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“We never fight,” said no couple ever.
Every couple has gone through tough times and heated arguments, including the sweetest and happiest ones. However, these couples may argue in a different manner.
Fights, for couples in healthy relationships, are meant to build a stronger bond, not ruin it. They see their quarrels as nothing but clearing up issues and addressing differences, not winning over the other and take pride from it. Even the purpose of why they yell at each other is centered on love.
Ever wondered how couples in happy relationships and marriages fight? Here are the eight things they do and don’t do.
1. Smart couples don’t run from fights
They face them.
Couples in healthy relationships communicate openly and do not make the other guess what’s on their mind. They talk about the things that bother them and are not afraid to tackle big, deep topics, like “what if I still don’t want to have kids?” They discuss things and try to resolve conflicts and differences before they head to bed so the issues won’t be brought up in the future. They don’t hang up in the middle of a heated argument or cut their partner out.
Some big, “taboo” topics seem to be better off hidden under the rug but when they are left unaddressed, they could turn into a giant pile of dirt. They lead to an unnecessary drama which could have been avoided in the first place.
2. They give and take
I’m not saying that happy couples remain calm and steady during arguments and say “you forgot to wash the dishes again” in monotone. Nobody’s perfect. They raise voices. They even swear. But they surely know how to communicate and take turns.
They know the value of giving and taking – you talk, I listen; I talk, you listen. They try to understand both sides of the story, and respond in the most respective way instead of overlapping voices, trying to fight back and win over the other.
3. They acknowledge the other’s point of view or feelings
No matter how irrational they may be. Couples in healthy relationships try to fit in the other person’s shoes and acknowledge where they are coming from. They do their best to see the other side of the argument and are not focused solely on their own side of the story.
4. They don’t lower themselves to name-calling
Okay, some couples tease each other with silly names for fun. For some, it’s their way of showing they are comfortable with each other. But when it comes to arguments, name-calling may lead to dirty fighting.
Happy couples don’t lower themselves to using abusive and insulting language no matter how heated things get. They know that every single thing the other person says should be taken seriously, and it’s hard to take back the impact of the hurtful sarcasm.
Smart couples don’t make quick accusations or jump to conclusions without knowing the whole story. Trust is such a strong word. With this, they don’t easily believe all the information from a third party. In these situations, people in healthy relationships choose to quiet their insecurities and doubts, listen and try to give their partner the benefit of the doubt.
6. They cool down
When things get out of hand, couples in successful relationships know how to cool down and take some time out to clear one’s mind off. They have mastered self-soothing tricks, like eating or resting, to ensure that they could think and respond to the issue more effectively. They also make sure they aren’t just hungry before they yell at each other.
7. They know how to apologize and forgive
“Sorry” and “apology accepted” – these are two powerful terms we shouldn’t take for granted and say for the sole purpose of getting over with an exhausting argument. We should mean every damn letter. Healthy couples know how to apologize and forgive, and when it’s all settled, it’s done.
That’s why they don’t bring up past arguments. Issues, that are talked about and resolved in the past, have no place in a present argument to be used against the other.
8. They never forget that they’re a team
It’s not about mine, or yours; it’s about ours.
Even in the midst of an intense quarrel, happy couples never forget that they’re on the same team. They have the same goal – to have a mutually beneficial resolution, and they work toward achieving that common goal. More than anything else, they want their relationship to work and grow stronger.
Carmina Natividad is one of the writers for The Relationship Room, a couples psychology institution specializing in relationship counseling and therapies for couples and families. When she’s not using her pen in writing self-help articles focused on love, dating, and relationships, she spends her time creating poems and screenplays, painting, and making music.
Have you ever seen an award show of Hollywood film industry, if yes then you must saw the nominations, which are based on a number of actors but finally an anchor revealed the name of the award winner? All the other actors’ applause for who wins the award, but one face from particular award nomination not seemed to be happy and often show some negative facial expression against the winner. This particular feeling is known as the jealousy. So, it does not mean that it only belongs to the actors from the film fraternity, it also belongs to the all of the characters belongs to the world. So, in short, it can be anyone who is jealous of someone. So, jealousy is not a bad thing, while you are in a healthy competition, it boost you up in order to prove yourself a better sportsman, better employee, and better competitor, but it will be bad if this stuff falls in some particular category like in relationship of husband and wife girlfriend or boyfriend then it will cost you heavily. We all have issues sometimes, mostly spouses used to of regularly tracking their husband’s movements and communications. Husbands mostly want to hide some very normal things from his partner because of her suspicious behavior and because if she comes to know things it could be turned into fights. Sometimes the lack of trust and the suspicious behavior of your partner lead a couple to on the brink of failure. All the problems if any couple is facing in their relationship are just because of the disease of jealousy.
An Irish writer Elizabeth Bowen once wrote that “a jealousy is nothing but it is a type of feeling of being alone against the smiling enemies” this statement is telling clearly that a state in which a person perceive that all others are happy, joyful and secretly mocking while on the other hand we are lonely and seems to be fooled.
What actually drive jealousy?
So, what actually drive us towards jealousy and make us suffer, is it always just because of smiling enemies? Or something else is contributing as well. We all have some sort of insecurities like a wife has insecurities regarding her husband’s bold secretary and a husband has insecurity regarding her wife that maybe she had a boyfriend in her college days and she is still in contact with your wife. These sorts of imaginable characters we all have in our minds. Fear is the closest form of jealousy, let’s suppose that someone has a competition with their other colleagues in an office, there would be one single particular character whom you think that he might give you a tough time. So if you have a fear being lost from that particular person will drive you in a state of jealousy. So, fear has the closest relationship with the term jealousy.
Jealousy can ruin a marriage:
It is the very obvious thing, that when a couple doesn’t have an understanding and trust in each other and having a lot of love, that type of relationship cannot remain longer. When a husband or wife has a suspicious mind and he or she always try to spying on each other activities then there would be a number of possibilities that the relationship or marriage will remain no longer. It happens because you might think that your husband has relationship with other women’s too, and may be husband think that her wife is very beautiful and innocent and her boss taking more interest in your wife affairs all these things are indicating the factor of being jealous. Your partner may be ignoring your childish things because he or she knows you are the one who cares the most about him or her. If you are going to make a habit of being suspicious then your partner may realize that you should not remain in a relationship, so jealousy is the very harmful disease for the relationship or can ruin your marital life.
Jealousy in marriage:
It is not normal while having jealousy being a married person; there are many factors that can trigger anyone of being jealous. It can cause by many factors like someone have unrealistic expectations from their male or female partners, or having a misunderstood sense of ownership of your spouse, are anyone has experience of betrayal from their loved one, insecurity, poor self-image and scary version of losing anyone or a desire to control their partner. All of these factors in marriage may affect your marital status and your marriage can turn into the breaking of your relationship with your partner.
Can jealousy be overcome?
Yes, by applying positive rules and regulations a couple can be overcome with jealousy. Self-awareness and better understanding are very helpful for a healthy marriage life. A couple should follow few steps then there will be major possibilities to overcome from the curse of jealousy.
Jealousy is a curse and it is better to avoid from this suicidal disease, being jealous you can only put harm to yourself and your partner if you are in a relationship or you are married person. Building a healthy relationship is only depends on the level of trust you have made in your relationship. Remove all the fear and scary version you have just try to face if something is really getting worse in your life. Jealousy is not an option, dealing with it is a solution and removing it from your life is the only decision you have to make.
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