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How to Dress for Your First Date at the Beach

There is something inherently romantic about beach dates. You can feel the sand between your toes, almost taste the salt in your mouth, and the gentle breeze is definitely doing your hair a favour by making it seem like you’re on a movie set. However, picking out the perfect outfit for a beach date makes this experience less pleasant. You can’t go with the usual classics such as the little black dress or spice up a casual jeans combination with your favourite stilettos. Don’t ruin your beauty sleep over this; here are a few tips that will make your style just as beautiful as your hair fluttering in the wind.

Is it sun-and-fun or sunset and romance?

First of all, you need to separate these two very different beach dates. If you are going to the beach in the middle of the day, when everyone, including you, will swim, sunbathe or play sand volleyball, you can get by in your usual swimsuit and some accessories. However, if we are talking about a romantic evening at the beach, and perhaps even a picnic with wine (you’re so lucky), you should up the game a little bit. And the following few tips are all about upping the game.

Jeans and all that goes with them

Take out your favourite pair of jeans shorts from your closet, and rock it with your bikini top. This is an especially great choice for an active day on the beach. If you are planning on wearing shorts in the evening, spice up the combination with a cover-up top (think something light and dreamy like a crochet piece), multiple bracelets, a floppy sun hat and a casual tote bag.

When you think about it, it’s all about a stylish cover-up

Although they’re mentioned earlier, they didn’t get the attention they deserve. Cover-ups are the 101 of beach dates, because they can make the transition from an ordinary day on the beach to a hot date seamless. The same goes for the transition between a romantic walk and a “let’s go night swimming” decision. Plus, they can make you look different on the beach each day, even if you are wearing the same swimsuit. The most stylish among cover-ups are, of course, kaftans. As the summer is approaching, kaftans in the UK are making a huge comeback, so it is time to equip yourself with a few.

Maximize your style

You know what we are talking about? There is nothing more whimsical than a lady walking along the white stretches of sand in a light maxi dress. This outfit is made for you particularly if you are a fan of the bohemian style. Even though it doesn’t require any further styling efforts, you can finish up your look with various details, such as bracelets, necklaces, rings, hats, hair jewelry (why not, even a flower band), bags, etc.

Beach elegance

Maybe your beach date is unlike any situation mentioned above. Maybe you will have a real deal romantic dinner with wine, music and flowers. In that case, it is only natural to dress up more than in the previous cases. You need to find the balance between dressy and comfortable, though. High heels and cocktail dresses are out of the question, of course. There are several combinations you can choose from according to your sensibility. You can wear non-jeans shorts and a transparent blouse (which can have laced sleeves for the extra ‘wow’ effect). Another option is a mini or midi dress made of lightweight material. Consider breathable fabrics like linen, lace, rayon and silk.

Finally, your outfit is not the only thing you should think about. When it comes to makeup, you should go with a natural look, without aggressive details like eyeliner and lipstick. Now go have fun on your date!

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5 Valentine’s Day Gifts Perfect for Him

Girls it’s that time of the year again, February the 14th is approaching and fast. Don’t wait for the last second to get your partner the perfect Valentine’s gift. He might not realize that you’ve made a last minute purchase, but let’s be honest it won’t be half as good as something you have invested a lot of time and consideration into.

Now to get you started on your shopping journey here are five great gift ideas for your loved one.

Beard grooming kit

If you have a dapper man by your side, chances are he is proudly dawning his carefully groomed beard. Now, what better way to show your appreciation for the time and effort he puts into having the perfect beard then to get him a quality beard grooming kit. There are a few essentials that this gift needs to contain in order for it to really impress him. First and most importantly it needs a beard comb, preferably rosewood, next, a selection of quality beard oils and waxes, and finally a great wooden box to keep it all in. An there you have it, an ideal Valentine’s gift for your bearded man.

Beer brewing kit

One of the biggest trends sweeping the male populations these days is craft beer. By opting for a beer brewing kit you will allow your man to make his own. This is such a great gift, it is both manly and empowering, and the best part is, he won’t see it coming. A gift of beer is always a great gift especially if your man is a beer lover. You could even go a step further and get him everything he need for DIY beer bottle label making so that when he finishes his first batch he can customize the bottles and share a few with his friends.

Gym gear

If your man loves sports and going to the gym, a Valentine’s day gift along those lines is a must. You should consider browsing websites like Ryderwear UK to find quality gym clothing that would be ideal for your man. In addition to sports wear you should also opt for some exercise equipment. First get familiar with what he usually uses, and try to figure out what he’s missing, that way he will appreciate your gift even more. You can even offer to join him for a few training sessions just to make the gift a bit more special.

A great pair of tickets

Depending on your man’s preferences you can get him tickets for his favourite band’s concert or a sports match. Whether it’s soccer or basketball, just make sure his team is playing on home turf because it will make it that much more exciting. You can go together and have a great time. He’ll appreciate your willingness to do an activity dear to his heart. You can even make the gesture that much more romantic if you present him with the gift while wearing the T-shirt with the name of the band or his favourite team’s jersey. This will definitely be a perfect Valentine’s day gift.

Some stylish accessories

If your man is fashionable and cares about his style, then a few carefully selected accessories might be the perfect gift. You can opt for a quality leather belt or a fashion forward scarf. If you truly know his preferences then you can even go as far as getting him a great pair of sunglasses or a modern hat. Basically anything to complement his style, and to show him that you notice the time and effort he puts into looking that good.

There you have it, five Valentine’s day gift ideas that are sure to make your man happy. But more importantly they will show him that you care, and that’s what this holiday is all about.

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How to Improve Your Love Life in 5 Effective Steps

They say that when you’re single, the world is your oyster, and in many ways that’s true. There are plenty of advantages to being single, but at the end of the day, we’re all longing for that one person who will be everything. We want a friend, a confidant, a lover and someone around whom we can be our most authentic self. In today’s strange dating world you could be taking all the steps that seem right to you, but still fall short. Times have definitely changed, and in order to get to ‘the one’ there seem to be a lot more obstacles than before. Still, that’s not a reason to give up.

No, this is the time when you pick yourself up, even after the worst of experiences and try something new. You know the saying – you can’t do the same thing and expect different results. These five steps are probably something you haven’t tried before, and they are bound to get your love mojo back, whether you’re single and looking for love or already dating and searching for ways to improve a relationship.

Compromise with a twist

The general rule of thumb is that relationships are about compromise, and there is great truth to that. One of the biggest mistakes people make comes as a result of misinterpretation of the concept. While you should do things for the other person that aren’t exactly your cup of tea, such as for instance going hiking even though you’re not exactly outdoorsy, there is a fine line between compromise and accepting things that truly bother you. Certain types of behavior are unacceptable, they’re what we call deal-breakers, and when these arise, you need to have an open conversation with the person you’re dating and express your feelings.

If they are worthy and willing to make an effort for the sake of the relationship, they will change these habits. If not, your frustration will continue to increase. Sometimes being smart is knowing when to call it quits. For those who are single – try to see the potential in someone, and don’t discard a possible relationship as soon as you notice one flaw.

Know your worth

When you look back at your dating record, do you sometimes get the feeling that you’ve been dating the same guy over and over again? We all have a pattern, and when picking a certain type of person is one of yours, you need to put an end to it. This is where doing the same thing and expecting the same results resonates most true. If things aren’t working out and you keep dating, it’s because you’re constantly choosing virtually the same guy, and that guy is not the one for you. Step out of your comfort zone and realize that you deserve better.

As an experiment, just once go out with someone completely different from your usual type, and you’ll be pleasantly surprised at how refreshing this change could be. This next person might not be the one, even though you might be insanely attracted to them. Always be aware of that there is a battle of lust vs. love going on, and try to keep your head above the clouds and not get swept up by the first. Dip your feet in the water, date several different types, and ultimately you’ll find the one that truly fits. There are many things one should compromise on, but the choice of partner is not one of them. Always know your worth  and never settle for a treatment that leaves plenty to be desired.

No such thing as perfect

People are quick to notice the shortcomings of others, but quite reluctant to accept and acknowledge their own. If you’re the kind of person who always claims to be right, and whatever goes sour is someone else’s fault, you need to take a long hard look in the mirror and reexamine your own actions. Taking your share of the blame, whether for a bad date or a small fight that escalated, there are always two sides of the story. When in a fight, instead of instinctively placing the blame on the other person, step out of your body and listen to the words coming out of your own mouth and pay attention to your body language. Believe us, it takes two to tango.

In coupling and in singleness

You should never, ever stop improving yourself and lose sight of who you are. This isn’t only relevant for your love life, although it can be a great bonus. Never stop doing the things you love, chasing your passions, taking up hobbies – in short, never stop elevating yourself, culturally, spiritually, intellectually. Being the best possible version of yourself inevitably increases your sense of self-worth, and your positive and confident attitude as well as all the wonderful quirks and interests make you incredibly attractive. People pick up on that – the right people that is, so the more complete you are as a person, the more high-quality people you will attract. It applies to co-workers, friends and potential partners.

Out of want, not out of need

Never enter a relationship when you’re at your loneliest. That is when we are prone to accepting whatever little attention is given to us. Loneliness often leads to desperation, and that in turn can make you fall in the arms of a completely wrong person, simply because you needed a pair of hands to hold you. These kinds of relationships inevitably make you feel stuck and you end up resenting the person, thinking they’ve tricked you into being with them. Accept the loneliness, work on yourself, and when you realize that you want someone instead of desperately needing someone, you will be able to make much better choices.