The love can blind us, it can heal us, it can make us do extraordinary things. When people start a relationship, sparkles constantly fly around, because we are learning about each other and investigating our sexuality. So, when we enter the world of marriage, that fierce passion slowly fades away, and couples usually transit into the attachment phase and value more conformity, respect and security. Keeping the sparks lit in our body is essential for a long-lasting marriage because we would feel happier, more satisfied and even healthier.
2. Plan an exciting weekend getaway
Hectic lifestyle, work responsibilities, kids and many other obligations, next to being exhausting, can also be sexually repulsive. That means, that you would just feel too tired to engage in night activities. A perfect way to escape from your daily routines and, of course, spice up your marriage, is to just run away. Find a nice cottage in the mountains, or go to a 5-star hotel and enjoy in thrilling and relaxing spa and juicy weekend getaway. Dedicate that time only to yourself. If possible, leave the smartphones at home and only bring a bottle (or two) of wine. And don’t forget to light up the fireplace and turn the heat on (literally).
2. Get spontaneous
If it has been days or even weeks after your last physical connection, then you should try the surprise factor. All relationships need spontaneity, and believe it or not, many great things can come out of it. It isn’t difficult to be spontaneous. You only have to kiss your partner when he or she is least expecting it and follow up that kiss with a nice twist and roll to the bed. Play smooth jazz and pop the champagne. And before you know it, things will heat up.
3. Embrace the role play
After a certain period, many married couples got used to making love in the same tedious manner. But as time passes, same old posses can get rather dull and that should be a signal to make a change. Role play can be extremely fun and exciting. Even those people who aren’t creative at all can come up with some vivid role. You can play pretend that you are an officer and prisoner begging to be set free. Or a nurse and a dying patient, the list is endless. You don’t need provocative costumes, or any special dress up, just try to make it a little bit dramatic and exhilarating.
4. Try something new
Again, routine! The best way to totally transform your marriage and spice it up is to try out something different. You can organize an intimate dinner party and have a heavy make-out session. Or break the rules and do something utterly thrilling like sneaking out into a park after hours or getting some fiery sex toys such as The Hot Spot has to offer and set fire to your imagination. By igniting your naughty side, and having fun you would, without doubt, fire up your marriage
5. Put off the contact
You might be wondering, why should we do that? Some research has actually proven that by delaying and putting off physical contact can lead to having passionate and flaming sex. What?! Oh yes. Just when you have started getting physical, try to stop it. It might drive you completely crazy, but in a few days, when you continue where you’ve left off, you won’t be able to keep the hands off each other.
6. Mix it up with food
When you fall into a boring routine and keep going to the same old restaurant, your spirit will definitely bring you down. In order to shake things up, break that routine and embark in a spicy adventure. Go together to a local market and get exotic food like lobster or seafood. Go home, add mix those exotic ingredients and start cooking together. After dinner, bring the dessert to the bedroom. And for the dessert serve strawberries, cherries, whipped cream and each other.
7. Try juicy aphrodisiacs
Let’s just follow up with the desserts. There is no better way to get active than by experimenting. And some aphrodisiacs can do wonders because they actually work. Next, to being delicious, an aphrodisiac is something that can immediately increase your libido. Chocolate and red wine are at the top of the list. Fruits dipped into chocolate mousse are also a winning combo. Then there is the edible body paint. Licking chocolate sauce and whipped cream off your partner is undoubtedly fiery and it will get the ball rolling.
8. Be flirtatious
Bring back the memories of past days when you have just started dating. By reminiscing about the past, you can remember how your partner used to court you and then you can try to redo all of that. Get flirtatious, talk about past days and how you used to make love, and then try to repeat old favourites. Try dressing a little bit provocative, and make your partner talk how he would take off your clothes and explain, step by step, things he would do to you.
9. Location and pose shift
If you can’t seem to find time to go somewhere far, then you can try with changing locations locally. Make love in the places where you haven’t done before. The back of your car is always a good option, soup up in the shower, “do a quickie” in the restaurant’s toilet, or just place a blanket in your backyard and let the starts wow you. Change poses more often. Get the classical kama sutra book of love and positions, and start experimenting.
10. Talk about it
Communication and respect is the key to a good marriage. You might not know it, but it is also key to a quality sex life. There is something that rekindles the spark between spouses when they start talking about their wishes and desires. Open up, and discuss what you would like to try to change in order to enliven your marriage. In the end, practice gratitude, and try to help each other and be thankful for your relationship.
It would be absolutely perfect if there existed a magic wand which you can just swing and make everything peachy as it used to be. It takes time, effort, a little bit of patience and creativity. However, if you follow these tips you will spice up your marriage in no time.