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The possibilities of making the kinds of connections you want are very realistic, and many long lasting relationships and marriages have begun via online dating services, not to mention casual relationships as well if that is what you prefer. The possibilities are all right there and waiting for you, but there are a few key rules you need to know and follow in order to find your perfect date online. Download to learn The Golden Rules of Online Dating – 6 essential rules to finding the perfect online date!

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10 Body Language Signs That Show He’s Into You

It’s safe to say that the traditional form of dating is not particularly popular these days, and the main reason is the fact that most singles prefer to meet people online. This way, they don’t have to read each other’s body language because it’s obvious they like each other. However, if you’re not a fan of cyber dating and you like to flirt with guys in person, you definitely need to learn how to read their body language. It will help you avoid some potentially awkward situations. Therefore, check out the 10 crucial signs that clearly show he’s into you.

He Does Everything To Get Close To You

When a guy likes a girl, he’ll do anything to get close to her. So, if your date is rearranging the chairs and tables at the restaurant just so he could sit close to you, he definitely likes you.

He Finds An Excuse To Touch You

Physical contact is one of the biggest sings that show he’s into you. Therefore, if your man flicks “something” off of your shoulder or tries to help you with something just so he could touch you, it’s a sure sign that he’s into you.

He Smiles All The Time

Most men don’t smile that much in public because they want to come across as tough alpha males. So, if your man can’t stop smiling during your date, it means that he feels rather comfortable around you.

The Eye Contact

If a guy gazes into your eyes without blinking, it’s clear, he fancies you! However, avoiding a direct eye contact on a date can also be a sign of affection.

He Keeps Looking At Your Lips

When a guy is desperate to kiss you, he will stare at your lips, fantasizing about the kiss. So, if you catch him looking, bite your lip and he’ll want you even more.

He Touches Your Forearm Every Time He Starts Talking

Like we mentioned before, physical contact is a sure sign of affection. Therefore, when a man touches a woman’s forearm every time he starts talking, it’s safe to say that he’s trying to get her attention.

He Touches Your Hair

A lot of guys state their intentions by touching a woman’s hair. So, if he compliments your hair while gently caressing it, you can be sure that he’s absolutely attracted to you.

He Sits Facing You

This is one of the subtlest but most important signs out there. If a guy is too shy to touch your hair or your forearm, he will display his interest by sitting directly across from you. This way he’ll be able to maintain eye contact throughout the entire date.

He Widens His Eyes When You Talk

Widened eyes and dilated pupils are definite signs of affection. So, if your partner widens his eyes when you talk, it means that he’s really interested in what you have to say.

He Leans Across The Table During The Conversation

Like we already said, when a man likes a woman, he’ll do anything to be close to her. Therefore, if your date is constantly leaning across the table during the conversation, you can be sure that he wants to be with you.

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How to Dress for Your First Date at the Beach

There is something inherently romantic about beach dates. You can feel the sand between your toes, almost taste the salt in your mouth, and the gentle breeze is definitely doing your hair a favour by making it seem like you’re on a movie set. However, picking out the perfect outfit for a beach date makes this experience less pleasant. You can’t go with the usual classics such as the little black dress or spice up a casual jeans combination with your favourite stilettos. Don’t ruin your beauty sleep over this; here are a few tips that will make your style just as beautiful as your hair fluttering in the wind.

Is it sun-and-fun or sunset and romance?

First of all, you need to separate these two very different beach dates. If you are going to the beach in the middle of the day, when everyone, including you, will swim, sunbathe or play sand volleyball, you can get by in your usual swimsuit and some accessories. However, if we are talking about a romantic evening at the beach, and perhaps even a picnic with wine (you’re so lucky), you should up the game a little bit. And the following few tips are all about upping the game.

Jeans and all that goes with them

Take out your favourite pair of jeans shorts from your closet, and rock it with your bikini top. This is an especially great choice for an active day on the beach. If you are planning on wearing shorts in the evening, spice up the combination with a cover-up top (think something light and dreamy like a crochet piece), multiple bracelets, a floppy sun hat and a casual tote bag.

When you think about it, it’s all about a stylish cover-up

Although they’re mentioned earlier, they didn’t get the attention they deserve. Cover-ups are the 101 of beach dates, because they can make the transition from an ordinary day on the beach to a hot date seamless. The same goes for the transition between a romantic walk and a “let’s go night swimming” decision. Plus, they can make you look different on the beach each day, even if you are wearing the same swimsuit. The most stylish among cover-ups are, of course, kaftans. As the summer is approaching, kaftans in the UK are making a huge comeback, so it is time to equip yourself with a few.

Maximize your style

You know what we are talking about? There is nothing more whimsical than a lady walking along the white stretches of sand in a light maxi dress. This outfit is made for you particularly if you are a fan of the bohemian style. Even though it doesn’t require any further styling efforts, you can finish up your look with various details, such as bracelets, necklaces, rings, hats, hair jewelry (why not, even a flower band), bags, etc.

Beach elegance

Maybe your beach date is unlike any situation mentioned above. Maybe you will have a real deal romantic dinner with wine, music and flowers. In that case, it is only natural to dress up more than in the previous cases. You need to find the balance between dressy and comfortable, though. High heels and cocktail dresses are out of the question, of course. There are several combinations you can choose from according to your sensibility. You can wear non-jeans shorts and a transparent blouse (which can have laced sleeves for the extra ‘wow’ effect). Another option is a mini or midi dress made of lightweight material. Consider breathable fabrics like linen, lace, rayon and silk.

Finally, your outfit is not the only thing you should think about. When it comes to makeup, you should go with a natural look, without aggressive details like eyeliner and lipstick. Now go have fun on your date!

7 Attractive Ways To Impress Her On The First Date

First dates are quite scary.

But do they really have to be?

The answer is NO.

Now I know that you only get one chance to make a good first impression. And if you are meeting the person for the first time, the first impression will be really important.

You need to make her time worth it because in this busy world nobody has time. You are lucky that she took a time out of her busy schedule to meet you.

Feeling pressured?

Don’t worry as these 7 simple and attractive ways will not only help you impress her but will open the gates for a second date too.

1. Ask Her Questions

Here I don’t mean start shooting one question after another.

Ask her genuine question and give her time to answer. Show interest in her answers. The more interest you show the more she will want to talk. And if she doesn’t feel like answering a particular question don’t push. Give her space.

A Pro Tip:

Keep question prepared before the date. So you can avoid the awkward silence. Here are some questions that you can ask.

  • Where are you originally from?
  • What’s your major?
  • What type of music are you into?
  • Do you have any sibling?
  • Where did you attend School?
  • Do you like your job? What do you want to do next?

Here you can know about her interests and you both can find a common ground. Just don’t make her feel like she is giving an interview. Which brings us to the next point

2. Keep The Conversation Interesting

Here again, you are not taking an interview. So, you don’t want her to feel that this is a job interview. Instead, keep the conversation interesting. You can do this by asking questions that are engaging like

  • Are you a cat person or dog person?
  • What’s your way of having fun?
  • How do you like to spend your Saturday night?
  • What kind of movies do you like?
  • Most embarrassing story that comes to your mind
  • What’s your favorite cuisine?

This way you’ll not only know more about your date but also begin to like each other’s company. As she starts to have fun she will be more at ease with you. By noticing her body language you can tell if she’s interested or not.

3. Tell Her About Yourself

Now obviously she isn’t here only to talk about herself.

She wants to know about you too. Talk a little about yourself.

Tell her about your likes and interests. Answer her questions. Don’t give a straight “No” to any question as it may make her feel that you are not interested.

Instead, give a more detailed answer to why you dislike or like something. But don’t go into too much detail.

If you want to make it more interesting you can tell her tales of your past. Like how you went camping with your friends or anything funny like how you messed up your friend’s birthday party. By making her laugh you can break the tension.

But here’s the deal:

try avoiding things that are immature and sad. Like telling her how you pranked someone or making someone cry may not be a good conversation during a date.

And remember – whatever you do, don’t start talking about your ex how you miss her this will only kill her mood and make her wanna leave.

For more read the article “15 ways to bring your first date to ruin“.

4. Put Your Phone On Silent

There are many mistakes to avoid on a first date. But this may be the one you should give priority.

Think about it.

how rude it would be if you’re talking and your date is using the phone or interrupts you to take a call.

It’s the same for them when you interrupt them to take a call. It kills the mood and the flow of the conversation.

So the next time you are out on a date, keep your phone on silent and if the call is not very important it can wait until the date ends.

5. Keep Your Alcohol Intake In Touch

Drinks may be a great way to loosen up but moderation is the key.

A drink or two may be enough you don’t need to take a shot each time you get a little nervous.

Why?

Because you don’t want to be your drunk self and believe me he is not as fun as you think he is.

Also, there may be a chance that you are a loose tongue when you get drunk. And if you are, the only thing you will do is embarrass yourself and her.

6. Choose a Good Spot

Now the place you choose for the date may be one of the first things that she will notice.

You have a lot of options but you don’t know which to select. In my opinion, going to cinema may not be the best choice. Because you won’t get a chance to talk and know each other.

Instead, choose an activity that both of you will enjoy and get a chance to talk too.

Here are some activities that you can choose from.

  • Going to a karaoke
  • Attending a local festival, convention or fair
  • If she likes games Arcade may be a good choice
  • Going to the zoo
  • Cook something together
  • Minigolf
  • Going to a park
  • Skating
  • Picnic
  • Even going to a pool may be fun

These are only the tip of the iceberg. There are many other choices you can choose for. Just come up with something where you can have both fun and have a nice conversation.

7. Be Yourself

I can’t emphasize enough on this.

You don’t need to fake an accent or you don’t need to act cool. There is a reason she went out with you. So, just be yourself. She liked something about you or else she wouldn’t have shown up.

Now you may be thinking what if she liked your fake self that’s why she went out with you. How long do you think before she notices and what then? Wouldn’t you love if she likes you for who and what you are? So be who you are.

Just by keeping these 7 things in mind you can avoid making mistakes that you will regret later on. So, just be yourself good luck. 

Author Bio:

Muaz is a lifestyle writer, music-lover, and an avid reader. He enjoys writing about dating hacks, relationship tips and whatever he finds interesting. When not working, he can likely be found playing video games. You can follow more of his work at http://loveysigns.com, Twitter, and Facebook

9 Differences between Being Single And Married

When people are single, they tend to go out every night in search of a hot one night stand or a crazy adventure. However, once they get married, they simply have to settle down and spend their nights browsing through celebrity Snapchats or watching movies with their better half. Besides nightlife, there are many other big differences between being single and being married. Check out the 9 most significant ones.

  1. Clothing And Style

Single: When people are single, they’re constantly trying to impress everyone around them in order to attract a mate. Clothing and overall style are two very important factors when it comes to this particular mission. Both men and women are almost always well-dressed. Some singles even exaggerate with this and can develop sort of an outfit obsession, so to say, because they believe they have to look their best all the time, especially if they’re actively seeking a relationship.

Married: On the other hand, when they finally get married, men and women are not that obsessed with fashion trends anymore. Most ladies get rid of those high heels in exchange for comfy and warm footwear. The case is no different for guys either. They swap those tight jeans for baggy and comfortable sweatpants. Still, it’s not okay to get overly comfortable as well, as it’s proved that dressing up and looking sexy here and there can reignite the flame and keep your sex life in check.

  1. Parties

Single: Let’s be real, most single people are constantly trying to crash some party in order to score a hot date or a one night stand. They are full of energy and enthusiasm. Moreover, they are often the initiators of such events and are more likely to host them so it’s safe to say that going to parties is their favorite activity.

Married: However, married couples are avoiding parties as much as possible. They will go to certain events simply out of the respect for the hosts, but they will always look for the opportunity to leave the party early and have a nice quiet evening at home.

  1. Exercising

Single: Bachelors and bachelorettes are constantly trying to stay in shape. And while it certainly can be explained by their need to improve health and increase the overall energy levels, it also has a hidden, biological background that is closely related to their sexual self-esteem – They need to look good in order to impress other singles and this is something that a regular exercising can provide.

Married: Gals and lads who are taken don’t even think about physical activity. They simply don’t have enough time and motivation to hit the gym on a regular basis. They have found their soul-mates, so their job is done. And while this is natural to some extent and can be tolerated for certain time, married people have to be aware that it can also be potentially harmful to a relationship itself, as spouses can develop anxiety or can experience decreased energy levels. This can have a direct impact on their mood, which will become gloomy more often that it should be, so engaging in any physical activity that suits one’s personal preferences is always welcome.

  1. Spending Money

Single: When you’re a loner, you can spend your money recklessly. You can treat yourself on a daily basis and buy yourself some rather unnecessary things such as the 26th nuance of a lipstick (because you’ve missed that one in your collection) or a fancy new video game that will probably be on sale in a month or so but hey, you need it now!

Married: Reckless spending is absolutely impossible when you’re in a committed relationship or marriage. Moreover, everything is far more complicated when you have to plan for two, from monthly utilities and cell phone bills to food, clothing, and travels. There is also a possibility for something unexpected to happen around the house at some point so you have to save some extra money in case you need to call a plumber or an electrician, for instance.

  1. Hanging Out With Friends

Single: When you’re not involved with anyone, hanging out with friends is your number one activity. Most single people are ready to get up in the middle of the night and go out for a drink because they have all the time in the world.

Married: Wedded individuals are not that flexible. The majority of them don’t have time and energy for socializing due to hectic lifestyles, while others will make excuses not to go out. This isn’t good either, as occasional dates with friends can bring us a necessary dose of freshness and break the established routines.

  1. Eating

Single: Solo men and women don’t have established eating schedules and diets. They eat whatever, whenever, and wherever they want, including 1 AM meals in front of the TV while binge watching Game of Thrones, for instance.

Married: The case is completely different when it comes to couples. These people share everything and they plan their meals. They usually eat together and at the same time because it can help them save money and because it’s a kind of ritual.

  1. Date Nights:

Single: Bachelors and single ladies are always planning their date nights to the smallest detail. A romantic dinner, movies, and a long walk are implied. This has a lot to do with a fact they don’t know what their dates so well and thus want everything to be as perfect as possible.

Married: Couples are more relaxed. Most of the time they get out without a plan and see where the road takes them. They usually end up back in front of their TV where they can enjoy their favorite show while eating a delicious meal.

  1. Traveling

Single: When it comes to traveling, single individuals are rather spontaneous. These fellas and gals are able to pack a small suitcase or a backpack and simply hit the road without a plan.

Married: People who are married, on the other hand, can’t afford that type of unpreparedness. Couples need to organize a trip for two or more (in case they have kids), and that’s not always a simple task.

  1. Sex

Single: Sexual encounter is the most exciting, exhilarating, and a rather spontaneous experience when you don’t have a permanent partner. It can happen anywhere and anytime and it’s often filled with thrill of the unknown.

Married: This doesn’t apply to married people. They’re usually too busy to be spontaneous, so they need to plan ahead. Once you get married, you’ll know the exact time and place of your next “lovemaking session”.

Relationship Tips For Women In The 21st Century

Modern relationships are hard, no doubt about that! It doesn’t matter if you’re dating a widower, a young man, or a mature gentleman, being a successful woman and maintaining a fulfilling love life is anything but easy. We live in a rather fast-paced modern society where there’s no time to stop and rethink your motives, ambitions, and actions. This lack of time is exactly what makes dating extremely hard for women. If by any chance you have the same problem, make sure to stick around and read these crucial tips that will help you sustain a successful relationship in this chaotic 21st Century.

Don’t Choose Your Career Over Love

Nowadays, a lot of young women are sacrificing their love life in order to pursue illustrious and lucrative careers. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a successful business career, but completely neglecting your love life can cause serious problems in the future. If you focus solely on your job, you will lose that all-important touch you need to have in order to be good at dating. Therefore, you need to find a perfect balance between your job and romance. Don’t neglect your partner, include him in your everyday activities and allow him to share the load with you. This way, you’ll be able to improve your position at work and maintain a functional relationship.

As we’ve already said, it’s perfectly normal to want a good job and a successful career, regardless of whether you’re a man or a woman. However, what most people fail to realize is that jobs come and go, but true love is once in a lifetime. Sure, everyone needs money in order to survive in the modern world and the only (legal) way to obtain it is by working, but what is life if you have no love in it? Think about it.

Be Honest, Be True, Be Yourself

We live in a cruel world where people love to judge other people based on their looks, clothing style, and music taste. It’s almost impossible to be yourself and be accepted at the same time. This is exactly why you must not care about other people’s opinions. You need to be brave, honest, and true! If you manage to do that, men will be all over you! A confident woman is an extremely sexy woman!

Here are two possible scenarios of what may happen if you’re being dishonest about yourself while dating someone. In the first one, your date eventually finds out that you have been pretending to be someone you’re not the entire time, gets utterly disappointed and shocked with you and most likely leaves immediately. In the second, the lies you tell about yourself stick from the beginning, not allowing you to completely relax while you’re with your partner, making your whole relationship with him a lie. Either way, it’s not good.

Don’t Be Afraid To Express Your Sexuality

Anyone can be sexy! However, not every woman has the courage to express her sexuality! If you want to have a successful love life and find/keep your man, you need learn how to access your sexiness. Don’t be afraid to show off your physical attributes in a classy and sophisticated way. Feel free to tickle their imagination with sassy and provocative remarks. Don’t hide your wild sexual drive, use it to attract potential partners or keep your current one.

Also, note that there is a fine line between “knowing how to carry what you were given” and overdoing it. Instead of hiding your sexuality, like we have mentioned above, make sure that everyone (not just your potential/current partner) realizes just how hot you can be. However, don’t exaggerate and overexpress your attributes, as it may make you come off as “trying too hard” or even as slutty. Don’t close up but also don’t let everything run wild – stay in balance, just like with everything else in life.

Learn How To Listen

This is one of the most important relationship tips for a modern woman. Most ladies today are not able to have an open conversation with a man. They’re trying so hard to keep up with this chaotic world of ours, that they forgot how to communicate with the opposite sex. Listening to your partner is the crucial aspect of every relationship. If you don’t listen to what he has to say, how do you expect him to listen to you? Slow down and truly listen to your man. You’ll see that being in a relationship is not that hard at all.

If we’re being completely honest here, men really do have a one-track mind. When he’s watching the game, that’s all he’s doing. When he’s listening to you, once again, that’s all he’s doing. This also means that when he’s talking to you and letting you know how he feels and what’s going through his head, you should probably listen carefully because you don’t know when it’s going to happen again and it can be hard to make him talk about that stuff if he doesn’t feel like it.

Think About the Future

Dating is mostly about what you do and say right now, however, the end results can vary quite a lot depending on what you’re looking for. That’s why it’s important that you keep your goals in mind, no matter how serious they might be. Some people want to hook up, others are looking for serious relationships – regardless of what your target is, always keep it in your sights.

This mostly refers to marriage and kids. If you don’t want to get married in the near future and you haven’t even thought about having kids, your potential partner should know that. Furthermore, you should not be forced into changing your mind or your priorities, no matter how much you may like the person you’re dating. Love should be unconditional, which means no conditions should apply neither to you nor your partner once your relationship begins.

9 Infidelity Myths Everyone Should Stop Believing In

When people find out about one person’s infidelity, they usually jump to conclusions and make all kinds of assumptions as to why people are having affairs. Infidelity has also been dramatized in different forms of media like films, demonizing and name-calling the adulterer. But have you ever thought about the underlying issues that made the cheater cheat in the first place? Will a cheater forever be a cheater? And who the heck cheats more often; the men or the women?

Though infidelity in relationships is something we shouldn’t condone, there are many common yet wrong beliefs about infidelity we should also stop believing in.

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6 Things To Do When You’re Madly In Love But Feel Incompatible

You like your coffee black, strong, and sugarfree. He doesn’t like coffee at all.

You’re an articulate writer. He’s a tech-savvy introvert who’s not good with words but with codes.

You speak your mind. He’s passive-aggressive.

Opposites attract and likes repel. But does this natural principle hold true when it comes to the matters of the heart? Clinical psychologist and journalist Vinita Mehta says, “It’s complicated.”

Every couple has incompatibilities. Every couple argues about the same things, like money, sex, kids, and the lack of time. We are all wired differently. It’s about how you manage those differences. It’s about not making your incompatibilities deal breakers.

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Struggling To Find Love Through Online Dating? Check Out These Tips

Finding real love is one of the things everyone wants to have. This is one of the reasons why online dating exists. Actually, there are many free dating sites to help you find what you are looking for. There are also over 50 million single people like you in the online dating world.

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However, online dating sites do not make the task of finding your true love easier. They just widen your options and help those who had trouble communicating with people face to face. Online dating is just another option to find love. If you are struggling to find love through online dating, here are some tips you can use.

Create An Attractive Profile

Your profile says everything and the best part of it are that you have control over what information you want everyone to know. Setting up your profile is honestly very crucial because this is like your magnet in attracting people especially the right person. This is your appearance in the online dating world. Choosing your profile pictures, picking your username, and indicating your interests play an important role in making your profile attractive.

Do not copy and paste someone else’s profile. You have to really think through on what you are going to tell others through your profile. You have to balance out your details and the type of person you want to talk to. Balance them as 7:3 respectively rather than 1:1.

Be Selective

With over 50 million in the online dating world, it is definitely okay for you to be really choosy. Do not just go and get it on on the first person who will take interest in you. Be selective in choosing who you want to be your online date. You can indicate in your profile the qualities of the person you are looking for. But, do not limit yourself only to your standards because sometimes the person you are looking for does not have all of the qualities you had set.

Keep A Positive Vibe Going

Positivity attracts positive people. It is as simple as that. No one wants to be with someone who brings negativity especially those who are looking for true love. When choosing your username, make it a positive one like “SweetSmile”, “FunnyNice”, and more. Do not go for usernames like “FreakyGirl”, “ScarredLife”, and anything that brings about negativity. This will not attract good people. This will scare them off.

When you get the chance to take to a person, keep the conversation on a positive note. Do not quarrel your views on the person you are on an online date with. Keep the conversation light and enjoyable.

Keep It Real

When online dating, you have to be real and honest. You don’t need to lie about your age, your job, your height, your weight, and a lot more. Be real even if it will discourage a potential partner. It is always better to be disliked for who you really are than to be loved for who you are not. This will make insincere and people will doubt your intentions and the right person may be one of them.

Be Confident And Humble

Anyone would want to date a confident person, so be one. Be confident in who you are and what your interests are. Do not be ashamed of the things you like just because it is uncommon. Believe it or not, those uncommon things can make you stand out. Be passionate about these things and let people know that.

Aside from being confident, you have to remain humble. Boasting brings a negative impression on you. Telling them your good qualities in your conversation is a major turnoff. Instead of saying it to them, express those qualities of yours and let them see and praise you for them.

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With these few tips, you are definitely bound to attract the right guy or gal that you really want and will offer you the love you are looking for. However, keep in mind that the online dating world is filled with creeps. Be sure to always keep important information such as your address, your last name and other very personal details to yourself. Be smart even online, not only to be safe but also to attract someone.

Listen and understand your partner

The art of listening

More often than not, couples face the perils of communication blunders these days. Surrounded by devices, we rely too much on connectivity to get through and keep in touch with our beloved ones. The truth is that, however useful, digital communication can inevitably lead to detachment and despair: flat batteries, signal flaws, miscarried messages, mobile phones left behind, etc. These examples are as frequent as irritating and may put the stability of your relationship at risk. That’s why, you must always remain personal and encourage opportunities for face-to-face conversation so that the one you love feels understood and cared for.

Seizing all chances

It is essential to establish positive bonds with the people we love through different means. Some may prefer to hold hands and simply wander round a park, while others could choose eating out and having endless conversations over dinner.

Either on the phone, sitting side by side while driving, peacefully strolling on the beach or even walking your dog, simple occasions may open up a whole realm of communication lapses from which you and your partner will easily profit. Mutual understanding will pave the way for the pursuit of projects. Goals will be set in a state of common grounds that will entice how each person feels and increase his / her motivation.

Understanding yourself

We must give it more important to seek to understand ourselves, rather than to do it with our respective partners. In a relationship that we have with our partner it is better that we slow down for a while, and spend some time reflecting on our own needs and feelings

For you, in a way, to properly attune yourself to your needs and feelings, you should give more due attention to your bodily sensations. This allows you to identically identify what is happening to you internally so that you can express it openly to your partner. Anything however trivial or disturbing it may be worth mentioning, both you and your partner will benefit from it, and your partner will certainly thank you.

Understanding our partners requires a lot of patience on our part, requires that you do not express your opinion for an approximate range of time, without interrupting our partner, you have to be as if you are entirely in paused. You should give your partner all the attention that she or he deserves, do not interrupt him every moment to ask him or her some question that has begun to be formulated deep inside your mind while your partner has told you everything it needs to be told. It really costs a lot to dedicate to our significant other excessive attention, it requires a certain practice, yet it is extremely valuable, and you could consider it a kind of gift, a beautiful gift that you make to your partner: a gift that allows you to your partner be seen as they really are and for what they truly need.

Tackling criticism

It is never too late to start listening. Throughout long-term relationships, some people are constantly whining and will complain about everything related to their partner. This might shed light onto dissatisfaction or uneasiness for not being heard. When criticism sets its roots within two lovers, it is often hard to get over crisis and recover the fresher and simpler sensations of the old days. Needless to say, both the complained-about and the complainer suffer as the conflict becomes stronger.

We should be alert and keep in mind we must give a hearing to our partner showing that we respect his / her opinion and will endeavor to please them as much as we can. The exchange of personal points of view is nothing to fear, it can be nourished as a healthy habit so as to mutually collaborate and improve the quality of the relationship.

 

You have to pick the right time to talk to your partner

Sometimes you need to be listened to when you want to express something that troubles you. But maybe your partner can be busy with something else at the moment, such as: Watching the game, cooking dinner, trying to sleep, any work that you brought to your home, or simply not in the right frame of mind at that time. If you realize this, just be patient and shut up to tell your partner what you are worried about or at a later time. If it is something extremely important and you want to communicate it to your partner, you can ask: “Is there time available to be able to talk?” And depending on the response of your partner you can settle for the following two options. Talk about what is troubling you, or wait a reasonable time to do so. If you are the listener, no doubt your partner would appreciate the same.

 

The need to know your partner well

You must be observant and learn to know your partner in order to understand what you are trying to communicate. For this you need not only partially hear what your partner tells you, but develop a great listening ability for your partner. If what you do is usually just to hear, in reality what you are doing is worrying more about what happens inside you during the conversation, and what you are going to respond to. Instead, listening means caring about the person in front of you and trying to understand the situation that is happening. I assure you that developing the ability to listen is one of the best gifts you can give your partner.

The importance of showing empathy

It is important to give a sample of understanding to our partner, one has to get “deep inside the skin of the other” as it is said, doing this will be able to better understand the reasons behind our partner need to worry, what can really feel your partner, and the need to make your partner feel that we can take care of them and ourselves for that matter. It is not a question of wanting to take advantage of the weakness that our partner may feel, but to convey the message that one is able to put oneself in its place. So we will be generating in our partner empathy.

Avoid prejudging the message your partner is telling you

You should listen to what your partner wants to convey to you, without any interruption except for an important question or additional comment that has to do with the message you are letting him know. You should never interpret the message from “your” point of view, instead of the point of view that matters is that of your partner to let it know to you the message and therefore their point of view.

Don’t get carried away and don’t overreact

Either that which your partner is communicating is serious or you do not have to take into account how difficult it will doubtless have taken you to have gathered the courage to tell the message. You should be very clear about the perspective, that of your partner and yours; do not alter, you must be calm, you must let reason prevail over a fit of fury. You must speak in a softer tone, in a given case even loving and tender.

 

 

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Author byline: Article written by Martin, who is owner and writer of his Dating Website (www.russia-girls.net). He believes that online dating is great for connecting people from the whole world using new technologies. He enjoys learning about human relationship to improve and share his knowledge about online relationships.

 

 

 

Mature Dating Online – Why Give It A Go?

Online dating for mature seniors can without question be intimidating. Using technology for dating is a concept that would be new to the older generation. A decade or two ago online dating didn’t exist and relationships would have started by meeting socially in school, through a friend or on a day out. But that’s no reason for seniors not to embrace this new, modernised, easy world of online dating. Whether you’ve ended up single as the result of divorce or the loss of your spouse or simply never found that perfect someone, you deserve companionship and happiness and the Internet makes it easier than ever to find these fulfilling things.

Mature Dating Sites – User Friendly

Mature dating sites are so simple and easy to navigate to adapt to the users they are targeting. These sites are aware that the needs of seniors are different to the younger generation. Most, if not all mature dating websites have taken this in to account and so have created databases and interfaces which allow the user to sign up, search and view profiles in seconds. It’s a stress free process just like it should be.

Reasonable Prices

A lot of mature dating sites include free of charge features within them, giving the user a chance to view the website before having to pay or sign up to anything they’re not comfortable with or not suited to. There are plenty of mature dating websites out there these days and these free features mean you can take your pick of your favourite before committing to a paid membership.

A lot of websites also offer different subscriptions such as a month, 3 month, 6 month or even a years membership so there’s something to suit everyone’s needs.

Specific, Unique and Personal

Some dating websites can be vague in terms of their target audience which makes it a painful task trying to find someone compatible to you. It can be like trying to find a needle in a haystack. You don’t want to be spending your valuable time looking through irrelevant user profiles or reading and deleting messages that you have no interest in. This becomes very tedious and demotivating, causing you to give up on online dating. But mature dating websites focus specifically on over 40’s. This narrows down the search results significantly and there are also plenty of other filters within most sites that allow you to narrow down your search even further.

You can also build your own unique profile on most online dating websites, resulting in even further compatible matches.

Safe and Respectful

The content on the majority of senior dating sites is respectful and mature and free from offensive images such as nudity. The purpose for senior dating sites is to provide support to its users in finding a genuine, long lasting relationship for whatever reason they’re seeking this for. The last thing you’d want as a user is to see explicit, vulgar content and these sites understand this. With this in mind you can sit back, relax and focus on finding like minded mature singles looking for the same thing as you.

On top of this, most sites also provide support through a customer services team which adds more peace of mind for the user.

 

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