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Is Your Relationship Healthy?

Balance

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It’s incredibly important to have the right balance in your relationship. By this I mean balancing the time you spend with your partner, your family and other friends. Spending all your time with your partner can be unhealthy. You’ll become in danger of potentially getting bored of them and you might start noticing the little things that bother you.

Don’t get me wrong, it’s great to spend time with the person you love but you’ll learn to appreciate them even more when you’re away from them from time to time.

Arguments

Some people think that if you have an argument with your partner then it isn’t a healthy and solid relationship. Let’s be realistic though, it’s probably the opposite. Unless you happen to

be very fortunate and never have misunderstandings or falling outs then it’s only natural to have arguments now and then. It’s certainly a better idea than bottling up all of your thoughts and not sharing your concerns with your partner.

Speaking from personal experience it’s far more beneficial to be honest with your partner, even if it’s over the smallest things. You’ll then learn for future situations what buttons are the wrong ones to press!

Love

This might sound daft but it’s an incredibly common occurrence in this day and age. The question is are you still in love with your partner? A lot of relationships are built on a solid foundation over time. However, some couples think they have to remain together purely on the basis that they have shared a lot of time together. But if the spark has gone, no one is benefiting from staying with each other for the sake of it. I’m certainly not insinuating you should get up and go when times get hard but it’s something worth contemplating if you’re not happy the majority of the time you spend together.

Online Dating Changed My Life

Around this time last year I decided to finally give online dating a chance after days, months and even years of deliberation. At the tender age of 43 I thought I was destined to be single forever, with a barely existent social life as well. I’m now over the moon that I stumbled across the world of online dating and specifically a mature dating website for singles which was perfect for my situation.

Early Life

From a young age I had always been driven by money and focused purely on my job week after week until before I knew it half my life seemed to pass by in a flash. Suddenly I took a step back for a minute to evaluate what I was doing with my life and what sort of future I would have if I carried on down this same path. I certainly wouldn’t say I had a midlife crisis but I quickly realised that there were other priorities ahead of work and money that life has to offer which I still hadn’t witnessed yet.

I began to panic thinking that it was too late but I had plenty of reassurance from my family, work colleagues and seeing it for myself on TV that age is just a number. There’s nothing stopping a 43 year old man like me doing the same as a 25 year old man (to a degree at least).

Change

In the blink of an eye I began to change my ways, starting with a healthier lifestyle by eating cleaner and joining a gym.  I have quite an obsessive personality so once I have my mind set on something I pretty much go all out with it. So thankfully, the gym and eating well soon became a routine which wasn’t too hard to maintain. But I also needed to start meeting and socialising with people too. I was so caught up and involved with my job that I missed out on making friends outside of work. The only people I spoke to looking back now were colleagues where almost all the conversation was work related.

I still struggled to find the time to meet new people even with my change in lifestyle. Even though I now set aside time for the gym I still didn’t really communicate with many people there. Most people in the gym have headphones in and are there purely for the health benefits, which to be fair is the main reason for their existence. It was difficult even finding a place where I would have a chance of finding a friend or partner, never mind then talking to them and getting to know them. I don’t really have any hobbies other than football but again that isn’t the ideal hobby to find a girlfriend in most cases.

Online Dating

At my age it isn’t easy to just go out and meet a woman in a bar or club. In all honestly, I feel like I would have been judged by younger people if I was out in the same places as them. That’s why I eventually gave in and tried the online dating scene. For some reason I had always been against online dating but I didn’t really have a valid reason as to why. I think it was a pride thing. I thought I was above it. Let me tell you now that online dating is not something to be ashamed about at all now that I have witnessed the immense benefits it brings. I wish I had done it earlier!

One night after yet another routine day at work, I decided to log back on to my laptop and started searching for dating websites. For the older generation more specifically since I didn’t want to attract people much younger than me and looking for much different things. I was looking to settle down, perhaps start a family, although the thought of actually admitting that was a little scary for me to comprehend. But that’s when I came across a website called YourMatureDating.com.

I decided to sign up that night since I thought there was nothing to lose and it was free to sign up. I browsed some of the profiles on the site and I have to be honest that I did see some very nice women that caught my eye immediately. But at this point I was still a bit skeptical about what I was doing. I logged off soon after that but I had got the ball rolling at least and had the right intentions to find a partner.

A few nights later I went back on and this time I messaged one of the women that I liked the look and sound of by her profile. She had amazing eyes that caught my attention because of the slight sparkle they had. Her interests too excited me. She pretty much seemed to have the exact same past I had, in that her work dictated her life.

Today

Two years on from that initial message and I am now engaged to her. I decided to propose recently and thankfully for me she said yes! Never in a million years did I expect to fall in love so quickly and find someone so amazing and so similar to me. I wanted to share my story so others in my position weren’t afraid to do the same as me. I am so thankful for online dating and I truly believe there are thousands of other stories just like mine out there too.

Today I am ecstatic with the way my life has panned out. From experiencing the ways of business and working hard for money to now looking to start a family I feel like I have been incredibly fortunate.

Four Truths About Marriage Every Unhappy Couple Should Digest

Nobody hopes to end up in a bad marriage. Every individual who yearns to love and be loved wants a marriage that lasts a lifetime – to grow old in love with one another until mortality parts them.

But things change through the course of the relationship. People change. Priorities change. Feelings change. Some marriages which are built with a solid foundation stand the test, while some eventually crumble like a house of cards. Some people part ways and move on upon recognizing it cannot be fixed, while some people decide to stay in an unhappy marriage, still hoping.

Do you find yourself stuck in an unhappy marriage? Don’t get me wrong – the lack of happiness and intimacy isn’t uncommon in romantic relationships. But if the cause of unhappiness is beyond repair and you feel like you’re wasting your time in a relationship that’s no longer working, maybe it’s time to face these four truths.

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How Technology Transforms the Dating Area

Casual, Simple and Harmless Flirtation

If potential wooers were to ponder some of the greatest, technological developments that have revolutionized the dating world over the past few centuries, they would primarily mention the genius invention of the automobile. This marvelous progression was first forged in 1886 and obviously replaced animal-drafted carriages for a more pleasant and efficient dating experience. Not too soon after followed the first black and white film in 1888 and obviously the actual movie theater to view these motion pictures in 1895, which created the ideal atmosphere to enjoy a passionate evening with a possible suitor, hand in hand.

Nonetheless, upon the dawn of “Generation Z” in 2001, mobile and wireless technology suffered a massive “boom,” completely altering the fashion in which people converse, get to know each other and meet up without the necessity of face-to-face courtship at first hand. Text messages, free messenger systems like WhatsApp and other online social networks like Facebook have stolen and flooded the limelight of our dating world (from America to Europe). Interestingly enough, now potential suitors have the ability to transmit “smooth talk” immediately without the nerve wrecking delay of a hand-written response via snail mail. Additionally, with the overall casualness of a text message, possible admirers could conquer their “prey” with a higher level of confidence and less initial pressure.

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5 Science-Backed Benefits Of Holding Hands With Your Partner

We often go to the extremes when we talk about spicing up a quite bland relationship. We think about taking a day off and escaping to a romantic getaway with our partner or sneak time to bring up the heat in bed. Oftentimes, we tend to overlook the simple things that can ignite relationships – and the solution may be found right at your fingertips. Literally.

Yes, the simplest act of holding your partner’s hand can create a deeper connection and stir an instant intimacy between the two of you. Humans are creatures of comfort, and there’s a scientific reason why you reach for your partner’s hand when you get upset, scared, or needy of attention. No matter what technique you use, whether it’s interlocking fingers or cupping palms over the other’s, we all know how good it feels to fit your hand into your loved ones.

The simple and sweet gesture has the power to affect your brain and physical well-being, which also positively impacts your relationship. Backed by science, here are some of the benefits of holding hands that will make you want to reach for your partner’s hands right now.

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Must Read Engagement Ring Facts

Are you about to pop the question? Here’s what you need to know about engagement rings.

The engagement ring is an ever-present reminder of the time you got engaged to the love of your life. It is a symbol of love and represents the bond you share with your partner.

Now, the average cost of an engagement ranges anywhere from $1000 to $6000. So picking up the right engagement ring requires some taught and research.  If your future wife is choosing it herself, half the job is done. But if you are going to surprise your special one with a sparkling engagement ring and go down on your keen to pop the question, finding the best possible ring should be your top priority.

Every year big, reputable jewelry brands design stunning rings. Luckily for you, there are thousands to choose from. Make sure that you question her friends before purchasing the ring, they might know her style better than you do! Here, we have collected 20 facts about engagement rings to help you with your buying decision. A big decision to make because this is going to be the purchase that lasts for a lifetime. A purchase that’s going to cost you a large sum of money!

 

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This infographic was researched and designed by Elena from www.americantungsten.com – rings for him

This Is How Couples In Happy and Healthy Relationships Fight

“We never fight,” said no couple ever.

Every couple has gone through tough times and heated arguments, including the sweetest and happiest ones. However, these couples may argue in a different manner.

Fights, for couples in healthy relationships, are meant to build a stronger bond, not ruin it. They see their quarrels as nothing but clearing up issues and addressing differences, not winning over the other and take pride from it. Even the purpose of why they yell at each other is centered on love.Continue reading

How Can Jealousy Ruin Your Marital Life – Jealousy in Marriage

How Can Jealousy Ruin Your Marital Life – Jealousy in Marriage

Have you ever seen an award show of Hollywood film industry, if yes then you must saw the nominations, which are based on a number of actors but finally an anchor revealed the name of the award winner? All the other actors’ applause for who wins the award, but one face from particular award nomination not seemed to be happy and often show some negative facial expression against the winner. This particular feeling is known as the jealousy.  So, it does not mean that it only belongs to the actors from the film fraternity, it also belongs to the all of the characters belongs to the world. So, in short, it can be anyone who is jealous of someone. Continue reading

Relationship Toxic

6 “Normal” Habits That Can Turn A Relationship Toxic

No relationship is perfect. No matter how healthy and happy a couple’s relationship is, fighting is still inevitable. However, disagreements in healthy relationships are way different from the ones in toxic relationships.

Toxic habits are suffocating, demeaning, and full of a bunch of unnecessary drama. What’s more dangerous is the fact that most people think they are normal, and this may keep people from distinguishing that there’s something wrong in the relationship that they need to address.Continue reading

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11 Romantic Habits Couples In Happiest Marriages Have

I do not believe in forever but I do believe in love and the possibility of keeping a marriage happy for a lifetime.

I have seen it. I have seen how my grandparents kept their love strong and healthy for more than 50 years. I have seen the subtle acts of caring, like preparing each other’s coffee and biscuits together every morning and rubbing essential oils on each other’s legs when rheumatism strikes. Continue reading

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