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8 Mistakes Engaged Couples Make When Picking Their Wedding Colors

Have you ever gone to a wedding reception and felt like something was off? The couple’s poor choice of wedding colors is probably to blame.

The color scheme is one integral aspect in wedding planning. Colors have the power to create the mood and complement the particular theme or unique aesthetic you envisioned. Like the choice of fabrics, decorations, and venue, the colors that have to be mixed and matched have to be planned and situated well. They have to be cohesive. They have to suit your personality. They have to be able to evoke the right emotions. And most importantly, they have to please the eye.

Unfortunately, it’s easy for couples to mess up their wedding décor with the wrong choice of wedding colors. Here are eight ways you’re making wedding color mistakes and some ways to avoid them.

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Listen and understand your partner

The art of listening

More often than not, couples face the perils of communication blunders these days. Surrounded by devices, we rely too much on connectivity to get through and keep in touch with our beloved ones. The truth is that, however useful, digital communication can inevitably lead to detachment and despair: flat batteries, signal flaws, miscarried messages, mobile phones left behind, etc. These examples are as frequent as irritating and may put the stability of your relationship at risk. That’s why, you must always remain personal and encourage opportunities for face-to-face conversation so that the one you love feels understood and cared for.

Seizing all chances

It is essential to establish positive bonds with the people we love through different means. Some may prefer to hold hands and simply wander round a park, while others could choose eating out and having endless conversations over dinner.

Either on the phone, sitting side by side while driving, peacefully strolling on the beach or even walking your dog, simple occasions may open up a whole realm of communication lapses from which you and your partner will easily profit. Mutual understanding will pave the way for the pursuit of projects. Goals will be set in a state of common grounds that will entice how each person feels and increase his / her motivation.

Understanding yourself

We must give it more important to seek to understand ourselves, rather than to do it with our respective partners. In a relationship that we have with our partner it is better that we slow down for a while, and spend some time reflecting on our own needs and feelings

For you, in a way, to properly attune yourself to your needs and feelings, you should give more due attention to your bodily sensations. This allows you to identically identify what is happening to you internally so that you can express it openly to your partner. Anything however trivial or disturbing it may be worth mentioning, both you and your partner will benefit from it, and your partner will certainly thank you.

Understanding our partners requires a lot of patience on our part, requires that you do not express your opinion for an approximate range of time, without interrupting our partner, you have to be as if you are entirely in paused. You should give your partner all the attention that she or he deserves, do not interrupt him every moment to ask him or her some question that has begun to be formulated deep inside your mind while your partner has told you everything it needs to be told. It really costs a lot to dedicate to our significant other excessive attention, it requires a certain practice, yet it is extremely valuable, and you could consider it a kind of gift, a beautiful gift that you make to your partner: a gift that allows you to your partner be seen as they really are and for what they truly need.

Tackling criticism

It is never too late to start listening. Throughout long-term relationships, some people are constantly whining and will complain about everything related to their partner. This might shed light onto dissatisfaction or uneasiness for not being heard. When criticism sets its roots within two lovers, it is often hard to get over crisis and recover the fresher and simpler sensations of the old days. Needless to say, both the complained-about and the complainer suffer as the conflict becomes stronger.

We should be alert and keep in mind we must give a hearing to our partner showing that we respect his / her opinion and will endeavor to please them as much as we can. The exchange of personal points of view is nothing to fear, it can be nourished as a healthy habit so as to mutually collaborate and improve the quality of the relationship.

 

You have to pick the right time to talk to your partner

Sometimes you need to be listened to when you want to express something that troubles you. But maybe your partner can be busy with something else at the moment, such as: Watching the game, cooking dinner, trying to sleep, any work that you brought to your home, or simply not in the right frame of mind at that time. If you realize this, just be patient and shut up to tell your partner what you are worried about or at a later time. If it is something extremely important and you want to communicate it to your partner, you can ask: “Is there time available to be able to talk?” And depending on the response of your partner you can settle for the following two options. Talk about what is troubling you, or wait a reasonable time to do so. If you are the listener, no doubt your partner would appreciate the same.

 

The need to know your partner well

You must be observant and learn to know your partner in order to understand what you are trying to communicate. For this you need not only partially hear what your partner tells you, but develop a great listening ability for your partner. If what you do is usually just to hear, in reality what you are doing is worrying more about what happens inside you during the conversation, and what you are going to respond to. Instead, listening means caring about the person in front of you and trying to understand the situation that is happening. I assure you that developing the ability to listen is one of the best gifts you can give your partner.

The importance of showing empathy

It is important to give a sample of understanding to our partner, one has to get “deep inside the skin of the other” as it is said, doing this will be able to better understand the reasons behind our partner need to worry, what can really feel your partner, and the need to make your partner feel that we can take care of them and ourselves for that matter. It is not a question of wanting to take advantage of the weakness that our partner may feel, but to convey the message that one is able to put oneself in its place. So we will be generating in our partner empathy.

Avoid prejudging the message your partner is telling you

You should listen to what your partner wants to convey to you, without any interruption except for an important question or additional comment that has to do with the message you are letting him know. You should never interpret the message from “your” point of view, instead of the point of view that matters is that of your partner to let it know to you the message and therefore their point of view.

Don’t get carried away and don’t overreact

Either that which your partner is communicating is serious or you do not have to take into account how difficult it will doubtless have taken you to have gathered the courage to tell the message. You should be very clear about the perspective, that of your partner and yours; do not alter, you must be calm, you must let reason prevail over a fit of fury. You must speak in a softer tone, in a given case even loving and tender.

 

 

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Author byline: Article written by Martin, who is owner and writer of his Dating Website (www.russia-girls.net). He believes that online dating is great for connecting people from the whole world using new technologies. He enjoys learning about human relationship to improve and share his knowledge about online relationships.

 

 

 

Mature Dating Online – Why Give It A Go?

Online dating for mature seniors can without question be intimidating. Using technology for dating is a concept that would be new to the older generation. A decade or two ago online dating didn’t exist and relationships would have started by meeting socially in school, through a friend or on a day out. But that’s no reason for seniors not to embrace this new, modernised, easy world of online dating. Whether you’ve ended up single as the result of divorce or the loss of your spouse or simply never found that perfect someone, you deserve companionship and happiness and the Internet makes it easier than ever to find these fulfilling things.

Mature Dating Sites – User Friendly

Mature dating sites are so simple and easy to navigate to adapt to the users they are targeting. These sites are aware that the needs of seniors are different to the younger generation. Most, if not all mature dating websites have taken this in to account and so have created databases and interfaces which allow the user to sign up, search and view profiles in seconds. It’s a stress free process just like it should be.

Reasonable Prices

A lot of mature dating sites include free of charge features within them, giving the user a chance to view the website before having to pay or sign up to anything they’re not comfortable with or not suited to. There are plenty of mature dating websites out there these days and these free features mean you can take your pick of your favourite before committing to a paid membership.

A lot of websites also offer different subscriptions such as a month, 3 month, 6 month or even a years membership so there’s something to suit everyone’s needs.

Specific, Unique and Personal

Some dating websites can be vague in terms of their target audience which makes it a painful task trying to find someone compatible to you. It can be like trying to find a needle in a haystack. You don’t want to be spending your valuable time looking through irrelevant user profiles or reading and deleting messages that you have no interest in. This becomes very tedious and demotivating, causing you to give up on online dating. But mature dating websites focus specifically on over 40’s. This narrows down the search results significantly and there are also plenty of other filters within most sites that allow you to narrow down your search even further.

You can also build your own unique profile on most online dating websites, resulting in even further compatible matches.

Safe and Respectful

The content on the majority of senior dating sites is respectful and mature and free from offensive images such as nudity. The purpose for senior dating sites is to provide support to its users in finding a genuine, long lasting relationship for whatever reason they’re seeking this for. The last thing you’d want as a user is to see explicit, vulgar content and these sites understand this. With this in mind you can sit back, relax and focus on finding like minded mature singles looking for the same thing as you.

On top of this, most sites also provide support through a customer services team which adds more peace of mind for the user.

 

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5 Ways To Keep Your Marriage Solid After Having Kids

At first, having kids seems like a vital ingredient to achieving a stronger, better marriage. Many couples have unrealistic expectations as to what their life would be by the time a baby arrives. Kids are often looked at as the meat in a couple’s sandwich – the force that ties them together and binds them closer than ever before.

However, studies tell otherwise. According to a research of Berkley psychology professors Philip Cowan, Ph.D., and wife Carolyn Pape Cowan, Ph.D., 92% of their respondents, which are married couples, described a gradual increase in conflict after having their baby. Raging hormones, severe lack of sleep, limited time for talks or sex, struggles to make ends meet, and opposing views on “how to and not to raise a human being” – all these converge to forge a gap between you and your partner.

A leap into parenthood does test many couples but that does not mean this is the start of a dull, bland, and brittle marriage. There are ways to nurture your marital life despite having children,

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Should we get married

Should we get married? 5 Ways to Know

Whether you’re engaged to be married or you’re thinking of taking your relationship to the next step, you might find yourself wondering “How do I know if this person is the one and how can I know the marriage will last?” Marriage is a big commitment, and even couples who have known each other for many years can still end up getting divorced. So before you rush about organising wedding invitations and looking at venues, here are some questions to ask yourself before you say “I do”.

Do you have doubts?

It sounds obvious, but you’d be surprised at how many people say they had doubts before getting married. It’s normal to have some nerves about tying the knot but if you have major doubts about that person, then it’s probably best to back out now before it’s too late. It doesn’t matter how many people have RSVP’d to the wedding or bought plane tickets – if you’re having a panic attack about marrying the wrong person then call it off. If there are problems before the marriage, it’s not going to change afterwards.

Are you just doing it for the Big Day?

It’s easy to caught up in the excitement of planning a wedding. Many women dream of wearing a big white dress and walking down the aisle. However, it’s easy to lose sight of the actual reason why you’re having a wedding, which is the union of two people who love each other. The question to ask yourself is, “Would I still marry this man if we had no money and it was just a quiet ceremony with just the two of us?” If the answer is yes, then go ahead. However, if you’re just doing it because you’ve always wanted a lavish wedding day and a designer dress then perhaps it’s time to give things a rethink.

Are you compatible?

Physical attraction and love may be there, but you have to ask yourself: are we compatible in the long term? It’s important to think about whether you’re compatible in all aspects of your relationship. For example, are you compatible sexually? Do you have similar values or interests? For instance, my mother always told me that she had very little in common with my father. She loves the beach and is a complete sun worshipper, but he hated the sun and wouldn’t go near a beach. He was focused on money and material possessions, she wasn’t. He was messy, she was extremely tidy. All the red flags were there, but she went ahead with marriage because he proposed and all her friends were getting married. Not surprisingly, they ended up divorced. You don’t have to have exactly the same hobbies, but you do need to have the same values and provide a balance for each other.

Can you communicate well?

All couples have disagreements sometimes and it’s completely normal to argue, but it’s more about how you communicate that matters. If you’re a well-suited match then you should be able to communicate with each other and resolve disagreements by listening to each other and talking things through. If you constantly fear talking to your partner about a particular topic because you fear their reaction, then you’re not communicating at all. And if you find yourselves criticising each other without listening and trying to understand, this is a warning sign that perhaps you are not meant to make it all the way to the altar.

Are you teammates?

The best married couples are ones who see each other as teammates. Marriage is more than just loving each other, it’s about knowing you’ll be able to get through anything – both good times and bad. There are going to be times in your life where things are difficult, so you’ll need to know that you can both work together. Often you’ll hear people say that they married their best friend, and that’s really what you should be. You shouldn’t be in opposition to each other – instead you should work in harmony alongside each other.

Victoria Brewood is author of Dating and Other Stories – a dating blog offering real-world relationship advice for both men and women. The site shows you how to improve yourself so you can attract the partner you want.

Benefits Of Being A Single Guy In A Big City

You are single at the moment, and whatever the reason is, you shouldn’t feel bummed because of it. Yes, you had a long-term relationship that ended badly, maybe you never had a meaningful relationship at all, or you just don’t like making a commitment. Either way, there are plenty of reasons to be happy about when you’re on your own. In case you are lucky enough to live in a big city, you really don’t have a good reason to feel bad ’cause you’re single. This also means you are free to do whatever you like. Below are some benefits of being single, and you should be well aware of them.

Sovereignty

Yes, you have your freedom and independence. That is maybe the most valuable thing you have while single, so make sure to enjoy it as much as you can. This period of time can be used to learn about yourself. Don’t be afraid to be alone with your thoughts. Seize the opportunity to grow as a person and try to enjoy the loneliness and stillness.

Introspection

As mentioned above, being single will allow you to spend some quality time with yourself. Don’t hesitate and engage yourself in self-discovery. The best way to start this journey is to practice introspection. This technique can be very helpful and will most certainly improve your well-being.

You can travel as much as you like

Of course, keep your travels within your budget, but besides that, you don’t have any boundaries. Pack the essentials and go to the airport. Pick a random flight or visit an exotic country in Asia. You can go wherever you want, and the best thing is that you can stay as long as your budget allows you. Nobody is waiting for you, so go ahead and travel the world.

Don’t need to explain your moves

Being single is great since you don’t have to think about excuses and explanations. Everything you do is because you wanted to do it, and there is nobody who can question that. This means you can leave your home and get back at any time you find appropriate. Enjoy this possibility since it will disappear the moment you meet Mrs. Right.

Explore your sexuality

In case you had few long-term relationships in the past, you really didn’t have a chance to test your sexuality. Being single allows you to fly to Thailand and get the world’s best massage, or visit an exciting legal brothel Sydney has to offer. It is up to you. You can have as many one night stands as you wish, and you may try abstinence if you like. There are some benefits of that kind of behavior as well.

You will avoid jealous scenes

Your eyes are free to roam at last. Being single is a great time to look around and enjoy the surrounding beauty. You don’t need to fix eyes on your significant other and improve peripheral vision. Rest those eye muscles by setting them wherever you like. Just make sure to be subtle.

You make the house rules

You can leave the dishes in the sink for as long as you want. You don’t have to declutter or take out the garbage. Throw your clothes all over the place if you feel like it. But seriously, you will be able to make your own rules and avoid compromises. Of course, keep your house clean enough to avoid diseases.

Choose your company

Having a girlfriend may lead you toward some cool people, but there will also be some of them you can’t stand. Not being a couple is a great thing because you don’t have to spend time with other couples. Those evenings can be very boring and strained, so enjoy your regular guys night-out as long as you can.

More money for you

Being single will allow you to spend money on games, trips, alcohol, just name it. You won’t be forced to save for the car, the house, or to leave something aside for her best friend’s wedding. All you earn can be spent however you please. Get yourself some gaming consoles, widescreen TVs or some mind-blowing gadgets.

Final thoughts

There are so many benefits for a single guy that haven’t been mentioned above, and it is your assignment to find them. Enjoy your freedom without any drawbacks until you find the right person to be your partner. This single period might be long, so give your best to live it to the fullest. Travel, meet new people, learn new skills, or just play computer games. It’s up to you. Just make sure to stay positive and optimistic.

8 Extraordinary Color Combinations For Your Dream Wedding

Coral, teal, and purple – these are just three of the all-time favorite wedding colors. Some blend them with tried and tested partners, like coral and gray, teal and baby pink, and purple and apple green. These are classic wedding colors and combos that have held up over time and yes, brides continue to love ’em.

But why stick to the safe and most used fusions when there are endless color combo possibilities to recognize? Perhaps you haven’t tried mixing and matching emerald and melon with a hint of metallic gold.

If you want to have a unique wedding motif yet you’re running out of ideas, here are some of the rare wedding color combinations to take inspiration from.

1. Purple + Burgundy + Orange

Perfect for: Autumn wedding, vineyard wedding themes

Opting for a fall-inspired wedding? Orange is a no-brainer but you can create a rich intoxicating blend to set the autumnal tone by adding purple and burgundy. The deep, moody details are also perfect for the old-world charm of vineyard weddings.

Aside from incorporating the deep colors into the fabrics, flowers, favors, invitations, and other wedding elements, try to experiment with food. For instance, consider serving creamy tomato soup atop beautiful satin burgundy tablecloth or table runner. You can also place a mix of orange, plum, grapes, and apples on the table.

2. Aqua + Deep Pink + Gold

Perfect for: Summer weddings

Perhaps you have seen the aqua-pink combo before – the fun and feminine color combo that makes you think of unicorns, cotton candies, and everything sweet. But when the preppy colors are styled with metallic and glitzy elements, like gold ribbons, draping, light fixtures, and table centerpieces and dinnerware, the vibe can be elevated into a glam affair.

3. Mint + Coral 

Perfect for: Late-spring, summer wedding

If you want the similar fresh and fun vibe but you want to steer clear of vivid colors, then the mint and coral combination might appeal to you.

For a more elegant and sophisticated setting, play more with mint. Think of mint clothing, invitations, and table setting decors. Then, let the lush floral arrangements and even the sugar blooms on your cake display pops of coral. You can also incorporate coral through small details like your favors or the ribbons.

If you want to go for a laidback chic vibe, choose coral as your lead with mint as your undertone. To elevate it into a more luxe look, infuse metallics like gold, silver, copper, or rose gold.

4. Merlot + Peach + Sage

Perfect for: Rustic and shabby chic wedding themes

Going for an earthy theme without sacrificing elegance? You’ll love this color scheme as it binds perfectly with natural hues and wooden details. Analogous colors go well together, which is why rich merlot and soft peach look cohesive. Having sage as an accent color balances them out and adds freshness into the mix. Sage can easily be incorporated by playing with florals.

The color combo has a down to earth vibe, which is perfect for garden and woodland weddings. Just make sure you balance out natural surroundings with some grandiose elements like chandeliers, candelabras, and elegant dinnerware.

5. Tangerine Tango + Orange + Yellow

Perfect for: Modern summer wedding, beach wedding

Orange symbolizes optimism while yellow symbolizes happiness. The vibrant mix is perfect for cheery, flamboyant couples who want to add a bit of fun into a solemn ceremony. The combo is also perfect for a seaside wedding as the warm tones complement the ocean’s bright turquoise hue. The best tip: let the flowers do the talking.

You just have to balance them out with white and neutral details so your guests won’t be overwhelmed by the vivid colors. Let your vases filled with vibrant fresh flowers and bright table decors sit on a white tablecloth.

6. Navy + Eggplant + Gold

Perfect for: Art deco weddings

Navy and eggplant are colors that scream “majesty” and adding metallic accent hues such as gold or copper make everything just better. The ethereal combo is perfect for grandiose wedding ceremonies, like a Gatsby-themed party adorned with gold chandeliers and dinnerware, and silk eggplant tablecloth, and filled with bubbly champagne and live jazz music.

7. Marsala + Midnight Blue + Silver

Perfect for: Fall and winter weddings

If you’ve always been drawn to berry-kissed, cranberry-esque shades, then the fusion of these bold colors is to die for. The pops of rich colors against the winter’s cold and pale surroundings display a lively contrast. For a more elegant look, you can infuse metallics, like silver accents.

The combo is full of lovely possibilities. They work on white tables and wood tables as well. Since a few varieties come in blue, play around with marsala for your flowers and use midnight blue for the vase and table decors. You can also experiment with food. Apart from red wine, consider offering vibrant cocktails for your signature sip. You can also use fruits with rich hues, like grapes, blueberries, and cranberries.

8. Emerald + Melon

Perfect for: Spring and summer weddings

The emerald-melon combo is an unexpected fusion I can’t help drooling over. Emerald is a rich shade of green that is inspired from the gemstone itself while the color melon is a soft shade of pink that provides depth and balance to the boldness of the jewel tone. The two colors work perfectly together.

These colors can create either a big and elegant statement or a rather low-key and effortless chic vibe. It depends on what tone you’ll emphasize and what should serve as the undertone.

If you’re into a more luxurious setting, then play more with the emerald with the melon undertone. Apart from using it heavily for fabrics, incorporate it into the smallest of details including the bold patterns in your invitations, the linen of your cake table, or the wrap of your bouquet. Try adding melon-colored flowers and apricot deserts to subtly infuse melon.

If you’re going for a chic, low-key setting, let melon dominate the environment and infuse emerald here and there, in your garlands and floral arrangements, aisle decorations, and party favors.

Author Bio: Carmina Natividad is one of the enthusiastic writers for Jennifer Regan, a shop in Sydney that caters to women who are looking for the perfect bridal dress to wear as they walk down the aisle. Her articles mainly focus on fashion and beauty, which help soon-to-be-brides prepare for their wedding day.

7 Ways To Unpoison A Bad Relationship

It is completely normal to end up in a bad relationship, especially if it’s a long-term one. You can just wake up one morning and see that both of you changed over the years. Suddenly, your goals are different now. Before you start thinking about breaking up with your significant other, give your best to work things out and find the lost flame. Carefully read the text below. It will provide you with some valuable tips which will surely help you to get out of this unpleasant period of your long-term relationship.

Communication is precious

You’ll know that marriage or relationship is in trouble when one or both partners stop listening to each other. Always keep in that healthy communication is a foundation of a strong relationship. Before you do anything else, slow down and start paying attention to what your spouse has to say. Be there for them when they have a bad time, and offer your support. Don’t forget using non-verbal communication, which is more important than verbal one. Keep up with talking, touching, and reconnecting with your loved one.

It is crucial to be specific during the argument

Don’t get into arguing if you feel under the weather. Stop for a second and think about the specific reason why you’ve started fighting in first place. In order to heal your bad relationship never start arguments about money spending. That topic is one of the most frequent ones when it comes to fighting. Make sure you stick to the main subject of discussion and don’t let yourself or your partner to pivot it into a fight over money. Money wasn’t important when you fell in love, and it’s not important now when love is in crisis.

Express your anger carefully

Keep in mind that expressing anger and resolving conflicts can increase your life span. Because of that, it is very important to express yourself the way you don’t offend your spouse, but manage to say what needs to be said. This way of communication is called assertiveness and you should practice it in every occasion. Make sure to stay honest and calm as much as you can while expressing your dissatisfaction.

Always find time for your partner

Some marriages become bad because partners didn’t pay enough attention to each other. This can easily happen to you as well since distractions are all over the place. All these electronic devices and demanding jobs can tear people apart without them knowing when it happened. Make sure to check in with your loved one every single day. Listen about their day and let them know about yours. Make a tradition out of that, and you’ll see how your relationship heals.

Don’t stop laughing

Even when both of you are in a bad spot, give your best to continue with laughing. Call each other with dumb pet names or make funny faces. Wake up the child within and that happy child will help you to reconnect emotionally. Laughter is the best medicine and it can treat your marriage as well. It will strengthen your friendship and de-escalate conflicts.

Revive your sex life

After many years of being with someone, the sex life may change a lot. This can happen if you, your partner or both start to feel sexually frustrated. This crisis can happen to every couple, especially to those who are in a long-term relationship. If one of the partners is not happy with their sex routine, the other one can become insecure, and variety of issues may emerge. In case your spouse has some sexual health issues, sign him up for a premature ejaculation treatment, and everything will return to normal. These insecurities are more common for men, but everything should be easily resolved with some professional assistance.

Remember why you fell in love

Sit down and think about the past. Try to remember how did your spouse made you fall in love with them. Think about the moment when you’ve kissed for the first time. Remember the day when you decided to spend your life with that person. That person is still alive and you can rediscover it if you try. All these years behind you changed both of you and it can be hard to bring those happy people back. One thing is for sure, you can’t bring them back if you don’t try.

Final thoughts

The road to happiness and the better relationship is paved with obstacles, but you are able to overcome them. Just keep up with positive thoughts and emotions and direct them toward your partner. If they are still in the same house with you, then there is a chance of improvement. Never stop talking and giving support to each other. Those two things alone can elevate your relationship, and hopefully, it will become better than it ever was.

7 Ways to Spice Up a Long Relationship

Long relationships can be a challenge for both parties and maintaining them will usually take some creativity and a lot of effort. However, relationships also vary from couple to couple and to know what needs to be done you usually have to analyze your relationship first. It’s important that both you and your partner are aware of the situation that you’re in and that something needs to be done to keep things going. So without further ado, here are some of the best ways to spice up your relationship and get it close to what it was when you first started dating.

Ditch the Routine

The worst thing that can happen to your passion is the daily routine between you and your partner, especially if you’re living together. Who packs the dishes and who does the laundry can be a real downer and something you need to forget about for a while. This also applies to your bedroom, as sex sometimes becomes something that you just do without investing a lot of yourself in it. A good place to start is to start seducing your partner at times you don’t usually do. Getting intimate outside of the comfortable hours is an important thing, which is why we’re all attracted to unexpected. Also, there’s no reason why your bedroom should be the only place for your intimacy.

Travel Together

Like we previously stated, new places can be quite a stimulator when it comes to long relationships. Traveling to a destination where you’ve never been before will make you walk the streets together and do the things you might’ve forgotten about. Not to mention that you’ll have the needed time only for the two of you, which in itself is enough to get on this list. Romance takes effort, and anything new you do will inevitably affect it. Take your partner to a dinner or go to an event in the place you’ve picked as your travel destination and you’ll immediately see the difference.

Redecorate Your Bedroom

The bedroom is the most important room in one’s relationship and it should be treated as a shrine of sorts. Try to get rid of everything that serves as a distraction and you should have an easier time seducing your partner. It’s not always easy to set up your bedroom to be sexy and the most important thing about it is to really know and care about your partner. Long lasting relationships are all about respecting other’s wishes as well, so make sure you redecorate the room with that in mind and from there you’ll have an easier time spicing things up.

Dress Up For the Occasion

Remember the time when you took quite some time to dress when you were going on a date with your dear? The fact is, as time passes by and as our partner gets to know us, we usually invest less effort into looking great. Actually, looking like we’ve invested a lot of time in it. And not only that, but it’s also important to dress in a way that tickles your partner’s imagination. Bring out the unexpected look you’ve always wanted and take it a few steps further. Sometimes you can do this with your clothes, but it’s usually better just to go shopping and get something completely new.

Be Unpredictable

Some people enjoy being in their comfort zone, but most of us get more excited about the things that take us by surprise. Whether it’s sexting, or taking your partner to a striptease bar, you should always try to show that they don’t know everything about you. Being unpredictable can be difficult at times and it certainly takes some practice to get it right, but don’t be afraid to do it because of that. If your partner can guess what you’re doing at every point of the day then you’re clearly not doing something right. Intrigue is the name of the game here and it can be quite powerful when it comes to maintaining a relationship.

Roleplay

It might sound silly to you at first, but everyone loves roleplay. Not the act itself, but every single person had a crush on something or someone. Again, it’s important to know what your partner likes but it’s also important to take them up by surprise when you actually go on and do it. Whether you dress up as a maid or play the part of a naughty nurse, it’s up to you to figure out which one will work the best. It will put a giant smile on your partner’s face and he’ll immediately know that you’re a keeper. Don’t be shy, if you can share a bathroom you can also act a little bit.

Go Naughty

Alright, it’s time to put it out in the open. Sex life can be a disaster if it’s just happening the same way from day to day. Most of us still nurture a crush or two for a favorite actor or an actress and we’d love to have a chance to be with them. But you probably also love your partner and you want to build a long-lasting relationship, so it’s time to bring out the big guns. Here are some of the tips to really get things going in the bedroom.

  • Sex Toys – I know what you’re thinking, but these can be quite a game changer when used by couples. Go to a sex shop together and find the ones you’d love to test out together. If you can’t even talk about it with your partner, it might already be too late.
  • Hire Some Company – For the brave couples out there who really trust each other hiring a third person through Liaisons Brothel in Sydney can go a long way in revitalizing your sex drive.
  • Outdoor Intimacy – Just hear me out – it doesn’t have to end with sex. By simply going towards it you can already achieve your goal and let things wrap up in your bedroom. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with it even if you go for the home run. You wouldn’t be the first.

Conclusion

While sex life is a big part of any long-term relationship, it’s also what you do and how you behave towards each other that defines a good relationship. By sending a simple smile from across the room you can do a lot more than by saying something. In a different situation, a quiet ‘I love you’ will send shivers through your partner’s spine. The most important thing to remember is to always do your best and try to do something new. Relationships are built, they aren’t a gift from the sky. It’s just that some people need less effort to maintain them than others.

I’m Currently Dating Two Men – Is That Okay?

I never thought I would be in a position like this. Five years ago my husband of sixteen years and I mutually broke up because we decided it was no longer working which was hard to admit after all that time together. After a long stint in which I have been single and enjoying time to myself I now feel like I am ready to move on, start dating and look for love again with the right man. It was a hard decision to even decide to date again because I felt if after a sixteen year marriage it doesn’t work out then what hope do we have? But then I realised that we actually weren’t happy for almost half of those sixteen years.

I’m back trying to find new love and have had a few dilemmas along the way, including this one which I’ve decided to share with you.

Dating Two and a Half Men

I took to online dating not long ago after “peer pressure” from my friends. I write peer pressure in inverted commas since it didn’t take much persuading from my friends for me to agree that it was the best course of action. I’m now a fifty three year old woman and even though I still go out and socialise with friends quite often, it’s rare that I would come in contact with a man on a romantic level. I also feel like time is running out for me (sorry for those who are my age or older who would rightfully disagree) to find love again.

It didn’t take long after I signed up before I got talking to someone, maybe about a week. But that didn’t get anywhere. I soon learned that it takes patience with online dating, at least if you’re willing to take your time to find someone you want to have a serious future with.

Having said that, after about three weeks I got talking to someone I can only describe as a gentlemen at least by the way we conversed online. But just like London buses, another man came along typically on the same evening. I thought there could be no harm in talking to two men online. Besides, at this point it was just harmless conversation and getting to know them.

Things seemed to escalate quite fast with both of them, not on purpose but organically. They were both extremely nice but seemed to have slightly different personalities. For example they were both humorous but in opposing ways. After about two weeks of talking online as well as by text messages to both of these men they both asked to meet up within a few days of each other. When I was asked by the first gentlemen, of course I willingly agreed to meet up, not anticipating that there was a strong chance of the second gentlemen asking me sooner or later. But I live my life in the present and don’t like to think too far ahead. Perhaps this was a reason to alter that logic and way of living as of course he did ask to meet up and suddenly I saw myself in a position agreeing to meet up with two different men in the space of a few days.

The reason for the title “two and half men” was because I then began talking to yet ANOTHER man online. But there was no hint of meeting up which is why I counted that as “half”.

Hard Decision

I now have a hard decision to make after dating both of these men and both going exceptionally well. I am no nearer to deciding which one I would like to carry on dating so do I carry on dating them both? I would like to think that at some point there would be a factor which would push me towards one and not the other but how long that takes is the concerning thing.

Like I said before, I have never been in a position like this before so it’s not something I would say I’m proud of. But perhaps I am overthinking and exaggerating the seriousness of this. Maybe I should just embrace it while I can and enjoy the ride!

Right or Wrong?

So here’s my question to you. Was I right or wrong to agree to meet up with two different men? What would you have done if you were in a similar position?

The way I have been thinking about it is that I was always going to have to let at least one of these men down sooner or later. In that respect I guess it was wrong of me to supposedly lead one of them on. I hate having to let people down.

But having said that, you have to be selfish in life sometimes right? Plus it was still early days and so I had to meet up with them to get to know them better. If I had stopped talking to one of them sooner then I would have never have known what could have been. In my mind that would’ve been foolish.

 

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