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Happy & Healthy Marriage Advice Every Couple Should Use

Tying the knot is easy, it’s staying married that is the tricky part.

In order to be successful, you and your spouse must learn to compromise, respect each other, and communicate. Don’t let yourself forget how important your partner is to you.

If you want to have a happy, successful married life, then read on and learn the 10 best tips for a healthy marriage that every couple should be following.

  1. Always Put in the Effort

Getting married shouldn’t mean that end of dating – each other, obviously!

Putting in the effort to schedule a fun, sexy, or romantic date night is all about making your partner feeling loved, adored, and desired. These are important aspects of any healthy marriage.

Studies reveal other benefits of date night as well, such as heightened sexual and emotional intimacy, boredom prevention, and deeper communication.

  1. Build Lasting Trust

Trust is one of the most important parts of any healthy marriage.

Your partner should be the person you can tell your deepest secrets to without every worrying that they will judge you or share your stories with anyone else. Trust also means living with confidence that your spouse would never do anything to betray you nor you them.

  1. Play Like Friends

In a study about what makes a marriage last, treating a spouse like a best friend rated as one of the biggest indicators of success. Research also indicates that couples who laugh together regularly are more likely to stay together than those who do not.

Your best friend is the first person you think to call when something exciting happens. They are the person you want to go to concerts with, the person you trust, and the person who can always make you laugh. So, why shouldn’t this person be your spouse?

  1. Don’t Expect Perfection

Part of having a healthy married life is about having realistic expectations about your partner and loving them for who they are, not who you wish they would become.

People naturally mature as they grow older. They grow and change in various ways. Perhaps they even quit bad habits such as smoking or staying up all hours of the night. Your spouse may change their opinion about getting a pet, decide they actually do want kids, or may even change careers after marriage.

But, those are their own decisions. While you have every right to weigh in, offer you opinion, and give support as a spouse – thinking that you can be the cause of change in your partner is a fruitless challenge that will only leave you shaking your head.

  1. Maintain Your Sex Life

Sex is arguably the biggest way in which couples bond both emotionally and physically. The oxytocin released during intercourse is largely responsible for stress-reduction, mood elevation, and is the biggest predictor in heightened emotional intimacy in married couples.

An active sex life also promotes bonding, and is scientifically shown to deepen trust.

Plus, it’s fun.

  1. Pursue Separate Interests

Just because you’re married doesn’t mean you always have the same interests. It is just as important to pursue separate interests as is it to share hobbies and goals.

Maintaining solo hobbies and social lives will help each spouse hang onto their sense of self outside the relationship. In turn, this confidence will strengthen the marriage bond.

  1. Do New Things Together

According to twentieth century philosopher Rudolf Steiner, people change their opinions and interests every seven years. So, if the changing of body and mind is inevitable, do your utmost to ensure you and your spouse are changing and growing in the same direction.

One way you can do this is by sharing new things together. Take up a class, instrument, language, or start a new hobby like exercising or photography. By taking up these challenges together, you’ll be able to deepen the connection in your married life.

  1. Be Partners

Your spouse is not simply the person you married, they are your partner. By marrying them it means that you have entered into a partnership, so always treat it like one. Decisions are made together, issues are talked about respectfully, and each spouse’s feelings, thoughts, and opinions are to be treated with care.

Just like in a business, you and your spouse are working toward the same goal together in order to profit your relationship.

  1. Learn to Compromise

This step may be difficult for those who are used to getting what they want. But, being in a marriage means melding two different lives together. As with any couple, this is bound to cause you two to butt heads every once in a while. This is where the art of compromise comes in.

Marrying the love of your life means everything isn’t always about you anymore. You are building a family together as partners, not enemies. Learn to pick your battles. Decide what is important to you and what isn’t worth your instance.

  1. Don’t Go to Bed Angry

This age-old advice had been around for decades for a reason. Going to bed angry is a hurtful thing to do to both partners. You’ll end up losing sleep, hurting your spouse for your lack of communication and understanding, and be hurting your brain in the process. Literally.

Studies prove that by going to bed angry, you are actually encouraging your brain to hold onto negative emotions that will be harder to get rid of then if you had simply called a truce before bed.

Sure, there are some issues that could be put on hold until morning, but you should always strive to kiss and make up before bedtime.

Being married is a rewarding adventure, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t bumps along the way. By following these 10 tips, you’ll be setting yourself up for a healthy marriage for years to come.

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The Secret to Keeping your Sex Life Sexy is Simple

Married sex should be anything but boring. The longer you spend together as a couple the more you get to know each other emotionally and physically.

As long-term partners, you get to learn each other’s likes and dislikes, kinks and turn-offs, and have years’ worth of practice to make sure you’re both satisfied by the end of your romp. Truly, your sex life should actually be better the longer you’re together – not worse.

Still, if emotional intimacy in marriage is lacking, it can create problems in the bedroom. Your sex life should be fun and satisfying, not predictable and dull. Whether you’re bored in bed or are just looking to add a little spice to your sex life, look no further. Here are 8 tips for making your sex life even sexier.

1. Set the Mood

As long-term partners, all you and your spouse have to do to get the message across that you’re in the mood is make some simple eye-contact. Convenient? Yes. Romantic? Hardly.

There are charms to the occasional quickie, but when is the last time you and your spouse worked on seducing one another? One of the best things about getting married is that having sex is basically a given, but that doesn’t mean you should stop putting effort into the seduction process.

Stimulate your partner by setting the mood for lovemaking. Put on your favorite bedroom music, light some candles, and give each other massages. These things will stimulate sexual chemistry and make the payoff that much more exhilarating.

2. Roleplay Together

It’s time to get your acting chops ready, because you’re about to add a little drama into your sex life. One great way to spice up your sex is through a little harmless roleplay.

Roleplaying is great for boosting intimacy in marriage and your libidos since it allows you to stretch your creative muscles and act out dirty fantasies without actually putting yourself into danger.

Your imagination is often the key to a better sex life, so why not pretend to be someone else for a night and go wild? Pretend to be a student and teacher, pirate and wench, secretary and boss, dirty massage parlor, maid and boss, fake “hate sex”. Whatever your thrill, add it to the list of sexy roleplaying ideas you want to try.

3. Read to Each Other

Want to know how to spice up your sex life? Get creative.

Erotica is a great way to bring something new into the bedroom. Reading erotic stories to one another is a great start. Find a story that contains a fantasy you’re both curious about and take turns reading it to each other. Incorporate your naughty story as a regular part of foreplay and switch up the fantasies every once and a while.

Not only will this turn you both on, but the stories will also give you ideas for great role plays or new sex positions to try.

4. Play with Toys

Another great way to get creative in bed is to experiment with sex toys. These are designed, not to replace your partner, but to enhance the sex you’re already having.

It is thought that roughly 53% of women own a vibrator. This is not surprising, considering women are more likely to achieve orgasm during intercourse when adding a vibrating companion into the mix.

Don’t think that sex toys are just for her. There are plenty of other toys and additives you can incorporate into your sex life that will please both partners. Flavored or sensational lubricants, vibrating cock rings, dual stimulators, handcuffs, whips, ticklers, and orgasm gel are all great additions to your bedroom antics.

5. Communicate

Communication is key for any healthy relationship, and that includes talking about all things sex-related. When you talk to your partner about your desires, you build intimacy in marriage that teaches you both how to please one another.

Talk about what you like in bed, share your deepest fantasies, or do a sexy show-and-tell, talking them through the things you love while you’re actually in the act together. This fun instruction doubles as sexy dirty talk and is fun for both partners.

6. Break Your Routine

Routines in the bedroom can be nice. They help keep you focused and organized, are likely to get the orgasm every time. But, routines can also be monotonous.

Fight the bedroom boredom blues by mixing up your routine with new positions. Grab a book of sex positions and endeavor to try a new one each week. This is a great way to bond with your spouse while giving each other something new to look forward to.

You can also break your routine by taking sex out of the bedroom. Try fooling around somewhere new like on the couch, the kitchen table, or sit on the same side of the booth the next time you head out for a drink together and use some discreet handplay under the table.

7. Wear Lingerie

Lingerie is a great way to spice things up in the bedroom. For him, lingerie is a sexy way to be visually seduced by his partner. For her, wearing a lacy, silky garment that’s designed specifically to make her feel sexy and desirable is a huge ego-boost.

When you have self-confidence you’re more able to let go of your inhibitions in the bedroom. You can choose lingerie as tasteful, kinky, or risque as you are comfortable with.

So long what you’re wearing makes you feel hot and confident, it’s a winner. The bottom line is when you look good, you feel good, and feeling confident in the bedroom is one of the quickest ways to skyrocket your sex life.

Don’t let a long-term relationship be your excuse for a boring sex life. By setting the mood, building up your body confidence, fostering emotional intimacy, getting creative, and taking your time in bed, you and your spouse are sure to have a sex life that is anything but boring.