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How Can Jealousy Ruin Your Marital Life – Jealousy in Marriage

Have you ever seen an award show of Hollywood film industry, if yes then you must saw the nominations, which are based on a number of actors but finally an anchor revealed the name of the award winner? All the other actors’ applause for who wins the award, but one face from particular award nomination not seemed to be happy and often show some negative facial expression against the winner. This particular feeling is known as the jealousy.  So, it does not mean that it only belongs to the actors from the film fraternity, it also belongs to the all of the characters belongs to the world. So, in short, it can be anyone who is jealous of someone. So, jealousy is not a bad thing, while you are in a healthy competition, it boost you up in order to prove yourself a better sportsman, better employee, and better competitor, but it will be bad if this stuff falls in some particular category like in relationship of husband and wife girlfriend or boyfriend then it will cost you heavily.  We all have issues sometimes, mostly spouses used to of regularly tracking their husband’s movements and communications. Husbands mostly want to hide some very normal things from his partner because of her suspicious behavior and because if she comes to know things it could be turned into fights. Sometimes the lack of trust and the suspicious behavior of your partner lead a couple to on the brink of failure.  All the problems if any couple is facing in their relationship are just because of the disease of jealousy.

An Irish writer Elizabeth Bowen once wrote that “a jealousy is nothing but it is a type of feeling of being alone against the smiling enemies” this statement is telling clearly that a state in which a person perceive that all others are happy, joyful and secretly mocking while on the other hand we are lonely and seems to be fooled.

What actually drive jealousy?

So, what actually drive us towards jealousy and make us suffer, is it always just because of smiling enemies? Or something else is contributing as well. We all have some sort of insecurities like a wife has insecurities regarding her husband’s bold secretary and a husband has insecurity regarding her wife that maybe she had a boyfriend in her college days and she is still in contact with your wife.  These sorts of imaginable characters we all have in our minds. Fear is the closest form of jealousy, let’s suppose that someone has a competition with their other colleagues in an office, there would be one single particular character whom you think that he might give you a tough time. So if you have a fear being lost from that particular person will drive you in a state of jealousy. So, fear has the closest relationship with the term jealousy.

Jealousy can ruin a marriage:

It is the very obvious thing, that when a couple doesn’t have an understanding and trust in each other and having a lot of love, that type of relationship cannot remain longer. When a husband or wife has a suspicious mind and he or she always try to spying on each other activities then there would be a number of possibilities that the relationship or marriage will remain no longer. It happens because you might think that your husband has relationship with other women’s too, and may be husband think that her wife is very beautiful and innocent and her boss taking more interest in your wife affairs all these things are indicating the factor of being jealous.  Your partner may be ignoring your childish things because he or she knows you are the one who cares the most about him or her.  If you are going to make a habit of being suspicious then your partner may realize that you should not remain in a relationship, so jealousy is the very harmful disease for the relationship or can ruin your marital life.

Jealousy in marriage:

It is not normal while having jealousy being a married person; there are many factors that can trigger anyone of being jealous. It can cause by many factors like someone have unrealistic expectations from their male or female partners, or having a misunderstood sense of ownership of your spouse, are anyone has experience of betrayal from their loved one, insecurity, poor self-image and scary version of losing anyone or a desire to control their partner. All of these factors in marriage may affect your marital status and your marriage can turn into the breaking of your relationship with your partner.

Can jealousy be overcome?

Yes, by applying positive rules and regulations a couple can be overcome with jealousy. Self-awareness and better understanding are very helpful for a healthy marriage life. A couple should follow few steps then there will be major possibilities to overcome from the curse of jealousy.

  • A person who is insecure or jealous from anything or from a person knows that he or she is jealous or scared, so first, you need to admit that you are jealous and you are the one who is making problems in your marriage.
  • If a person has any issue regarding anything he or she should discuss with your partner that that is the main reason of my jealousy, your partner will automatically take care of all the problems you have and he or she will boost your trust level.
  • When you are making plans to monitor your partner, you are making a big mistake share your insecurities and problems but don’t spy your partner.
  • Counseling is the best thing to do if you are facing the problem of being jealous.
  • Always remember that everyone has the freedom to do anything, so don’t go for controlling your loved one if he or she us yours then he or she will come back for you.
  • Once you married to someone make some rules to follow in order to remove any sort of misconception.

Conclusion:

Jealousy is a curse and it is better to avoid from this suicidal disease, being jealous you can only put harm to yourself and your partner if you are in a relationship or you are married person. Building a healthy relationship is only depends on the level of trust you have made in your relationship. Remove all the fear and scary version you have just try to face if something is really getting worse in your life. Jealousy is not an option, dealing with it is a solution and removing it from your life is the only decision you have to make.

Online Dating Tips

Dating Tips for Successful Dating

Dating is when two individuals interact socially with the intention of checking compatibility for a long term association. Dating may lead to marriage or it could be a casual association. Dating entails two strangers getting to know each other better.

In earlier times, individuals met each other at social gatherings, parties, churches, schools, colleges, workplace, pubs, etc. Nowadays, people are preferring online methods for dating. Whether one is looking for a long term relationship or a casual fling, there are sites which cater to different needs.Continue reading

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11 Romantic Habits Couples In Happiest Marriages Have

I do not believe in forever but I do believe in love and the possibility of keeping a marriage happy for a lifetime.

I have seen it. I have seen how my grandparents kept their love strong and healthy for more than 50 years. I have seen the subtle acts of caring, like preparing each other’s coffee and biscuits together every morning and rubbing essential oils on each other’s legs when rheumatism strikes. Continue reading

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5 style mistakes to avoid on a first date

Ahhhh, the agony and the ecstasy of the first date! While we all hope we’ll have a safe turn to Loverville straight after the first kiss, things may go unpredicted with even the slightest mistake.

One of the things we always obsess over is the outfit we’ll wear, right? That one outfit that will knock him dead, make him go weak in the knees. Continue reading

6 things not to do during sex

6 things not to do during sex ? Plus a bonus gift!

You read the attractive man, perhaps followed a seduction coaching. You came to develop a healthy lifestyle, and you are in your sneakers. You link the meetings, and you’re finally powered pole position with the girl that YOU want!

Once you have had your first date, a second. Then comes the moment when you offer him to the last drink at home around this delicious wine that you spoke to him during the evening.Continue reading

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Advice from an Ex-Girlfriend that You Shouldn’t Miss

It’s been awhile since I saw him. When was the last time? Was it when we broke up? Was it when we tried to straighten things out last Christmas? Was it when he visited me? Or was it when I tried to check his Facebook profile? I can’t remember anymore. Good sign! I’m almost over him.Continue reading

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Jungles of Botswana – get a honeymoon that most people only ever get to dream about

Honeymooning the jungles of Botswana is a once in a lifetime opportunity for many newlyweds. Blessed with several of the world’s finest landscapes and safari experiences, this outstanding African country packs the most surreal wildlife. Avid travelers should know that there are more elephants here than anywhere in Africa; the territories are jam-packed with big cats, wild dogs, rhinos and aquatic antelopes. If you’re looking for an unusual honeymoon experience that screams adventure, Botswana is the answer.Continue reading

Perfect Birthday Gifts for Your Girlfriend

Perfect Birthday Gifts for Your Girlfriend

Let’s face it: buying a birthday present for your girlfriend can be really stressful, especially if you’re not that good at catching hints of what she would want to get. It’s often confusing and nerve-wrecking, and you just want to make her happy and show appreciation through a thoughtfully picked gift. Here are some ideas for the perfect birthday gift. Prepare to see her warm and gentle smile as she tears up the gift wrapping!Continue reading

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The Depth of Love & Its Meaning

Building a marriage is not an easy task and one might be deceived in believing that it is. In order to build a very strong and lasting relationship and ultimately marriage that can withstand even the toughest storms, one needs to have a few things in place in the very early stages of one’s relationship and marriage.

For a marriage to succeed, it has to be built on a rock solid foundation. If not, it will inevitably be on shaky ground, meaning that it will not be able to withstand all the storms that are normally experienced in marriages. We need to understand fully, what marriage foundation really means. It encompasses the following, which are by no means exhaustive:Continue reading

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Marriage Counseling: Strengthen The Bond With Your Partner 

Whether you have a love marriage or an arranged marriage, with the passage of time you are bound to face difficulties in your relationship no matter how much you love your partner. And that’s the case with all most all the couples in this universe or most of the  marriages.

In the beginning, when you fall in love with your partner, you start believing that you will never face issues in your marriage, but slowly and gradually the world around you (including the social, political and economic factors) somewhere start contributing in destroying your relationship with your partner. No happily married couples would ever like the idea of falling out of love, however, a large number of them face this situation at least once in their life. Hence, every couple must realize that difficulties are always going to be a part of their married life, and they should take necessary steps to deal with them in a healthy manner if they want to preserve their relationship.

If you are experiencing a really bad time in your married life then you must take professional support to deal with the problem, wherein you can either go for marriage counseling or couples therapy.

Here Is a Snapshot Of Marriage Counseling

Marriage counseling is a highly important part of relationship counseling, and it aims at resolving the problems between married couples. However, if couples facing tremendous problems in their relationship do not opt for marriage counseling, chances of their marriage ending up soon become too high. Marriage counseling is a systematic process of counseling married couples, wherein an experienced therapist or a marriage counselor effectively listens to the problems confronted by them in their relationship.

The therapist asks a range of questions related to the personal life of the couples in order to understand or identify the core issues so that he/she can offer the right type of advice or guidance to them. Depending upon the condition of your relationship, a therapist may either ask you to go for short-term counseling or long-term counseling, wherein the former can be completed with just a few sessions, but the later one can run for several years.

If you want to get the best advice from your counselor, it is better to explain everything clearly to him/her, because his/her advice is always based on your experiences. On top of that, you should also describe whether your relationship is getting better after you met your counselor or not. In that way, your counselor or therapist will get to know whether the advice or suggestions given by him/her are working properly or not, and if in case that’s not leading to any sort of positive development as far as your relationship with your spouse is concerned, then he/she should try out something else. Generally,  the couples who go for marriage counseling get tremendous positive outcomes, when it comes to preserving their marriage.

 Now Let’s Take a Look At Couples Therapy

 Couples therapy is also an indispensable part of relationship therapy, wherein the therapist tries to explore the thoughts and behavior of the couples by asking them important questions regarding their relationship with their partner. The major difference between couples therapy and marriage counseling is that the former can be carried out both for unmarried and married couples, but the later one strictly deals with the problems faced by married couples.

During couples therapy, a therapist offers the solutions for issues associated with communication, intimacy, and family problems etc. And in order to offer correct advice, the therapist try to understand the relationship history and the way couples behave with each other. Same like marriage counseling, here also couples need to be extremely honest when it comes to explaining the issues faced by them in the relationship with the therapist so that they can get valuable advice.

During the therapeutic process, the entire aim of the therapist remains to provide positive advice to couples so that they can understand the importance of their relationship and can work together in sorting out the difficulties. Mostly after a few sessions couples start taking their relationship more seriously, which eventually helps them in maintaining it properly.

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 The therapist whom you approach for couples therapy or marriage counseling is generally a person with strong knowledge of Psychology, who can judge the condition of your relationship through your behavior with your partner and by exploring your feelings and thoughts for him/her. Before offering any sort of guidance to couples, the therapist first observes their behavior against each other in order to understand the exact problem and its cause. For example, if the couples are facing disturbance in their relationship because of their family members, then the therapist will guide them accordingly so that the problem can be resolved completely.

However, if financial problem is creating trouble in their life, then the therapist would give necessary guidance on how to keep such issues out of personal life or he/she may also advice them on how to become a little more responsible when it comes to tackling the money, so that the entire problem can be kept at the bay.

On the other hand, if the couples are losing interest in each other, then the therapist may ask them to spend more of their time together so that they can fill the gap that was created between them over a period of time due to various reasons. The therapist will definitely try to understand the reason behind couples losing interest in each other, which could even be anything such as an extra-marital affair or their busy work schedules etc.

For example, if one of the partners is having an extra-marital affair, then the therapist will definitely like to know if the couple wants to continue with their marriage or not, and if at all they are willing to work on it, he/she will offer the advice accordingly.

In most of the cases, the counseling and therapy provided by the therapist work in favor of the couples.