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5 Fun-Filled Dates on a Budget

 

First dates can be a stressful experience, especially if you do not have a lot of money to impress the object of your affection. The best way to overcome this stress is to have lots of fun, which often does not require much money at all.

Here are some inexpensive and fun-filled ideas for dates as well as some important dating tips:

  1. Perform Karaoke

First dates are notorious for creating lots of tension and nervousness. So, why not do something that will almost surely relieve this tension and your nervousness: perform karaoke.

Lots of bars and pubs these days have karaoke machines, and most of these places are not expensive. Before you go, check what songs they have and select a few. You might even want to practice singing them before your date, either at the bar or in the comfort of your own home. Then, at the beginning your date, bravely take the stage.

Understand that it does not matter if your singing skills are not the best. In fact, getting your date to laugh just may be the best reaction to get. But don’t worry about the reaction. Just go up there and have fun, which can be very contagious. No matter how well or poorly you perform; you will certainly break the ice and show your date that you are adventurous.

Then, try to entice your date to take the stage as well. This can be tricky, so if this person is hesitant, suggest a duet. Something you two will always be able to remember. Even if your date is still hesitant, you can still have fun that night laughing at everyone else.

  1. Go to an Arcade

Do you remember how much fun arcades were when you were kids? Well, guess what, they are just as much fun when you are adult, especially on dates. What’s more, they provide lots of inexpensive entertainment that will make both of you feel young again.

First, find out what kind of games your date likes to play, and let them know what you like. This can be a great icebreaker, as you can learn all sorts of things about each other and what you each enjoy. Then, play all the games both you and your date love. You can even make it a competition, though you probably want to make certain that your date wins at least 50% of the time, if not more.

Also, try to find games that you can play against each other, such as air hockey. As your minds will naturally focus on the game, they won’t be able to focus on how nervous you both are, which can open all sorts of possibilities for conversation.

Some arcades even allow you to win prizes, which can be a great keepsake for your first date together.

  1. Go Geocaching

There is nothing more fun than going on a treasure hunt, and this is basically what geocaching is. The way it works is that you use your mobile devices to find “treasures,” which have been hidden in places all over the world. Not only is this a fun way to spend a date, but it will cost you almost nothing.

All you need in addition to a mobile device is the free Geocaching app, which is available for both iOS and Android devices, and a pen or pencil. Armed with these basic tools, you and your date, search for buried treasure while exploring your town or city on foot. The treasure hunting aspect of your journey is a great conversation starter, and you will have lots of time to get to know each other, especially if you stop for a drink or snacks along the way.

The object of geocaching is not only to find buried treasure, but also to log what you have found it. This is why you need a pen or pencil. As an added benefit, this leaves a permanent record of your first date, which you could one day possibly relive. Maybe even with your children or grandchildren.

  1. Visit a Zoo

The great thing about taking your date to a zoo is that you are certain to have a good time with all those cute animals to entertain you. Another certainly is that you will not have to spend a lot of money.

You can learn an awful lot about your date during a trip to the zoo. You can not only learn what animals they like, but you can also exchange pet and other animal stories from your past while you explore the grounds. The animals and their antics will also help take away your jitters, and they will make you feel comfortable.

Similarly, an aquarium or other places that feature wildlife can be a great option as well.

  1. Cook Together

There is no rule that says that your first date must be in a restaurant or in a bar. It can be in your own home. While you could just cook for this other person, it is much more fun to cook together, and unless you’re cooking something crazy like lobsters it should be very affordable.

First, discover your date’s favorite food. Then, invite them over to cook together. You can learn lots about this person while you are doing this, and you can have lots of fun together while you make all sorts of messes. You can also find out just how well you function as a team.

The great thing about this kind of date is that it has a proven track record of success. Famously, Prince Harry proposed to Meghan Markle while they were cooking roast chicken together.

In conclusion, there is no reason to let a small budget limit the fun of your first date. Simply follow the dating tips contained here and you will escape the friend zone, and perhaps you will even take that first step toward finding the love of your life.

 

Discover How Marriage is the Perfect Place to Learn Valuable Leadership Skills

Marriage is a rollercoaster. It provides happiness and escape from everyday life. It occasionally comes with a unique set of trials. And it is the perfect place to develop and hone leadership abilities.

This is because leadership and marriage have something in common – a partnership. One spouse can’t have a healthy marriage without the help of their partner. Similarly, leadership involves teamwork and cooperation in order to be successful.

Leadership can be used on various occasions throughout life. In marriage, business, or even simply coaching a sports team. Marriage impacts how a leader speaks to their team. It sets the tone for how much trust, consideration, and communication there is in interpersonal relationships.

Here are 7 ways marriage equips you to be a strong leader in your life.

  1. The Power of Listening

In a healthy marriage, both partners learn how to listen to one another. Couples are happier when they feel they can speak their mind and that their partner is hearing them.

Partners must be empathetic when they listen. They pay attention to what emotion is coming forward and react accordingly. Part of listening also means not interrupting or overreacting, even when they feel like their partner is completely wrong or off-base about certain claims.

These positive qualities of listening are essential for a strong marriage. They are also helpful in developing good leadership habits.

Leaders must listen to their teams concerns and comments. They must be able to hear criticism without getting upset and show their team the respect of being uninterrupted. This will ultimately make the team stronger and more united.

  1. Teamwork is Everything

The Australian Institute of Family Studies discusses eight characteristics of long-married couples. The long-term study on marriage found that some of the most important qualities in a lasting relationship are adaptability, enjoying each other’s company, and a balance of power.

This balance of power, or teamwork, is the cornerstone of a healthy marriage.

The study goes on to have partners cite reasons why they believe their marriages have been successful. Among the top reasons listed were agreement on goals and aims, treating a partner as a best friend, and being committed to making the marriage work.

Leaders must also be able to appreciate teamwork. Ego has no place in a team environment. It is only with the help and support of others that a leader is able to lead effectively.

  1. Communication is Vital

Communication is the backbone of any good relationship. Couples communicate to get to know one another better. They also talk when they need comfort, forgiveness or fun. But, communicating is more than just talking.

Partners must be honest with one another about their thoughts and feelings. Communicating effectively means talking about a problem instead of attacking your spouse. It involves active listening and empathy.

Healthy communication can help resolve arguments and prevent misunderstandings from happening.

These are vital skills for those in positions of leadership. A leader must be able to understand their team, clients, and colleagues. Communicating will help make tasks and personal relationships a breeze.

  1. Always Keep Learning

Nobody gets married and then gets crowned the best husband/wife in the world the very next day. Learning about a partner takes time and patience. Couples must put in the effort to learn how to make their marriage work.

Partners should never feel too embarrassed to learn more about their spouse. They need to ask questions, make time for one another, and communicate regularly.

Leaders also learn to hone their craft. They learn about their team. They learn about their own strengths and weaknesses. And they look for opportunities to continue to grow and get better.

Nobody ever stops learning. Not married couples and not leaders.

  1. Celebrate Success

Couples who are truly in love know the value of sharing their successes and celebrating each other’s victories.

Studies show that couples who celebrate successes together are more likely to associate their relationship with happiness and well-being. Couples who did not share their triumphs together were commonly quotes as relating their relationship as poor.

Positive emotional exchanges are an important and sometimes overlooked aspect of a healthy marriage. Partners love and appreciate when their spouse shows appreciation for their work and celebrates them achieving their goals.

Leaders should also celebrate the success of their team. Doing so creates personal connections and raises team morale.

  1. Never Give Up

Marriage is a wild ride that is full of ups and downs for every couple out there. There are times when being married will feel like winning the lottery every day. There will also be times where a husband or wife will question why walking down the aisle ever seemed like a good idea.

But those who are true to their marriage vows have one undeniable leadership skill. They never give up.

Couples who love each other work through their problems and vow to stay together through thick and thin. They address problems and talk to each other in order to keep their bond strong. Nothing will stand in the way of their marriage being a success.

Leaders have this same drive and passion when it comes to making their goals a reality.

  1. Trusting Gut Instincts

A married couple is deeply in-tune with one another. This connection allows them to realize when something seems amiss in the relationship.

A leader must be able to follow their gut instincts. They must know when something seems off about their team. They should have a firm grasp on their goals and be attuned to their gut instincts. This will help them re-adjust personal relationships and goals for the greater good.

Many lessons learned through marriage can be applied to one’s personal and professional life. Teamwork is essential both in marriage and in running a business. It’s equally as important to know the strengths of yourself and your partner. Yes, marriage is the perfect place to learn such valuable leadership skills.

How to make your divorce as painless as possible

In a perfect world, every “I do” would be for life, and everybody would live happily ever after. However, because life, unfortunately, isn’t a fairy tale, divorces do happen, and they bring a series of question with them. What do I do now? Do I get an attorney? What happens with the house? Who gets the dog? What do I tell the children? In what is possibly the most uncertain period of your life, here are some pieces of advice to help you see it all through.

 

“I used to think that divorce meant failure, but now I see it more as a step along the path of self-realization and growth.” – Zsa Zsa Gabor

 

1. Gather your wits

Even though this is an emotionally trying stage for you, you have to be able to think clearly. There are a time and place for everything, so while it is perfectly reasonable and even beneficial to express your emotions and lament your losses, you need to make a point of not letting your feelings cloud your judgment.

Think about divorce as any other kind of business – your marriage is essentially a contract that you want to terminate. You need to be objective about it and find the best way to do it. To be able to go through the process in the easiest way possible, you need to educate yourself on the laws and regulations regarding marriage and divorce in your jurisdiction. Use all resources at your disposal to gain as much insight as you can – the internet is overflowing with useful info, and you can always ask for help in any law clinic, free of charge.

2. Plan

You can deal with the divorce itself in several ways: by settling it with your ex directly, without any lawyers involved; you can go through a mediation process, or you can go to court if all else fails. If you and your ex, are still in an amicable relationship, and you still trust them, the cheapest way is to do it yourself. However, because the law systems are never simple, you and your ex might want to get attorneys even if you’re still in a good place. For example, in Australia, you can’t get divorced unless you’ve been separated for 12 months, but there are family mediation services in Sydney that can explain your options to you if that is too much time for you to wait. Every jurisdiction has its own separate set of rules, and sometimes it can be difficult to navigate them without a professional at your side. In any case, you need to choose the preferred method for yourself, based on your own unique situation.

Of course, there is more than just that. You need to consider the ways to share your property. Start collecting financial evidence of your and your partner’s situation, in case of necessity. Talk to your ex about dividing the household items. Make a list of everything that you mean to keep, and everything that you can live without, to make the negotiation easier. In other words, prepare yourself as well as you can, because a tiring process is before you, and you’ll be thankful for any head start you can get.

 

 

“There’s nothing like a family crisis, especially a divorce, to force a person to re-evaluate his life.” – Michael Douglas 

 

3. Think of the children

If you have any children, the things are only going to be more complicated. It this case especially, it’s crucial to be level-headed and to try and be as civil as possible in all dealings with your former spouse.

The most important thing is not to let the kids be dragged into the dispute between their parents. Their parent’s divorce is already extremely traumatizing for them, so the last thing you want to do is add more stress to their lives by bad mouthing your ex or making them choose between the two of you. Regardless of your feelings, you have to make sure that the children feel as safe as they can possibly be, and you need to show them that you and your partner will love them, no matter what. Always remember, your ex is your ex, but they are a constant in your children’s lives, as much as you are.

4. Learn to rely on other people…

…That are not your ex. The bottom line is that you need to feel secure. If your friends and family are giving you that sense of security and you don’t feel a need for a therapist, that’s great! If that is not the case, however, and you feel that everything is too much for you to handle, don’t be afraid of asking a professional for help. If it’s the emotional baggage, see a therapist. If the law is too complicated, find an attorney. If your attorney is a problem, you feel that they don’t understand you, or you’re getting the feeling that they’re playing you against your ex to prolong the process, fire them immediately and look for a better professional.

5. Reclaim the control of your life

Even though it may seem that somebody has cut the ground from under your feet, try to hold on to the idea that every end marks a new beginning. You are starting the next chapter of your life, and no matter how scary it is, it can also be wonderful. In the process of divorce, try to secure a better head start for yourself and your future. Do not agree to anything that can be harmful to you in the long run.

 

Remember, the divorce only happened because the downsides of your marriage outweighed the upsides. That means that, by terminating your marriage, you’ve rid yourself of a toxic aspect of your life. However hard it might be, try to adopt a positive perspective. Try something new. Do that thing that you’ve always wanted, but never did because you didn’t want to upset your ex. Find the strength in the new beginning and don’t be afraid to change. 

Bridal Accessories

5 Most Important Accessories That Complete Your Wedding Look

When Celine Dion got married to René Angélil in 1994, she wore a 7-pound crystal tiara that had to be sewn to her head. Several tabloids pronounced it the “worst celebrity wedding looks ever“. Though her wedding dress was tagged as one of the most gorgeous dresses of all time, the tiara was a big no-no.

Sure your wedding dress may be the showstopper on your D-day, but your wedding look is incomplete without the right accessories. Accessories have the power to make or break any outfit.

When it comes to accessorizing, you have a plethora of options to choose from. But, it is best not to go overboard. However, here are a few accessories that you may want to unfailingly include in your wedding ensemble.

1) Veil

A veil is more than just an extension of your wedding gown. It’s a statement piece in itself, and a wedding dress is complete only after the veil falls beautifully on the bride’s face. Here are the key styles all brides should know of:

  • Juliet Veil: Mostly associated with a vintage bride, this veil got a revival after Kate Moss chose to wear it on her wedding day. This 20s-inspired veil has a cap gathering at the top of the bride’s head that holds the veil in place.
  • Two-Tier Veil: This veil is held in place with an invisible comb and looks impeccably stunning with a floor length gown.
  • Bird Cage/Bandeau Veil: This type of veil is made to frame your face, and it pairs well with short swing dresses.
  • Embroidery: You can wear embroidered veils with low-back or backless gowns if you don’t want their details to get lost.
  • Mantilla Veil: This is a chapel-length veil with heavy lace embroidery that gives it a Spanish flare. It looks good with both, embellished and simple dresses.

2) Headpiece

If veils are not your thing, you can go for other headpieces like hair combs and fascinators. Check out the different options available to brides:

  • Bridal Barrette: Go for this if you plan to let your hair fall on your shoulder. The barrette will clip back your hair and keep your bangs from falling on your face.
  • Hair Comb: Brides who want an up-do on their D-day can consider hair combs. These are also great for embellishing a birdcage veil.
  • Tiara: You can wear this irrespective of whether you are opting for an up-do, or planning to let your hair loose. A tiara is perfect to complement the princess look. Think Anne Hathaway’s bridal look in the Princess Diaries.
  • Fascinator: Fascinators give the ideal finish to the vintage-bride look. You can wear them with almost any hairstyle and also attach it to a birdcage veil.
  • Flowers: Keep your hairstyle simple, yet stunning with flowers as your headpiece. You can stick a few flowers in your up-do, or wear a floral tiara as both look great on brides.
  • Hair Ribbons: These are meant for brides who go for a braided hairstyle. They look good on both, long and short hair.
  • Headbands: These will keep your hair out of your face if you are wearing your hair down. Headbands are also a flattering choice for brides with short hair.

3) Footwear

The last thing you want to worry about on your wedding day is your footwear killing your feet. Choose comfortable shoes so you can enjoy your day to the fullest. If you want to wear heels, make sure they’re comfortable because you will be standing for long hours and you don’t want to be cringing in pain before you have even hit the dance floor.

You can go for kitten heels or stacked heels rather than stilettos. Look for heels with ankle and toes straps for more security. You can also consider adding gel insoles to cushion your feet. Another great advice is to pick a pair of shoes that you are likely to wear again. Choose silver over a pure white pair, as you can wear it later with different dresses on outings and other weddings.

4) Belts and Sashes

Belts and sashes make lovely wedding accessories. Just because your wedding dress doesn’t come with a belt doesn’t mean it won’t look great on it. You can customize your gown by adding a belt that is embellished with matching rhinestones and gems.

Consider a classic satin sash or metallic leather belt for an instant upgrade to your ensemble. Make sure that the belt you choose complements your body type. Brides with a short torso should wear thin belts while those with a longer torso should go for wider belts. If you are slightly heavy at the waist, choose a beaded or heavily embellished belt. Women with a petite body frame can go for a belt with V-shape appliqué.

Tip: Stick to a belt that is no more than three-inches wide if you don’t want it to overpower your gown.

5) Jewelry

The bridal look is incomplete without the right jewelry, but don’t overdo it or it will end up shifting the attention from your wedding gown. Here are a few tips to choose the right jewelry:

  • If your dress is strapless, skip the necklace and don an elegant pair of chandelier earrings. Wear clear crystal for a sleek look or add a hint of color with your birthstone or any color from the flowers in your bridal bouquet. Vintage-loving brides can add an art-deco style bracelet or wear a 20s-inspired feather barrette as a headpiece.
  • If your gown has a V-neckline, wear a delicate chain with a small pendant or a crystal choker. For a classic look, single or double-stranded pearls are a perfect choice. Finish the look with matching earrings, and a gold or diamond cocktail ring.
  • Skip the necklace if you are wearing a halter-neck gown. Instead, focus on your tresses. Wear a headband or a tiara to add panache to your bun. Choose a delicate ring from a plethora of stunning rings to go with this look. Keep it minimalistic and wear delicate diamond studs that will look striking with the up-do. Take inspiration from Meghan Markle’s wedding look. The Duchess of Sussex wore some of the most beautiful accessories – understated stud earrings, a tiara and a simple veil that complemented her messy bun.

Once you have said “yes” to your wedding dress, it is time to look for the right accessories. The essentials mentioned above will add the finishing touches to your bridal look and complete your wedding ensemble. After all, the goal is to look the best and the most beautiful version of yourself on your wedding!

Spice Up Your Wedding Reception With These 10 Tips

Everybody wants their wedding reception to be unique and memorable. With all the other couples trying to be original, here’s how you can truly achieve that with a couple of cool tricks.

1. Let the guests get creative

Formal mementoes are not that interesting anymore, so why not offer your guests DIY trinkets and crafty gifts? You definitely have some guests that enjoy making stuff with their hands, so why not give them the opportunity to make their own memory from your wedding day and have fun in the process?

2. Hire a magician

Who doesn’t love to be surprised by pure magic? Hiring a magician is an easy thing to organize, and it’s equally fun for adults and kids. The magician can perform the tricks during the drinks reception and entertain the guests who want to take a short break from the dancing.

3. Photo scavenger hunt

This is fun for all ages and something that will make your wedding reception different than any other before. The hunt can be made in such a way so that the guests can compete throughout the whole day. You can also include the catering staff in the game. There are some competitive individuals among the guests for sure so bring that nature in them out.

4. A crazy first dance

You may have seen it on the YouTube – the bride and the groom who have secretly been learning a dance routine to amaze the guests at the right time and mark the beginning of a crazy night. Choose the style you both feel comfortable with and ensure your wedding reception is remembered for a long time.

5. Singing waiters

Why not find a unique group of waiters that will definitely bring a smile to everybody’s face? There’s no better way to liven up the dinner time than having waiters who suddenly burst into song and surprise everybody!

6. Wedding drink station

Booze is pretty important at a wedding reception, so take it to the next level. Give your guests the opportunity to customize their own drinks with various liqueurs and fruits. A creative wedding drink station can be so popular that it could easily become the focal point of the whole reception.

7. Install a photo booth

A photo booth may have become a classic in the recent years, but it doesn’t mean you can make it unique – it all depends on what type of photo booth you install. The great thing about them is that they come on various shapes and sizes, so you can find the perfect one to fit in with the style of the whole reception. It can be something cool like a caravan booth or a magic mirror. Or why not let your guests be creative with GIF booth hire options and post the pics directly on Facebook and Instagram? Everybody enjoys making ridiculously funny pictures after a drink or two!

8. Have a tasting station

A full bar is a great addition to the reception, but take it one step further by offering your guests an interactive drink experience – let your guests sample various drinks and learn a thing or two about a specific drink. The best drinks to be offered at the tasting station are wine, whiskey and beer – who would refuse the possibility to taste different types of their favorite drink?

 

9. Think of the kids, too

Children often get forgotten at wedding receptions, left to quietly sit and be bored. Well, not at your wedding reception! Come up with some cool special area just for the little ones. Fill it up with toys, colouring supplies and colouring books and other fun things. Both the parents and the kids will be grateful to you and you can be sure your wedding reception will be remembered.

10. Plan a surprise for the end of the night

There’s nothing more fun than a wedding where guests get to be really surprised, especially at the end of the reception. You should make sure that most of your guests stick around to the very end by teasing them with the special end. It can be a crazy dance routine for everybody or a karaoke session. If nothing else, a bit of firework for the end of the night always amazes everybody.

Final words

Any of these tips will help you get there – creating a fabulous wedding reception. A one or two original ideas – and your wedding will be remembered for the years to come.

13 Biggest Turn Offs Men Should Be Aware Of To Score A Good Relationship

When it comes to dating, you should focus only on what would turn the other person on. Rather, think about the things that would turn the person off.

Major let-downs for women can range from superficial, such as physical features and hygiene, to absolutely offensive, like beliefs and manners.

If you’re a guy and is new to dating, here are 13 of the biggest deal breakers women share.

1. You’re lying

If you’re dishonest on the very first date, then there’s no way you’ll be asked for a second date. We all deserve truth and authenticity. Any kind of dishonesty, whether it’s as trivial as your favorite hobby or as extreme as your marital status, is an immediate red flag.

Women and men alike won’t be interested in someone who feels the need to misrepresent their age, height, marital status, occupation, financial stability, possessions, and vices.

2. You’re late

If you’re always running late or can’t totally show up from time to time (even when you’re sending fresh, beautiful flowers) , your date may imply that you’re not serious, or worse, you’re self-centered. Time is precious, so wasting your date’s time repetitively is a strong signal for her to look elsewhere.

3. Your bad hygiene shows

Nothing turns off a woman faster than a man who doesn’t even make an effort to look and smell decent and presentable.

Combed hair, clean, newly-laundered clothes, fresh breath and regularly brushed teeth, tidy nails, clean ears, washed hands, and pleasant (not even scented with expensive perfume) smell all over – are these too much to ask?

It’s not just a matter of being unpleasant. When a guy doesn’t seem to be taking care of himself, that could be a sign that he’s looking for someone to take care of him – and no, that shouldn’t be the woman’s problem.

4. You don’t have an ambition

There’s a fine line between being “carefree” and “lacking the ambition.” You don’t have to have big goals for yourself and for your future partner. However, you must have some goals and work to get close to that pursuit.

5. You’re jobless

Being unemployed is a top deal breaker for women, especially if you’re still living in your mother’s nest. Not that most women can’t provide for themselves – unemployment implies you’re not where you want to be, thus are not stable both financially and emotionally.

Depending and living with your parents while in your 20s or 30s may suggest co-dependence, fear of commitment, and the lack of motivation and emotional maturity.

6. You have smoking, drinking, gambling, and drug issues

Smoking has long been considered as a major turn off, especially for non-smokers. But for some, dating a smoker is okay as long as the person is responsible enough to smoke in designated areas, control the intake, and work to curb the unpleasant effects like bad breath and smelly clothes and house.

The real problem occurs when the person has been addicted to smoking to the point it’s unbearable. Same goes with alcoholism, gambling, and drug abuse. Addiction affects not only the heart, lungs, and gut – it damages the mind, which can be a major relationship issue in the long run.

7. Your communication skills suck

There are three types of men with poor communication skill;

One, the guy who nods at everything his date talks about, and answers only when asked. Two, the guy who doesn’t appear to be listening and fails to give feedback on what has talked about. Three, the guy who wants to talk about no one but himself and his greatness, disabling the date to speak up.

8. And you can’t get rid of your phone

Isn’t it a bummer when you have spent hours to be presentable and your date has a divided attention because his phone is glued to his hand?

Smartphones kill genuine conversations – and relationships. When you’re on a date, gentlemen, it’s a no-brainer to free yourself from all your distractions. Forget checking e-mails, sports scores, or game night invites by your bros.

9. You make outdated comments about women

  • “Why do you want to be a pilot? A flight attendant is more ladylike.”
  • “Why don’t you want to have children? Having kids will make you feel whole as a woman.”
  • “And for the lady, perhaps a salad?”

Excuse me? We’re not in the 1950s. If you throw these questions on the first date, then there’s no point in continuing.

10. You’re pushy about sex

There’s a fine line between expressing attraction and being pushy about sex. It’s all about the intention. Women looking for a serious relationship immediately back off when a man can’t shut up about how much he wants to “bed” her on the first date and it’s getting uncomfortable.

11. Your online profile is shady

No woman can trust a guy whose IG feed is loaded with pictures of scantily clad party girls, vain gym mirror selfies, and photos of women he has dated in the past (or is currently dating).

12. You’re carrying an excess baggage

Several children, multiple women, and complicated relationship or unfinished business with an ex – these are some of the “excess baggage” a man may have. To make it worse, some men with an excess baggage even negatively talk about their ex or children on the first date. These are deal-breakers since no person wants to be dragged into the unnecessary mess and drama.

13. You fail the server test

A guy who is genuinely kind-hearted respects, not only his date but everyone in the room – including the servers and sanitary personnel. Experts agree: you can tell a lot about a man by how he treats those in the service jobs.

Listen up: If the man yells and badmouths the restaurant staff, and is basically rude to other people, then it’s a red flag, revealing a preview of how he might treat the lady as they go on. Other red flags include road rage, failure to compromise several times, failure to accept blame, and manipulating behavior.

The first impression lasts, they say. But chances are, if a guy shows up with one or a few of these major turnoffs, he may not score a second or third date to redeem himself and score a potential good relationship with a great woman.

Author Bio: Carmina Natividad is one of the writers for The Relationship Room, a couples psychology institution specializing in relationship counseling and therapies for couples and families.

5 First Date Mistakes You Need to Stop

First date…there are probably no other two words in the entire English language that stir up as wide of a range of emotions as these two. For some people, the words get them excited and get butterflies flapping around their stomach as they imagine the possibilities of finding love. For others, they incite cringing and uneasy thoughts of having to meet someone new for the first time.

Regardless of where you fall on that spectrum, everyone has one thing in common. We all want our first dates to go better and be less, well, cringe-worthy. In this article, I’m going to cover some of the biggest mistakes people make on first dates. Ideally, if we can correct some of these big blunders, your first date experiences are going to be much more enjoyable.

 

#1 Stop going on bad first dates.

 

Before I even get to talking about what to do on your first date, I need to cover something much more important. You need to make sure that you are not setting yourself up for failure by going on bad first dates. What is a bad first date? A bad first date is one where you know it’s a bad idea before you even take the first step out of the house. Now, I’m not referring to those of you that think every date is a bad idea and plan on being cat-ladies or cat-men for the rest of your life. I’m referring to those of you that know in the back of your mind that this particular date is a bad idea.

How do you make sure you aren’t going on bad first dates? Well, it all starts with meeting quality people. If you’re struggling to find quality people, I highly recommend this How to Meet Quality Singles guide which will walk you through the steps you need to stop dating the duds.

Secondly, you need to give each date an unbiased look before agreeing to go on it. You do not have to say yes to everyone you ask out. You also don’t have to ask out every single person you talk to. I repeat, you are under no obligation to go on any date ever no matter what anyone tries to tell you. Start looking for quality, and you’ll already be way ahead of the ball before you even step foot out the door on your first date.

 

#2 Stop overthinking it.

 

First dates would be lightyears easier if we were forced to go on them immediately after they were scheduled. The problem with the time between scheduling and going is that our minds are able to run rampant. We start to imagine every bad scenario that could happen and convince ourselves that is what it is going to be like. We start analyzing every little thing about the date until we are blue in the face.

What am I going to wear? Where should we eat? Is that place too loud? Is my outfit too confident? Do these shoes work? What happens if they don’t like me? Should I talk about my work? I could really go on forever. While some of these questions are important (it’s hard to go on a date if you don’t know where you’re going or what you’re wearing), most of them are just going to send you down an overthinking spiral.

Focus on the things that are important and allow the rest to happen. You do not need to plan out every single detail. In fact, doing so is probably going to doom the date from the start.

 

#3 Relax the expectations.

 

You’re a more positive person? Don’t have a problem with overthinking all the negative things that could happen? You’re still on the hook here too. A lot of people spend that time before a first date imagining the person they are going out with as the perfect Romeo or Juliet. You find yourself asking and answering questions about the person in a way that fits your perfect narrative. Do they like the same music as me? Of course, they do. Are they extremely compassionate? They must be!

While we hope that everything is true, it paints an unrealistic picture of the person we are going to meet. It puts them at a severe disadvantage because they now have insane standards to try to live up to that they aren’t even aware of. I can assure you that Mr. or Ms. Right is going to be similar to what you imagine in your mind, but they are not going to be exactly what you think you want them to be.

Don’t let someone awesome slip through your fingers because you have unrealistic and unfair expectations.

 

#4 Stop talking and listen.

 

When we get nervous most of us like to talk. The silence is awkward to us, and we figure if we keep talking we know what is going to be said and nothing can catch us off guard. Some of us also show up with pre-planned questions and things to talk about.

Here’s the problem. This is a lot of talking and not a lot of listening. You’re creating a one-sided conversation that will turn off your fellow dater, and it also inhibits you from getting to know them at all. How can you find out if you like someone if they never get the chance to get a word in? How can you see if there is any chemistry if you aren’t allowing them to interact with you?

The solution here is one word. Listen. You have to actually hear what the other person is saying and respond to that. Don’t respond to what you imagined them saying. Actually respond to what they are saying. You’ll be able to figure out quickly whether or not you mesh well together and if there is any sort of a future.

Remember, the purpose of a first date is not for it to go amazingly. The purpose of a first date is to see if you and the other person are compatible. It is completely okay to go out with someone and figure out that you are not right for each other. One less fish in the sea to consider!

 

#5 Have fun.

 

Seriously, this is probably the most important tip on the entire sheet, and that’s the reason I chose to close with it. You have to remember that the entire point of dating is to find someone that you enjoy spending time with. Yes, it can be a little awkward at times, but that’s okay. You have to endure a little bit of awkwardness if you are going to find that special someone.

Embrace the awkward and have fun with it. You can go out with someone you are never going to go out with again and still have a good time. I have fun with complete strangers all the time just because I approach all of life with the right mindset.

I am challenging you to do the same. Regardless of how the date is going, have fun. Enjoy your time even if it is awkward and then worry about everything else later. Van Wilder said it best, “Don’t take life too seriously. You’ll never get out alive.”

 

Jason Wesley
Relationship Advice Guru
https://ourbestonlinedatingsites.com

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5 Ways to Help Your Partner Beat Addiction

If you discover that your partner is facing addiction the first thing you need to do is realize it is not your fault. There are things that you can do to help support your partner even if you do not agree with their addiction. It just takes patience, time, and a willingness to work together. Here are some suggestions on how to help them.

1) Seek Help

There are many places that you can seek help for you and your partner.

If possible, your partner should go to rehab, but pressuring them might be counterproductive. Your partner has to want to change as well. You and your partner can work together to find the best treatment center, such as a Fort Lauderdale rehab.

Another good place to seek help is with couples therapy. Couples therapy is where a psychiatrist tries to explore the thoughts and behavior of a couple. The therapist helps to solve communication, intimacy and family problems. It is important to be fully honest with the therapist and tell them about the addiction problem up front. This way the therapist has a picture of the whole problem and can help solve any feelings of blame or anger associated with the addiction.

2) Communicate with Your Partner

It is important that you take time to communicate with your partner. Pick a time when they are not distracted or busy. It might be good to go out to dinner or go out to walk the dog together. Be empathetic, and avoided judgment as you talk with your partner. Do not interrupt your partner while he is talking except to add positive statements, or ask questions. Do not try to start a fight. Tell your partner your hopes and expectations for your relationship. Do not forget your own needs and emotions when you’re discussing their problems.

3) Be Patient

Even if your partner conquers their addiction, they may not be the person you always dreamed your partner would be. It may take time for them to find their role in the relationship. It may also take time for you to trust them. It will also take time for your partner to conquer addiction. During this time there will be struggles. Your partner may relapse, but do not take it personally. Just continue to be patient, and guide them back to rehab.

4) Spend Time Together

During their path to recovery, they might change. It might seem like you and your partner no longer have anything in common. It is very important for you and your partner to spend time together as often as you can. In spending time together, you can find new things in common, and remember why you feel in love.

If you feel like staying in you could always fix a special meal and chat over candlelight. You can rent a movie to watch together in the comfort of your own bed. You can also re-watch an old movie that both of you loved. Another fun indoor activity is to play board games. You can pull the old classic out of the closet, or pick a new game together. The excitement of trying out the new game will have you eagerly awaiting game night.

If you would like to get out of the house, then you and your partner can go out on a hike. You could also go out on a bike ride. It might be fun to go on an evening picnic. After you finish your meal, you can lay on the blanket and look at the stars. You could also spend the evening looking at a local museum. It could also be fun to take a class together. Some popular couples’ classes include cooking, photography, and dance.

5) Educate Yourself on Their Addiction

It is important to educate yourself about the substance that your partner is addicted to and the steps toward recovery. In this way, you will have some idea what your partner is going through. You can work on what their recovery program should include together.

Read about the substance that your partner is taking. Make sure that the places that you search are reputable sources. While It is important to do research, limit the amount of research that you do. The side effects of a substance will be the same no matter how many reputable sources that you read through.

Take care when talking to family and friends about your partner’s issue. Your partner might not want everyone to know. If rumors start spreading about your partner, it could affect their social and professional life. It might just make things worse for them.

Just because your loved one is suffering from addiction, doesn’t mean that you have to break it off. With good communication, patience, and understanding you can help your loved one through this time.

10 Out Of The Ordinary Floral Arrangements Your Lover Would Love

Because Bouquets Are So Passé.

If you’re surprising your lover with flowers, chances are you’re going to grab a presentation-style bouquet, which is pre-selected in a flower shop or local supermarket. Presentation bouquets generally look like this: a bunch of flowers tied together and typically adorned with dry waxed paper or floral tissue, jutte fabrics, and mesh ribbons.

They are nice and convenient, but they can be, well, clichéd and predictable – especially if you’re giving it to a long-term spouse whom you’ve been giving bouquets for years.

Don’t get me wrong – there’s nothing sweeter than receiving a handheld bouquet filled with vibrant and freshly-picked flowers of your taste. But wouldn’t it be nicer to receive flowers that have a dash of creativity and personality into it?

If you’re sending flowers for your wife, girlfriend, or special someone but you want to elevate your usual handheld bouquet and give something unexpected, here are 10 wonderful ideas to keep in mind.

1. Put ’em in a Quaint Teapot

If your wife loves both tea and flowers, then an English country garden-inspired teapot full of blooms is the best way to go. A lovely arangement of roses, daisy, and poms in feminine pastel-hued pots would definitely brighten up their day.

2. Or a Rustic Watering Can

For a rustic, “fresh from the garden” look, use rustic watering cans. The pale, timeworn look of watering cans add charm to the arrangement of vibrant blooms. You may also loop wire around the handle so it can be hung on the door for a beautiful display.
You may use the same approach for ceramic mugs, painted bottles, and vividly-colored jars.

3. Your Grandma’s Vintage Canisters

Love metals and vintage prints? Your recipient would definitely love blooms in old, vintage canisters. They come in different designs, from old-fashioned floral patterns to 50s-inspired typography and poster signages. Even vintage soup and coffee tin canisters elevate your floral arrangement.

4. Beautifully Trapped in Old Lanterns

Forget conventional vases and put old lanterns to use. Antique lanterns make romantic flowers arrangements, like roses, baby breath, and foliage, even dreamier. They also make a nice centerpiece for one’s home.

5. Bloom-filled Wooden Crates

If your recipient loves a wild arrangement of pretty pastel flowers, then wooden containers, like crates, would make perfect vessels. Aside from roses, flowers like hydrangeas, lisianthus, and snapdragons look stunning on crates.

6. Flower and Fruit Mix Basket

Bouquets usually come with a box of chocolates and other confectioneries , but wouldn’t it be nice if you give something sweet but healthier? Pair your fresh blooms with sweet edibles, that are also freshly picked – fruits. Flowers and fruits go well with each other since they’re both vibrant plants. They also make great “get well soon” gifts for a lover or friend who needs healthy munchies to recover.

7. Pretty, Mini Bouquets

Who doesn’t love mini versions of anything? Be creative enough to turn smaller  floral varieties into cute mini bouquets. You may scrimp on size but never on beauty, since they look lovely when attached to greeting cards and love letters for your special someone.

8. Classic Heart-Shaped Floral Arrangement

If you’re overly cheesy and romantic, you can never go wrong with the classic heart-shaped floral arrangement. A heart-shaped arrangement of roses, which may come in one solid color or multi-color, make a perfect gift for Valentine’s day, wedding anniversary, and your loved one’s birthday.

9. Whimsical Floral Wreath

Giving a floral wreath is one splendid way to opt out of handheld bouquet without losing the sweet gesture of “giving flowers for your love.” Floral wreaths look amazing, whether they are in bold and vibrant hues or pretty pastel hues. For a more earthy appeal, use a grapevine wreath and adorn with your recipient’s favorite flowers. They make a lovely door and wall decoration.

10. Umbrella Bouquet

Don’t throw your broken umbrella yet! You can fill it with your love’s favorite blooms, tie it with some pretty ribbons, and tada – you have a beautiful bouquet that looks quirky and out of the box! It’s multi-purpose too – you can use the handle for hanging the blooms and using it as a wall or door décor.

Author Bio: Carmina Natividad is one of the writers for The Relationship Room, a couples psychology institution specializing in relationship counseling and therapies for couples and families.

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How To Make Your Bedroom a Luxurious Love Nest

One of the most intimate places in your home is definitely your bedroom, and in order to transform it into a truly cozy, yet elegant sanctuary you just need a little bit of imagination and creativity.  Your bedroom can be much more if only you take some time to change things a bit. You can easily create a luxurious retreat in your bedroom which will make you feel like you’re visiting a spa centre in the comfort of your home.

The right lighting

Your bedroom needs plenty of natural light, but it also needs some light fixtures too. A simple ceiling-mounted one will do, but it’s not exactly elegant or luxurious. Basic lighting sure gets the job done, but if you’re looking for something with a bit more class, you could install a small chandelier instead. Not only does it give off softer light, but it also looks sophisticated. Dimmers are also a good idea because they will allow you to set the mood and enjoy softer light before bed. A couple of bedside lamps are also a nice touch since they are convenient, and you can add a nice hanging pendant light too. Recessed lighting will not cast that sterile glow which fluorescent light fixtures do, but rather a soft, even glow which will turn the room into a soothing sanctuary.

Comfortable bed 

The bed should be a focal point in your room and you should pay attention to the details, for example, which direction you like sleeping in and waking up to, and turn your bed that way. Feeling well-rested on an uncomfortable bed is virtually impossible, and you could try investing a bit more money into it. A good ensemble bed with a quality supportive mattress will allow your body to fully relax and recover during the night. If you want a bit more pampering, why not try adding a mattress topper? You can choose memory foam toppers for that extra cushioning feeling or a feather one for additional softness. Add good-quality sheets made of soft sateen or real Egyptian cotton for additional luxury and there will be no difference between your bedroom and a luxury hotel room.

Soothing colors

Another great way to relax is to surround yourself with soothing colors like moss green or freshwater blue, as it will make you feel like you are closer to nature. The easiest way to redecorate a room is to paint the walls – it will make the space look fresh and it won’t cost you a fortune, and if you pick a soothing color palette you will get great results. Pale blue and soft yellow pair well with warm gray, but if you don’t want to spend a lot of time painting, you can try wallpapers instead. You can pick the ones with an interesting print of leaves or flowers so you can feel like you’ve stepped into a garden and not a bedroom.

Accessorize 

Another great way to add warmth and beauty to a room is to carefully choose accessories. This doesn’t mean that you have to cover every available space with candles, doilies, and cushions. Still, several well-selected and carefully placed accessories will make the room more inviting and elegant. Throw pillows are always a good idea, and you can even try finding richly embroidered pillowcases too. In addition, you can also try bringing in a nice vase with some fresh flowers as well a soft rug which you can place beside your bed so you can sink your feet into it first thing in the morning.

Heavenly smell

When you visit a spa you can’t help but notice there’s a pleasant fragrance in the air. A simple clean herbal, mild floral, or fresh citrus scent makes the space more welcoming and helps a person relax. You can recreate this feeling in your bedroom by bringing air fresheners or scented candles in and keeping them on your bedside table. You could also try filling a small pouch with dried lavender and placing it under your pillow – the scent will help you relax and fall asleep more easily. Reed oil diffusers, potpourri, linen sprays, as well as essential oil vaporizers are all alternative ways to make the air in your bedroom smell great, but try not to pick the scent that’s too strong or you’ll get a headache.

Your bedroom is like a sanctuary, a place where you should feel at ease, safe, and completely comfortable in order to relax enough to get a good night’s sleep. It only takes a bit more work on your part to feel pampered too, and you won’t need to visit a spa or a five-star hotel either. Don’t be afraid to change things up and pamper yourself with a touch of luxury in your bedroom.

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