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Life Of A Single Parent: How To Stay Calm, Strong & Positive

 

 

Being a single parent isn’t easy at all. All the everyday obligations and expenses fall on your shoulders, so it’s very important to be able to withstand the pressure. Your children need you to be strong and positive, and here’s how you can achieve that and fight the stress.

1. Use the community around you

Single parents often have a lot of support from the side that comes either from members of the extended family or even community groups like churches and single parent support groups. Don’t be shy to ask for help – it’s perfectly understandable. The help can also come from civic groups that will include you into your local community or even the school your kids go to. Just make yourself a part of something.

2. Maintain constant discipline

There’s nothing worse than parents undermining each other when it comes to their kids’ discipline. It’s the same with divorced parents – children need consistency and clear rules to thrive. It will be much more stressful for you and your kids to stick to the rules and don’t bend them when you feel too tired or angry – it will pay off in the long run.

3. Share responsibilities

You children should do chores around the house not just to earn their pocket money but to help you out, too. It will also make them feel proud of their contribution but it’s important for you to praise their efforts and recognize their help every time they do a chore. You are a team so you need to function like one. You can’t do everything on your own.

4. Find time for your children

Yes, you have tons of laundry to take care of and a dinner to make but every once in a while know that you need to change your priorities from time to time. Leave all your work and simply be a parent – play with them, watch a movie together or take a walk to the park together. A functional family is the one where all the members feel the love of the others and their appreciation.

5. Set priorities straight

It’s possible to raise happy kids in single-parent families. The key is to make it clear for your kids that they are your main priority but don’t go overboard and make them feel like they are the sun around which everything revolves. This will help them get prepared for the real world. Children need to be learned how to balance between their own wishes and wishes of other family members. The needs of others in their family are as equally as important as theirs, so teach them to take that into consideration.

6. Stay positive

It’s easier said than done, especially if you have experienced a painful divorce or the death of your spouse. Still, a positive attitude will bring you a lot of benefits. Children can sense your general mood, so try to make it a positive one. The best way to fight stress is to get enough rest, exercise on a daily basis and have balance in your life, meaning finding some time for yourself. It’s ok to be sad sometimes -share it with your kids but let them know they are not the cause of your sadness.

7. Answer the questions honestly

Sooner or later different questions will pop up and answering them might not be easy – questions regarding the changes in the family or the absence of one parent. As unpleasant as it may be, your kid has the right to know the truth and it is up to you to find the right manner to convey the facts to them. You should answer in an honest, straight-forward and age-appropriate manner. Divorce isn’t an easy process and even though you’re going through some turbulent times, bare in mind that your kid also needs love, support and help to navigate through this emotional rollercoaster.

8. Control your finances

Raising a family just on one income or getting child support from your ex-spouse is a very challenging thing. Many single parents in Australia choose to deal with this aspect with the help of professional to guide them through this difficult situation. Doolan Wagner family law experts and others that provide advice to single parents know how challenging it will be to plan for your kids’ college or to budget your money every month. You need to make a long-term plan that could also include your retirement plan and even going back to school or attending a course.

9. Treat kids as kids

When not having your life partner around, the trap many single parents fall into is relying too much on their kids  – mostly emotionally, for companionship, support and comfort. As much as your kids are willing to offer these things to you, you should bear in mind that they have neither the capacity nor the life experience enough to fulfill this role. As challenging as this may be, you should pay attention not to depend on them too much, and not express frustration their direction too often. Instead, you should turn to the adult friends or to a counselor to help you re-build your safety net.

10. Maintain the daily routine as a family

Try your best to schedule your chores, meals and bedtimes at more or less same hours – your children need consistency in their lives, It’s important for them to know what to expect and when. It will make them feel more secure while you will be far more organized. It will hugely reduce your level of daily stress.

All in all

Like everything else in life, adapting to a single parent life takes time. Both you and your kids will face challenges from time to time but you will be able to remain positive and calm and transform this new situation to a more enjoyable one for the whole family despite the obstacles if you stick to this list.

 

 

How to make your divorce as painless as possible

In a perfect world, every “I do” would be for life, and everybody would live happily ever after. However, because life, unfortunately, isn’t a fairy tale, divorces do happen, and they bring a series of question with them. What do I do now? Do I get an attorney? What happens with the house? Who gets the dog? What do I tell the children? In what is possibly the most uncertain period of your life, here are some pieces of advice to help you see it all through.

 

“I used to think that divorce meant failure, but now I see it more as a step along the path of self-realization and growth.” – Zsa Zsa Gabor

 

1. Gather your wits

Even though this is an emotionally trying stage for you, you have to be able to think clearly. There are a time and place for everything, so while it is perfectly reasonable and even beneficial to express your emotions and lament your losses, you need to make a point of not letting your feelings cloud your judgment.

Think about divorce as any other kind of business – your marriage is essentially a contract that you want to terminate. You need to be objective about it and find the best way to do it. To be able to go through the process in the easiest way possible, you need to educate yourself on the laws and regulations regarding marriage and divorce in your jurisdiction. Use all resources at your disposal to gain as much insight as you can – the internet is overflowing with useful info, and you can always ask for help in any law clinic, free of charge.

2. Plan

You can deal with the divorce itself in several ways: by settling it with your ex directly, without any lawyers involved; you can go through a mediation process, or you can go to court if all else fails. If you and your ex, are still in an amicable relationship, and you still trust them, the cheapest way is to do it yourself. However, because the law systems are never simple, you and your ex might want to get attorneys even if you’re still in a good place. For example, in Australia, you can’t get divorced unless you’ve been separated for 12 months, but there are family mediation services in Sydney that can explain your options to you if that is too much time for you to wait. Every jurisdiction has its own separate set of rules, and sometimes it can be difficult to navigate them without a professional at your side. In any case, you need to choose the preferred method for yourself, based on your own unique situation.

Of course, there is more than just that. You need to consider the ways to share your property. Start collecting financial evidence of your and your partner’s situation, in case of necessity. Talk to your ex about dividing the household items. Make a list of everything that you mean to keep, and everything that you can live without, to make the negotiation easier. In other words, prepare yourself as well as you can, because a tiring process is before you, and you’ll be thankful for any head start you can get.

 

 

“There’s nothing like a family crisis, especially a divorce, to force a person to re-evaluate his life.” – Michael Douglas 

 

3. Think of the children

If you have any children, the things are only going to be more complicated. It this case especially, it’s crucial to be level-headed and to try and be as civil as possible in all dealings with your former spouse.

The most important thing is not to let the kids be dragged into the dispute between their parents. Their parent’s divorce is already extremely traumatizing for them, so the last thing you want to do is add more stress to their lives by bad mouthing your ex or making them choose between the two of you. Regardless of your feelings, you have to make sure that the children feel as safe as they can possibly be, and you need to show them that you and your partner will love them, no matter what. Always remember, your ex is your ex, but they are a constant in your children’s lives, as much as you are.

4. Learn to rely on other people…

…That are not your ex. The bottom line is that you need to feel secure. If your friends and family are giving you that sense of security and you don’t feel a need for a therapist, that’s great! If that is not the case, however, and you feel that everything is too much for you to handle, don’t be afraid of asking a professional for help. If it’s the emotional baggage, see a therapist. If the law is too complicated, find an attorney. If your attorney is a problem, you feel that they don’t understand you, or you’re getting the feeling that they’re playing you against your ex to prolong the process, fire them immediately and look for a better professional.

5. Reclaim the control of your life

Even though it may seem that somebody has cut the ground from under your feet, try to hold on to the idea that every end marks a new beginning. You are starting the next chapter of your life, and no matter how scary it is, it can also be wonderful. In the process of divorce, try to secure a better head start for yourself and your future. Do not agree to anything that can be harmful to you in the long run.

 

Remember, the divorce only happened because the downsides of your marriage outweighed the upsides. That means that, by terminating your marriage, you’ve rid yourself of a toxic aspect of your life. However hard it might be, try to adopt a positive perspective. Try something new. Do that thing that you’ve always wanted, but never did because you didn’t want to upset your ex. Find the strength in the new beginning and don’t be afraid to change. 

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Telling someone you love them is a truly incredible gift, but, in the end, words are not nearly everything. True love and affection can be shown much more through little gestures than words. That said, there are plenty of ways you can tell your partner you love them without actually saying these words, but they will recognize your feelings and appreciate them for sure. If you’re looking for ideas that can help you brighten up your partner’s day and make their heart leap for joy, keep on reading.Continue reading

I’m Currently Dating Two Men – Is That Okay?

I never thought I would be in a position like this. Five years ago my husband of sixteen years and I mutually broke up because we decided it was no longer working which was hard to admit after all that time together. After a long stint in which I have been single and enjoying time to myself I now feel like I am ready to move on, start dating and look for love again with the right man. It was a hard decision to even decide to date again because I felt if after a sixteen year marriage it doesn’t work out then what hope do we have? But then I realised that we actually weren’t happy for almost half of those sixteen years.

I’m back trying to find new love and have had a few dilemmas along the way, including this one which I’ve decided to share with you.

Dating Two and a Half Men

I took to online dating not long ago after “peer pressure” from my friends. I write peer pressure in inverted commas since it didn’t take much persuading from my friends for me to agree that it was the best course of action. I’m now a fifty three year old woman and even though I still go out and socialise with friends quite often, it’s rare that I would come in contact with a man on a romantic level. I also feel like time is running out for me (sorry for those who are my age or older who would rightfully disagree) to find love again.

It didn’t take long after I signed up before I got talking to someone, maybe about a week. But that didn’t get anywhere. I soon learned that it takes patience with online dating, at least if you’re willing to take your time to find someone you want to have a serious future with.

Having said that, after about three weeks I got talking to someone I can only describe as a gentlemen at least by the way we conversed online. But just like London buses, another man came along typically on the same evening. I thought there could be no harm in talking to two men online. Besides, at this point it was just harmless conversation and getting to know them.

Things seemed to escalate quite fast with both of them, not on purpose but organically. They were both extremely nice but seemed to have slightly different personalities. For example they were both humorous but in opposing ways. After about two weeks of talking online as well as by text messages to both of these men they both asked to meet up within a few days of each other. When I was asked by the first gentlemen, of course I willingly agreed to meet up, not anticipating that there was a strong chance of the second gentlemen asking me sooner or later. But I live my life in the present and don’t like to think too far ahead. Perhaps this was a reason to alter that logic and way of living as of course he did ask to meet up and suddenly I saw myself in a position agreeing to meet up with two different men in the space of a few days.

The reason for the title “two and half men” was because I then began talking to yet ANOTHER man online. But there was no hint of meeting up which is why I counted that as “half”.

Hard Decision

I now have a hard decision to make after dating both of these men and both going exceptionally well. I am no nearer to deciding which one I would like to carry on dating so do I carry on dating them both? I would like to think that at some point there would be a factor which would push me towards one and not the other but how long that takes is the concerning thing.

Like I said before, I have never been in a position like this before so it’s not something I would say I’m proud of. But perhaps I am overthinking and exaggerating the seriousness of this. Maybe I should just embrace it while I can and enjoy the ride!

Right or Wrong?

So here’s my question to you. Was I right or wrong to agree to meet up with two different men? What would you have done if you were in a similar position?

The way I have been thinking about it is that I was always going to have to let at least one of these men down sooner or later. In that respect I guess it was wrong of me to supposedly lead one of them on. I hate having to let people down.

But having said that, you have to be selfish in life sometimes right? Plus it was still early days and so I had to meet up with them to get to know them better. If I had stopped talking to one of them sooner then I would have never have known what could have been. In my mind that would’ve been foolish.

 

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How To Balance Work And Pleasure

Balancing work and pleasure can be a tricky task. Most of us are guilty of falling in to a set routine every single week. Before we know it a week turns in to a month and eventually a year passes by in the blink of an eye without having set aside time to enjoy our own life.
So how do we change that and find a balance between working and enjoying ourselves?

The older we get the quicker time seems to fly by. This is because we end up cruising in auto-pilot every day. We become so fixed in to a daily routine that we forget to pay ourselves back with time for ourselves.

Working 9 to 5, going to the gym, having dinner and going to bed is a very common example of a Monday to Friday lifestyle of plenty of seniors in this day and age or even for the younger generation for that matter. Snapping out of that routine can actually be very easy. It is just a case of making the effort to make new plans in the week and arranging to do something different. For example, going out for a midweek meal, going to the cinema or even meeting up with a friend for a catch up rather than going home after work and having the same dinner at home is a simple place to start.

Understandably, for some it’s a case of expense in that they don’t wish to spend unnecessary money during the week. But there’s no reason a midweek meal can’t be cheap and cheerful. For the sake of twenty pounds, it’s actually quite healthy to keep the mind active by going out for a meal and socializing. But what about those of us who are single and are looking for a partner to spend that time with?

When it comes to senior singles and relationships, many turn to online dating because it’s the only way for them to find other mature singles to spend their time with. But once they do arrange a date this is the start of a change in lifestyle. Pleasure begins to take a forward step and life can suddenly become a lot more exciting. Work no longer dictates the individual and Wednesday can become the new Friday. It’s hugely important for people of all ages, especially seniors to maintain this lifestyle when possible to remain mentally active and happy.

Don’t let work take over your life, experience some fun, meet new people and start smiling again. Visit www.seniordatingblog.com for more advice and tips on all things senior and dating.

 

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Secrets to Maximum Sexual Performance

Unlike woman that can be non-sexuality aroused and still provide a great sex experience to her male partner, a man can not provide a great sex experience to his female partner if he’s not sexually aroused.

And many men and women make the mistake and think that a male is fully sexually aroused when he has a strong a firmer erection, but this is not the case.

And that is because many men suffer today from low erection quality that is caused by things that I’ll talk about in this article, but for now, I want you to understand that if you want to give her an amazing sexual experience you first need to make sure that you have a good erection. In this article, I’ll teach you everything that you need to learn about how to improve your erection quality as a man.

No matter how big your penis is if it does not achieve maximum hardness you might not use it as effectively as you would want to. As men grow older, erection quality becomes a very big concern to them. But what is erection quality? While erection quality is subjective, it generally refers to how hard your erection becomes. It is where the penis fills up with blood and becomes hard. Even if you are a professional lover, if you are worried about your penis, you will definitely suffer from low self-esteem. While penis size is a factor, the most important thing is the hardness. Without reaching a certain level of hardness penetrative sex might be impossible.

How to get a harder penis

If you want your penis to become harder, there are some steps that you should take to achieve this. These include taking supplements, lifestyle changes, and exercise.

Penile exercises to improve your erection quality

One of the greatest ways to improve the hardness of your penis is penile exercise. These exercises not only strengthen the skeletal muscles needed for a hard erection but also encourages blood to flow into the penis. Some of these exercises include

Jelging- This kind of penile exercise uses a motion to push blood in the penis thereby improving circulation resulting into a harder penis. There are a variety of exercises and they can be performed dry or wet.

Kegels- Kegels exercises are meant to strengthen the pelvic muscles that you need to have a strong erection. Kegels also have a variety of health benefits such as improved prostate health. They can also help to facilitate enlargements.

Towel raises- Towel raises can be used to strengthen the ligaments and the tendons associated with a healthy erection. The only equipment that you need for this exercise is a towel.

Apart from these, there are also a variety of herbal supplements in the market that can help you improve your erection quality. These supplements include green tea extract, Horney goat weed, Epunedum Sagtum, Yohimbine HCL and more. There are also some types of foods that can help you get a harder erection. These include coffee, spicy peppers, salmon, bananas, oysters, oatmeal and red wine

Lifestyle choices that can make your erection stronger

While having a larger penis is a good thing, a harder erection is even better. Apart from penis exercise, foods and supplements, there are also several lifestyle choices that can make your erection harder. Here are some of the things you can do to improve your erection quality.

  • Drop some pounds- When it comes to erection quality, obesity can negatively affect you. When you are obese you have lower levels of testosterone which is a very important hormone required for strong erections. Other diseases that you can suffer due to this include high blood pressure and diabetes. These diseases have also been noted to be closely related to erectile dysfunction. According to research, almost half of those who have diabetes become impotent.
  • Quit smoking- According to studies, smoking is one of the factors that contribute to erectile dysfunction. According to American Heart Association, smoking affects the arteries and causes a condition known as atherosclerosis that blocks blood flow and eventually causes circulatory problems. If you smoke more than 20 cigarettes a day, you have over 60% chance of developing erectile dysfunction. More so, over 15% of past smokers have experienced erectile dysfunction at one point in their life.
  • Avoid penile trauma- Problems with erectile dysfunction can also occur due to penile trauma. Since some sexual positions are usually riskier than others you can easily develop trauma. Penile trauma can cause internal bleeding and scar tissue that can eventually interfere with penile flexibility.
  • Have a good .night’s sleep- Averagely, while you are resting your penis is normally awake and gets an erection. Night time erections bring oxygenated blood into the penis and reenergize while also keeping it flexible.
  • Reduce stress- While stress is a normal part of every day’s life, sometimes it can end up affecting your penis. Although our bodies use stress to protect u from danger when it persists, it affects your erection quality and sex life. When you start feeling stressed, it’s important to have a positive attitude and accept to leave things the way they are. You can also learn how to meditate and use yoga to rid yourself of stress.
  • Exercise the whole of your body- Although exercising your penis can make it harder and longer, if you want to maximise your strength you should also exercise the rest of your body. According to studies, by just walking for 30 minutes a day you can improve your erection strength and also prevent erectile dysfunction. Regular exercise also improves your energy levels and makes you feel more relaxed and at peace. This will give you the best mood to have the best erection.
  • Be monogamous- Interestingly, being monogamous is very helpful when it comes to erectile dysfunction. Although this does not prevent contracting STDs it does assist you when it comes to the quality of erection. Being unfaithful to your partner can bring about the guilt that can eventually interfere with your erection.
  • Do not masturbate- It’s important to save your erections for when you are with your wife. If you masturbate a lot, you might end up interfering with your future erections especially when you are with your partner.
  • Use a device- There are devices that are designed to prevent blood from flowing out of the penis. Male enhancers are also some of the best devices meant to give you a harder and a bigger penis. If you do this, your body will realize the benefits and you will get the erections that you need.

Well, those are some of the secrets of male erection. It’s very important to know that the erection quality plays an important role when it comes to sex. It’s important to do exercises, eat the right food, use supplements, and make the best choices in life. By doing these, you will always enjoy the best erection.

David Finer is the founder of VibratingLove.com, and he also blogs about male sexuality because he wants to help men from all over the world take their sexuality to the next level and become multi-orgasmic. Website: https://vibratinglove.com

 

Online Dating Changed My Life

Around this time last year I decided to finally give online dating a chance after days, months and even years of deliberation. At the tender age of 43 I thought I was destined to be single forever, with a barely existent social life as well. I’m now over the moon that I stumbled across the world of online dating and specifically a mature dating website for singles which was perfect for my situation.

Early Life

From a young age I had always been driven by money and focused purely on my job week after week until before I knew it half my life seemed to pass by in a flash. Suddenly I took a step back for a minute to evaluate what I was doing with my life and what sort of future I would have if I carried on down this same path. I certainly wouldn’t say I had a midlife crisis but I quickly realised that there were other priorities ahead of work and money that life has to offer which I still hadn’t witnessed yet.

I began to panic thinking that it was too late but I had plenty of reassurance from my family, work colleagues and seeing it for myself on TV that age is just a number. There’s nothing stopping a 43 year old man like me doing the same as a 25 year old man (to a degree at least).

Change

In the blink of an eye I began to change my ways, starting with a healthier lifestyle by eating cleaner and joining a gym.  I have quite an obsessive personality so once I have my mind set on something I pretty much go all out with it. So thankfully, the gym and eating well soon became a routine which wasn’t too hard to maintain. But I also needed to start meeting and socialising with people too. I was so caught up and involved with my job that I missed out on making friends outside of work. The only people I spoke to looking back now were colleagues where almost all the conversation was work related.

I still struggled to find the time to meet new people even with my change in lifestyle. Even though I now set aside time for the gym I still didn’t really communicate with many people there. Most people in the gym have headphones in and are there purely for the health benefits, which to be fair is the main reason for their existence. It was difficult even finding a place where I would have a chance of finding a friend or partner, never mind then talking to them and getting to know them. I don’t really have any hobbies other than football but again that isn’t the ideal hobby to find a girlfriend in most cases.

Online Dating

At my age it isn’t easy to just go out and meet a woman in a bar or club. In all honestly, I feel like I would have been judged by younger people if I was out in the same places as them. That’s why I eventually gave in and tried the online dating scene. For some reason I had always been against online dating but I didn’t really have a valid reason as to why. I think it was a pride thing. I thought I was above it. Let me tell you now that online dating is not something to be ashamed about at all now that I have witnessed the immense benefits it brings. I wish I had done it earlier!

One night after yet another routine day at work, I decided to log back on to my laptop and started searching for dating websites. For the older generation more specifically since I didn’t want to attract people much younger than me and looking for much different things. I was looking to settle down, perhaps start a family, although the thought of actually admitting that was a little scary for me to comprehend. But that’s when I came across a website called YourMatureDating.com.

I decided to sign up that night since I thought there was nothing to lose and it was free to sign up. I browsed some of the profiles on the site and I have to be honest that I did see some very nice women that caught my eye immediately. But at this point I was still a bit skeptical about what I was doing. I logged off soon after that but I had got the ball rolling at least and had the right intentions to find a partner.

A few nights later I went back on and this time I messaged one of the women that I liked the look and sound of by her profile. She had amazing eyes that caught my attention because of the slight sparkle they had. Her interests too excited me. She pretty much seemed to have the exact same past I had, in that her work dictated her life.

Today

Two years on from that initial message and I am now engaged to her. I decided to propose recently and thankfully for me she said yes! Never in a million years did I expect to fall in love so quickly and find someone so amazing and so similar to me. I wanted to share my story so others in my position weren’t afraid to do the same as me. I am so thankful for online dating and I truly believe there are thousands of other stories just like mine out there too.

Today I am ecstatic with the way my life has panned out. From experiencing the ways of business and working hard for money to now looking to start a family I feel like I have been incredibly fortunate.

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