; smoking, drinking, and drugs and make him leave those destructive habits.

Stop Trying to Change Him

Otherwise, there is no need to change him because you have married to him for the way he was so let him be the same. Challenge him to be the best version of his self. Let him be crazy but don’t try to change his basic nature, which will lead to conflicts.

7.    Be Understanding

Don’t freak out when he stays late for work or change a last-minute schedule. Be grateful that he is informing you in time. Don’t over-reactive if he missed the dinner again, take a deep breath and be understanding.

Stop Trying to Change Him

Don’t take things personally because he is stressed out in professional situations.

8.    Make a Comfortable Home

Pick the little things up and make your home a cozy place for your family. Make your home inviting for your husband when he gets back from work. You don’t have to spend a fortune to make it perfect, just a neat and tidy appearance will work.

Make a Comfortable Home

Let him unwind and share thoughts and responsibilities with him. Every smaller thing will impact hugely on your husband if you do it for him with love and care. It will make him happy knowing that you take time to make him the home a better place for living.

 

9.    Tell Him You Love Him

Women usually forget how vulnerable men are. Make sure to tell him that you love him more than anything else. It’s good to show your love with beautiful gestures; however, they want to get to listen to it from you sometimes.

Tell Him You Love Him

Tell him how much he means to you as they also want to be loved and feel valued. Keep reminding him how much he means to you and how much you want him.

10.          Lower Your Expectations

Don’t expect your life to be a fairytale. Your husband is going to mess up a lot, so be prepared and doesn’t expect a high-profile apology every time. Just understand that men are wired different and challenging than women in many ways.

Lower Your Expectations

He is not always going to do things that you want him to do. Hence, don’t let your expectations exceed your reality just because you are idealizing a romantic novel or a big fan of a movie.

Conclusion

Undoubtedly, small gestures and little efforts may not create a perfect ambiance every time, but it makes your relationship durable and lasting. Do the things that make your husband happy so it will be easier for you to handle him. Enjoy the roller coaster of marriage with the above ten ways and make the most of your time with him.

 

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Hey Men! These Are The 9 Things That Women Often Look In You!

Do you know what it takes to impress a lady? Is it the eyes that women find attractive or it’s the color of skin? Despite the years of studies, books, poems, romantic comedies that have tried to tackle the critical subject of what motivates opposite sex, men still fail to unlock the mysteries.

But, folks! Just because you will never figure out what precise goes inside women heads, doesn’t mean they can’t attract any women. Of course, every woman is different, but there are some common traits that they value in men. Here are some personality traits that can make women fall in love with you:Continue reading

Staying In For Date Night – And Doing It Right

Married couples who dedicate a date night together once a week are reportedly much happier in their relationship than those who don’t consider it so much of a priority. It is also reported that couples who prioritise date nights (and don’t talk about finances when they’re out) have a healthier and more substantive sex life. Therefore, when aiming to break up the mundane, how you spend your date night should always vary. Going for a bike ride and stopping in the park for a picnic of nice cheeses, crackers and wine on a beautiful day will definitely keep things fresh. Yet it’s also vitally important to mix it up and keep it interesting on the occasional date night in.

 

The Pleasures Of Cooking

 

22% of couples reportedly wish their partners would cook for them more often. When a couple spends quality time in the heart of the home, they’ll often engage in conversation, creating a unique connection that wouldn’t otherwise occur. The greatest triggers for evoking memories are taste and smell, so with a well planned evening, you’re bound to create some memorable experiences. If only one person is cooking and good conversation is stoked, you should learn more about each other than you’d otherwise know. If cooking together, you’ll have the added benefit of sharing your knowledge of cooking with each other.

Touching and sharing throughout will enrich the entire experience. Sampling the ingredients together and asking for input is not only romantic, but shares in the creation of the meal and breaks down boundaries. It’s always important to create an atmosphere of equality. If the dish is a winner and all your senses are satisfied and nourished, you’ll feel more closely connected, experiencing pleasure, and the person you’re cooking for will feel intimately cared for. 87% of couples feel cooking is one of the most relationship-strengthening activities at home. Like any aspect of a relationship, that meal is so much more than the food. It’s everything that builds up to it.

 

Setting The Mood

 

Get the ambience just right. Make sure your home is clean. Bring in some romantic lighting. Light scented candles throughout the room, choosing scents whose aromas will complement the smells of your cooking. Take your time and make the evening last. Keep it interesting. Put on soft romantic music you both like. Set the table nicely, and have an elegant hors-d’oeuvre spread. Consider starting with an appetiser of figs wrapped in prosciutto with a warm croissant and a nice brie. Have a lovely bottle of wine already opened. Treat your partner as if it was your first date and you’re really trying to impress. While cooking, stir up an interesting conversation. Share funny stories or experiences they might never have heard before, and they’ll likely reciprocate. You’ll learn more about each other. Find a fun or spicy trivia site online, and play some two-person trivia. The winner wins a backrub or a foot massage.

 

Plan Out Your Intermission

 

Once your cooking is at a good stopping point and everything is prepared, take a break and go for a brief walk through the neighbourhood. Watch the sunset together, and get your blood moving. Come back and share with your partner that art book you love that they’ve never seen. Or read that romantic poem you know. Whip up some truffle oil popcorn and watch a movie. Consider a documentary that’ll stir up conversation and get you both exchanging ideas. Or listen to a podcast or old time radio mystery. Both of these ideas are good for being able to pause, allowing you some snuggle time and physical interaction. Don’t be in a rush. The whole idea is spending quality time together so as every aspect of your relationship feels nourished.

 

The Decadent Main Course And The Joy Of Dessert

 

When it’s finally time for dinner, surprise your partner with steamed artichokes with a garlic goat-butter dipping sauce with a sprinkle of saffron on the top, and oysters on the side. Nothing’s better at breaking through barriers or inhibitions then indulging in sexy, messy food that forces you to take it slow and enjoy all the dish has to offer. After dinner, dive into ripe halved pomegranates and a plate of rich broken chocolate. Chocolate contains the same chemicals that your brain creates to induce a feeling of falling in love, and thereby triggers the release of endorphins. 

After your messy dinner and dessert, finish off the evening bathing together in a sparkling clean tub. Turn the lights off, and fill the bathroom with scented candles to keep that romantic atmosphere going. Nearly half of British couples spend more time together in the bath for conversation and catching up than over dinner. All the more reason to break up the routine and create some intimate memories that go beyond the everyday mundane. Share in intimate conversation with your partner. Keep learning, and keep asking, and keep sharing. In every regard, there should be consistency in showing that you care.

 

It’s no secret that couples have a strong need to understand one another and be understood. Casting any mind reading aside, certain things should be fairly obvious. Not taking your partner for granted and not being self-centric is a pretty basic start. Remember, everyone’s favourite subject is themselves. Focus on your partner’s favourite subject. Getting to know someone for the first time isn’t hard. The getting-to-know-you questions are simple, and it’s easy to feel as if you’re standing on firm ground. But once you’ve been in a relationship with someone for a while, you have to realise that there’s an entire universe within that person. Making an effort to continue to explore the depths of your partner will lead to opening new doors between you, and encourage continual growth together. This should be what every date night boils down to, from the very first date to this next Friday night.

Signs of Bullying In A Relationship and How To Deal With It

Over 1.5 million young people were bullied in 2018, according to a survey by Ditch The Label. While bullying is mostly a school problem, it happens in relationships; from teenage ones to married couples. The sad thing is, despite being in a seemingly happy relationship that even includes special dates with your partner, you may be a victim of bullying in your relationship and you don’t know it. The mental and physical health effects of bullying are diverse and long-lasting. That’s why it’s important to explore common signs to look out for and how to deal with bullying in a relationship.

Emotional Bullying

Relationships are supposed to be fun, interesting and generally happy. Planning great moments like movie nights and dates with your partner helps maintain that spark and is generally a good thing for both your lives. However, that does not have to be the sole indicator of a happy marriage or relationship. Other minor details that your partner intentionally does could be indicators of emotional bullying and understanding them is vital. Emotional bullying is hard to identify or admit to and is easily dismissed, especially if there are happy moments. If your partner is exhibiting the following 6 signs, then that is emotional abuse.

Interrupts All Conversations

No relationship is perfect, and that means you will not always see eye to eye with your partner. When disagreements occur, you should aim to solve conflicts through conversation and compromise. If you find that your partner is always interrupting you when you talk, then this is emotional bullying. If you cannot have a decent and productive conversation with a feasible solution, then you are being abused.

Accusations and Blame

“If you love me, you wouldn’t…” Sound familiar? You are being emotionally abused. At the end of the day, you are different people who will select different choices given the same chances. If your partner is always manipulating you using that statement, then that is a sign. Ending every relationship hiccup with tears is also an indicator.

Punishments and Vengeful Motives

Once you disagree and quarrel, the best thing to do is usually to bring it up later when you are both calm and apologize. But with emotional abusers, you will find this is not their default method. They seek to punish you for that mistake, however minor, by either ignoring your calls, hanging up or giving you the silent treatment. In extreme cases, revenge such as going out late, withholding sex, flirting with other people, or refusing to do house chores are common.

Threatens With Suicide or Divorce

When the two methods above do not work effectively, then an emotional abuser will threaten you, especially if you try to leave. If your partner always threatens to divorce you or commit suicide, then you are in an emotionally abusive relationship. Such people also bring up the past a lot during such episodes.

Unreasonable Demands

This mostly disguises itself as concern and love but lowkey infringes on your personal freedom. According to Dr Lisa Ferentz on Psychology Today, a partner who insists you spend all your free time with them, dress in a certain way or change certain things in your life is exploiting you emotionally. When you such signs, try to talk it over with your partner to see if it can change. Otherwise, seek counseling from experts.

Isolates You from Friends and Family

This sign of relationship abuse is one of the most extreme ones and usually, you will have gone through a couple of the ones above before you get here. It starts with wanting to spend all your time with them and slowly escalates to not spending time with anyone else. If your friends are complaining they don’t see you as much and it is not out of your choice, then please reevaluate your relationship.

Dealing With Emotional Abuse

Chances are you won’t know it is happening, but knowing signs to look out for can help. Once you spot any of these emotional abuse signs in your relationship, you need to have a deep conversation about it. If one of you is angry, try taking time to cool off before attempting a solution. Counselling, mediation or therapy should also be tried if you are both willing to get rid of the toxicity in the relationship. If it cannot be salvaged, then you might want to consider leaving before it escalates further.

Financial Bullying

This type of bullying happens in marriages, or with couples who are cohabiting. In some cases, it may be coupled with emotional abuse which makes it harder to spot in the instances it is not. The easiest indicator of financial bullying is you are restricted from using or earning money. Your partner may give you a monthly allowance and chastise you for overspending even by a dollar. You have to seek permission to carry out grocery shopping and necessities especially if your partner makes more money. Stay at home spouses are more likely to experience this.

Once you spot it, have a sit down with your partner and explain how you feel about it. Insist that you also make money decisions where the family is concerned. Making a family financial budget plan with an income and report should be a combined effort. On the allowance, both of you should have a reasonable allowance whose expenditure is fully transparent.

Physical Bullying

In 2018, over 2 million people were victims of domestic violence in the U.K according to the Office of National Statistics. Physical bullying is where your partner’s aggression escalates to a physical fight that actually leaves bruises on your body. It is critical to note that either gender can inflict physical harm regardless of their size. The earliest sign is usually hurling things all over the house during a disagreement. The anger is then directed at you and may extend to pets and kids.

Leaving may take a few tries but it can be done. The first thing to do is recognize it is happening and take a stand against it. You should then report it through a helpline if it is during one of those episodes. If not, seek out help, speak to someone about it and find an exit strategy. Be sure to protect the kids first if there are any and document the abuse interactions. It sounds dramatic but it will stand up both in family and child custody courts.

Bullying is never a one-time thing. If your partner is bullying you, expect more episodes of the same with an increasing frequency. Do not let it get to the physical bullying stage if you can. Otherwise, take steps to protect yourself out of that toxic relationship. Remember, bullying has a lasting effect on both your mental and physical health. Spotting the signs could save your life, literally.

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Top 20 Best Blogs for Marriage & Relationships

Whether you’re dating, engaged, or have been married longer than you were ever single, every couple will benefit when they put time, energy, and love into their relationship. That’s why we have scoured the internet looking for the best blogs on marriage and relationships to help you have the best love life possible.

We have picks from young couples, marriages with a Christian background, sexy advice blogs, licensed marriage therapists and more. No matter what you’re looking for, we’ve found it all!

Without further ado, here are 20 of the best blogs about marriage and relationships that are sure to keep your love life happy, healthy, and right on track.

  1. The Dating Divas

This website and blog focus on date night ideas, features freebies and printable activities for couples to share, hosts a marriage seminar, and helps couples’ bond closer together. There are so many benefits to having a regular date night with your spouse, and the dating divas are “saving marriages, one date at a time.”

  1. Marriage.com

Could the title be any clearer? This website focuses on all things marriage and relationships. Couples will find a myriad of helpful articles on dating, marriage, relationship troubles, couple entrepreneurship, and parenting to help them live their best life possible.

  1. Stay Married

It’s no secret that marriage isn’t always easy! Stay Married is a relationship-strengthening blog that contains resources for couples who want to stay married for the long haul. This blog has both helpful marriage articles and a relationship podcast.

  1. The Gottman Institute Blog

Relationship researchers may already be familiar with Dr. Gottman’s method of strengthening marriage through therapy based on the Sound Relationship House Theory. This researched-based blog talks about everything from renewing your vows to taking control of jealousy. This blog is definitely worth the read.

  1. Black and Married with Kids

This blog is the largest independent African American website about marriage and parenting available online. Run by Lamar and Ronnie Tyler, the two share the struggles and joys of maintaining a healthy marriage while parenting.

 

 

  1. Emotional Affair Journey

Infidelity, whether emotional or physical, is a huge part of why relationships fail. With the tagline “Follow our journey as we save our marriage after an emotional affair”, this is one marriage that doesn’t shy away from real problems in marriage.

  1. Lovepanky

Lovepanky boasts themselves as “Your guide to better love and relationships” and focuses on articles about sex, marriage, engagement, and keeping that spark alive.

  1. Married and Naked

From dealing with a partner who has a low sex drive to summer date night ideas, this advice website doesn’t shy away from married couples most asked questions!

  1. A Prioritized Marriage

A prioritized marriage reminds couples why it’s important to make their marriage their number one in life. This website has great articles that can bring couples closer together, such as couples bucket lists, marriage advice for newlyweds and more.

  1. Marriage Laboratory

First inspired by her sadness at seeing all the unhappy marriages around her, Celeste launched a blog called “A Thing Called Love” which has now turned into a Marriage Laboratory. This is a fun website that boasts itself as being “Love experiments for busy couples” and caters to the working couple looking to spend a little more quality time together.

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  1. Married and Young

Married and Young is a blog that speaks from the perspective of married Christian couple Jamal and Natasha Miller. They share advice with couples and singles about marriage, dating, and getting engaged.

 

  1. Love Truthfully

This website speaks to wives from the perspective of a newlywed and offers advice on sex, romance, pregnancy, couple’s travel and more.

  1. ADHD Marriage

Do you ever feel like you and your spouse simply cannot pay attention to each other? If so, this blog is for you. Melissa Orlov and Dr. Ned Hallowell share advice with couples about how to remain happy when one partner in the marriage has ADHD.

  1. Love and Marriage Blog

This blog began when its writer, Liz, got engaged to her now-husband. This blog is still going strong and details the everyday life of a working mother and parent.

  1. Marriage Confessions

This blog follows the realistic life of married wife Katie and Chris. They discuss everything from life and love, to what couples need to do when they stop actively listening to one another.

  1. Cosmopolitan

Could any list be complete without mentioning the fabulous Cosmopolitan magazine? This online mag is a one-stop shop for all thing’s marriage and relationships. From dating disaster stories, wedding planning, marital bliss, and an array of titillating and helpful sex advice, Cosmo has it all.

  1. Hot, Holy, Humorous

This online blog covers all things “Sex and Marriage by God’s Design”. Base on their tagline, this blog focuses on how to make Christian marriages thrive and explains the benefits that couples worship can have on a marriage.

  1. Marriage 365

Marriage 365 is a blog that covers serious topics about marriage. From learning how to deal with a self-centered spouse to providing practical tools and resources to create a connection with a partner, this website is truly devoted to helping couples.

  1. To Love, Honor, & Vacuum

From conflict resolution to intimacy, preparing for marriage to keeping the romance alive, To Love, Honor, & Vacuum is a blog dedicated to all things marriage. This website also offers couple’s fun online courses about how to deepen emotional intimacy and how to boost your libido for a healthier marriage.

  1. Refine Us

This website is run by Christian couple Justine and Trisha Davis and helps couples to recognize warning signs to look out for in marriage. This couple stresses on the need for honesty and transparency in marriage and have even written a book devoted to helping couples worldwide.

Are there any couples out there who couldn’t benefit from a little refining? Couples can benefit tremendously from reading the advice found at any one of these fantastic marriage and relationship blogs.

 

 

Guess What? Cuddling Can Solve Your Intimacy Problems With Your Partner.

Cuddle is an effective way to increase intimacy

Close physical contact or simple word people call it cuddle. Cuddle is an intimate method where couples put both of their arms around their partner and hold them in a very loving way. Usually cuddle is being done in bed or on the couch while watching Netflix or movies (a.k.a. Netflix and chill).

Most people confuse it with hugging, from my experience hugging is more towards for friends and relatives even though it gives the same benefit as cuddle. However, cuddling is more intimate than just a hug and often can lead to sex.

Cuddle is one of the most effective ways to shows affection and to get close with your partner. Cuddle also an alternative way for deeply intimate things to do besides sex. It sounds a bit tedious but just snuggled on the bed or on the couch and share some stories to light up the mood. It’s simple and more intimate than you could ever think.

It can deepen your relationships

To those couples who’s strayed away from their intimacy and need a sprinkle of magic, then cuddle is the simplest ways to increase intimacy.

Couple nowadays having a hard time managing their time for themselves and career become one of the major problems in relationships. Especially in the current fast-paced and ever-changing world. When it comes to working it’s so stressful even when you came home and your job becomes your number one priority. This can take a negative toll on your relationship.

Instead of initiate your partner wanting to have sex, cuddle is one of the ways that can break you away from this stressful life. Cuddle also can deepen your relationships by sharing each other days and what has been stressing them in their daily life. This event can turn into a more understanding relationship and a long-lasting relationship.

It brings lot’s of benefit

The release of oxytocin (love hormone) not only can increase your intimacy it also can strengthen your trust and relationships. Other than that, this love hormone can reduce stress and anxiety, meaning that it can increases your mental well-being as well. Oxytocin also gives a good vibe for your relationships by stimulates your thinking into a more positive way.

Based on Women Heath, while we curled up in our partner arms, it releases some goods hormone such as dopamine and serotine which it will help to boost up your mood and makes you feel better.

Cuddle can also lead to sex because sex releases the same hormone called oxytocin. According to an Archives Sexual Behaviour, couples who cuddled after sex reported having higher sexual satisfaction and higher relationship satisfaction.

Cuddle can slow heart rate and lower our blood pressure by touching will trigger our nerve to stimulate it. Embrace your loved ones more often it’s good for your health.

Cuddle not only does improve the physical relationship with your partner, but it can also even boost your immune system. According to a study published by Sage Journals, over 400 healthy adults were exposed to a virus that caused the common cold and were monitored by the researchers. Those who received hugs and supports shown less severe sign of the illnesses than those who did not receive it.

In addition to that, cuddle does have an impact on ones with anxiety. According to a report done by the National Centre for Biotechnology Information, during the act of cuddling or even hand-holding does release a hormone called oxytocin. This hormone has been proven in the lab and the real world to reduce anxiety and stress.

Cuddle can be a great alternative to sex especially to those who have hypertension or high blood pressure as it can reduce blood pressure based on the study published by Biology-Psychology. The release of oxytocin can be linked to lower blood pressure in premenopausal women. Other than that, the heart rate of the participants is lower compared to those who have not been hug or cuddle in the study.

In another study conducted by the School of Medicine at the University of North Carolina, the group that does not cuddle and do not have a physical interaction have a higher heart rate and have double of the heart reading of the group that cuddle.

Cuddle can be a pain reliever based on the research conducted at the Max Planck Institute for Medical Research, have discovered a fascinating thing with the cuddle hormone can do. It can reduce the pain and act as a painkiller.

Single? No worries here solutions for you

If you are still single and have no one you can cuddle with you, don’t worry, you can substitute it with a hug. The previous study shows that a hug can have the same benefits as the above mentioned about cuddle and you don’t need a significant other to hug. You can hug your parent, siblings, and friends and you can even hug strangers on the streets.

For those you have social anxiety or don’t have a close friend or don’t have a family (they are deceased or far away), you could cuddle with your pets. According to Takefumi Kikusui of Azabu University in Japan as he explained that the participants that cuddle with their pets have increased in oxytocin level.

Conclusion

In today face pace and ever-changing world, it’s easy to sacrifice intimacy and hard to find time to relax and recharge. Cuddling helps you do both and stay connected with your loved ones. Who doesn’t love nestling into their partner arms.

Laying down on your partner chest is one of the best moments you ever had and listening to their heartbeat is one of our favorite sounds. To those who want to spice thing up in their relationship, cuddle is a good starter for it. If cuddle can’t satisfy you there are plenty of ways here alternative ways for you to spice up your love life.

So, what are you waiting for? Hug, snuggle, kiss and stroke every chance you can get with your partner. It’s good for your body and soul.

Before You Cohabit: Let’s Talk Logistics, Legalities, and Finances

3.3 million households in the UK consist of cohabiting couples based on the Office of National Statistics. Cohabitation is something that has been historically controversial especially because of religious reasons and societal expectations. Yet it is now one of the fastest growing household types as more couples are moving in together for different reasons like cutting costs or taking things “to the next step”. It goes without saying that moving in with a romantic partner is a big deal and should warrant consideration especially when you are not just factoring feelings into the mix. 

Cohabiting Logistics

A lot of couples who decide to move in together can get swept away with the high of taking their relationship to the next level. They end up forgetting that they need to approach this with both feet firmly planted on the ground. Logistics plays a huge part when it comes to deciding where the couple is going to live. Potential living situations can get pretty complicated when each person has their own flat or home. Not everyone is willing to give up the space that they have worked to maintain themselves so opening up your space can be a daunting undertaking. Not to mention that it is something that involves a significant amount of planning.

It’s a conversation that you and your significant other will have to tackle early on. It is best to figure out who is moving in with whom or if getting specialised housing is necessary. Think about how the move will affect your commutes to work and if you need to sell or donate any possessions to make space for joint belongings. Consider what to do about re-routing mail to your new place. Talking about these points and many more will help give both of you a stronger idea of the logistics involved with moving in together. Strong communication will also lessen the likelihood of a cohabitation breakdown as found by University College London.

Legal Ramifications

It seems that two-thirds of cohabiting couples in the UK erroneously believe in the existence of common-law marriage as found through a survey by Resolution. Despite having a lengthy or fruitful cohabitation, the couple does not have the same rights as a legally married couple would have. Each person must be aware of their rights before they enter into a cohabiting situation. This is particularly significant when one moves into the home of another. Even if the one who moved in helps to pay the mortgage, they will have no legal claim to it.

It is ideal to explore the legalities of your decision before you go through with it. For example, you can see if drawing up a cohabitation agreement before moving in is an option. Having a frank discussion about your legal expectations about sharing a mortgage or buying things for the shared home is crucial. If you are going to rent a property from a private landlord, it is vital to clarify whose name will be on the lease. Try to see if it is possible to jointly sign on a lease so you both share equal responsibility and thus share equal rights to the rental.

Never forget that the contract with the landlord will have legal ramifications if either of you breaches it or terminates it offhand because of a breakup. Let’s say you spend several unmarried decades with each other and one of you passes. Unless there is a document that says you stand to inherit, you will have no legal rights to it. It would be wise to consult with a solicitor before moving in together so you’ll know what you’re entitled to.

Financial Smarts

Disagreements about money are one of the common roots of breakups in couples both married and unmarried. You can even say that things are harder for unmarried couples precisely because they are mostly unprotected by the law. When you move in with someone, you ultimately agree to shoulder your partner emotionally, psychologically, and – yes – financially. That is, of course, unless you both have a drawn up contract that protects your individual financial interests.

Money matters often involve finding out who pays for what expense in the household. There are those that take a percentile approach toward dividing the bills. There are those that consider the earning power of each person. Only then do they pick which financial responsibilities are theirs. If your partner is going to open up an account under their name, you will have no claim to that and the same applies to them when it comes to your finances. It is of fundamental importance to clarify how the couple is to approach any financial responsibilities in the future.

Seeking a financial set-up that both individuals are comfortable with is the goal of talking about money. While aiming to split everything 50/50 might seem ideal, it does not leave much leeway. It’s not until the couple moves in together that they get a firm idea of how much their lover spends on hobbies and other unnecessary expenses. It is unreasonable to ask a significant other to pay for half when consumption and personal expenses are not evenly split. A good idea is to avoid dealing in absolutes when it comes to money figures. Also, don’t forget to be flexible.

Look To Your Future

Right now it would not be surprising if the couple feels like they are for keeps. Naturally, that’s how a majority of couples who have just brought up moving in together feel. The truth of the matter is there really is no telling what sort of future they will have individually and as a couple. That is why it is critical for each to cast a safety net for their own individual interests. Talking about legalities and finances may not be the most romantic topic to discuss but it is necessary in order to lay a strong foundation for the two people in that very relationship. If these are topics that you cannot broach to your partner at this time, it is important to ask yourself if this is a decision that you are still comfortable on making.

 

How to Plan the Perfect Proposal

So you’re ready to take the next step, but have no idea where to start? Proposing is a daunting task that can be very scary. What ring do I pick out? Where do I take my partner? What do I say? Those are just some of the questions that are racing through your brain now that you’ve decided to get down on one knee. Even though it seems like there is a lot to do, it will be much simpler than you think! Just let your passion and love for your special someone guide you to make the right choices.

Engagement Ring

The engagement ring is the first place to start. There are no rules for proposing. You should spend what is in your budget and whatever will make your partner happy. But what ring do you choose? The first step is metals. Take a look at the jewelry your fiance-to-be loves to wear. Is it gold or silver? This is very crucial because most people will have a preference for one or the other. They will want to wear their engagement ring every day so it’s important to pick out a metal that goes with their normal jewelry. If there is more gold tones, then get a gold band. The same thing goes for silver!

pear shaped diamond engagement ring

The stones are the next big part of an engagement ring. There are quite a variety to choose from and this really depends on your significant other’s personal style. Diamonds are the classic choice which can come in many colors and sizes. No matter the color or size, the 4 things you need to know about diamonds are cut, color, clarity, and carat. The cut  affects the sparkle of the diamond so it’s the most important! Color only refers to white diamonds because they can range from a dull yellow to a brilliant white. A diamond’s clarity refers to the amount of tiny imperfections on its surface. This is not noticeable to the naked eye. Carat is the weight of a diamond. If a smaller diamond is cut well, then the carat will not matter as much!

Another option is unique stones like sapphires or opal. If your fiance-to-be has a unique style, then this may be a great idea! To get a feel for if they would be interested in a gemstone engagement ring or not, ask their opinion on Princess Kate’s ring or a friend’s. Your partner’s reactions to those will help you decide what to get. Many jewelers, including Blue Nile, offer an assortment of engagement rings from diamonds to gemstones, allowing you to find the ring of your fiance’s dreams.

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6 ways to save a relationship before it falls apart

How many failed relationships do you have behind you? Why did they fail? Could any of them be saved? Relationships break all the time. Sometimes it’s difficult to break up, and sometimes we are so sick and tired of everything that a break-up comes as a sort of relief. Still, if you are in a relationship you care about, you probably don’t want it to end. So, what can you do if you’ve hit a rough patch? Here are suggestions.

1. Remind yourselves that your relationship is important

After you’ve been in a relationship for a while, the excitement wears off. Your partner isn’t something new and exciting in your life, but something that’s been around for a while, and is not as thrilling anymore. Your relationship may become a source of frustration, and you may start thinking that it’s simply not worth it. Now is the time to stop and re-evaluate everything. Why do you love your partner? What are some of their great characteristics that make them an important part of your life? Do they make you a better person? Just thinking about this can be enough for you to realize that you’ve been taking them for granted, and gain a fresh perspective on your relationship.

2. Learn to communicate

Communication is one of the most important things in any relationship, romantic or otherwise. You need to be able to clearly say what you want, and what you won’t stand for. That’s the easy part. The tricky part is choosing your words and timing. If you think that your partner drinks too much, don’t say so when they’re already drunk. Wait for them to start thinking clearly once again, and speak to them calmly and rationally about the problem. Do not make the conversation about them, make it about the problem.

3. Make your relationship a priority

You and your partner need to admit that your relationship is facing a difficult period. Once you do, you can consciously make working on it a priority. You can skip your cocktail night with the girl in order to spend a bit more time with your significant other. He doesn’t have to watch the game if you need emotional support because you’re going through a rough patch at work, or having a family crisis. Both of you need to make a conscious effort to rediscover each other as your support system, romantic partner, and best friend.

4. Spend time together

Find some activities you like doing together. Are you both into golf? Head straight to Swing Eagle and get some lessons together. Always wanted to learn a new language? Find a language school and start learning French or Spanish. Find something you both enjoy, and spend some meaningful time together. It will strengthen your bond and it will prevent you from thinking that your time together is spent on just being together, without any other benefit. Don’t overdo it, though. You shouldn’t feel like your significant other is invading every single aspect of your life, which leads us to our next point.

5. Set boundaries

You need to set boundaries. That means telling your partner clearly that you need some time for yourself. You probably don’t want your partner present at every girls’ or boys’ night, and you need to communicate that sentiment clearly. Maybe you just need some me-time, and it is absolutely within your rights to say so. Of course, you need to respect your partner’s boundaries as well. It’s not healthy to let your life revolve around a single person. It makes you feel dependent and weak. You simply need to make a point of having a fulfilled life on your own, and then you can commit to a healthy relationship.

6. Forgive each other

To forgive is to leave all the negative emotions behind and move on. True forgiveness will let you forget the painful memories and focus on the future of your relationship. If you continue to linger on hurtful memories you will only prolong the agony. Achieving a peaceful and harmonious relationship is going to require a lot of hard work and dedication. It is a continuous process and both of you will have to show each other that you care and that you are willing to give it your all.

7. Ask people who have made it

Talk to your friends and family. Ask them if they have ever been through a similar situation. Even though what you are going through might be different, you will still learn a lot from their experience. Every story might give you a different perspective on what ails you and possibly an unique way of saving your relationship. You can also be encouraged by stories of others, once you realize that people whose relationships were in a much worse spot are still living happily together, you might feel that your problems are not as bad as you have initially thought.

8. Have sex

Sex is a very important aspect of a relationship. It is also usually the first thing to disappear if there is something wrong. It brings you and your partner closer, and it makes your bond stronger. Therefore, you need to keep your sex life alive, even when it’s inconvenient. If you have children, let them spend a weekend at their grandparents’ house, so you and your partner can spend some alone time. Find a way to make things work.

9. Show them how much you want this means to you

Be open about your emotions. Don’t close yourself off because this will only make your partner feel more insecure. Openly tell them you love them. This will help you reestablish the trust you lost. Once you become more open about your emotions and your commitment, you`ll come to a point where all the burden you have been carrying is just going to disappear. You will feel more relaxed and more willing to invest even more in your relationship. Also, don`t hesitate to show them love by buying an awesome and unique gift.

Like all things in life, relationships require some work. Some challenges will be more difficult than others and sometimes you will fail to do your part. Never forget that everything is not always perfect, but if you try, you can definitely save your relationship.

 

Office romance: The Good, The Bad and The Ugly

Office romance is not the taboo it used to be. We are spending more and more time at work, so it’s only natural to start developing feelings for some of your co-workers. Still, in most cases, an office romance is not really such a great idea. Sure, there are some great upsides to it, but there are also many dangerous downsides. Let’s take a look at all the aspects of an office romance – the good, the bad, and the ugly.

1. The Good

Obviously, there are some genuinely good things about an office romance, and they’re the ones we’re going to talk about first.

It’s convenient

Most of us spend the biggest amount of our time at work, surrounded by our colleagues. When you see someone all the time and you spend a lot of time together, starting an office romance may be very tempting. This is especially true if you know them well and you have plenty of things in common. Dating a co-worker makes planning easier, as you probably won’t have to go out of your way to adapt your schedules to accommodate the needs of your new relationship. And well, when you’re meeting for drinks after work, you don’t have to go through the trouble of setting a time and place.

Your partner understands your job-related frustrations and achievements

Who better to understand your job-related frustrations and worries than your colleague? If you’re dating a person who works with you, they have first-hand knowledge of the situation in the workplace. They know if your boss is unfair, or if your clients were especially difficult that day. This makes it easier to sympathize with you, which makes for a better relationship.

It’s easier and safer than going “out there”

Many people feel that dating can sometimes be dangerous. If you go out with a person you’ve just met, you’re risking all kinds of things. You don’t know their character; they can be violent or have a problem with sudden mood swings. They can be criminals or other shady characters, or they can simply be weirdoes. Because of all of this, the majority of people find it safer to date someone they already know – for example, a person with whom they spend 40 hours a week.

2. The Bad

Unfortunately, there are many downsides as well.

The gossip

If you get into a relationship with a colleague, sooner or later people will notice, and you’ll become the subject of gossip. It’s unavoidable. Even though many people enjoy gossip, and for those who don’t, there are ways to deal with it, nobody really likes being put in the spotlight in such a way. Furthermore, a relationship can easily be jeopardized in its early stages if too many people start meddling.

A possibility of reduced performance

Even if you don’t mean to work less, chances are that you will. And the fact is that your co-workers will notice as well. If you stop to chat on your way to the bathroom or if your lunch breaks start lasting 10 minutes longer than before, other people at work will think that you’re slacking off. Of course, you may continue to do your job with the same or even increased efficiency – if you’re seen changing your habits to accommodate your relationship, you’ll provoke negative attitudes in your co-workers.

If it doesn’t work out…

Finally, if it doesn’t work out, your ex is still your colleague, and you have to see them every day. It can cause a very difficult situation at work, especially if one of you didn’t want the relationship to end. Imagine spending 40 hours a week working with a person who broke your heart. Not nice, right? Even worse, if the tension between the two of you is too high, it can even cause problems for other people, and one or both of you can lose your job.

3. The Ugly

In the very worst of cases, there can be some downright nasty consequences of an office romance.

Harassment claims

So, it didn’t work out, you broke up, and you thought that that was it. And then you get a call from the HR, and you hear that your ex claims that you harassed him or her before or after the breakup. This happens more often if you are in a superior position in the company compared to your ex. Now this is a tricky business and you should be aware that your job is on the line, so you should seek professional help. Find a good law office, such as Stevenson Business Lawyers, and make sure your rights (and your job) are protected

Power dynamics

If one of you is the other’s boss, your relationship has just become more complicated. If you are in a lower position, be ready to face the distrust of your co-workers. From the moment they find out about your relationship, they’ll assume that any recognition you get at work is because of that relationship, even if it’s well-deserved. If you are in a higher position, you may start to question your partner, because it may cross your mind that they are simply taking advantage of you. Furthermore, there are usually rules in place for such cases, so tread lightly and make sure you understand the consequences of your relationship.

Potential embarrassment and drama

When you work with a person, how much do you really know about their personal life? Imagine if your new boyfriend or girlfriend is actually in a committed relationship that you know nothing about. Now imagine their partner storming into office and start calling you names and stirring drama. It’s embarrassing, it can cause your co-workers to lose respect for you, and it can even cost you your job. Or what happens if you find out that your new partner has been sleeping around with several colleagues? There are many disaster scenarios, but they all end in tension in the best case or losing your job in the worst.

Even though an office romance has some benefits, usually it’s a bad idea. Of course, if your co-worker if your soul-mate, you should go for it. However, if they’re not, it’s simply not worth the risk.

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